Trying To Figure It Out

How many first dates have you been on? Fifteen? Thirty? Maybe fifty? Today's guest on TTFIO has been on over 100 first dates and he is joining me to give us all his tips on how to nail a first date. Matt Wurnig of 50 Dates 50 States talks all about his experience going on 50 states in 50 states (twice!!) and takes the heat when I ask him the hard questions too. Is he looking for love? Does he have a type? What are his red flags? And most importantly…which state has the best pizza? Enjoy!

Summer is officially over and this week on TTFIO I recap my last few months before diving into how to get back into healthy routines after summer and how to actually stick to the goals you set for yourself. My life coach/trauma coach Charles Cook joins me for the second half of the episode to share his expertise on staying grounded, finding routine, and holding yourself accountable while being kind and gentle to yourself at the same time. Enjoy!

The party continues in Houston this week on TTFIO with another episode featuring cast members of The Ultimatum. Colby and Madlyn Kissinger and April Marie join me to break down their experience both on the show and after. You'll hear how April and Madlyn became friends even after April spent half the show sleeping next to Colby and you'll learn April go-to drink while filming. The cast shares how they feel about how they were portrayed on the show and if they would go on the show again knowing what they know now. I test how well the trio really knows each other before an Al P's Three where we dive into Colby's wild playlist. Enjoy!

TTFIO hits the road this week to meet with two of the biggest stars from The Ultimatum, Colby and Madlyn Kissinger. Colby is a Texas man through and through, and we discuss what's kept him here his whole life as well as his best tips for a trip to Houston. Nothing is more important to Colby than family, and he opens up about how his mental health took a toll when his family went through some difficult changes. We dive into how Colby and his then-girlfriend wound up on one of Netflix's biggest reality shows and what it was like watching the show back afterwards with his wife and co-star, Madlyn. Madlyn joins us to discuss what they've been up to since the show and what life has been like as new parents. We wrap up with a relationship Q&A to really get to know the happy couple – who's always on their phone and who changes more diapers? You'll have to listen to find out! And stay tuned for next week, when we'll bring on another surprise guest from The Ultimatum!

After a week off, I am back on the pod bringing you a solo episode with all my life updates. A lot has changed in my life recently, and today I cover why I took last week off from the podcast, how I quit my job, and a bit about what's next for me and Trying To Figure It Out. The TTFIO team went on the road for the first time this past weekend, so today you also get a tease about what our trip to Houston was like and who we interviewed. I hope you enjoy and for more Houston content, head over to the Trying To Figure It Out YouTube page for my weekend vlog.

This week, Goodboy Noah joins TTFIO to chat about his rise to TikTok fame. Despite childhood dreams to hoop in the NBA, Noah has recently found himself more often in the recording studio than on the court. With strong R&B influences, Noah and his sidekick, Cheetah, are all over TikTok singing and cooking together. We also dive into Noah's childhood and realize that, like me, Noah began to experience more mental health challenges in the wake of his parents divorce. He talks about how he learned to manage his OCD and shares advice for other men who may be struggling with their mental health. Noah is a true comedian, so I hope you enjoy! Disclaimer: In this episode, Noah and I discuss OCD and mental health struggles that we both experience. We have found humor to be helpful at times to cope with the challenges we face; however, this is not meant to make light of the matter in any way and we both take mental health very seriously, as everyone should. For more resources on OCD, check out iocdf.org.

Beau is back on TTFIO this week to help me wrap up Toxic Friendship Awareness Month. Beau is the furthest thing from a toxic friend, and this episode we share more of our adventures together. You'll hear about the highlights and struggles from a sushi dinner date, my alter ego that comes out at Universal Studios Halloween Horror Nights, and Beau's botched attempt at remembering the characters in Stranger Things. There was no better way to wrap up this mini-series on friendship than with my best friend, so I hope you enjoy!

Toxic Friendship Awareness Month continues this week with a friend group that can teach us a thing or two about healthy friendships. TTFIO welcomes Miles, Jutes, Julian, and Anthony, a friend group that spans countries and ages but is one of the most close-knit groups I've ever seen. This episode they spill stories about each other, like how Anthony used to spend Jutes' sound checks throwing up and how Miles is always blowing up the group chat. They also dig deeper and speak on what they appreciate most in one another. I love spending time with this group and I think you'll understand why. Enjoy!

Toxic Friendship Awareness Month continues this week on TTFIO with psychologist and therapist Dr. Lauren Cook. Dr. Cook provides an expert's opinion on the ins and outs of toxic friendships—how to recognize them, the effect they can have on our mental health, and how to navigate friendship breakups. She also gives advice on how to make new friends and how to keep friends over time. This episode is the ultimate guide to friendship, I hope you enjoy! To learn more about Dr. Cook and her work, go to https://www.drlaurencook.com.

Welcome to Toxic Friendship Awareness Month on TTFIO! This month we will be exploring the complexities of friendship—how to have healthy communication, how to make new friends, how to spot toxic friends, and when to cut someone out of your life. We'll have guests on all month, but we're starting this week with a solo episode. I explore some of my earliest friendships and how I realized I do NOT have to offer people Nutella pancakes for them to be my friend. I talk about all the ways my life improved after I went through some tough friend breakups and how special my current friends are. I can't wait to go on this friendship journey with you!