Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

What if I told you that your identity is one of the number one things that impacts the quality of your relationships? Welcome to SEASON 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast!! I’m so excited about this new look, and these brand new episodes! Because what you believe about yourself determines the kind of relationship you believe you deserve. But so many things can get in the way of what we believe about ourselves. Christine Caine knows that first hand. In today’s episode, Christine and I talk about the importance of taking inventory of our identity, and what that looks like practically. Identity Matters In today’s episode we discuss: How trauma and past experiences can impact our identity. The labels we carry through life that impact our identity. Her personal story of adoption and abuse and how it impacted what she believed about herself. The psychology and theology behind identity and what shapes it. What it looks like to replace the lies about who we are with God’s truth. Understanding your identity in Christ. Verses that will shape your identity with truth (see below in the resources) And so much more!! If you’ve EVER struggled with identity issues, or maybe you’re struggling today — I can’t express to you how important this episode is. Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! You’re going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Scriptures Debra and Christine recommend to build your identity with truth: 2 Corinthians 5:17 Ephesians 2:10 1 Peter 2:8 Genesis 1:27 Romans 8:1 2 Corinthians 5:21 Galatians 2:20 2 Timothy 1:7 Philippians 4:13 Romans 12:2 Ephesians 4:24 Psalm 139:14 Romans 8:37 Jeremiah 1:5 Read 100 More Verses About Identity Christine Caine is an Australian born, Greek blooded, lover of Jesus, activist, author and international speaker. She and her husband, Nick, founded the global anti-human trafficking organization, The A21 Campaign. They also founded Propel Women, an organization designed to activate women to fulfill their God-given passion, purpose, and potential. Christine and Nick make their home in southern California with their daughters, Catherine and Sophia. For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to SEASON 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast!! I’m so excited about this new look, and these brand new episodes! The past year of the podcast has brought listeners from all across the country and world, and our very first caller is Terry from Fiji! Terry and his girlfriend are committed to saving sex for marriage, and he wants to know some practical suggestions and tips for physical boundaries. Practical Physical Boundaries In today’s episode we’ll talk through: Practical ways you can set physical boundaries – some suggestions that actually work! Why acting “overly spiritual” can actually hinder your desire to save sex for marriage. The importance of communicating your boundaries before-hand. How to re-frame your perspective so that you see saving sex for marriage as an investment in the relationship vs. a barrier to the relationship. This is why you’re going to love Terry and the conversation we have about physical boundaries and saving sex in this very first episode of Season 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Meet our Sponsor: Want kids someday? Modern Fertility will give you insight into how many eggs you have, hormone levels, and any reproductive red flags. The results go in-depth into what every hormone means and you can also talk 1:1 with a fertility nurse to review your results and options for next steps. Get $20 off TODAY by going to: https://modernfertility.com/debra/ Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve been taking the last few weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to re-listen to this episode, or you’ve never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #1 most downloaded episode of all time… How much does physical attraction matter in a relationship?  What if you know someone is really good for you, but you don’t find yourself attracted to them at all? What if there’s  strong attraction, but qualities and traits missing from what you’re looking for? What if you’re married, and start struggling with physical attraction in your marriage? Questions about physical attraction are some of the most frequently asked questions I get on my blog.  Because physical attraction is, without a doubt, an important part of a relationship. But have we gotten to a point where our expectations of physical attraction in a relationship are unrealistic? My Mind Says Yes – My Body Says No? In today’s episode, I’m having a candid chat about physical attraction with two different guys. First, I’m talking with a young man who is trying to understand how important physical attraction should be in his search for love. I find out that his relationship history has a big part to do with his expectations, and you’ll find out why when you tune in. After our conversation, I bring on my good friend and prolific relationship author, Gary Thomas. Gary and I dive into some really hot topics about attraction in ways that not many people are talking about, and you’re going to love this candid conversation. Physical Attraction 101 In this hot-topic episode, we cover: 2 IMPORTANT Questions you need to ask yourself to know whether or not you’ve got a healthy understanding of physical attraction. The actual definition of attraction and why it matters that you know it. We discuss the many different levels of attraction and how attraction is multi-faceted.  How to prioritize the importance of physical attraction. Understanding your typical “type” and when to be open to other options. Exploring the things that are influencing your perspective of beauty and physical attraction, and how to control those things. Learning whether or not you’re living in “the extremes” and whether or not you have healthy expectations. Making sure you have a realistic understanding of who YOU are and your own level of “physical attraction” in the equation of what you’re looking for (yep, I said it). The percentage of people who are struggling with attraction in marriage and what to do about it! Three things you can do to increase your attraction to your spouse.  I reveal the one thing I was MOST AFRAID to talk about regarding physical attraction in my book Choosing Marriage. The one prayer Gary Thomas prayed in order to continue growing in life long physical attraction toward his wife! Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. You’re going to love these candid conversations, so grab your notebook, and get ready to write down the nuggets of truth from this fun, honest, and challenging Episode 009 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! You’re going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Biblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks.  10 Girls You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid Heartbreak 10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid The Bad Boys BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra’s New Book: Love In Every Season Order Today!) And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re taking the next few weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to re-listen to this episode, or you’ve never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #2….. There’s a lot of casual dating going on these days…and it’s starting to get confusing. Is it okay to date casually? And if so, is there a limit to how casual you should be when interacting with the opposite sex.  Today’s question comes from a young woman who is struggling with the latest trend of casual dating where a guy can hang out with as many girls as he wants (or vice versa) in the name of “casual dating”. Casual Dating Can’t Stay Casual The problem is that people tend to think in two extremes. Either they are way too casual and keep the relationship ambiguous and commitment free for FAR too long, or they’re on the other end of the spectrum in which they see dating as a near marriage commitment.  They’re unwilling to consider anything casual and they expect a relationship to start seriously from the get-go. But BOTH of these mentalities can be harmful, and in this episode of the podcast we talk through the ins and outs of how to do “casual dating” in a healthy way, and the red flags you need to be aware of along the way. I’m going to bring up a few important questions you need to ask yourself if you want to know how to do causal dating well. So click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 37 of the Love + Relationships Podcast to learn about causal dating! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! You’re going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Biblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks.  10 Girls You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid Heartbreak 10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid The Bad Boys BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra’s New Book: Love In Every Season Order Today!) And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re taking the next few weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to re-listen to this episode, or you’ve never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #3….. What do I do with my raging sex drive while I’m single? I get that question a lot. But the problem is: not too many Christians are teaching about this subject. I can’t recall when I heard a sermon about sexual struggles on a Sunday morning, can you? But dealing with your sex drive is a problem that singles have to face on a regular basis….one that will ultimately have an impact on their future marriages as well, because learning to “tame the drive” is something you’re going to deal with after you’re married as well. So I thought it was about time to do an episode about sex drive and singleness. LET’S TALK ABOUT…THE SEX DRIVE When we talk about sex on the podcast, everyone gets excited…no pun intended. So, without further to do, click the links below to listen this insightful (and at times, awkward) conversation, as I answer today’s caller who is wondering how on earth can he deal with “the sex drive”  – as he puts it – while he waits for marriage. In this episode I cover: Why your sex drive (annoying as it may be at times while you’re single) is actually a good thing. Why the sex for marriage sentiment is actually backed up by psychology. The dangerous power of premarital sex. Why your sex drive is actually a symptom of something ELSE going on. The #1 way to stop having shame about your sex drive. How to fuel the spirit and starve the flesh, and what that means for your sex life. Some practical ways to control your sex drive while you’re single. Identifying things you are doing that might be growing your sex drive instead of controlling your sex drive. Why learning to control your sex drive is something you’ll need after you’re married as well. And a whole…lot…more! You’re going to love this candid conversation so get ready to for this necessary, honest, and insightful Episode 011 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! You’re going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Biblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks.  10 Girls You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid Heartbreak 10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid The Bad Boys BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra’s New Book: Love In Every Season Order Today!) And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re taking the next few weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to re-listen to this episode, or you’ve never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #4….. [Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Email debra@truelovedates.com with your voice memo question and you might be featured on Season 5!] Q: What does healthy dating look like and what are the key ingredients to a healthy dating relationship?  A: Today’s question comes from Kim in Ohio, who is wondering what healthy dating actually looks like…is it even a thing? If you know anything about me and this ministry, you know that my main message is that healthy people make healthy relationships. But how do you know that your relationship is healthy? What are some things to be on the lookout for when it comes to your interactions with the opposite sex? Healthy Dating Is A Thing On today’s episode, we’re talking through this question and the belief that healthy dating is a real thing!! It IS POSSIBLE to date in a way that leaves you with no regrets — even in today’s chaotic culture of relationships. Joining me to answer this question today, is Pastor Ben Stuart from Passion City Church in DC and formerly served as the director of BreakAway Ministries. Ben’s work with young adults and his heart for this topic made him a perfect candidate to tag-team this question with me today. In this episode, we talk through: Why is dating such a struggle for Christians? How to look at dating in a way that takes the pressure off. The THEME verse that should define the way we do dating. What are some of the key ingredients that make healthy dating a possibility. The three Cs of dating. Why mutual interest and initiation is SO important. Why charm is deceptive… And so much more!!! Don’t miss this great conversation! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 42 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! You’re going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Biblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks.  10 Girls You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid Heartbreak 10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid The Bad Boys Connect with Ben Stuart on Instagram or check out his book: Single, Dating, Engaged, Married. For more information check out Passion City Church, DC.  OTHER BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra’s New Book: Love In Every Season Order Today!) And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re taking the next 5 weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to relisten to this episode, or you’ve never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #5….. How far is too far when it comes to physical touch before marriage? I’m sure you’re not shocked to hear that it’s one of the most frequently asked questions I receive at my relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com. How far is too far? On today’s mini-episode (18 minutes!) I’m answering just that! In this quick episode, I’m offering some practical, bite-sized advice for anyone who has ever wondered where to draw the line with physical touch before marriage. I’m going to talk you through the 12 stages of physical touch and explain to you when I believe physical touch goes from the green zone, to the yellow zone, to the red zone. If you’ve ever wondered how far is too far to go physically in a dating relationship, you’re going to want to tune in to Episode 014 of the Love + Relationships Podcast, where we talk candidly about all things love, sex, dating, singleness and marriage. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! You’re going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: We’re struggling through the reality check of marriage. It’s not always as easy as we imagined it to be. Do you have any tips or advice for us? I often talk about the differences between our expectations of marriage , vs. the reality of what marriage.  But today, I’m excited to tag team this question about the reality check of marriage with my friends Jeremy and Addie Camp. Jeremy Camp and Addie are so real and raw about their own marriage, the struggles they’ve been through, and the victories they’ve had. In this episode we talk about the reality check of marriage in their own lives, as well as practical things they do to keep their connection strong and nurture their relationship. It’s packed with encouragement and practical advice, and I know it will encourage you whether you’re married or one day hoping to be. Tune in to Episode 77 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! You’re going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Check out Jeremy and Adrienne’s new book: In Unison For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some of the most prominent people in ministry and leadership are dealing with anxiety, you just don’t know about it.  The reason is that anxiety doesn’t discriminate. It doesn’t care about how old you are, what religion you are, or your gender. But unfortunately, not enough people of faith are talking about dealing with anxiety in an open and honest way, and so many people end up struggling alone and in isolation.  That’s why I’m excited about today’s conversation. You guys have heard me talk about my personal journey dealing with anxiety, but today I’ve invited my friend Ashley Willis, who has walked through her own battle with anxiety. She’s so open and honest about her journey, and how she found peace…and I know this episode will encourage you if you’ve ever struggled with anxiety as well. Tune in to Episode 76 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! You’re going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Check out Ashley Willis’ new book: Peace Pirates For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When today’s question came in on the Love + Relationships Hotline asking about tips and tricks to managing the early years of marriage, I had to get my friends Ryan and Selena Frederick to join me in tag-teaming this one. Ryan and Selena run an amazing ministry called Fierce Marriage, and they are passionate about honoring God through the ministry of marriage. Today we talk through what it looks like to get through those early years of marriage and come out stronger on the other side. They open their heart in talking about confession, vulnerability, and intimacy in marriage through all areas of their life, and we spend some time talking about how they dealt with the intruder of pornography in their relationship. This episode will encourage and inspire you in your current marriage, and help you dream about your future marriage. Tune in to Episode 75 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! You’re going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Check out Ryan and Selena’s new book: See Through Marriage. For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices