The Powerful Man Show

Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
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May 17, 2025 • 17min

Revisit: What To Do When She Doesn't Want to Be Married Anymore

Episode #980 What do you do when your wife says the words you never thought you’d hear—“I don’t want to be married anymore”? If you're hearing that now, chances are she's been thinking it for years. This isn’t sudden for her. It’s a breaking point. In this REVISIT episode, we’re going back to one of the most crucial conversations a married man can have—how to respond when your wife emotionally checks out, or worse, tells you she’s done. This is a moment where most men panic, try to fix things fast, or shut down completely. But there’s another way. You’ll learn why women often plan their exit quietly over months or even years, and how your default reactions—defensiveness, excuses, or shutting down—only push her further away. We’ll talk through what creates emotional safety, how to respond calmly without losing your ground, and why your self-care might be the key to getting her back. This isn’t about manipulating her. It’s about becoming the man who can truly hold space, hear her pain, and give the relationship a fighting chance. 👉 Your wife pulled away—now what? Start by getting real about where your marriage stands. Take the free 2-minute Marriage Scale Assessment to find out what’s really going on—before it’s too late. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.  
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May 15, 2025 • 19min

Revisit: Did You Marry The Wrong Woman-Or Is It Just A Phase?

Episode #979 At some point, almost every married man asks himself the same question: Did I marry the wrong woman? Maybe she doesn’t laugh at your jokes anymore. She’s not interested in your stories. She seems distant, disconnected—and truth be told, you’re starting to wonder if life would be easier with someone else. In this REVISIT episode, we’re bringing back a powerful and timely conversation for any man who feels stuck in a marriage that’s lost its spark. The truth is, most guys were never taught how to actually make marriage work. We weren’t handed the tools to handle resentment, missed expectations, or emotional distance. So when things start to fall apart, we assume we chose the wrong partner—when in reality, we might just be missing the right approach. This episode breaks down why those thoughts of doubt creep in, how resentment quietly builds, and what you can do to clean the slate and reconnect. We’ll cover the Triad of Connection—a framework to rebuild emotional safety, get real connection back, and spark the passion you thought was gone for good. You might not need a new wife. You might just need a new strategy. Still wondering if she’s the wrong woman—or if something deeper’s going on? Take the free 2-minute Marriage Scale Assessment to get the clarity you need—before it’s too late. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.
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May 13, 2025 • 29min

Revisit: How Matt Turned it Around - A true story from the man they call The Sentry

Episode #978 Ever feel like you’ve done everything “right” as a husband and provider—yet your marriage still feels off? That’s exactly where Matt Euler found himself. In this REVISIT episode, we bring back a powerful conversation that’s still just as relevant for high-achieving men today. Matt opens up about how chasing business success left him drained, disconnected, and dangerously close to losing his marriage. This is more than just a success story. It’s a raw look at what happens when men ignore the early signs and keep grinding, hoping everything will somehow fix itself. Spoiler alert: it won’t. In this episode, you’ll hear how Matt went from burnout and panic attacks to reclaiming his marriage, his health, and his purpose. You’ll learn what changed when he joined The Activation Method—and why he believes The Brotherhood gave him the deep male relationships he didn’t know he was missing. We’re revisiting this episode because Matt’s story continues to resonate with men who feel alone, overworked, and unsure if they can pull their marriage back together. If that sounds like you—you’re not alone, and this episode is for you.   🎯 Feeling like your marriage is slipping while you chase success? Take the FREE Marriage Scale Assessment to see where you really stand. It only takes 2 minutes—and it might just be the wake-up call you need. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.  
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May 10, 2025 • 35min

Mastering Your Inner Power: Handling Stress, Anxiety, and Overwhelm

Episode #977 Are you coming home feeling anxious, short-tempered, or just plain drained? Does it feel like the pressure from work, your relationship, and everything else is piling on at once? In this episode, I sit down with Master Coach Mark Smith to tackle stress, anxiety, and overwhelm—the stuff that sneaks up on every man, especially those trying to lead at home and at work. We talk about what causes this state, how it shows up in your daily life, and most importantly, how to get back in control. It’s not about perfection—it’s about learning how to reset quickly and show up powerfully. Mark and I share real-life examples from our own lives and coaching experience, including: Why overwhelm makes you a weaker husband, father, and leader How to stop bringing that chaotic energy into your home A simple decompression routine that your wife will support The 5 go-to tools for turning stress into strength What to do when guilt makes you feel like you’re always failing In this episode, you’ll learn how to create space for yourself, own your energy, and shift out of reaction mode so you can lead with clarity and confidence. This one’s real, raw, and packed with tools you can use today. Struggling in your marriage? If the stress is piling up and the connection with your wife is fading, I’ve got something for you. I want to buy you a copy of my book, A Man’s Guide to Saving Your Marriage Without Talking About It. No fluff. Just real, proven steps to bring back the love and respect. You cover shipping—I’ll cover the book. Ready to see where you’re really at? If you’re tired of guessing and want a clear snapshot of what’s working—and what’s not—take the free assessment we mentioned in the episode. It only takes a couple of minutes and gives you instant clarity on where you need to focus. 👉 Click here to take the assessment and find out what your next step should be. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.
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May 8, 2025 • 27min

Navigating Life's Storms: Becoming the Lighthouse

Episode #976 In this episode, Tim and Arthur dive into a powerful metaphor that hits home for a lot of men: are you leading like a lighthouse, or grinding yourself down like a tugboat? A tugboat works hard, constantly pushing and pulling, trying to keep everything afloat—whether it's in business, marriage, or life in general. But a lighthouse? It stands firm. It doesn’t chase or convince. It guides. Too many men fall into the tugboat trap—trying to please everyone, dodging conflict, letting things slide to “keep the peace,” and losing themselves in the process. The result? Burnout, resentment, and relationships that lack real respect. Tim and Arthur get honest about what it looks like to lead from strength instead of stress, and how standards, boundaries, and presence can completely shift the way you show up. You’ll hear hard-won lessons, relatable stories, and clear, actionable steps you can take right now to stop reacting and start leading. Whether it's setting red lines in your relationship, breaking free from codependency, or reclaiming your own voice—you’ll walk away from this episode with more clarity, more confidence, and a better sense of who you're becoming. This one’s a wake-up call—with the tools to actually do something about it. If this episode hit home, it’s time to stop guessing and start leading. 👉 Watch the free training at thepowerfulman.com/scales You’ll discover exactly where things went off track in your relationship—and the proven steps to reignite the love, respect, and attraction you’ve been missing.
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May 6, 2025 • 27min

Living on the Edge: A Guide to Personal Transformation

Episode #975 What if the reason your life feels flat isn’t your job, your relationship, or your body—but the fact that you’ve stopped living on your edge? In this episode, we dive into what it really means to live to your edge—not just physically, but emotionally, sexually, spiritually, and mentally. Tim and Arthur break down why so many men slowly drift into mediocrity without even realizing it, and how that shows up in a distant marriage, a dull business, or just waking up every day feeling a little... gray. This isn’t about doing more. It’s about doing what actually lights you up—about reconnecting with the part of you that once felt unstoppable, confident, and clear. You’ll hear practical ways men are challenging themselves daily inside The Powerful Man movement—from cold plunges and fasting to having real conversations and owning their truth in the bedroom and beyond. In this episode, you’ll learn what’s really on the other side of discomfort—and why leaning into your edge might just be the fastest way to become the man your wife, your kids, and you remember and respect. Because the guy you used to be? He’s not gone. He’s just waiting for you at the edge. Feel like your wife barely sees you anymore? Chances are, you’ve pulled back from your edge—and it’s costing you your marriage. That’s why I want to send you a free copy of A Man’s Guide on How to Save Your Marriage Without Talking About It. No fluff. Just real tools that actually work. I’ll buy the book. You cover shipping. Grab your copy now—link’s in the show notes.   If this episode hit home, it’s time to stop guessing and start leading. 👉 Watch the free training at thepowerfulman.com/scales You’ll discover exactly where things went off track in your relationship—and the proven steps to reignite the love, respect, and attraction you’ve been missing. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.
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May 3, 2025 • 13min

Revisit: When Words Wound: Dealing With Spousal Criticism in Front of the Kids

Episode #974 What do you do when your wife criticizes you in front of your kids? Worse—what if she starts pulling them onto “her team” against you? In this revisit episode, we’re bringing back a powerful conversation that struck a chord with a lot of men. It’s all about what to do when your wife starts undermining you in front of your children—something that’s not only painful but can seriously impact your family dynamic if left unchecked. We’ll get into why this might be happening, the damage it causes, and what to do when your instinct is to either shut down or fire back. You'll hear how to calmly take the lead, have the hard conversations, set boundaries that stick, and uncover the real reason this is happening in the first place. If you’ve been in this situation—or want to be prepared in case it ever happens—this episode is worth another listen. Because how you respond in these moments matters… a lot. Let’s revisit the playbook and make sure you’re ready. Ready to stop walking on eggshells and start leading at home again? Take the free Hidden Triggers in Your Marriage Assessment and find out what’s really throwing off the balance between you and your wife. 👉 thepowerfulman.com/scales It only takes a few minutes—and it could change everything. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.
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May 1, 2025 • 15min

Revisit: Calculating Your Losses: What Inaction Really Costs

Episode #973 Ever wonder what staying stuck is actually costing you—not just financially, but emotionally and mentally? We’re bringing back this episode because it struck a nerve with so many men. It’s one of those conversations that hits differently the second time around—especially if you’ve been feeling that quiet pull to make a change but haven’t moved yet. In this episode, we revisit a powerful concept that came out of a conversation with a high-level business consultant who uses a dead-simple method to get results: calculate the real cost of doing nothing. Not hypothetically—actually write it down. And not just for business, but for your marriage, your health, and your sense of purpose. You’ll hear real-world examples of what men lose by hesitating—relationships, time with their kids, even businesses. And you’ll get a straight-up challenge: write down the five core areas of your life and ask yourself, “What is inaction costing me here?” This isn’t about guilt. It’s about clarity—and then making moves that matter. If you’re in a season where you're waiting for the “right time,” this revisit might be exactly what you need to hear today. 👉 Not sure where you're losing the most? Take 2 minutes to get clear on where inaction is silently draining your marriage, energy, and focus. Start here: thepowerfulman.com/scales __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.
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Apr 29, 2025 • 21min

Revisit: No Laughing Matter: When Your Jokes Hurt More Than They Heal

Episode #972 Ever made a joke that didn’t land—but didn’t realize until later how deep it cut? We originally released this episode a while back, but it hit home for so many men that we knew it was worth revisiting. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “I’m just joking—what’s the big deal?” this might be the perspective shift you didn’t know you needed. In this conversation, we get real about the difference between light-hearted teasing and the kind of humor that slowly chips away at trust. We share how even a small joke can come across as criticism, especially when the emotional “bank account” in your relationship is running low. You’ll hear why your wife might not find your teasing funny, how to read the energy behind your jokes, and what to do when your humor starts creating distance instead of connection. If laughter really is the best medicine, we need to make sure we’re not using it as a weapon. 🎯 Not sure if your emotional bank account is full or dangerously low? Take our free Marriage Scale Assessment to find out where things really stand between you and your wife—before another joke pushes things too far. thepowerfulman.com/scales __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.
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Apr 26, 2025 • 29min

Finding Fulfillment: Beyond the Pursuit of Happiness

Episode #971 What if the very thing driving your success is keeping you from feeling fulfilled? A lot of high-performing men are caught in the loop of "once I get this... then I’ll finally be happy." Sound familiar? Maybe it's sex, money, business goals, or even just recognition from your wife. But here's the thing: that finish line keeps moving. In this episode, Tim and Arthur unpack a hard truth—chasing happiness through external validation never ends well. They share real stories from men inside the movement (including one powerful breakthrough around intimacy and fulfillment) and dig into why so many of us resist feeling content, even when we say that’s all we want. You'll hear how being grateful doesn't mean giving up your edge, why internal validation is a more powerful driver than any goal, and how to make the shift from "pushed by pain" to "pulled by pleasure." If you're tired of hustling without feeling like you’ve arrived anywhere, this one's for you. Ready to stop guessing and start fixing your relationship?  Hit play on the free training here: thepowerfulman.com/scales You’ll walk away knowing exactly where things went off track—and how to bring it all back. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

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