Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Is it possible to enjoy singleness, all while really wanting marriage? Today’s caller wants to know the answer to that question. How can you strike a balance between enjoying what you’re experiencing today in singleness, yet still hold on to the desire for marriage without letting in control your life? Is it possible to enjoy singleness AND want marriage simultaneously? Enjoying Singleness We’re talking through this important topic today….so if you feel like you’re having a hard time striking a balance between these two different places, this episode is for you!!!! Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: upperroom.org/welcome Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There’s a lot of controversy these days. From wearing masks, to Covid, to politics, and everything in between. And when there’s a lot of controversial topics in life, there tend to be a lot of controversial topics that come up in conversations! What do you do if these topics come up in dating? Should you bring them up, or not? Today’s caller wants to know how to handle these conversations and controversial topics in dating.  Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: PerfectlyImperfect.org Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you seriously dating someone or even got engaged during Covid?  Life looks a little different than we expected right now, with wedding ceremonies, showers, and celebrations and parties cancelled or drastically altered to fit social distancing norms. Today, I talk to my friend Emma Mae, who just got engaged during this crazy season. We talk: Wedding Prep During Covid How she knew he was the one to say YES to What it’s like to be engaged during Covid Things they’re doing to get their hearts ready for marriage. And so much more! This was such a fun conversation! Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsors: ModernFertility.com and PerfectlyImperfect.org Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you know you’ve healed from the past? Welcome to SEASON 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast!! I’m so excited about this new look, and these brand new episodes! Healed From the Past? We all know the past can be paralyzing. It can wrap it’s deadly tentacles around your life and keep you from moving forward. But it doesn’t have to. When you deal with the past, you can be freed from the past. Do you have a past relationship history, that you’ve wondered if you’ve fully healed from?  Today’s caller is wondering that same thing, and wants to know how to know she’s healed from the past. I’m talking her through three things to keep in mind in taking inventory of whether or not she’s healed from the past. Whether your past relationship history includes a break up, divorce, or just some hard things you’ve been through, give this episode a listen! Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! You’re going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When it comes to dating, should a woman initiate? You guys know what I think about this topic (it-s a non-issue, and it doesn’t matter who initiates as long as the relationship is made of give-and-take thereafter), but I decided to ask my friend, Chad Johnson, to give me his male-perspective on the issue in Part 2 of our conversation. Should a Woman Initiate? Let me just warn you, things go down in this podcast – because Chad and I certainly don’t agree on everything, and I even call him out on some of his perspectives. We talk about should a woman initiate, what to do about getting ghosted, and so may other great topics. So tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What on earth does a godly man really want in a woman? I mean, do godly men even exist these days?!? Welcome to SEASON 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast!! I’m so excited about this new look, and these brand new episodes! Today’s caller wants to know, what is up with the godly man saying he wants a woman of character, and then chasing after the supermodel woman?? It’s a loaded question, friends…but at the same time, it’s worth answering. What A Godly Man Wants Is this mentality true? And if not, why do so many women struggle with this question? Why do so many guys seem to have double standards with what they really want in a woman. So, I invited my friend, Chad Johnson, a single man who says he’s not perfect – but loves the Lord, to talk me through exactly what is going on in a man’s brain – and what it is that a godly man REALLY want in a woman. Chad and I had so much fun talking in this episode, that I invited him back next week as well. Let me warn you, we don’t always agree, but we had a lot of fun chatting along the way. You’re going to love this conversation on what a godly man wants…so tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with our Sponsors at https://www.smaywilsonshop.com/ and modernfertility.com.debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Want more: Check out this article What Men Really Want In a Woman For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s caller wants to know if there’s such a thing as good jealousy in a relationship vs. unhealthy jealousy – and if so, how do you know the difference? Welcome to SEASON 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast!! I’m so excited about this new look, and these brand new episodes! Dealing With Jealousy in a Relationship If you’ve ever struggled with jealousy in a relationship, then you don’t want to miss this episode because I’m talking through: What jealousy is. Two reasons why you might be feeling it.  How to know if there’s an underlying problem in the relationship. How to know if the underlying problem is something inside of you. How to deal with jealousy in the relationship. Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with our Sponsor at https://www.smaywilsonshop.com/ Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if I told you that your identity is one of the number one things that impacts the quality of your relationships? Welcome to SEASON 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast!! I’m so excited about this new look, and these brand new episodes! Because what you believe about yourself determines the kind of relationship you believe you deserve. But so many things can get in the way of what we believe about ourselves. Christine Caine knows that first hand. In today’s episode, Christine and I talk about the importance of taking inventory of our identity, and what that looks like practically. Identity Matters In today’s episode we discuss: How trauma and past experiences can impact our identity. The labels we carry through life that impact our identity. Her personal story of adoption and abuse and how it impacted what she believed about herself. The psychology and theology behind identity and what shapes it. What it looks like to replace the lies about who we are with God’s truth. Understanding your identity in Christ. Verses that will shape your identity with truth (see below in the resources) And so much more!! If you’ve EVER struggled with identity issues, or maybe you’re struggling today — I can’t express to you how important this episode is. Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! You’re going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Scriptures Debra and Christine recommend to build your identity with truth: 2 Corinthians 5:17 Ephesians 2:10 1 Peter 2:8 Genesis 1:27 Romans 8:1 2 Corinthians 5:21 Galatians 2:20 2 Timothy 1:7 Philippians 4:13 Romans 12:2 Ephesians 4:24 Psalm 139:14 Romans 8:37 Jeremiah 1:5 Read 100 More Verses About Identity Christine Caine is an Australian born, Greek blooded, lover of Jesus, activist, author and international speaker. She and her husband, Nick, founded the global anti-human trafficking organization, The A21 Campaign. They also founded Propel Women, an organization designed to activate women to fulfill their God-given passion, purpose, and potential. Christine and Nick make their home in southern California with their daughters, Catherine and Sophia. For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to SEASON 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast!! I’m so excited about this new look, and these brand new episodes! The past year of the podcast has brought listeners from all across the country and world, and our very first caller is Terry from Fiji! Terry and his girlfriend are committed to saving sex for marriage, and he wants to know some practical suggestions and tips for physical boundaries. Practical Physical Boundaries In today’s episode we’ll talk through: Practical ways you can set physical boundaries – some suggestions that actually work! Why acting “overly spiritual” can actually hinder your desire to save sex for marriage. The importance of communicating your boundaries before-hand. How to re-frame your perspective so that you see saving sex for marriage as an investment in the relationship vs. a barrier to the relationship. This is why you’re going to love Terry and the conversation we have about physical boundaries and saving sex in this very first episode of Season 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Meet our Sponsor: Want kids someday? Modern Fertility will give you insight into how many eggs you have, hormone levels, and any reproductive red flags. The results go in-depth into what every hormone means and you can also talk 1:1 with a fertility nurse to review your results and options for next steps. Get $20 off TODAY by going to: https://modernfertility.com/debra/ Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve been taking the last few weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to re-listen to this episode, or you’ve never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #1 most downloaded episode of all time… How much does physical attraction matter in a relationship?  What if you know someone is really good for you, but you don’t find yourself attracted to them at all? What if there’s  strong attraction, but qualities and traits missing from what you’re looking for? What if you’re married, and start struggling with physical attraction in your marriage? Questions about physical attraction are some of the most frequently asked questions I get on my blog.  Because physical attraction is, without a doubt, an important part of a relationship. But have we gotten to a point where our expectations of physical attraction in a relationship are unrealistic? My Mind Says Yes – My Body Says No? In today’s episode, I’m having a candid chat about physical attraction with two different guys. First, I’m talking with a young man who is trying to understand how important physical attraction should be in his search for love. I find out that his relationship history has a big part to do with his expectations, and you’ll find out why when you tune in. After our conversation, I bring on my good friend and prolific relationship author, Gary Thomas. Gary and I dive into some really hot topics about attraction in ways that not many people are talking about, and you’re going to love this candid conversation. Physical Attraction 101 In this hot-topic episode, we cover: 2 IMPORTANT Questions you need to ask yourself to know whether or not you’ve got a healthy understanding of physical attraction. The actual definition of attraction and why it matters that you know it. We discuss the many different levels of attraction and how attraction is multi-faceted.  How to prioritize the importance of physical attraction. Understanding your typical “type” and when to be open to other options. Exploring the things that are influencing your perspective of beauty and physical attraction, and how to control those things. Learning whether or not you’re living in “the extremes” and whether or not you have healthy expectations. Making sure you have a realistic understanding of who YOU are and your own level of “physical attraction” in the equation of what you’re looking for (yep, I said it). The percentage of people who are struggling with attraction in marriage and what to do about it! Three things you can do to increase your attraction to your spouse.  I reveal the one thing I was MOST AFRAID to talk about regarding physical attraction in my book Choosing Marriage. The one prayer Gary Thomas prayed in order to continue growing in life long physical attraction toward his wife! Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. You’re going to love these candid conversations, so grab your notebook, and get ready to write down the nuggets of truth from this fun, honest, and challenging Episode 009 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! You’re going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Biblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks.  10 Girls You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid Heartbreak 10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid The Bad Boys BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra’s New Book: Love In Every Season Order Today!) And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices