

Spirit Gym with Paul Chek
Paul Chek
Get ready for a no-holds-barred exploration of life and why we’re all here. Each week, world-renowned Holistic Health Practitioner Paul Chek and his guests will tackle topics like spirituality and metaphysics, human performance, diet, science, plant medicine, relationships, sexuality, lifestyle, and personal development with a depth and honesty that you won’t find anywhere else. Previously called Living 4D with Paul Chek, the podcast changed name to Spirit Gym with Paul Chek on Episode 300.
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Jul 30, 2019 • 2h 36min
EP 40 - Tim Welch & Sean O'Malley: How To Be A Spiritual Warrior
How do Paul’s 4 Doctors philosophies really work in the world of mixed martial arts athletes competing in arenas like Ultimate Fighting Championship (UFC) and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu?Paul talks strategies in and out of the Octagon with Tim Welch, a professional welterweight fighter with a Black Belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and coach, and undefeated UFC bantamweight “Sugar” Sean O’Malley in this latest Living 4D podcast.Learn more about Tim and Sean by listening to their very popular Timbo Sugarshow podcast. Watch the Sean’s Welcome to the Sugar Show on YouTube.Show NotesLiving without fighting for an extended period recovering from injuries led Tim to Paul and learning how to give back instead of earning big paychecks. (9:25)Learning, reading, meditating and quieting his mind has helped Sean handle a suspension from the UFC and become more than just a fighter. (15:16)Have emotions trapped inside you? Try Paul’s turning shit/pain into flowers technique. (20:51)Sean wears his mankini with pride. (26:45)Can a fighter use anger as an effective motivator? (28:42)“If you're at a gym and you're not getting beat up, you're at the wrong gym.” (36:37)Tim believes the lack of mental and spiritual development for martial arts athletes starts and ends with eating shitty food. (50:38)Fighters use training and competition to avoid communicating with others. (1:06:12)Paul gives Sean and Tim a quick coaching lesson on embracing their femininity. (1:09:23)Why do women advance faster than me in Jiu Jitsu? (1:15:10)One of Tim’s best learning challenges came after meeting the Pain Teacher for the first time. (1:24:39)The generation gap shows up in how younger people are more open to plant medicines. (1:33:30)Paul explains a working in technique that can help martial arts athletes. (1:37:43)Do you abstain from sex before competing? (1:47:02)Out of the 4 Doctors, Dr. Quiet is the most challenging for athletes. (1:56:41)Being thankful for the little things matters… (2:08:37)What do Tim and Sean envision in their futures? (2:20:30)ResourcesNonviolent Communication: The Basics As I Know and Use Them by Wayland MyersFindaspring.comHooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Productsby Nir EyalHolosyncThe Waking Up Sam Harris appA Year with Rumi by Coleman BarksAs an Amazon Associate, we earn commissions from qualifying purchases.Thanks to our awesome sponsors:PaleovalleyBIOptimizers US and BIOptimizers UK PAUL15Organifi CHEK20Wild PasturesKorrect SPIRITGYMPique LifeCHEK Institute/CHEK AcademyZen in the Garden We may earn commissions from qualifying purchases using affiliate links.

Jul 23, 2019 • 2h 49min
EP 39 - Tim Shieff: The Dark Side of Veganism
How does the world react when a well-know vegan athlete — dubbed The Vegan Prince — decides his health is more important than an ism?Freerunner, American Ninja Warrior Champion and Founder of ETHCS Tim Shieff joins Paul this week to discuss his journey from media darling to controversial “traitor” for leaving the vegan world, and why coming away from it has helped him become a far healthier human being.Just for Living 4D listeners, Tim is offering a 50 percent discount on his Mindful Warrior Workout Vol. 1 program. Use the promo code CHEK50 when you check out to get your awesome deal.Show NotesYou may have seen Tim compete on American Ninja Warrior. (4:46)Tim was born the same year (1988) Paul began lecturing around the world about the fixed axis machine/isolation training. (8:30)The process that made Tim decide to go vegan. (10:03)Paul describes the path he took when he was a vegetarian for a year. (17:00)Tim began to realize something was wrong with his body and worked within the constraints of veganism to find out why. (27:00)Tim’s wet dream was a sign from his soul, telling him he was starting to listen to his body. (37:47)One of the most common things that transfer parasites to people: Money. (43:58)Paul receives wisdom from an orange tree. (53:12)“Do you realize you're paying me $750 an hour because you're sick, yet you're wasting your time and money defending the very philosophy that just got you a disease? There’s the ism…” (1:00:20)Paying attention to your body every time you eat is a better way to stay healthy than changing from one fad diet to another. (1:15:57)Vegans rejected Tim for walking away from their community because he felt empowered to make his own health decisions about his body. (1:31:42)“The moment I realized I would have to sacrifice everything, I laughed for 10 minutes straight.” (1:37:34)The difference between morals and ethics. (1:50:37)“Only vegan gardeners can judge me now because they truly understand the process.” (2:00:11)Tim received massive backlash from vegans after telling the U.K. press he’s seeking the experience of slaughtering an animal. (2:08:39)Paul uses his crystal ball technique to show Tim how he can help the world. (2:16:40)The Egyptian origins of the word amen. (2:24:28)Tim and Paul share similar philosophies about working in and working out. (2:38:11)ResourcesBuzzfeed News article on Tim quitting veganism ParkourTim winning the 2009 Free Running World Championship via YouTube Thanks to our awesome sponsors:PaleovalleyBIOptimizers US and BIOptimizers UK PAUL15Organifi CHEK20Wild PasturesKorrect SPIRITGYMPique LifeCHEK Institute/CHEK AcademyZen in the Garden We may earn commissions from qualifying purchases using affiliate links.

Jul 16, 2019 • 1h 27min
EP 38 - Dr. Keesha Ewers: The Sex Doctor
Sex is an integral part of a healthy life. At least, it should be…Yet, when we want to treat any problems related to sex, most doctors routinely prescribe hormones and drugs without digging deeper for real answers. Dr. Keesha Ewers talks intimately about her journey that began as a quest to find answers to her rheumatoid arthritis at age 30, eventually leading her to the world of integrative medicine and becoming a renowned expert in sexology in this very special Living 4D episode.As a special gift for Living 4D listeners, sign up today for her free 21 Day Quick Start Program that will give your health, energy and vitality a very valuable reset.Show NotesYoga was Dr. Ewers' gateway into the world of alternative/integrative medicine and treating disease in different ways. (4:39)Keesha traced her autoimmune disease back to being abused sexually as a 10-year-old child. (6:47)Dr. Ewers' Healing Unresolved Trauma (HURT) model treats female sexual desire without hormones. (9:06)There are reasons to take supplements to treat imbalances, just not forever. (19:10)“If you have sex frequently, I tell women they should take their vaginas to the gym every day.” (26:34)Fear and denial of self-love are problems that come up again and often in other health problems. (28:45)Ojas = life force vitality in Sanskrit. (32:45)“I had a teacher a long time ago who referred to sex in America as ‘eating the leftovers off the table that you would give your dog.’” (33:50)Do you know your libido story? (37:40)Critical thinking, discussion and doing what’s right for you are becoming taboos in lieu of polarized judgments. (43:55)“Fetishes come from a place where there's been something on that libido map where there is an arrested development and trauma.” (55:19)The real concept of Tantra — rejection of the caste system — is far different than what Western cultures perceived it to be. (57:44)Some self-destructive behaviors and practices — due to a lack of cultural approval — are unconscious ones too. (1:00:06)The anti-aging movement is a lot like perpetual adolescence and arresting the development of grown adults. (1:08:08)Physical therapists and doctors refused to treat pelvic floor trauma because it was “too dirty” for them. (1:15:56)Relationship conflicts should be welcomed as challenges to work on becoming better people. (1:19:32)ResourcesSolving The Autoimmune Puzzle and The Quick & Easy Autoimmune Paleo Cookbook by Dr. Keesha EwersBiochemical Individuality by Roger WilliamsKeesha’s TEDx Talk: Have You Heard From Your Libido Lately?As an Amazon Associate, we earn commissions from qualifying purchases.Thanks to our awesome sponsors:PaleovalleyBIOptimizers US and BIOptimizers UK PAUL15Organifi CHEK20Wild PasturesKorrect SPIRITGYMPique LifeCHEK Institute/CHEK AcademyZen in the Garden We may earn commissions from qualifying purchases using affiliate links.

Jul 9, 2019 • 1h 7min
EP 37 - Chris Kresser: Health Facts You Need To Know Now!
What is it really like to be human? Can your consciousness really exist separately from your body? How does high tech interfere with your ability to function in the real world?Paul talks about what it means when the tech begins to separate you from your humanity and good health with New York Times bestselling author and functional medicine expert Chris Kresser in this amazing Living 4D episode.Learn more about Chris and his work in functional medicine at his website. Show Notes“Most health care is self-care.” (2:37)Only 6 percent of Americans follow the five basic principles of good health, according to the CDC. (3:48)Because humans are biologically hard-wired for food scarcity through evolution, the availability of calorie-dense food everywhere has created many health problems. (5:06)Are we too focused on the reductionist approach of “nutritionism?” (18:43)“Our entire modern lifestyle, including our food, is pretty far divorced from the natural world.” (24:12)Computer screens, mobile phones and tablets work against our evolutionary programming of distraction as vigilance and spotting potential danger. (30:47)The emergence of “brain hackers” employed by companies to exploit our humanity to generate profits isn’t a personal failure on our part. It’s just time to get smarter… (31:45)The five questions a Shaman asks when you have a health problem. (43:50)A study from the journal Science concluded people preferred to shock themselves than being left alone. (46:00)“It's impossible to teach a person how to manage the flow of their own emotional energy and their own mind if they don't spend enough time inside themselves.” (51:21)Can consciousness be separate from our bodies? (55:32)“If you really understood how the soil and the elements work together, you wouldn't be eating Soylent Green plastic shit.” (1:03:31)ResourcesMetabolic Man: Ten Thousand Years From Eden by Charles Heizer WhartonThe Matrix Trilogy by the WachowskisReclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age by Sherry TurkleScience and Human Transformation: Subtle Energies, Intentionality and Consciousness by Dr. William TillerThe work of Ray KurzweilThe Paleo Cure and Unconventional Medicine by Chris KresserAs an Amazon Associate, we earn commissions from qualifying purchases.Thanks to our awesome sponsors:PaleovalleyBIOptimizers US and BIOptimizers UK PAUL15Organifi CHEK20Wild PasturesKorrect SPIRITGYMPique LifeCHEK Institute/CHEK AcademyZen in the Garden We may earn commissions from qualifying purchases using affiliate links.

Jul 2, 2019 • 1h 29min
EP 36 - Josh Trent: The Making of a Buddha
What does it really mean to be a lifetime learner and explorer on a journey in search for the real truth about human wellness and potential?Paul talks about that journey with a kindred spirit in Josh Trent, the founder of the amazing Wellness Force Radio podcast in this very special Living 4D episode. You’ll learn about Josh’s journey from being an unhappy 280-pound car mechanic to becoming one of the most successful podcasters in the wellness landscape and how Paul is helping him find a love connection to start a family.Just for Living 4D listeners, Josh has created a free gift: The M21 Wellness Guide, plus a 7 Day Wellness Force Breathwork Challenge, featuring six 21-minute morning sessions you can use each day to work with your mind, spirit and body to live life to its fullest.Learn more about Josh’s amazing work and his podcast at wellnessforce.com.Show NotesHappy 39th birthday Josh! (1:25)Josh had a very hard childhood as neither parent could support his safety and health. (4:06)At 21, Josh was 280 pounds and working as a Mercedes Benz mechanic in San Diego. (5:27)What is an ambivert? (10:33)Pieces of the ego in a constant fight between love and power get in the way of humans having a deeper connection to God. (18:31)No one ever asked Josh what love means to him until Paul did in this podcast. (22:11)A JP Sears sighting! (28:50)The most challenging of the 4 Doctors for Josh to maintain consistently is… (36:17)In the next life, Paul wants to have a vagina in each hand. (43:32)Paul teaches Josh how to find a female life companion. (49:06)How Paul met Penny. (50:45)Josh’s first experiences with plant medicines. (57:08)“Plant medicine just brings people to the truth. Sometimes the truth sucks, but there’s always an element of love in it.” (1:00:50)The most powerful tool we have to fight fear: Breathing. (1:10:16)Are plant medicines becoming more “mainstream?” (1:15:32)People who do psychedelics medicines will meet their dragons and learn very quickly how well they manage them, including their entire family tree. (1:21:10)ResourcesSongs of Kabir translated by Rabindranath Tagore Father Gregory Boyle and his Homeboy IndustriesTattoos on the Heart: The Power of Boundless Compassion by Gregory BoyleHow to Change Your Mind: What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression and Transcendence by Michael PollanBen Stewart’s series on Psychedelica and Esoteric AgeThanks to our awesome sponsors:PaleovalleyBIOptimizers US and BIOptimizers UK PAUL15Organifi CHEK20Wild PasturesKorrect SPIRITGYMPique LifeCHEK Institute/CHEK AcademyZen in the Garden We may earn commissions from qualifying purchases using affiliate links.

Jun 25, 2019 • 1h 48min
EP 35- Greg Muller: Coaching Strategies for Elite Athletes That Work for Everyone!
How many strength and conditioning coaches can say they have worked with three professional championship teams in one calendar year?Renowned strength and conditioning coach Greg Muller describes the challenges of integrating CHEK philosophies — for example diet and working in strategies — when working with high performance athletes and soldiers in this Living 4D episode.For Living 4D listeners, save 20 percent any of the products Greg and his partners sell at Pure Athlete by using the discount code pa20off at checkout.Learn more about Greg at the work he does with elite athletes by visiting his website, Lead The Pack.Show NotesGreg was the strength/conditioning coach for three professional rugby teams who won championships in 2001, all within a calendar year. (2:17)Paul convinced Greg very quickly that he had much to learn about training soldiers after they met in Christchurch, N.Z., 22 years ago. (5:32)Early in his career, Greg worked with a world class rugby player who believed working with leg weights would slow him down! (12:52)“The truth is what works.” (16:16)By looking at pictures on an office wall, Paul identified nine pro athletes on one team with severe atlas subluxations. (21:08)Paul worked with the Chicago Bulls often during their NBA Championship run, teaching them core conditioning and how to use the Swiss ball. (23:41)The key problem coaches have with working with elite athletes: A lack of good group leadership/management skills. (25:29)“Can you effectively design a strength and conditioning program for an athlete without knowing what their dream, goal or objective is?” (32:07)A former Oakland Raiders player told Paul he was obligated contractually to eat junk food at his training facility whenever cameras were present. (42:03)With physical skill sets among pro athletes being nearly equal, how they deal with mental health issues or don’t can be a difference-maker. (47:53)Coaches treating athletes like real human beings is transformational for both groups. (52:45)“All children are tasked with the unfinished lives of their parents.” (1:00:13)Why are degrees in engineering more valuable than those in philosophy or the social sciences? (1:09:07)The externalization of the self and Paul’s Working in principles. (1:18:33)Why do people listen to headbanging death metal music in gyms? (1:32:30)Focus first on the simple things before the technical aspects of your health. (1:36:41)ResourcesGrit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela DuckworthMindset: The New Psychology of Success by Dr. Carol DweckAlbert Einstein’s quote about the eighth floor and compound interestCoherence: The Secret Science ofThanks to our awesome sponsors:PaleovalleyBIOptimizers US and BIOptimizers UK PAUL15Organifi CHEK20Wild PasturesKorrect SPIRITGYMPique LifeCHEK Institute/CHEK AcademyZen in the Garden We may earn commissions from qualifying purchases using affiliate links.

Jun 18, 2019 • 2h 16min
EP 34 - Dale Walker: CrossFit - Trial by Fire
We’ve all heard the stories about the physical and mental stress people put themselves through during CrossFit workouts (not to mention the injuries). So, is it really possible to benefit from this demanding kind of training?Paul discusses a far more rational approach to CrossFit with Dale Walker - physiotherapist, lecturer at the University of Salford, co-founder of Bulletproofbodies UK in Manchester, and a former soldier in the Royal Marines.Read more about Dale’s approach to CrossFit by downloading his free ebook, Don’t Get Cross, Get Fit.Show NotesDale grew up in a home of British soldiers and chose to serve his country as a physiotherapist (physical therapist in the U.S.) and healer. (3:43)Some of the worst physiotherapists/physical therapists are found in the U.S. and U.K. (5:00)The British Army moving toward more functional movement. (17:09)Complaining is our first impulse toward creativity, if we take the opportunity. (24:57)Do you “empty the bone” before working with your clients? (35:50)Imagine your brain as a muscle that needs to relax during rest periods. (47:16)Learning how to relax and feel through a connection to the right brain hemisphere can save a soldier’s life. (50:23)Paul’s father was much tougher and more brutal than anyone he ever encountered in the military. (1:00:36)A former Navy Seal and CHEK Practitioner trained LeBron James as a conditioning coach for several years. (1:05:29)“Every time I went to a CrossFit gym, 95 percent of the people there weren’t close to being ready for the kinds of exercises they were doing.” (1:09:36)The four-stage Bulletproof Body System approach to CrossFit. (1:16:25)How many reps of corrective exercise does it take for a client to rehab a faulty motor program? 3,500-5,000! (1:26:12)People get in trouble when they push their bodies past the threshold of normal motor performance near the end of a set and begin inducing microtraumas or impingement syndromes. (1:30:55)The body experiences sub-thresholds of pain. (1:35:11)The symptoms of adrenal fatigue. (1:46:06)Using CrossFit for stress relief is like trying to put out a fire with fire. (1:49:45)The durability and adaptability of women may soon help them dominate many endurance sports. (2:05:15)The brains of women are far better wired for multitasking and doing very skillful things like being air traffic controllers. (2:11:45)ResourcesNeurofibromatosisThe work of Karel and Berta BobathBill Pearl’s Keys to the Inner UniverseLife is Movement: The Physical Reconstruction and Regeneration of the People by Eugen SandowThanks to our awesome sponsors:PaleovalleyBIOptimizers US and BIOptimizers UK PAUL15Organifi CHEK20Wild PasturesKorrect SPIRITGYMPique LifeCHEK Institute/CHEK AcademyZen in the Garden We may earn commissions from qualifying purchases using affiliate links.

Jun 11, 2019 • 2h 48min
EP 33 - Ben Pakulski: Bodybuilding, Training and Life
What drives a bodybuilder to be the best in his/her sport?Equal doses of fear and a burning intensity to be the hardest working person in the gym were the driving forces that catapulted Ben Pakulski - IFBB professional bodybuilder and winner of the 2008 Mr. Canada competition - to the top in competitive bodybuilding.Learn how Ben overcame an abusive childhood to become one of the most successful bodybuilders in North America and how he’s giving back to his sport in this latest Living 4D podcast.Learn more about Ben at his website or on Instagram @bpakfitness.Show Notes“The body is the physical, tangible expression of the invisible, subtle mind.” (3:41)Fear and stuttering pushed Ben into bodybuilding. (8:20)If you don’t listen to your inner voice and heal the inner pain that sets the stage for achieving great things, that same stage can destroy you. (27:03)Ninety percent of the people pursuing bodybuilding do so out of deep emotional needs. (31:50)The first time Paul’s father acknowledged that he accomplished something well. (33:57)Parenting is really about becoming a better version of yourself that you share with your children. (38:47)Encourage kids to tell the truth by being on their team. (44:52)The necessity of pain that helps us grow. (51:44)There’s a void in wise leadership among the Baby Boomer generation. (1:01:00)When your child is misbehaving, make them sit down away from distractions and do some deep breathing. (1:13:10)Ben’s deliberate transition from bodybuilding to becoming a role model for men and women. (1:19:01)“If you really want to build a great body, being present will accelerate that process.” (1:23:26)Ben recommends that women never compete as bodybuilders because it destroys their relationships with food and their hormonal systems. (1:30:02)The beginnings of the commercial gym era. (1:39:30)Polio and the emergence of physical therapy professionals. (1:42:33)If clients have dysfunctional functional movement, isolation work may be necessary to begin balancing the body and creating stability. (1:55:01)“With respect to steroids, there’s so much you can do without them, and I’d be a hypocrite to say that I didn’t (take them) but I wish I hadn’t.” (2:07:32)Bodybuilding has become an “illness-generating sport” and a “business perpetuating freaks.” (2:13:45)Our world is facing a crisis of self. (2:20:21)Do you have five people in your life you will REALLY invest your time in and vice versa? (2:27:49)Should it be legal to punch anyone in the face? (2:32:39)A shoutout to Ben Greenfield. (2:38:46)A man’s first step into womanhood is to do a sweat lodge. (2:46:23)ResourcesThe work of Edward Edinger, KeThanks to our awesome sponsors:PaleovalleyBIOptimizers US and BIOptimizers UK PAUL15Organifi CHEK20Wild PasturesKorrect SPIRITGYMPique LifeCHEK Institute/CHEK AcademyZen in the Garden We may earn commissions from qualifying purchases using affiliate links.

Jun 4, 2019 • 1h 48min
EP 32 - Mike Salemi: Mastering the Kettlebell
Kettlebells are some of the most flexible, functional and effective training tools out there.The thing is, few people understand how to use them properly!This week on Living 4D with Paul Chek, Paul talks Kettlebells with Master of Sport and Kettlebell Sport World Champion, Mike Salemi.You'll hear about Mike's journey to World Champion, what it means to take a holistic approach to kettlebell training, how professional kettlebell athletes compete and become a Master of Sport, and learn a number of tips to become better with the kettlebell.A bonus for Living 4D listeners:Sign up for Mike’s online Mastering The Kettlebell course by June 12 and save 20 percent, plus receive bonus content created by Mike and Paul specifically for Living 4D listeners. Use the code CHEK20 when you check out to receive your discount.Show Notes:Who makes a better espresso: Mike’s Dad or Paul? (8:11)Mike started his athletic journey as an eight-year-old gymnast. (13:03)Finding the right mentors fast-tracks your development. (15:25)Mike came back to the athletic world after spending eight years rebuilding his family’s business. (22:09)How professional kettlebell athletes compete and become a Master of Sport. (30:12)The problems athletes have with thoracic outlet syndrome. (35:39)Mike is one of a handful of Americans who are a Master of Sport in multiple kettlebell divisions. (47:49)Your body must be “designed” to be a kettlebell athlete for longer endurance events. (55:01)Flexibility can make a huge difference in performance and health. (1:04:33)Doing too many abdominal exercises disrupts the flow of emotional energy, along with the yin and yang balance in your body. (1:07:16)Many people behave very diligently while they're injured, but a year later they're back to the same things that got them into trouble. (1:10:31)“Whenever an organ or gland system is running too fast for its capacity, it produces ‘dis ease’.” (1:13:37)The differences between what Mike teaches his clients as a CHEK Professional versus the approaches of other kettlebell coaches. (1:18:51)Breathing dysfunctions and core dysfunctions go hand-in-hand. (1:24:01)Floating in a sensory deprivation tank supports working in activities like meditation. (1:32:49)Leaning into your fears and facing challenges head-on can lead to incredible growth. (1:34:36)“We’re all connected. How I treat myself is how I treat you and the world.” (1:41:30)ResourcesSergey Rachinskiy’s long cycle technique on YouTubeMike works with Coach Denis Vasilev, a seven-time world champion, at the Orange Kettlebell Club in northern California.Body Mechanics in Health Thanks to our awesome sponsors:PaleovalleyBIOptimizers US and BIOptimizers UK PAUL15Organifi CHEK20Wild PasturesKorrect SPIRITGYMPique LifeCHEK Institute/CHEK AcademyZen in the Garden We may earn commissions from qualifying purchases using affiliate links.

May 28, 2019 • 1h 58min
EP 31 - Aubrey Marcus & Kyle Kingsbury
What does it take to build a loving, successful relationship? Why does that seem all the more difficult now, in this day and age?Oh, and how do you build that with THREE people in the relationship – and we don’t mean you and a child.In this episode of Living 4D, Paul explores the nature of healthy relationships – and open relationships – with a pair of fellow travelers in Aubrey Marcus, founder and CEO of Onnit, and Kyle Kingsbury, former UFC fighter and Onnit’s Director of Human Optimization.Show NotesPaul’s simple advice about polyamorous relationships: Until you learn to ride one horse very well, it’s dangerous to ride two at a time. (2:18)The first challenge with these relationships: Can you be honest? (6:31)“I needed to feel like I was the most physically dominant to be loved.” (18:49)Diseases between partners in relationships are ones stemming from repression and people wanting to be the center of attention. (26:08)Being polyamorous and wanting novelty isn’t just “a male thing.” (32:34)Psychedelics and plant medicines can help people unpack cultural programming. (38:43)“Love isn’t meant to be possessed. Love is meant to be wild to a certain degree.” (41:20)Plant medicines merely show you a path. You must still do the work to make change happen. (48:13)Making a compromise can be an act of love when it’s acknowledged by your partner. (54:52)How Kyle’s Prius is like the Batmobile… (1:02:54)Open relationships quickly expose our weaknesses and traumas that require fixing. (1:07:24)Paul has felt fears of “burning in hell” and being judged by God during a sexual experience. (1:15:55)A rare moment when the tables are turned and Paul became the student. (1:18:53)Open relationships require trust in your partner and yourself. (1:25:00)The financial sacrifices Paul made to keep the CHEK Institute alive. (1:30:22)The concept of compersion. (1:35:51)Seinfeld’s airing of grievances works in the real world. (1:43:10)Bringing someone new into an open relationship, especially one kids, is much like building a supportive tribe. (1:49:27)Listen to Kyle’s Human Optimization Hour and the Aubrey Marcus podcast on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher and Google Play.ResourcesSex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray and What it Means For Modern Relationships by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda JethaNonviolent Communication: The Basics As I Know and Use Them by Wayland MyersUntrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust and Infidelity is Wrong and How The New Science Can Set Us Free by Wednesday MartinAwareness: The Perils and Opportunities of RealityThanks to our awesome sponsors:PaleovalleyBIOptimizers US and BIOptimizers UK PAUL15Organifi CHEK20Wild PasturesKorrect SPIRITGYMPique LifeCHEK Institute/CHEK AcademyZen in the Garden We may earn commissions from qualifying purchases using affiliate links.