School Behaviour Secrets with Simon Currigan and Emma Shackleton

Some of the most damaging ideas about behaviour in schools don’t sound wrong.They sound kind.They sound scientific.They sound progressive.And that’s exactly why they stick.In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, Simon Currigan unpacks four popular SEMH myths that are quietly making behaviour worse - not because people mean badly, but because good ideas have been overstretched, oversimplified, and misunderstood.You’ll explore:Why children do still make choices - even when emotions run highThe truth about trauma-informed practice (and why it doesn’t lower expectations)Why consequences matter even when they don’t “fix” behaviourWhy SEMH can’t replace behaviour systems - and what happens when schools tryThis isn’t about winning arguments.It’s about clearing away the half-truths that sabotage classrooms and replacing them with thinking that actually works.If you’re a teacher or school leader who wants calmer classrooms, fairer systems and a better understanding of what’s really going on underneath behaviour, this episode will give you clarity - not slogans.Important links:Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbookDownload other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources

January offers a unique opportunity for behavior resets in the classroom. Discover how the Fresh Start Effect can help rebuild relationships and motivate students with a sense of confidence. Learn to create whole-class resolutions that shift identity, and embrace symbolic activities to help individuals let go of past mistakes. Tips on re-establishing adult-pupil dynamics and reducing sensory overload are also shared. This insightful discussion equips teachers to start the term with a calmer, more connected environment for all.

When a pupil goes from “fine” to “furious” because you asked them to correct one sentence, it’s easy to think they’re overreacting. But for many children with ADHD, even small corrections can feel like rejection - triggering intense emotional pain known as Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD).In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you’ll learn what RSD actually is, why it’s so strongly linked with ADHD, and how it shows up in the classroom through explosive moments, sudden shutdowns, perfectionism, or quiet withdrawal.You’ll learn how feedback can unintentionally trigger RSD, why some pupils take even gentle corrections to heart, and the practical shifts teachers can make to reduce distress, support emotional regulation, and keep expectations high. We also share two simple strategies you can use this week to prevent blow-ups and help pupils feel safe enough to learn.If you’ve ever wondered, “Why did they react like that?” - this episode will give you the clarity and tools you need.Important links:Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbookDownload other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources

Christmas is exciting… but in schools, it can also send behaviour spiralling.Between nativity rehearsals, parties, Christmas jumper day, and all the glitter-induced chaos, many pupils tip from festive fun to full-on overwhelm faster than you can say “silent night.”In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you’ll learn why December is such a challenging month for regulation, the hidden SEMH pressures pupils face and the simple changes that help children stay settled so they can actually enjoy the fun.You’ll learn:Why Christmas disrupts the nervous system for many pupilsThe bedtime routine analogy that explains festive behaviour perfectlyPractical strategies you can use immediately to reduce silliness, anxiety and pre-holiday chaosHow to help pupils enjoy Christmas without tipping into dysregulationIf you want a calmer, happier run-up to the holidays — for you and your pupils — this episode is your roadmap.Important links:Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbookDownload other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources

Recovering from the disappointing moment when reward systems fail is easier than you think! Discover why the excitement of stickers fizzles out over time and how the hedonic treadmill plays a role. Hear about reward inflation and its harmful effects, especially for vulnerable students. The podcast dives into the detrimental impact of traditional rewards on intrinsic motivation and offers insights on building lasting, genuine behavioral change. Learn how to tie behavior to identity and values, ensuring students thrive for the right reasons!

When pupils show persistent, emotionally escalated behaviour, it’s easy to focus on the surface - the shouting, the refusal, the walking out  - and miss the real cause.In this episode, you’ll learn how to use the PAIN framework (Physical, Emotional, Cognitive, Social, Prosocial, and Transition needs) to help your pupils make progress with their SEMH needs. You’ll follow the story of Liam, an 11-year-old pupil whose behaviour seemed oppositional - until the PAIN lens revealed hidden what was happening below the surface and driving his behaviour.You’ll discover:How to identify unmet needs using the PAIN framework – and use this to pick the right support strategies for your studentsWhy those needs can mimic “defiance” and “chosen behaviour”How to replace traditional behaviour plans with proactive regulation plans that prevent crises before they startIf you’ve ever thought, “I’ve tried every strategy, and nothing works,” this episode will show you how to think like an SEMH specialist - and how the PAIN framework can transform your understanding of your student’s behaviour.Important links:Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbookDownload other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources

Got a class that just won’t stop talking? The kind where the chatter keeps creeping back in, no matter how many times you settle them? We feel your pain!In this episode, we explain why the problem isn’t talk itself, but unstructured talk - and how to turn your class’s social energy and exuberance into focus, rather than frustration.You’ll discover the T3 Method: a simple way of structuring your lesson, so pupils get the connection and verbal processing time they need, while keeping your lesson productive and the learning moving forward. You’ll also learn how to teach talk routines and support pupils who rely on social interaction to stay regulated.So if you’re tired of battling chatty classes, this is your blueprint for working with your students’ energy instead of against it.Important links:Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbookDownload other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources

Ever worked with a pupil who argues about everything — even the things they secretly agree with?In this episode, we unpack Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) — what it is, what it isn’t, and why traditional approaches like confrontation or “tougher boundaries” often backfire.You’ll discover:The common myths that cause teachers to misread ODD behaviourThe key differences between ODD and PDA (and why that distinction matters)How ADHD and ODD overlap, and what that means for your classroomWhat’s really driving the behaviour of pupils with ODD — including the roles of ontrol, safety, and predictabilityAnd four practical strategies to help you support these pupils without power struggles, conflict, or endless frustrationYou’ll learn why your student’s defiance often hides distress — and how changing your response can change everything.Important links:Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbookDownload other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources

Ever get to Friday and feel like your emotional battery’s is fried? You’re not alone. Working in education — especially when supporting pupils with SEMH needs — means carrying other people’s emotions all day long. By the end of the week, you’re not just tired, you’re emotionally done.In this shorter half-term quickfire episode, we dive into the emotional side of teaching — and how to protect your emotional wellbeing in just five minutes a day. You’ll learn simple, practical steps to help your nervous system switch off after a long day of teaching, so you can recharge and stop carrying classroom stress home with you.And there’s a twist — because this isn’t just about personal wellbeing. We’ll explore why this is an essential leadership priority too. Because calm adults create calm classrooms — and when we ignore teacher wellbeing, we undermine every other behaviour strategy we’re using in school.Along the way, expect honesty, practical advice, and a strong opinion about smoked kippers (you’ve been warned).So whether you’re a teacher, SENCO, or school leader, this episode is your reminder that protecting your own calm isn’t selfish — it’s part of the job.Important links:Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbookDownload other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources

“Connection before correction” has become a bit of a buzz phrase in education — but what does it actually mean in a real classroom? How do you do it in the middle of a behaviour incident, when stress levels are high and pupils seem least open to connection?In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, Simon Currigan unpacks the science and the practice behind this powerful idea. Drawing on the work of psychologists Dan Hughes and Kim Golding, as well as what we know about the autonomic nervous system and the impact of stress on the brain, he explains why connection isn’t a soft option — it’s a strategy grounded in biology.You’ll discover:Why correction fails when pupils are dysregulated and the amygdala takes over.How connection to a calm adult acts as a buffer, helping pupils regain access to the thinking part of the brain.The role of the PAIN framework (Primary Areas of Internal Need) in fuelling stress and behaviour challenges.Why some pupils — especially those affected by trauma or ACEs — resist connection, even though they need it most.Practical ways to use the PACE approach (Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, Empathy) to connect with students in the moment, before moving to correction or problem-solving. By the end of the episode, you’ll have a clear picture of how “connection before correction” works in practice — and why it’s often the missing link between repeated conflict and lasting behaviour change. If you’ve ever thought, “I’ve tried consequences, I’ve tried reasoning, but nothing sticks,” this episode will give you a new lens for seeing behaviour — and a toolkit for building calmer, safer classrooms.Important links:Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbookDownload other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources