Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Should I marry him? Today’s caller is having some doubts in the relationship she’s in. She’s not sure if she should just fight through, or if she should just walk away. When do you know that the doubts you’re facing are normal doubts, and when do you recognize that there’s something going on that might be a signal that you need to walk away from this relationships?  In Love In Every Season, I explain that sometimes the problem is in YOU – and sometimes, the problem is in the relationship. It’s important not to simply ignore these doubts, but instead see them as a signal that something needs to change. Should I Marry Him/Her? 5 Signs You Shouldn’t Get Married In today’s episode, we’re talking through 5 signs that you need to step back from the relationship, and instead, take some time to deal with what is going on from the inside out. If you find yourself wondering “should I marry him/her?” then this episode is for you. If you’re not dating yet, I challenge you to tune in and recognize these signs so that you don’t find yourself struggling in this type of situation. Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to Episode 57 of the Love + Relationship Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA’S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY? MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re in the thick of Winter, here in Pennsylvania. And there’s a lot we can learn from this season when it comes to relationships. Every season of a relationship comes with important ingredients that can make or break your relationship. If you aren’t aware of what the seasons bring, you won’t be able to USE them to strengthen your relationship. Today we’re talking about the season of Winter. It’s the season when things begin to cool off, and emotions begin to die down. It can be a season when people struggle with apathy in their relationship and feel like they’re stuck. There’s a type of frost that happens in relationships as well, it’s the frost of apathy. The Frost of Apathy in a Relationship Winter has some really important aspects that we need. It’s a season of comfort and familiarity. It’s a season of getting used to the mundane, and making the most of day to day life — because romance isn’t just about the grand gestures, it’s about the regular moments of life. But sometimes, this comfort can turn into apathy. Winter is a season that you pass through, not stay in. Seasons aren’t meant to be stayed in, they’re meant to be passed through. We’ve got to be able to take the right steps in Winter, or we’ll end up getting stuck in a relationship that has frozen over. Tune in to today’s episode as we talk about the frost of apathy in a relationship, and why it’s one of the most dangerous aspect of winter. We’ll also talk about HOW to get over the frost of apathy in a relationships, and three steps we can take to begin melting that frost as we continue our discussion on the four seasons of every healthy relationship, from my brand new book, Love In Every Season! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: ORDER DEBRA’S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY? MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we’re talking questions to ask your partner, because we often assume instead of ask…and end up with some major conflict. When it comes to relationships, things aren’t always as they appear. Every relationship goes through a season where they navigate through the realization that the person they’re with has flaws, failures, and sometimes — major issues. True colors begin to shine through, and sometimes those colors are beautiful, but sometimes, they’re not so beautiful. This, my friends, is the season of fall.  Fall is when your true colors start to shine through: your sins, struggles, failures and flaws. You realize you’re two different people with different expectations, needs, personalities, and most significantly — different backgrounds, family of origins, and ways of looking at the world. Questions To Ask Your Partner – Not Assume All the things you ASSUMED about this person, are revealed and replaced by the TRUTH of who this person actually is. In order to really understand a person in their entirety, we’ve got to learn to ask more than we assume. So today we’re talking about specific areas you need to ASK and not ASSUME when it comes to learning about the person you’re with. Today on the podcast we’re talking about this aspect of the season of fall and addressing questions to ask your partner, as we continue our discussion on the four seasons of every healthy relationship, from my brand new book, Love In Every Season! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: ORDER DEBRA’S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast & TLD articles check out: How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband My Husband Does Not Have The Final Say In Our Marriage (article) MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Summer is the season of intimacy, and it’s when things get hot in a relationship. I can’t wait to share all about Summer in today’s podcast episode, but I just want to share with you that my new book, Love In Every Season, officially launched TODAY!!! You can get a copy anywhere you get your books. There’s so much I wanted to share with you on these episodes of the podcast, but of course the majority of the information on each of these seasons will be found in the pages of this new book! Check out the official Love In Every Season book page for more details and to read the reviews! Intentional Intimacy Summer is the season of intimacy because it’s the stage in your relationship when you begin shedding your layers and exposing your true self. You get to know each other deeply and intimately. But you have to be intentional about intimacy! The main aspects you need to learn to navigate in summer are emotional connection, sexual attraction, and the bond of spiritual intimacy. Today we’re focusing on the latter, and why how you navigate spiritual intimacy can make or break your relationship. Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 54 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: ORDER DEBRA’S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast & TLD articles check out: How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband My Husband Does Not Have The Final Say In Our Marriage (article) MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are just ONE WEEK away from the release of my new book, Love In Every Season. So today’s question couldn’t have come at a better time. We’re digging deep into the four seasons of a relationship starting with the season of Spring! Spring is the season of growth, it’s the season when attraction is blossoming and emotions are blooming. It’s the season of planting the right seeds and taking out the weeds. While there’s so much I could cover in the season of Spring (becoming friends before lovers, the four laws of attraction, redefining our “type”, planting the right seeds, etc — and I cover it ALL in Love In Every Season), today’s podcast episode is going to focus on one specific dynamic of Spring: growth. Is your relationship growing? What does it mean to be in a give-and-take relationship, and why does it matter? Relationships have to grow in order to survive. If you’re not seeing characteristics of growth in your relationship – something is wrong. Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 53 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: ORDER DEBRA’S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! Get a FREE DIGITAL COPY TODAY by JOINING THE Love In Every Season Launch Team! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast & TLD articles check out: How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband My Husband Does Not Have The Final Say In Our Marriage (article) BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra’s New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you want better relationships in 2020? Because that is absolutely possible!! It’s time to do things better this coming year, and expect better things! Especially when it comes to our relationships. Because the quality of your relationships impacts the quality of your life! Tune into this extra special New Years Eve Podcast episode for some hope, encouragement, and motivation to make better, healthier, stronger relationships this coming year – and why it’s so important to know where you’re going in order to find someone who can join you on that journey. Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 52 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: ORDER DEBRA’S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! Get a FREE DIGITAL COPY TODAY by JOINING THE Love In Every Season Launch Team! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast & TLD articles check out: How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband My Husband Does Not Have The Final Say In Our Marriage (article) BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra’s New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: What advice do you have on dating someone who is divorced? Dating someone who is divorced is a topic that has come up more and more over the years. With the age of divorce getting younger, and the number of divorces getting higher over the years – it makes sense that dating someone who is divorced is a topic that keeps coming back around during my question and answer time. I have clients, friends, and family members who are divorced, and with that in mind, I wanted to make sure to answer this question in a way that honored the person who was asking the question – as well as respected those who have been divorced. Stance vs. Status: Dating Someone Who Is Divorced If you’ve read my blog or books, or listened to my podcast, at some point you’ve heard me say that in any relationship where there is conflict – there are always two people involved which means two people who  need to take ownership of their role in that conflict. Divorce is no exception to that rule. If we want to establish healthy relationships, we all have something to own in the process of building them. So my answer focuses a lot more on the stance of the person you’re dating, rather than their relationship status. You’ll understand more about what I mean by this when you tune in to today’s episode about Dating Someone Who Is Divorced! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 51 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: ORDER DEBRA’S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! Get a FREE DIGITAL COPY TODAY by JOINING THE Love In Every Season Launch Team! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast & TLD articles check out: How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband My Husband Does Not Have The Final Say In Our Marriage (article) BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra’s New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on the podcast, my friends Tim + Anne join me to talk about headship in marriage. If you’ve ever wrestled with the concept of leadership, submission, or headship in marriage than you don’t want to miss this episode. I have LOVED Tim + Anne’s biblical approach to marriage, and their views and ideas have put into words in a way that no one else has, the way that John and I do marriage. We’re a team…and we do life together. Together: Co-Leadership In Marriage I invited Tim + Anne to join me today on the Love + Relationships podcast to talk about their views on marriage and their approach to “co-leadership” in their relationship. Not only are they a wise couple, but they’re a couple who loves God and one another, and it’s evidenced in how they live out their life. I hope you’ll give this episode a listen and go in with an open mind about this concept of “co-leadership” in marriage. It’s not the traditional approach, but there’s certainly a lot to learn from their biblical view of marriage. Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 50 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: ORDER DEBRA’S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! Get a FREE DIGITAL COPY TODAY by JOINING THE Love In Every Season Launch Team! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast & TLD articles check out: How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband My Husband Does Not Have The Final Say In Our Marriage (article) BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra’s New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Looking for some good get to know you questions? What are some questions to ask when you’re trying to get to know someone of the opposite sex? Today’s podcast episode is a fast and furious trip through 15 questions you can ask as you’re starting the process of getting to know someone and wanting to learn how to break the ice. I hear from so many people how difficult it can be to break the ice when you’re trying to interact with someone of the opposite sex, and I hope these questions will be helpful to get the conversation started!! ORDER DEBRA’S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! Get a FREE DIGITAL COPY TODAY by JOINING THE Love In Every Season Launch Team! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 49 of the Love + Relationships Podcast all about get to know you questions! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra’s New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Last week we talked about some things a woman can do to show a man she’s interested in him. Today we’re hitting up the flip side for the man who asks: what are some ways I can show her interest? Is there anything I can do to let her know that I’m into her? I surveyed women of all ages, and the consensus was the same. And today, we’re revealing what they said on this brand new episode of the podcast! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 48 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra’s New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices