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Last week I tore my heart out and left in a kindergarten classroom in the pocket of my sweet Vinnie. It was a journey to get to that day, and just when I thought I had won the day by not having a monumental meltdown, Vinnie had a monumental meltdown on the way home from school and I was reminded that my work here will never be done. Which is a relief in this time of transition…Even if you aren’t like me and didn’t have to tear your heart out and leave it in a kindergarten classroom last week, this is likely a season of transition for you. Aside from tearing my heart out last week, I love transitioning between seasons. I try to be really intentional about what I’m gearing up for, what I want to get out of it, and how I want to grow during each and every season. I know there will always be bumps. Nothing will ever go completely according to plan. But growth will occur. And on the other side of that growth is amazing things I can’t even imagine yet….It’s a constant pursuit of imperfect perfection and magic, right?!?If you’re wondering how you can embrace the transition into fall and how you can reset & reframe your mindset so you can really OWN the heck out of the rest of 2018, this episode is for you!Listen in to hear me share some powerful mindset resets that will light up your fall!Links Mentioned: Free Resource: 15 Minute Manifest Membership Community: MOMENTUM Mamas Email me: info@shamelessmom.com Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: to find your perfect match therapist for a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy, go to talkspace.com/shameless and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $45 off your first month. Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jessica Butts is CEO and Founder of Front Seat Life.org where she helps inspire, motivate and educate people to live their life from the front seat using their innate abilities. She is also the author of the popular books, “Live Your Life from the Front Seat” and “Don’t Do Stuff You Suck At”.Jessica is a retired psychotherapist. Today she is a life and business coach, and Myers-Briggs expert whose mission is to inspire others to accomplish magnificent things by embracing their innateness. She shares her message around the country in her sassy, no-holds-barred entertaining manner.Leaving the corporate world after 15 years to start her own company has been the hardest and most rewarding challenge of her life. As an ENFJ, Jessica thinks outside the box, leads with her heart and is obsessively organized. She’s passionate about personal development, traveling, deep connections with those in her life and helping create aha’s for her clients.I knew from the moment Jessica and I hit record that this conversation would be FIRE and she did not disappoint. Get ready for a super high value, fast pace convo that miiight just knock your socks off. To get the most out of this conversation, do Jessica’s free assessment (link below) before listening in, so you can know your personality type as we discuss all things personality type!Listen in to hear Jessica share: How knowing and embracing your personality type can change the course of your life How intuitive type people can thrive in a world dominated by sensors The struggle of feelers and why we’re often misread by others and marginalized How to assess your kids Links Mentioned: Connect with Jessica: Jessica Butts Jessica on Instagram Free Myers Briggs Assessment Thank you to our sponsors: Butcherbox: For grass fed beef, organic chicken and heritage breed pork delivered to your door go to Butcher Box/shameless and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $20 off your order and get 2 lbs of FREE ground beef in every box for the life of your subscription! Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fab Fit Fun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I only recently realized anxiety has been a part of my life for almost my entire life. When worry has been your gift for as long as you can remember, you don’t really think about it being anything other than normal. A few years ago a sleep doctor asked me for how much of my life I had been hyper-vigilant. Me? Hyper-vigilant? Huh…. I had never thought about myself or my worry this way.I sat quietly and thought for a moment and then clearly and immediately knew the exact age. I was 8 was when I started trying to stay awake all night in case we were robbed. I woke up screaming nightly, convinced I heard someone moving our kitchen table across the linoleum floor (cause robbers usually go for kitchen tables first??) It became such an obsession that my mom eventually took me to a child psychologist to see why I might be so preoccupied with these intrusive thoughts. Today, I have other obsessions and intrusive thought patterns. As of late, they have been mostly related to sending my child off to kindergarten. While I am ridiculously excited to see him leaping toward this next step with his eyes and heart wide open, I am in deep mourning that we are closing the door on a chapter of our lives that has exploded and exposed my mind and heart to the world in ways I never thought possible. This transition has my anxiety all sorts of fired up and ready for action. In this episode, I share a recent event that put me over the edge and my top three tactics that help me keep my anxiety manageable in these tender and trying times of my life.To all you Shameless Moms who are also blessed with the gift of worry, you are not alone. I am with you. Always. Thank you to our sponsors: Canvas People: To get a FREE 11x14 canvas print (just pay shipping) of any of your photos, go to Canvas People and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. True Botanicals: to get free samples and save $20 off your order of $40 or more for your first purchase, go to True Botanicals and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Janna Denton-Howes is a Shameless Mom to 2 daughters and marriage coach who is pioneering a movement for women to free themselves from sexual expectations and redefine intimacy in their marriages. Affectionately called, "Chief Libido Officer" and "Husband Whisperer" by her participants and coaching clients, Janna not only helps married women take sex off their to-do lists but shows couples how to transform conflict into connection in 5 seconds or less! One of her greatest accomplishments in life has been to beat the odds of teenage marriage and still be partnered up with her prom date, 18 years later. When she isn't working from her garden shed office, you can find her having a beach fire with her husband and their two daughters or curled up with a book about the male brain.Listen in to hear her share: Why the culture around sex is changing for the better Causes of low libido in women and why your low libido has nothing to do with you What men really want: to be desired and admired Women really want: protection and connection Routines to make intimacy easier, more relaxed, and more enjoyable How couples can make a 180-degree shift in their relationship Links Mentioned:Connect with Janna: Janna Denton HowesJanna on FacebookJanna on YoutubeJanna's Program: 30 Days to Wanting it MoreJanna’s 7 Day Pleasure Challenge Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’ll be honest, boundaries are tricky for me. I’m a people pleaser for sure. But I’m also acutely aware of my (shamelessly selfish) needs. Over the last few years, I have gotten so much better at practicing what I preach and now I really embrace certain boundaries and 100% OWN them. Getting clarity around boundaries is so freeing. It has allowed me to have an immediate go-to responses to things that used to make me feel guilty and take up waaaay too much mental energy.As a result of all these boundaries I stopped saying yes to a bunch of things – and there are 5 things that really stand out. You might want to stop saying yes to these 5 things too. You have my blessing. Thank you to our sponsors: True Botanicals: to get free samples and save $20 off your order of $40 or more for your first purchase, go to True Botanicals and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jill Angie of Not Your Average Runner is an RRCA certified running coach and Master certified life coach who wants to live in a world where everyone is free to feel fit and fabulous at any size. She started the Not Your Average Runner movement in 2013 to show that runners come in all shapes, sizes, and speeds, and since then has assembled a global community of revolutionaries that are taking the running world by storm.Jill and I dig into all things running and body positivity here. We both firmly believe that you are already 100% perfect as is.  And you can be a runner at any size or speed. We also both firmly believe you will find more power in all areas of your life if you start running. If you’ve been looking for the inspiration to get yourself moving, this is it. Promise.Listen in to hear Jill share: Why she walked away from her marriage to be more authentic in her life How getting half-naked in the middle Brooklyn impacted and improved her body image Why running equals freedom and power at any size or pace How to overcome self-doubt to get yourself out the door for the first time How to become a Rebel Runner (hint: you already are one) Options for the best plus size running bra Links Mentioned: Join the Shameless Mom MOMENTUM Mamas Connect with Jill: Not Your Average Runner Not Your Average Runner Podcast Not Your Average Runner on Facebook Join the Not Your Average Runner Free Facebook Group Not Your Average Runner on Instagram Jill’s Favorite Bra Brands: Enell (use code jillship at Enell for free shipping) and She Fit Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

One of the things I am most convinced of in life is our ability to control our outcomes by controlling our thoughts. If you think positive and powerful thoughts, you will do positive and powerful things. If your thoughts are filled with self-doubt and harsh judgment of your abilities, you will likely find yourself stuck in a place you don’t know how to move out of. This isn’t to say changing your thoughts comes easily. It doesn’t. But it comes steadily with small investments in critical thinking and intentional integration.Harv Eker says, “No thought lives in your head rent-free.” Each thought you have will either be an investment or a cost. It will either move your toward happiness and success or away from it. It will either empower you or disempower you. That’s why it’s imperative you choose your thoughts and beliefs wisely.” One of the biggest responsibilities you have to yourself is to manage your thoughts in a manner that allows you to live a life you feel proud of, that you feel at peace with, and that you feel in charge of.Listen in to learn how to better manage your thoughts in order to get the outcomes you really want in life.If you need help and ongoing support with any of this, make sure to check out our MOMENTUM Mamas program. Registration is open with discount pricing this week only. This program promises to make you a BOSS of your thoughts. Links Mentioned: Join the Shameless Mom MOMENTUM Mamas Danny J interview: Saved By The Daughter She Placed For Adoption Part 1 and Part 2 Thank you to our sponsors: RXBAR: RXBAR is offering you an exclusive pack of 6 adult bars and 4 kids bars + 25% off your first order when you go to RX BAR and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fab Fit Fun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mindset is everything. It can make you and it can break you. When it comes to winning at life, you have to do a lot of mindset work. It’s the only way to see your gifts, appreciate your gifts, and fully utilize your gifts. A mindset reset can help you find joy and success in the most difficult of situations. A champion mindset keeps you resilient and powerful at all times. If you think about the people around you who are winning at life – you can probably see that they do indeed have a champion mindset. In this episode, I’m going to share with you how you can have a champion mindset through 6 steps: Relentless pursuit and focus Putting on blinders Protecting your headspace (get rid of crabs) Taking radical responsibility for reprogramming self-limiting beliefs Viewing everything as practice Staying in motion/momentum Links Mentioned: Free ebook: 15 Minute Manifest Book: You Are a Badass At Making Money Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

RB Fast is a leadership coach for schools and nonprofits based in Denver, CO. She travels the globe facilitating workshops and retreats focused on team building, strategy, and leadership growth. From large conferences to private boardrooms, RB shows up as a partner and guide for every client. When she isn't helping organizations realize their big vision, she's probably in her garden and kitchen preparing delicious food for the people she loves, including her beloved husband, Steve, daughter, Mia or snuggling her fur babies, Moe and Dexter. RB started her journey into motherhood as a full time student and bartender who could only afford to take 9 days of maternity leave. 9 days. The journey inspired her to take conscientious action to create a more powerful life. Today, she is very thoughtful and intentional in how she weaves social justice and advocacy into her parenting and her professional work with non-profits. Listen in to hear RB share: The value of creating your own beautiful space Her 9-day maternity leave and the postpartum depression that followed What life was like working as a bartender until 3:30 am and being a full-time student with a newborn baby How she started a business by making a list of her skills and posting it to Facebook Survival vs perfectionism – and why survival mode is way more productive and perfectionism might be a luxury you can’t afford The importance of learning and listening to others stories/experience/perspectives The advocacy path learning/questioning/action  Links Mentioned: SMA Ep 234: Megan Flatt: How to Own Your Mama Advantage Connect with RB: Beeline Consulting Resource: Nonprofit Board Health Checkup RB on Twitter RB on Instagram  Website: Vote Smart   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s easy for us to underestimate our own power. Giving birth is the single most powerful a woman can do. I chose to do it unmedicated. I don’t think this is necessarily the best way, but it’s the way I chose. And my low-risk pregnancy allowed me to do this at home. I learned through my home birth experience that I can do really hard things. That said, I would not opt for another unmedicated birth. It’s interesting how experience can change our perspective, isn’t it? This is the story of Vinnie’s birth and my maddening realization that sometimes the only way out is through.Thank you to our sponsors: Care.com: Save 30% off your Care.com Premium Membership by going to Shameless Mom. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices