Still Becoming One

Send us a textBrad and Kate explore how our personal stories and childhood experiences shape our marriage relationships in profound ways. Story work provides couples with a framework to understand recurring conflicts and create healthier patterns of interaction.We invite you to start your own story exploration and join us next week as we continue our series on story work and its impact on marriage.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textCould the "purity culture" teachings you received years ago still be affecting your marriage today? In this compelling conversation, we join Pastor Addison Roberts from Grace Community Church to explore the complex legacy many Christian kids received from purity culture about sexuality and how these teachings continue to create unexpected challenges in intimate relationships today. Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textDrew Boa turns the traditional approach to overcoming pornography addiction on its head with his groundbreaking perspective that freedom comes not through battling your sexuality, but by befriending it. As the founder of Husband Material Ministries and author of "Outgrow Porn," Drew shares his personal 10-year journey of freedom and the revolutionary insights he's gained from working with hundreds of men.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textLife has a way of surprising us with transitions we weren't quite expecting. This week, Brad and Kate share the sudden shift into empty-nest parenthood that has happened, which they had not anticipated. As their four children all simultaneously launched into new adventures, Brad and Kate found themselves abruptly facing a quiet house filled with possibility and questions.Throughout their discussion emerges a beautiful picture of what intentional marriage looks like in transition: honest communication about fears, shared dreams for the future, and the gentle ribbing that comes from knowing each other well (including an ongoing debate about a particularly aggressive holly bush in their yard). For couples facing their own transitions, this episode offers both practical wisdom and the comforting reminder that even relationship experts navigate change one conversation at a time.Ready to invest in your marriage during life's transitions? Learn more about our fall groups and resources at aldrichministries.com and join us as we continue the journey of still becoming one for another season!Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textWhat happens when past wounds collide in marriage? Steve and Lisa Call, co-authors with Dan Allender of The Deep-Rooted Marriage, founders of Reconnect Institute, and married for over 35 years, reveal how childhood stories unconsciously shape our most intimate relationships. Through vulnerable personal examples, Steve shares how his response of "I'm fine" masks deeper feelings of abandonment stemming from an emotionally unavailable mother. Lisa explains how these patterns remained invisible until they began exploring their stories together, creating a profound transformation in their marriage after decades together.Ready to transform your relationship by understanding the stories you both bring to marriage? This conversation will help you recognize patterns, build emotional safety, and cultivate the curiosity needed for genuine connection.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textWhat happens when one partner has a career that demands everything? Whether it's an 80-hour workweek, constant travel, or shift work that throws off your entire family rhythm, demanding careers create unique challenges for relationships.Brad and Kate tackle this reality head-on, acknowledging the struggles couples face when balancing intense professional demands with maintaining connection. Through their personal experiences and professional coaching work, they offer a refreshing perspective: your marriage doesn't need to look like anyone else's. The standard models simply don't apply when your circumstances aren't standard.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textBrad and Kate explore how married couples can drift into feeling like roommates or business partners when they neglect emotional connection and intimacy. They discuss how busyness, misinterpreting intentions, and focusing solely on logistics create distance in relationships. Then offer some practical tools, including their own book of questions, as a path back toward intimacy.You can find the Questions for Couples book on Amazon or at aldrichministries.com/resources.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textBrad and Kate explore how couples can maintain connection during inevitable busy seasons when marriage can't be the top priority. They share personal examples from their May celebrations of their children's graduations and how they've learned to navigate similar challenging periods.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textBrad and Kate Aldrich explore how seemingly healthy self-care activities might actually be "imitation self-care" that creates distance rather than true rejuvenation in marriage relationships.• Imitation self-care activities mimic real self-care but leave us feeling worse afterward• Binge-watching shows and mindless scrolling often become ways to avoid connection• The content we're drawn to often reveals something about our emotional needs• Workaholism serves as false self-care when it provides validation missing at home• Marriage strain often peaks when couples have infants around 6-7 months old• Other common substitutes include shopping, excessive cleaning, and using spirituality to avoid problems• Healthy curiosity about our coping mechanisms helps us understand our deeper needsWhen the temptation to engage in these activities arises, invite it onto the porch and ask why it's here right now. Rather than trying to ignore or indulge it, use it as information about what you truly need.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textWhat happens when the very strategies we develop to care for ourselves actually pull us away from our partners? In this eye-opening exploration of "imitation self-care," we dive into the complex ways our coping mechanisms can disguise themselves as healthy practices while undermining our relationships. Imitation self-care is challenging to identify because it often contains elements of genuine care. Exercise, comfort foods, and even music can be legitimately nourishing or secretly destructive depending on the emotional motivation behind them. Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries