Still Becoming One

Send us a textBrad and Kate Aldrich challenge the common belief that marriage problems stem from choosing the wrong person, revealing how our personal stories shape relationship patterns regardless of who we marry.Support the showStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textWe explore the dynamic when husbands experience higher sexual desire than their wives, examining how both partners often feel broken or inadequate when confronting these differences.• Sexual desire disparity affects approximately 80% of marriages with the husband having a higher desire• Both partners suffer—husbands feeling rejected and wives feeling inadequate or broken• Harmful messaging from purity culture and society creates unrealistic expectations about marital sex• Emotional connection often precedes sexual desire for many women, not just a "checklist" to complete• Trauma history significantly impacts how people experience and express desire• Desire levels naturally fluctuate throughout marriage due to life stages, stress, and other factors• Meeting in the middle requires both partners to move toward each other with empathy• Sexual intimacy serves multiple purposes beyond physical release—connection, care, comfortWe'd love to hear your thoughts about navigating desire differences and what meeting in the middle looks like in your relationship.Support the showStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textBrad and Kate welcome J Parker, author of "The Higher Desire Wife," to discuss the often overlooked reality of wives who desire more sexual intimacy than their husbands and how couples can navigate this sensitive dynamic with understanding and compassion.• Sexual desire fluctuates throughout marriage, with partners' drives shifting multiple times over the years• Numerous factors affect male sexual desire, including stress, sleep, health issues, testosterone levels, relationship issues, and more• When wives want more sex than husbands, it doesn't automatically mean he isn't attracted to her or is getting satisfaction elsewhere• Approaching desire differences as an "us issue" rather than blaming one spouse creates safety for honest conversations• Pornography and other sexual sin rewire the brain to view sex as consumption rather than intimate participation• Creating intentional attraction by focusing on your spouse helps maintain desire in long-term relationships• "Closing the gap" requires positive vision-casting rather than complaints about what isn't happening• Sexual intimacy requires vulnerability and effort but brings a deeper connection than solo sexual experiencesLink to the book: The Higher Desire WifeJ's podcast: Sex Chat For Christian WivesJ's blog: Hot Holy HumorousSupport the showStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textRelationship conflict is inevitable, but the key to healthy relationships lies in effective repair—acknowledging impact and taking responsibility rather than just saying, "sorry you were hurt."• Conflict in relationships is normal, but repair is essential for rebuilding connection• There's a critical difference between "I'm sorry you were hurt" and "I'm sorry I hurt you"• Effective repair involves listening well, owning your impact, and discussing future changes• Different personalities seek different things in apologies—understanding your partner's needs is crucial• Managing different perceptions of reality without arguing about "facts" helps resolve conflicts• Forgiveness involves acknowledging harm and choosing not to require payment for it• Modeling good repair with children teaches them relationship skills for their future• Repairing doesn't always mean changing your decision, but it does mean acknowledging the impact• The sooner we repair, the smaller our relationship ruptures remainSupport the showStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textCan a healthy marriage include moments where one partner "takes one for the team" sexually? This candid conversation tackles the sensitive reality of differing desire levels and how couples navigate intimacy when interest isn't mutual.We explore this often used metaphor and unpack how this dynamic typically unfolds - often with one partner silently sacrificing while harboring resentment, and the other sensing something's off but unable to name it. The result? Disconnection where connection was intended.There are healthier alternatives, true intimacy requires honest dialogue where both partners can express desire without undue pressure and decline without causing undue rejection. Whether you're struggling with mismatched desire levels or want to deepen your understanding of sexual dynamics in marriage, this episode offers compassionate guidance grounded in both professional experience and the hosts' journey.Support the showStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textWhat defines family in today's complex world? We dive into the often misleading notion that blood is thicker than water, encouraging listeners to reflect on the diverse definitions of family. We can seek to maintain loyalty to family while navigating the complexities of emotional needs in life. However, there's more to "family" than biological ties. We explore how a chosen family can sometimes be your strongest support system, emphasizing the importance of those connections in your personal growth and happiness. Deep connections formed with friends can provide the support and love typically attributed to familial bonds. Brad and Kate invite you to consider who you regard as family and how those relationships impact your life. If you've ever felt frustrated by familial ties, this episode is for you. Join us as we discuss embracing your whole support system and redefining what family means to you.Support the showStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Join the hosts as they explore the challenges and joys of marriage and parenting, revealing how past experiences shape relationships. They emphasize the transformative power of storytelling, discussing both trauma and joy from childhood. Discover the importance of humor in relationships and the need for self-kindness to nurture communication. With insights from their own journey, they aim to foster understanding and growth in couple dynamics, inviting listeners to connect on this evolving path together.

Send us a textWe hear it all the time: "My wife's not meeting my needs" or "My husband isn't meeting my needs!" What do we do about this? Of course, we want our spouse to meet our physical, emotional, sexual, and other needs. Yet, is it their responsibility to do so? The struggle to juggle demanding jobs and family commitments makes this a very common feeling. We explore the emotional tug-of-war many couples experience when they feel like the person they signed up to "do life with" is now not meeting their needs. Is this a reason to end the relationship? Are there ways to fix this? Let's dive into understanding and meeting each other's needs. Support the showStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textHow do you keep the peace at Thanksgiving dinner when political differences arise? As we approach the pivotal 2024 election, we dive into the divisive topic of how to engage in compassionate and understanding discussions, even when opinions clash.Family dynamics during politically charged times can be tricky to navigate. We've seen too many families torn apart by the enmity and contempt of rival politics. Sometimes, we need to build bridges of compassionate listening and other times; we need to build boundaries. Join us from both sides of the aisle as we navigate this tricky situation. (mentioned in this episode- The Power of Saying No: 5 Steps to Set Up Boundaries that Stick)Support the showStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textFawn and Keith Weaver take us on an unforgettable journey through their love story to becoming the CEO of the most-awarded American whiskey for 5 years running. Celebrating over twenty years of marriage, they share how their partnership was built on a foundation of deep connection, mutual respect, and connection with the Lord. Fawn's book, "Love and Whiskey," weaves their personal narrative with the rich history of Uncle Nearest, the first Black master distiller, and his friendship with Jack Daniel. Together, the Weavers are dedicated to preserving this incredible legacy through the Uncle Nearest Distillery and the Nearest Green Foundation, showcasing the power of love, faith, and a shared mission.Support the showStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries