The Mark Groves Podcast

Themes: Parenting, Safetyism, Fragility, Resilience, Childhood Independence, Autonomy, Technology Summary:  After her newspaper column “Why I Let My 9-Year-Old Ride the Subway Alone” created a media firestorm, Lenore Skenazy got the nickname “America’s Worst Mom.” Nice. She went on to write Free-Range Kids, the book-turned-movement. (Second Edition just out!) She has been profiled in The New Yorker and lectured everywhere, from DreamWorks to Microsoft HQ to schools across America. On TV, you may have seen her on The Today Show, The Daily Show or her own reality show, World’s Worst Mom. Now Lenore is co-founder and president of Let Grow, the national nonprofit promoting childhood independence. I was struck by Lenore’s story, and as I step into fatherhood this year, I knew I had to have her on the podcast. Tune in to learn how parenting has changed over the past few decades, why safety has become a top priority for parents nowadays, and how unsupervised play and letting go a little are key in raising resilient, confident and independent children. Discover: Why Lenore let her nine-year-old son ride the subway alone in NYC Why the degree of independence and autonomy parents give their kids has changed drastically over the past couple of decades Safetyism: what it is and how it contributes to fragility in our kids The massive benefits of unsupervised play & tech-free play Why tracking your kids erodes trust and can actually cause more harm than good How to overcome parental anxiety 00:00 Intro 00:31 Parenting then vs. now 03:00 Letting her son ride the subway alone 06:43 Why are we so afraid for our kids? 10:52 The problem with prioritizing safety 24:09 Tech-free play 37:23 Why keeping kids safe has become a top priority 44:00 Is tracking your kids worth it? 51:21 How to overcome parental anxiety Links: Website | letgrow.org Book | Free-Range Kids: How Parents and Teachers Can Let Go and Let Grow Twitter | @freerangekids Facebook | Raising Independent Kids The Coddling of the American Mind Sponsors: Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Virtuosity, Self-Love, Self-Awareness, Virtue Signaling, Cancel Culture, Transformation, Boundaries, Forgiveness, Narcissism Summary:  Back for the second time is my good friend, Danielle Laporte. Danielle is an author, speaker, podcaster and a member of Oprah’s SuperSoul 100, a group who, in Oprah Winfrey’s words, “is uniquely connecting the world together with a spiritual energy that matters.” In this episode, Danielle and I chat about allll the things, including true, embodied virtuosity, virtue signaling, cancel culture, boundaries, narcissism and how to be loving in a world that’s waking up. Danielle is the author of The Fire Starter Sessions, The Desire Map, White Hot Truth, and producer of dozens of meditation kits and online programs for spiritual support. Her most recent book, How To Be Loving…when your heart is breaking open and the world is waking up, is also an Audiobook + ebook, with a companion deck and journal. Danielle is the creator of the Heart Centered Membership and the Heart Centered Leadership Program with 400+ leaders in 30 countries hosting conversation circles, retreats, and workshops in all kinds of communities and businesses. Her podcast, With Love, Danielle, often ranks in iTunes’ top 10 for wellness. Most of her offerings—from the Heart Centered Membership to her online classes—are on a pay what you choose basis. Named one of the Top 100 Websites for Women by Forbes, millions of people a month visit DanielleLaPorte.com. Discover: Having reverence for your shadow and the parts of yourself you dislike Our thoughts on virtue signaling and what it truly means to be virtuous The absurdity of cancel culture A theory on why there’s tyranny and evil in the world Setting boundaries from a loving and healed place Forgiving yourself and others (even if you feel like they’re unforgivable) Things to reflect on if you’ve been with a narcissist 00:00 Intro   03:45 The turning point in Danielle’s work  07:51 Loving what you hate about yourself 11:52 Psychological virtue 15:04 Virtue signaling 22:08 Cancel culture 27:07 Theory about tyranny 31:57 How To Be Loving 37:59 Boundaries 43:18 Forgiving the unforgivable 46:27 Narcissism 48:28 Overidentification 51:22 Becoming radiant Links: Website | daniellelaporte.com Instagram | @daniellelaporte Book | How To Be Loving... when your heart is breaking open and the world is waking up Podcast | With Love, Danielle Sponsors: LMNT | LMNT is a tasty electrolyte drink mix that replaces vital electrolytes without sugars and dodgy ingredients found in conventional sports drinks. Get a FREE LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase at drinklmnt.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Health, Relationships, Boundaries, Mental Health, Nutrition, Gut-Brain Axis Summary:  Is there a connection between the foods we eat and how we feel? How does the quality of our relationships and our boundaries (or lack thereof) impact our gut health? Does trauma affect the microbiome? In this episode, I’m chatting with leading functional-medicine expert Dr. Will Cole to explore the connection between our relationships, the food we eat, and our overall mental and physical health.  Dr. Cole consults people around the globe and started one of the first functional medicine telehealth centers in the world over a decade ago. Named one of the top 50 functional and integrative doctors in the nation, he specializes in clinically investigating underlying factors of chronic disease and customizing a functional medicine approach for thyroid issues, autoimmune conditions, hormonal imbalances, digestive disorders, and brain problems. Dr. Will is also the host of the popular The Art Of Being Well podcast and was the co-host of Gwyneth Paltrow's lifestyle brand goop's first spinoff podcast, the goopfellas podcast. He is the bestselling author of Ketotarian, The Inflammation Spectrum, and the New York Times bestseller Intuitive Fasting. His upcoming book, Gut Feelings, will hit shelves in March 2023. Discover: How our relationships influence our physical health The gut-brain axis and how the foods we eat impact our mental health How trauma affects gut health Why we’re seeing an explosion of mental health issues and autoimmune diseases right now Four inflammatory foods to avoid for optimal health (plus what to eat more of) One thing to cut out of your diet if you want to move the needle 00:00 Intro 00:24 How do our relationships impact our health? 02:26 Boundaries are medicine 04:10 The gut-brain axis 07:14 The food & mood connection 09:08 Taking inventory in all areas of our lives 12:37 How trauma impacts the gut 17:06 The explosion of mental health issues and autoimmune diseases 18:52 The parallels between our internal and external world 21:45 Glyphosate  23:17 Effecting change as consumers 33:25 The four core inflammatory foods 35:23 What to eat more of 36:12 The problem with seed oils 38:37 The truth about fat & cholesterol 46:33 Healthy fats 49:19 Cut this food out to move the needle Links: Website | drwillcole.com Instagram | @drwillcole Podcast | The Art of Being Well with Dr. Will Cole Book | Gut Feelings by Dr. Will Cole Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off sitewide at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Alignment, Codependency, Family Dynamics, Gender Roles, Transitions, Trust Summary:  For the last episode of the year 2022, Kylie and I are here to share an exciting milestone in our lives. We are so excited for what’s to come and to finally share this part of our journey with you. Big love and happy holidays to you and yours! Discover: What it means to live in alignment Trusting your choices and inner knowing  Mature love and how to recognize it A special announcement from Kylie and me! Our thoughts on the provider role and societal expectations 00:00 Intro 01:10 The past two years 02:33 Making hard decisions 08:02 Alignment 11:40 Returning to the soul 13:36 Contrast is a beautiful teacher 15:12 Trusting your choices 18:52 Love and grief 22:25 Mature love 26:45 Community support 27:58 A special announcement 34:49 Stewarding a new life 44:31 Biggest fears 47:07 Shift in family dynamics 49:40 The role of the provider 1:00:53 Feeling safe and assured 1:03:33 Creating space for both sides of the experience 1:07:25 Raising and growing your consciousness Links: Join me on Mine’d! Sign up for my newsletter here Watch this episode on Youtube Instagram | @createthelove & @beingisbeautiful Facebook | @createthelove Sponsors: LMNT | Get a FREE LMNT sample pack with any purchase at drinklmnt.com/createthelove Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Etheric Medicine, Health, Spirituality, Clairvoyance, Purpose Summary:  Bobbi Vogel is the founder of the Center for Etheric Medicine. She is a spirit taught clairvoyant healer, medical intuitive and medium to the soul, mind and body. She ascertains what is out of alignment creating vibrational dis-ease in the etheric body, both before and after it duplicates as a physical body illness. Light, intention and reverence are the tools used as an architect of vibrational anatomy. She brings into alignment the soul, mind and body to create the environment for intrinsic healing and release. Bobbi teaches that we must have compassion for our humanity as we consciously collaborate with our soul on the journey to health and healing. It all begins with faith. She currently collaborates with doctors as this is the now of medicine. Discover: How the etheric body differs from our physical body Bobbi’s thoughts on why anxiety and depression manifest The soul’s journey, why we’re here and the purpose of our wounds How disease relates to false beliefs and emotional wounds and why healing on a soul level is essential for physical recovery Why you don’t need to “find” your purpose 00:00 Intro 01:54 What is etheric medicine? 08:45 We are disconnected from the truth of who we are 15:05 Power of victimization 17:02 Purpose 21:20 The soul’s journey 29:02 Not being connected with your etheric self 32:33 Inflammation translates to density 43:32 The first step to healing 54:57 Vibrational medicine 58:34 Download about the broken heart Links: Website | ethericmedicine.com Instagram | @ethericmedicine.bobbi Youtube | @bobbivogel Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off your next order at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Uncertainty, Trust, Transformation, Alignment, Surrender Summary:  I truly believe life always works out — even when it feels like nothing is going to plan. But this idea, of course, can be a challenging one to accept. It’s so hard for us to see the magic of what’s unfolding and trust the timing of the universe when we’re still in love with a previous story of what could have been. Imprisoned by the idea of how things were supposed to work out. We so often get stuck in the moment we were wishing for that we don’t allow the beauty of this moment to unfold. Join me in the special solo episode as I expand on what it means to trust life’s timing, embrace the uncertainty and walk the path as it appears. Discover: The magic in embracing the way things are instead of forcing outcomes Why we get stuck in frustrating patterns, and what holds us back from creating the life and relationships we desire The profound benefits of understanding your triggers, learning from past wounds and integrating that knowledge How the universe conspires to make your dreams come true when you’re brave enough to trust your intuition and leap into the unknown Why you can’t rush the knowing and gotta embrace uncertainty 00:00 Intro 01:20 Life update 03:07 When things don’t work out 05:10 Protective mechanisms 07:14 Growing from your triggers 09:32 Leap, and the universe will catch you 19:00 Stepping into your fullest self-expression 22:45 You’re the one who designs your life 25:16 You’re always in the perfect place Links: Join me on Mine’d! Sign up for my newsletter here Watch this episode on Youtube Instagram | @createthelove Facebook | @createthelove Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Children, Child Education, Mental Health, Self-Worth, Self-Love, Growth Mindset Summary:  Today’s guest, Donovan Taylor Hall, is the teacher I think we all wished we had growing up. Dubbed the ‘Modern Day Mr. Rogers,’ Donovan is a youth advocate and educator on a mission to teach children how to build positive self-identity, self-worth and determination. His work aims to help kids of all ages create a solid relationship with themselves and learn the skills they need to take care of themselves both mentally and emotionally. Slow. Clap. Donovan has been featured on the Today Show, NowThis and several podcasts for his important work in positive youth development. Although his work started with kids, he has recently shifted into helping adults take care of themselves as well, using the same skills and inner child work. Join us as we discuss Donovan’s story, the current education system, how it’s affecting kids' mental well-being, and the value of an alternative system that focuses more on emotional, relational and mental health. Discover: How Donovan’s personal mental health struggles inspired him to work with kids Why teaching kids about their inherent self-worth is so important The reality of putting too many expectations and too much pressure on kids How the current education system is affecting kids' mental health How Donovan uses Twitch to connect with and teach important skills to his students The moment that made him leave the classroom, what made him come back, and the importance of self-love 00:00 Intro 00:23 Being the modern-day Mr. Rogers 02:03 Passion for teaching kids 06:12 Self-worth is inherent 12:18 Putting expectations on kids 15:20 The main struggles middle schoolers face today 31:09 Creating a safe space for kids 43:10 Rethinking the education system 48:03 Meeting kids where they’re at 53:14 Leaving the classroom 1:00:12 Creating content & performative social media 1:09:48 Future plans Links: Website | donovantaylorhall.com Twitch | twitch.tv/donofriend Instagram | @donofriend Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com LMNT | Get a FREE LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase at drinklmnt.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Toxic Positivity, Social Media, Authenticity, Parenting, Mental Health Summary:  Meet Whitney Goodman, LMFT — a radically honest psychotherapist behind the hugely popular Instagram account @sitwithwhit, author, and the owner of The Collaborative Counseling Center, a virtual therapy practice in Florida. Whitney's debut book, Toxic Positivity: Keeping it Real in a World Obsessed with Being Happy, shows readers how to shift the goal from being happy to being authentic in order to live fully. In this episode, we discuss toxic positivity and how a “good vibes only” mentality, while good-intentioned, can actually backfire when we’re denying and dismissing the hardships of life.  Discover: What the term toxic positivity means, and why constantly striving to maintain a positive outlook isn’t actually helpful or realistic when it comes to mental health How social media perpetuates toxic positivity and shame through an absence of realness How to avoid the anxiety and comparison that comes with the constant positivity on social media Why keeping it real and not forcing positivity leads to deeper, more sincere connections The best way you can show up for someone who’s going through a hard time 00:00 Intro 01:01 Toxic positivity 02:51 Cultural gaslighting 03:24 Gratitude, toxic positivity & the internet 04:47 History of toxic positivity 08:06 The absence of realness on social media 10:53 Social media boundaries 12:59 The cultural shift beyond constant positivity 15:00 The effects of toxic positivity on connection 21:14 Connection between cancel culture and toxic positivity 24:18 Toxic positivity in relationships 28:01 Stop trying to save people 31:51 Relationships with parents 37:00 Gender roles in parenting 38:42 Life without a smartphone and the internet 41:42 Living in alignment with your values Links: Website | sitwithwhit.com Book | Toxic Positivity Instagram | @sitwithwhit  Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off your next order at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Relationships, Attachment Theory, Conflict, Interdependency Summary:  Today I’m honoured to be joined by Stan Tatkin: PsyD, MFT, clinician, author, researcher, co-founder of the PACT Institute and all-around relational ninja. Stan’s ability to help couples navigate the often tricky waters of relationships is truly unparalleled, and in this episode, you’ll understand why. Join us as we discuss attachment theory, the leading causes of breakups and, ultimately, how to co-create a thriving, lasting relationship.  Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. He is the author of We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship Rx, Wired for Dating, What Every Therapist Ought to Know, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships, and the upcoming, In Each Other’s Care. Discover: Why we choose the partners we do, and why we default to certain behaviors while in a relationship Two main reasons relationships don’t last The non-negotiable habits of couples in strong, healthy relationships The mindset shift couples need to make for their relationship to survive and thrive 00:00 Intro 01:10 Stan’s background 02:57 Why we choose who we choose 10:30 Two main reasons relationships don’t last 18:02 Attachment theory & why we stay 23:24 Interdependency 26:29 Purpose-centered love 34:42 Creating a relationship that survives and thrives 41:32 Relationships are a team sport 48:16 Prioritizing repair 54:10 Avoid working on each other; only the problem Links: Website | thepactinstitute.com Instagram | @drstantatkin Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Politics, Spirituality, Health, Transformation, Self-Love, Unity Summary:  Join me for a thought-provoking discussion with bestselling author, political activist and spiritual thought leader, Marianne Williamson. For more than three decades, Marianne has been a leader in spiritual and religiously progressive circles. She is the author of 14 books, four of which have been #1 New York Times best sellers, and ran for the Democratic nomination for president in 2020. In this episode we discuss self-love, spirituality and our best shot at healing the divide we are experiencing in society right now.  Discover: How love and healing our own shadows first can help heal the political divide we are experiencing now in the world Non-violence political resistance and why it’s one of the most effective ways to spark political change The best way to start your day if you want to be your best self, live in integrity and radiate positive energy (hint: it’s not scrolling the gram) Taking control of how you show up in the world through a commitment to spiritual exercises and rituals Why mindfulness and meditation are crucial for effecting social change 00:00 Intro 00:43 Healing the divide 03:59 The government is gaslighting the people 06:44 Looking at ourselves first 08:58 Non-violent politics 13:08 We are meant to collaborate 16:21 Social media, individualism and narcissism  20:43 Impulse control 22:41 Living a more integrous life 28:52 Do this first thing in the morning 35:46 God and religion 43:03 Being committed to difference 46:42 Why are we scared of unity? 49:29 The urgent invitation to awakening 53:41 You don’t need the majority 55:48 The purpose of relationships Links: Website | marianne.com Twitter | @marwilliamson Instagram | @mariannewilliamson Substack | mariannewilliamson.substack.com Sponsors: LMNT | LMNT is a tasty electrolyte drink mix that replaces vital electrolytes without sugars and dodgy ingredients found in conventional sports drinks. Get a FREE LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase at drinklmnt.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off your next order at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy