Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Have you ever wondered how porn impacts relationships? Porn has become a widespread epidemic in our culture today. And it’s reaping havoc on relationships. It messes with your heart, alters your brain brain, and changes how you see the world around you. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Today, I can’t even tell you how thrilled I am to have Jonathan Pokluda join me to discuss his personal journey: from PORN ADDICT to PASTOR….from being enslaved to a sex and porn addiction, to walking in freedom. Today’s episode is a deep-dive into pornography use, sexual addictions, and why there’s so much hope for gaining freedom in this area of your life. Porn impacts relationships in a remarkable way, but it doesn’t have to be this way. Porn Impacts Relationships In today’s episode, we’ll cover: The details of JP’s story, how deeply immersed he was in porn, and why becoming a Christian didn’t fix his addiction. How porn impacts relationships. What porn does to your brain and how you view others. Why you’ve probably tried and failed to break free. Steps to breaking free from porn for good. And so much more! I loved this episode so much, I pushed it to the very top of our release schedule! You don’t want to miss this one…tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: Begin the journey of healing today, by getting matched up to a professional counselor http://getfaithful.com/debra (use this link for 20% off your first month!) Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2020 has brought a lot of hard things…it’s increased pressure and conflict in relationships.  Today’s caller wants to know what do you do when you find yourself plunged into the season of FALL in a relationship? Fall is the season of conflict and communication – and it seems a lot of people are jumping right into it with all the stress and pressure this year has brought. Conflict in Relationships In this episode we cover: What happens when you feel like you’re all of a sudden navigating conflict in a relationship that wasn’t there before? How to see conflict as a positive part of the relationship. What are the signs that you’re in FALL in a relationship? What does it look like to “do the work” of the season of fall? Recognizing passivity in my conflict style. Recognizing past triggers vs. present problems. And so much more! So tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: ISSUU.com/podcast Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we’re answering all your relationship questions in Part 2 of Q&A with Debra Fileta and Chad Johnson! A few weeks ago on my Instagram Page @TrueLoveDates (let’s be IG friends!!!), I asked you to submit any relationship questions you had for us to tackle in a rapid-response Q&A session. SO MANY GOOD QUESTIONS came in! My friend, and one of your favorite co-hosts, Chad Johnson is joining me for Part 2 to answer more of your AMAZING relationship questions from a his/her perspective!  So tune in for Part 2 of the Q&A episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! You might even hear YOUR question answered!!! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: Start praying for your future husband. Visit https://www.smaywilsonshop.com/ to get your copy of the Every Single Moment journal, and use code TRUELOVEDATES for 20% off your order.  Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we’re answering all your relationship questions! A few weeks ago on my Instagram Page @TrueLoveDates (let’s be IG friends!!!), I asked you to submit any relationship questions you had for us to tackle in a rapid-response Q&A session. My friend, and one of your favorite co-hosts, Chad Johnson is joining me today to answer your relationship questions from a his/her perspective!  So tune in for Part 1 of the Rapid Response Q&A episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! You might even hear YOUR question answered!!! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: Get started on your journey of healing with a licensed counselor, who is also a believer in Christ!! Online counseling from the comfort of your home! Get matched with a counselor by clicking https://getfaithful.com/debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s caller is waiting for sex and proud of it. The only problem: she wants to know WHEN to share that fact that she’s waiting for sex with the person she’s dating. Especially with today’s trend of online dating. Do you come out and tell them you’re waiting for sex on the very first date, or do you ease into it? And that’s exactly what we’re covering on the podcast today! So let’s just cut to the chase and talk through this. Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: ISSUU.com/podcast Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Am I too picky? Today’s caller is wondering if she’s too picky, or if she just has high standards? How can you tell the difference, especially when people are making comments that….maybe….you’re too picky. I invited my friend, Pastor Ben Stuart author of Single, Dating, Engaged, Married, to join me as a co-host for today’s episode as we talk through the difference between having high standards, and being too picky. Am I Too Picky? In today’s episode we cover: How do I know if I’m being too picky? What non-negotiables should I have on my list? What are the difference between needs and preferences? Majors and minors? What, if anything, does scripture tell us is criteria for a relationship? Are dating apps messing with our heads when it comes to choosing a relationship? Where does attraction fall into this? And so much more! Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: upperroom.org/welcome  Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When should you say I love you? Today’s caller was curious when is an appropriate time to tell someone you love them when you’ve been in a dating relationship. I know a lot of you have wondered the same thing, and questions in my inbox to prove it! So today we’re tackling this important question!!! We’re talking through some of the parameters behind When You Should Say I Love You, in today’s episode!  Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsors: upperroom.org/welcome and ISSUU.com/podcast Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do when your partner’s sexual history is more extensive than yours? In this episode, I talk to a man who is struggling with his girlfriend’s sexual history, and the things she experienced before they met. I was so proud of him for his transparency, because it’s something a lot of couples are facing but not many people are discussing. My Partner’s Sexual History In this episode we talk though: Some concerns that come up when one person has a more extensive sexual history. Understanding and dealing with the root of these hard emotions. How to deal with the past in a healthy way. Whether or your partner’s sexual history is a deal-breaker and how to know. And much more! Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsors: upperroom.org/welcome and ISSUU.com/podcast Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When it comes to relationships, one thing we don’t talk about enough is healing after divorce. It’s a subject people tend to shy away from, and understandably so because there are no cookie-cutter answers. Every story and situation of divorce is so different and unique. But at the end of the day, just like any loss, divorce always includes heartbreak and the need for healing.  There are principles and concepts that can be extracted and applied no matter what your specific situation. Healing After Divorce When this question about healing after divorce came into the hotline, I knew I wanted Eryn Eddy to be my co-host for this episode. She’s a woman who knows the deep pain of divorce, but more so, she knows what it looks like to pursue healing after deep heartbreak. I’m so impressed by how she has used her pain, and I know this conversation will BLESS YOU SO MUCH if you’ve been through the pain of divorce. In this episode we cover:  Identity and how divorce can impact what we believe and what we DO. Dealing with pain, confusion, and insecurity after divorce. Self-sabotage that can happen after divorce. Working through the stigma and shame that comes in Christian culture. Pursuing healing after divorce. And so much more…. If you are looking for healing after divorce, or know someone who is…Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: upperroom.org/welcome Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Eryn is the founder and CEO of So Worth Loving, a lifestyle clothing brand. Since starting in 2011, she’s grown her company to include customers in all fifty states and in thirty countries, and the company is still going strong. She and her work have been featured on CNN and MSNBC, as well as Southern Living and Atlanta Magazine. Eryn is also an author and co-host of a podcast called God Hears Her, and she calls Atlanta home. Connect with her on Instagram.  For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Am I toxic? What if I’m the toxic one in the relationship? Because I think the problem is me. That was the unique question that came into the podcast hotline, and I knew I had to answer it right away. Am I toxic? That’s a question people don’t often ask. It’s not common for someone to identify themselves as the person in need of change in the relationship, and I was so grateful for this man’s insight and willingness to listen to advice and consider next steps for change. Am I toxic? As you listen to this insightful conversation, I want you to ask yourself this: Am I toxic in any way, shape, or form? Or what about this: Could you be the one in the relationship in need of change? It’s so easy to look at what others need to fix and change, without really looking inward at our own problems, past baggage, unhealthy behaviors, and bad habits.  But I want you to ask yourself: could I be the toxic one? Is there anything I need to change in my life? Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: upperroom.org/welcome Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices