Strong Men In God

I’ve had a pattern in my marriage.I feel hurt by something.The kids or Elizabeth ignoring me. The kids being rude. Elizabeth turning away from a hug or kiss.Then, I get mad.I pull away. I think to myself “Fine, if they don’t want me then they can pay for everything themselves!”I picture leaving them alone to fend for themselves.I can say mean things and get angry when I feel this way.Then later, I calm down and regret this…But there’s been damage done. I’ve scared my family and created lack of safety.I’ve been trying to get rid of this pattern for a LONG time.But I feel like I’ve found the answer.It’s working on my inner child.You see, my inner child is looking for my family to provide unconditional love. To take care of me.And, my younger me’s do need that.But, it’s not my kids’ job to take care of me. It’s my job to take care of them.And, it’s not my wife’s job to be my unconditionally loving “mother.” It’s our job to work in partnership in life together. She needs a husband, not another kid.And so, it falls on me to parent those younger me’s and give them unconditional love.I’m just starting the journey, and I think it’s the key to breaking some very difficult patterns.Learn more on today’s episode.Watch on YouTube here.And to become a man who makes this generation better than the last, join us in Strong Men Strong Marriages.Dr. Mike P.S. If you’d like to continue the journey with us, visit StrongMen.io and join our email list. You’ll receive exclusive updates, and you’ll be the first to know when our community programs and other opportunities open up. That’s StrongMen.io. I’ll see you there.

This past week I had the chance to stand up for someone else.A large man was being threatening and eventually physically aggressive to his wife or girlfriend (not sure which it was)..Thanks to the MMA training I’ve been receiving from Ethyn Ewing (here’s a recent knockout of his)...I felt confident to confront the guy and stop him from continuing to abuse this woman.It felt great to join the ranks of men who will stand up physically for what’s right.It made me realize that confrontation is one of the main masculine traits.The willingness to confront and fight others is a lot of what makes a man.Whether that confrontation is physical, mental, emotional or spiritual.And it takes physical, mental, emotional and spiritual strength to step into that confrontation.Hear more about what happened on today’s episode.Watch on YouTube here.And to become a man who fights for what is right, join us in Strong Men Strong Marriages.Dr. Mike P.S. If you’d like to continue the journey with us, visit StrongMen.io and join our email list. You’ll receive exclusive updates, and you’ll be the first to know when our community programs and other opportunities open up. That’s StrongMen.io. I’ll see you there.

When you wife says she wants space…It’s SCARY!Our brains usually go to thinking she wants to leave, whether that’s true or not.Usually we either go to pleading for her not to leave…Or we go to anger.Both of these are unattractive and push our wives away.Instead, we can share what we’re actually feeling…Ask for her help…And take care of ourselves.Learn more about this in today’s episode.Watch on YouTube here.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v5FvaokDOcYAnd join the program to learn how to do this together.Dr. Mike P.S. If you’d like to continue the journey with us, visit StrongMen.io and join our email list. You’ll receive exclusive updates, and you’ll be the first to know when our community programs and other opportunities open up. That’s StrongMen.io. I’ll see you there.

It can be scary and frustrating if your wife doesn’t want to pray with you.Or maybe it’s that she doesn’t want to go to church or read scriptures with you.You can worry that your marriage won’t make it.That your kids won’t grow up with God.That your wife and kids are on the fast track to eternal damnation.Unfortunately, this fear usually makes you anxious and controlling…Which drives your wife and kids away more.Learn what to to instead…In today’s episode.Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/Watch on YouTube here.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rEubK6OeKkIAnd join the program to learn how to do this together.Dr. Mike P.S. If you’d like to continue the journey with us, visit StrongMen.io and join our email list. You’ll receive exclusive updates, and you’ll be the first to know when our community programs and other opportunities open up. That’s StrongMen.io. I’ll see you there.

What’s your goal for your marriage?A wife who is excited to see you?A wife who hugs, kisses and has sex with you?A wife who appreciates you?And that should happen all the time, right?And if not, something is wrong. Right?Well, this mindset of having an “endpoint” to marriage usually leads to frustration.God helped me see that it’s much better to see your wife and marriage as a plant.Something that has seasons. That needs consistent nourishment. Something living that doesn’t have an “end point.”Something that needs a good husband to care for it.Learn how to do this well in today’s episode.Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/Watch on YouTube here.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8o_L3TnIoEIAnd join the program to learn how to do this together.Dr. Mike P.S. If you’d like to continue the journey with us, visit StrongMen.io and join our email list. You’ll receive exclusive updates, and you’ll be the first to know when our community programs and other opportunities open up. That’s StrongMen.io. I’ll see you there.

It can be easy to get into a downward spiral about our wife and marriage.The sex isn’t there.The connection isn’t there.We’re dealing with infidelity, separation or divorce.It can all seem pretty hopeless.And, when we feel hopeless, we don’t feel good, we’re not attractive, and we don’t solve our problems.Fortunately, there’s a way out of this.It’s gratitude.Not necessarily for our wife, but for the fact that God has our back.When we can see and feel that, we feel empowered, which is attractive.And, we can start solving problems effectively.Learn more in today’s episode.This is a tool from the book The Tools Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here.And join the program to learn how to do this together.Dr. Mike P.S. If you’d like to continue the journey with us, visit StrongMen.io and join our email list. You’ll receive exclusive updates, and you’ll be the first to know when our community programs and other opportunities open up. That’s StrongMen.io. I’ll see you there.

Does your wife feel distant?Does she seem to not really care about you?Does she seem to care more about the kids than you?Do you tell her that she should be paying more attention to you, hoping to get more from her?Well, maybe it’s not actually about you at all!And maybe asking her to do more will create MORE distance instead of connection.Learn how to approach your wife in a strong, supportive, secure way when she feels distant…So you can feel the closeness you desire.Learn how in today’s episode.Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here.And join the program to learn how to do this together.Dr. Mike P.S. If you’d like to continue the journey with us, visit StrongMen.io and join our email list. You’ll receive exclusive updates, and you’ll be the first to know when our community programs and other opportunities open up. That’s StrongMen.io. I’ll see you there.

Do you wish you had more in your marriage?More sex?More conversation?More connection?More fun?It’s not a problem to want more.However, your emotional state when you desire and ask for more can be a BIG problem.Most of us ask for more from a place of whininess and “not enough.”This usually just makes our wives feel like they’re not doing enough and less motivated to do anything more.Learn a new and better way to get more in your marriage…In today’s episode.Watch on YouTube here.And join the program to learn how to do this together.(This is from a book The Gap and The Gain by Benjamin Hardy)Dr. Mike P.S. If you’d like to continue the journey with us, visit StrongMen.io and join our email list. You’ll receive exclusive updates, and you’ll be the first to know when our community programs and other opportunities open up. That’s StrongMen.io. I’ll see you there.

Are you hiding in your marriage?Do you avoid speaking your mind?About money, sex, in-laws, parenting, religion, housework or free time?Do you get defensive with your wife?All of these symptoms are due to a fear…A fear of part of you being exposed or rejected.Learn how to overcome that fear…Through acceptance of your “Shadow…”Watch on YouTube here.And join the program to learn how to do this together.(This series is from the book The Tools https://amzn.to/42410JT )Dr. Mike P.S. If you’d like to continue the journey with us, visit StrongMen.io and join our email list. You’ll receive exclusive updates, and you’ll be the first to know when our community programs and other opportunities open up. That’s StrongMen.io. I’ll see you there.

Does your wife make you mad?When she criticizes you?When she seems to care about the kids more than you?Do you feel like just a paycheck?When we get into this negative spiral…It doesn’t do us or anyone else much good.Thankfully, there IS a way out of it…A way we can feel FREE instead of TRAPPED.We can feel powerful no matter what our wife or others might be doing.Learn how in today’s episode.Watch on YouTube here.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y5fciTKrrSIAnd join the program to learn how to do this together.Dr. Mike P.S. If you’d like to continue the journey with us, visit StrongMen.io and join our email list. You’ll receive exclusive updates, and you’ll be the first to know when our community programs and other opportunities open up. That’s StrongMen.io. I’ll see you there.