Shameless Leadership

Like most women, I spent a lot of my life trying to blend in. I wanted to be the same as all the people around me. In fact, I hated that I had red hair and freckles for my entire childhood. I didn’t like looking different.However, today, as a 42-year-old woman, mom, wife, entrepreneur, I LOVE standing out. I love being my own unique person. I love being recognized for what makes me different. I love my red hair and freckles (and I get super offended with certain skin care companies say they have creams to minimize/lighten freckles – WTF?!? Not cool.)I’ve come a long way in owning my differences, embracing my oddities, and sharing my true self. And the result has been magical – as now I attract all the best people into my life. When I was trying to blend in I had a lot of relationships that were NOT satisfying. Sometimes I felt misunderstood and like I needed to hide parts of myself.No more. Now I let my freak flag fly and the people I attract people have many of the same values as me, and often the same interests (Real Housewives, entrepreneurship, fitness, personal and professional development, mental health awareness). I actually build friendships around geeking out on common interests instead of pretending to like what someone else likes. And, it’s SO MUCH BETTER. Who knew???Listen in to this episode to learn 4 ways you can let your freak flag fly and how flying your freak flag will change the dynamics of your relationships. Thank you to our sponsors: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. RXBAR: RXBAR is offering you an exclusive pack of 6 adult bars and 4 kids bars + 25% off your first order when you go to RXBAR and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Marina Pearson is a Shameless Mom to 3-year-old Leo, host on The Joy of Being Podcast, bestselling author and investor. Aside from being featured on/in ITV This Morning (in Europe), Marie Claire, The Guardian and The Daily Mail she lives her life working on projects that light her up. When she isn't spending time with her son at the beach in Javea Spain (where she lives) she is running exclusive Joyriding Retreats in Spain for women/mums in business who want to ditch the overwhelm or overseeing her investments, or hosting her Joy of Being Podcast where she interviews transformation professionals, business owners and creatives on how moms and women in business can live a life full of joy and freedom.Listen in to hear Marina share: The power of not limiting yourself to one title/role The power of stressing less and living more How she mothered in spite of feeling she lacked the “mom gene” How to create space between emotion and reactions in order to feel more in control of your reactions How she manages a challenging/unconventional custody schedule The difference between easy and effortless and how to create more effortlessness in your life The truth about Connection (yes, it starts with a capital C) Links Mentioned: Marina’s Podcast: Joy of Being Connect with Marina: Marina Pearson Free Resource: Joy Catalyst Scorecard Marina on Instagram Marina’s free Joy of Being Facebook group Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: to find your perfect match therapist for a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy, go to Talk Space and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $45 off your first month. Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m guessing someone at some point told you something like, “If you take good care of yourself, you’ll be so much more able to take good care of others.” Can we just call BS on this?!? First of all, you are allowed to take good care of yourself because you damn well deserve it, not because you need to serve others better.  AND… When is the last time anyone ever told a dude to take good care of himself so he could better serve others? Ummmm, never. You wear a million hats and serve others in a million ways. But if you don’t serve yourself first, you won’t see the beauty in any of it. You’ll be anxious, bitter, overwhelmed, exhausted, and uninspired to use your best gifts to their full capacity. When you show up in any role do it FOR YOU.Prove how strong you are FOR YOU.Show how patient you are FOR YOU.Let yourself cry FOR YOU.Be assertive with your voice FOR YOU.Share your time and energy FOR YOU.Laugh out loud FOR YOU.Become an artist FOR YOU.Run a marathon FOR YOU.Quit your job FOR YOU.Go for the promotion FOR YOU.The idea that you should take care of yourself so you can better take care of others is bullshit.Take care of yourself because you are a hero, friend, mother, daughter, visionary, QUEEN, ruler, woman who damn well deserves to take care of yourself FOR YOU. Thank you to our sponsor: care of: For 25% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit www.takecareof.com and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Colleen Hauk is a public speaker, co-author of the bestselling book, Women Who Ignite, a Certified Professional Success Coach and creator of YOU SO NEW ™, a program designed for successful professionals who fail to take care of their personal life.All of this coupled with over 15 years of corporate leadership, training, and consultative selling, Colleen shares her skills, personal experiences and research in a unique way to authentically connect and empower high-performers to ‘have it all’ without losing it all.Married to her supportive husband, Matt, they live in Southern California where both were born and raised. They enjoy life with their beautiful children, Jordan (24), Ethan (12), and Reese (9), camping, hosting fun-filled evenings with friends, and spending quality time with their nearby extended family.Listen in to hear Colleen share: How picture perfect lives aren’t usually picture perfect The costs of prioritizing her work over everything else The impact of her family having to walk on eggshells around her How to live the “and” life How to define your own version of “having it all” How she intentionally integrates her personal and professional life Links Mentioned: Connect with Colleen: Colleen Hauk Colleen’s Free Guide: The Me-Time Starter Guide Get Colleen’s Best Selling Book: Women Who Ignite Colleen on Facebook Colleen on Instagram Colleen on Twitter Colleen on LinkedIn Thank you to our sponsor: Canvas People: To get a FREE 11x14 canvas print (just pay shipping) of any of your photos, go to Canvas People and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There are so many things I want to scream out of rage and disillusionment right now. But that is not what is most productive. What is most productive is being an intentional part of the solution. The solution is to dismantle rape culture. And it starts HERE. It starts with how we are raising our boys. Now.Today.It starts with the conversations you’re having with your sons and the behavior you’re modeling.Is it a big undertaking?Yes.Can we do it?Yes.In this episode, I explain the exact (science/research based) parenting my husband and I are committed to because we are committed to not raising a rapist. If I had a daughter, I would want to know that every boy, young man, and the older man she was in contact with understood and valued these guiding principles.Please listen and share with everyone you know who is participating in any way to raise the next generation of men.See full show notes in link in bio for recommended articles and books related to raising emotionally intelligent boys.Resources:Article: 3 Do’s and Don’ts For Raising Emotionally Intelligent KidsArticle: 5 Ways To Raise Emotionally Intelligent Boys In The Era Of Toxic MasculinityArticle: How To Raise Emotionally Intelligent KidsBook: Raising Cain: Protecting The Emotional Life of BoysBook: Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nichole Sylvester is International Bestselling Author of OH SHIFT: A Journey from Chaos to Consciousness and host of the OH SHIFT Show. She is a Shameless single mother to her 13-year-old daughter, a Spiritual Success Coach and a transformational speaker on a mission to guide people home, to themselves, to discover their innate power. She supports thousands of people per year through her online programs, private coaching, and retreats.I heard Nichole in an interview on another podcast recently and immediately Instagram stalked her and asked her to come on the SMA. Her story is mind-blowing. From watching her dad OD in front of her to smuggling drugs taped to her body between states to having a woman murdered in her own home at the hands of her abusive ex-boyfriend, Nichole’s journey is more than you think one woman can endure. Yet, here she is. A survivor and a warrior and a powerful thought leader.Listen in to hear Nichole share: How she survived rock bottom when her ex-boyfriend murdered a woman in her home How she drugged her abusive boyfriend to escape with her daughter How she turned a life of addiction and abuse into a life of service and purpose The power and purpose of radical compassion How to move into the “lesson and leadership” phase to share your story Why you need to start with celebration in your life in order to get over feeling like you’re not enough Links Mentioned: Connect with Nichole: Nichole Sylvester Nichole’s Book: OH SHIFT Nichole’s Podcast: OH SHIFT Show Nichole on Instagram Nichole on Facebook 5-day money mindset challenge: Own Your Money Shift Thank you to our sponsors: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Green Chef: For $50 off your first box of Green Chef meals go to Green Chef. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Every now and then I get an email from a Shameless Mom that just blows me away. A couple weeks ago I got one such email – detailing a mama’s struggle with her current relationship with an addict and her past decision to terminate a pregnancy. What was so overwhelmingly touching about this email was that a lot of the email was about how HAPPY this mama is. That 96.34% of the time she is extremely happy, caring, empathetic, and grateful.But then there was the admission that, “the murky undercurrents of my past sometimes swirl with the polluted storm of my present; and my sunny disposition is immediately overcast by a darkness so ominous and pensive, that I fear I will suffocate under all the darkness......”I asked this Shameless Mom if I could share her story and do some processing on this episode and she so kindly agreed. To any mama who has struggled to make peace with your past or is currently struggling to find peace in the present, this is for you.Links Mentioned:Resource: Design Mom Gabrielle Blair speaks on abortion Thank you to our sponsor: Lola: Get 100% organic tampons delivered right to your door for 40% off. Go to my Lola and use the code SHAMELESS40 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Erika Tebbens is a Sales Strategist for female entrepreneurs. She teaches women to sell in a way that feels good, instead of "pushy." She's also a leader who encourages women to play bigger and show up more boldly in business, and in life. She runs a vibrant and dynamic group for women in business and does public speaking for passionate, female entrepreneurs. When she isn't working, you can find her sipping black coffee on her couch with her husband, 13-year-old son, and two very spoiled dogs. I was so excited to have Erika join us in the SMA because I wanted to ask her about all her unconventional hobbies and interests – like roller derby, running for political office, and building a successful direct marketing business. I was so curious to learn what guided her confident behavior. I loved hear her story and I think you will too!Listen in to hear Erika share: How roller derby stopped her from being “swallowed” by motherhood What inspired her to get involved in politics even though she didn’t have the traditional credentials – and the powerful ripple effect her campaign had How she maintains the confidence to try new, scary things on a regular basis Why she left a successful MLM/direct marketing company Tips on selling without being sleazy (KEY for any moms in sales and/or direct marketing positions!) Links Mentioned: Connect with Erika: Erika Tebbens Erika’s course: Sell It Sister Erika on Instagram Erika on Facebook  Erika’s free Facebook group Thank you to our sponsors: Scentbird: To save 50% off your first order and get your first scent for just $7.50, go to Scentbird and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout RXBAR: RXBAR is offering you an exclusive pack of 6 adult bars and 4 kids bars + 25% off your first order when you go to RXBAR and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There is a saying that goes something like, “A goal without a deadline is just a dream.” I couldn’t agree more.Don’t get me wrong - dreams are nice. But a goal with a deadline is much more likely to dramatically change your life.An early mentor of mine used to always say, “Cut your deadlines in half.” His purpose in giving this advice is that if you could accomplish something in half the time you thought possible, you’ll constantly be raising the bar for yourself. You recognize quickly that you are strong and powerful beyond measure.In this episode, I’m going to dig into how to start setting better deadlines and actually meet them.  I will also talk about your procrastination habits that might be really impeding progress toward your goals on a regular basis. This is something most of us are guilty of and it’s usually subconscious.The best time to set a deadline is right NOW. You ready?Thank you to our sponsors: Canvas People: To get a FREE 11x14 canvas print (just pay shipping) of any of your photos, go to Canvas People and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. True Botanicals: to get free samples and save $20 off your order of $40 or more for your first purchase, go to True Botanicals and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jessica Turner is here to share her new book, Stretched Too Thin. She is also the author of the Wall Street Journal bestselling book The Fringe Hours and the founder of the popular lifestyle blog The Mom Creative. Additionally, she is an award-winning marketing professional, speaker, and freelance writer. She has been featured in numerous media outlets including The Today Show, O Magazine, Pregnancy & Newborn Magazine, Better Homes and Gardens, and Inc.com. She and her husband, Matthew, live with their three children in Nashville, Tennessee. Kids 10, 7, 3.5Jessica is a mover and a shaker to her core. She is also completely Shameless about how she builds a guilt-free life (read: empire) in which she gets to live out all her dreams, in spite of conventional norms and myths around mom guilt and work-life balance. Listen in to hear Jessica share: How she manages working a full-time corporate job plus being a writer on the side – GUILT FREE Most common mom challenges and how to manage them The power of noting and affirming mom’s similar experiences How we can better manage the mental load of motherhood and professional aspirations How to let guilt be a motivator in your life The difference between work/life balance and work/life satisfaction Links Mentioned: Connect with Jessica: The Mom Creative Jessica’s book: Stretched Too Thin Jessica on Facebook Jessica on Twitter Jessica on Instagram Book Snobbery on Instagram Thank you to our sponsors: Lola: Get 100% organic tampons delivered right to your door for 40% off. Go to Lola and use the code SHAMELESS40 at checkout. care of: For 25% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Care Of and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices