We Can Do Hard Things

Hannah Gadsby, the acclaimed comedian behind the groundbreaking shows Nanette and Douglas, discusses her later-in-life autism diagnosis, describing it as an “exfoliation of shame.” She shares how neurodiversity shapes her relationships, focusing on what intrigues her rather than societal norms. Hannah advocates for ditching self-deprecating humor about personal identities and emphasizes the complexities of communicating across neurodivergent and neurotypical perspectives. The conversation also touches on the narratives of healing and growth beyond trauma.

Ashton Applewhite, author of "This Chair Rocks," is a leading voice against ageism and advocates for positive aging. In this engaging discussion, she debunks the myth that aging brings unhappiness, revealing that many actually find greater joy as they grow older. Ashton highlights crucial predictors of aging well and emphasizes how societal misconceptions can harm health. She urges listeners to envision their future selves positively, inspiring a shift in how we perceive aging and encouraging a more compassionate view on this universal journey.

Glennon reflects on her 46th birthday, using it as a pause to evaluate what truly matters as she enters a new phase of life. The conversation explores the empowering concept of 'enoughness' and contrasts societal expectations with authentic self-acceptance. They discuss the transition from living for roles to embracing one's true self, as well as the idea that midlife can be a time for reimagining happiness and purpose, breaking the stigma around midlife crises, and celebrating personal growth.

Dr. Yaba Blay, an esteemed author and scholar focused on race, beauty, and identity, shares her transformative insights. She discusses how beauty standards can oppress, while true beauty embodies freedom. Dr. Blay challenges the notion of allyship, emphasizing the need for genuine accomplices in justice work. The conversation also touches on the historical roots of racism, the legacy of figures like Malcolm X, and the importance of rethinking narratives surrounding race and identity—especially for future generations.

The conversation centers around the weight of regret, with personal anecdotes that stir deep emotions. Amanda reveals her biggest regret, shedding light on how past choices can haunt us. The discussion explores the five most common regrets of the dying, offering insights on navigating life's choices. Emphasizing growth, they reframe regret as evidence of a life fully lived. From childhood milestones to complex relationships, the speakers reflect on how these experiences shape connections and foster resilience in the face of change.

In this hilarious and heartwarming in-person double date with Abby and Glennon—and their dear friends and brilliant artists Brandi and Catherine Carlile—we learn:1. Why Brandi was completely dismayed the first time she met Catherine;2. Who made the first move—and why it made Catherine sweat;3. All about the Carlile family compound—where they are raising their girls surrounded by family, band members, and exes;4. How they communicate and deal with jealousy; and5. Why Brandi believes this conversation—two queer couples sitting on a couch publicly discussing marriage, family, and domesticity—is revolutionary.About Brandi:Brandi Carlile is a six-time GRAMMY Award-winning singer, songwriter, performer, producer, #1 New York Times Bestselling author and activist, who is known as one of music's most respected voices.Her new album, In These Silent Days, recently debuted at #1 on Billboard’s Americana/Folk Albums chart, Top Rock Albums chart and Tastemaker Albums chart and continues to receive overwhelming acclaim. The New York Times praises, “Larger than life and achingly human…she empathizes, apologizes and lays out accusations. She’s righteous and she’s self-doubting. She proffers fond lullabies and she unleashes full-throated screams," while NPR Music declares, “absolutely breathtaking, across the whole album Brandi Carlile pulls out all the stops. It’s just extraordinary…she’s just claiming rock god status." Carlile recently received five nominations at the 64th Annual Grammy Awards including Record of the Year, Song of the Year and Best Pop Vocal Performance for the album's lead single, "Right On Time."Following a breakthrough debut on "Saturday Night Live," Carlile and her band will embark on a series of landmark concerts next year including stops at Washington’s Gorge Amphitheatre, Los Angeles’ The Greek Theatre and New York’s Madison Square Garden among many others. In addition to her 6 GRAMMY Awards, Carlile has been recognized with Billboard’s Women In Music “Trailblazer Award,” CMT’s Next Women of Country “Impact Award" and received multiple recognitions from the Americana Music Association Honors & Awards including Artist of the Year for the past two years.TW: @brandicarlileIG: @brandicarlileAbout Catherine: Catherine Carlile has devoted her life to the intersection of music and activism with over 20 years of experience. Since 2012, she has served as the Executive Director of the Looking Out Foundation, which has raised over $3 million for a variety of grassroots causes including close work with Children In Conflict/War Child. She also serves as creative director for Phantom 309 Productions. Prior to her current work, Catherine worked with Sir Paul McCartney in coordinating his charitable interests and endeavors. Originally from London, Catherine now lives outside of Seattle, WA with her wife, Brandi Carlile, and their two daughters, Evangeline and Elijah.

1. The two disagreements between Brandi and Glennon that started, and cemented, their friendship.2. Brandi’s lifelong quest to continuously “calibrate” herself so that her outsides are in tune with her insides.3. The trait Brandi loves most about Catherine—and the sticky note on Glennon’s desk with the same message. About Brandi:Brandi Carlile is a six-time GRAMMY Award-winning singer, songwriter, performer, producer, #1 New York Times Bestselling author and activist, who is known as one of music's most respected voices.Her new album, In These Silent Days, recently debuted at #1 on Billboard’s Americana/Folk Albums chart, Top Rock Albums chart and Tastemaker Albums chart and continues to receive overwhelming acclaim. The New York Times praises, “Larger than life and achingly human…she empathizes, apologizes and lays out accusations. She’s righteous and she’s self-doubting. She proffers fond lullabies and she unleashes full-throated screams," while NPR Music declares, “absolutely breathtaking, across the whole album Brandi Carlile pulls out all the stops. It’s just extraordinary…she’s just claiming rock god status." Carlile recently received five nominations at the 64th Annual Grammy Awards including Record of the Year, Song of the Year and Best Pop Vocal Performance for the album's lead single, "Right On Time."Following a breakthrough debut on "Saturday Night Live," Carlile and her band will embark on a series of landmark concerts including stops at Washington’s Gorge Amphitheatre, Los Angeles’ The Greek Theatre and New York’s Madison Square Garden among many others. In addition to her 6 GRAMMY Awards, Carlile has been recognized with Billboard’s Women In Music “Trailblazer Award,” CMT’s Next Women of Country “Impact Award" and received multiple recognitions from the Americana Music Association Honors & Awards including Artist of the Year for the past two years.TW: @brandicarlileIG: @brandicarlile

ALOK, an internationally acclaimed writer and performer, dives deep into themes of trauma and healing. They discuss how we can reshape our lives and the importance of acknowledging our unique impact on the world. ALOK touches on societal erasure of certain histories and the physical toll of pain on our bodies. They also explore our potential for transformation and the interconnected nature of feminism and trans rights. With raw honesty, ALOK advocates for embracing identity, challenging norms, and fostering open conversations about gender.

In this enlightening conversation, ALOK, an internationally acclaimed writer and performer, dives into the complexities of trauma, belonging, and identity. They discuss how fear often intertwines with beauty and the destruction of feminine aspects for survival. The dialogue further explores the contrasts between conditional and unconditional love, and how gender identity can lead to spiritual authenticity. ALOK critiques traditional feminism, pushing for a more inclusive movement, and emphasizes the healing power of poetry and self-acceptance.

The hosts dive into the joy pets bring to our lives, sharing Amanda's amusing journey with her new dog, Séamus, who challenges her spreadsheet lifestyle. Glennon reveals how her pets offer unique insights into love and understanding. The show highlights the emotional bond people share with their furry companions, filled with heartwarming anecdotes of unconditional love and the humor of pet ownership. They also touch on the importance of allowing children to express their feelings about the pets they cherish.