Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Q: Today, we’re answering a question from a listener who says she comes from a dysfunctional family. They ask, can you have a healthy family despite coming from a dysfunctional one? We’ll discover that answer in today’s episode of our podcast series “Ask a Counselor”. Our special guest is Bri Franklin, M.A., LMHC, one of the amazing counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. Bri will leave you feeling empowered and full of hope for the future as we discuss how to cultivate hope for a future healthy family. Tune in now for today’s hope-filled discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY – iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  BRI FRANKLIN is proud to be able to integrate a faith perspective with research-based mental health practices. She offers a tailor-made approach to each of her clients. She graduated from a nationally-ranked, top ten graduate counseling program focusing on Marriage, Couple, and Family Therapy with a certification in Mental Health Counseling. She is Level 1 Gottman Method Couples Therapy trained. Bri has led counseling groups on topics of grief, anxiety, trauma, creative arts, and healthy relationships at a college counseling center. She is an Associate Certified Coach, certified by the International Coaching Federation and works as an Adult ADHD Executive Functioning Coach in addition to her role as a Licensed Mental Health Counselor. She has taken seminary courses on biblical and theological foundations. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it possible to enjoy singleness, all while really wanting marriage? Today’s caller wants to know the answer to that question. How can you strike a balance between enjoying what you’re experiencing today in singleness, yet still hold on to the desire for marriage without letting in control your life? Is it possible to enjoy singleness AND want marriage simultaneously? Enjoying Singleness We’re talking through this important topic today….so if you feel like you’re having a hard time striking a balance between these two different places, this episode is for you!!!! Tune in to today’s episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY – iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this podcast, they discuss the power of prayer in seeking a love relationship and provide specific ways to pray for love. They also talk about the importance of healing, setting boundaries, and understanding the joy of sex within marriage. The podcast emphasizes the significance of praying, waiting for sex until marriage, and making God the focus in relationships. Overall, it encourages listeners to seek transformation and healing through prayer for their love life.

Learn how to guard your heart in relationships without appearing too guarded. Explore the concept of guarding your heart, the impact of being overly guarded, the importance of trust and boundaries, and learning from past experiences.

Have you ever found yourself attracted to a non Christian? Someone who is living out a different belief system, or isn’t spiritually in tune with where you’re at with your faith? What do you do when you find yourself drawn to someone with whom you are spiritually out of sync? How much does faith matter in the context of a healthy relationship? Attracted To a Non Christian Today’s episode answers a question from Sarah from Boston who is wondering what to do when you’re attracted to someone who is not a Christian. How do you proceed with the friendship, or the relationship, without compromising your own faith? As a professional counselor who also happens to be a Christian, I’ve seen the role that faith plays in my personal relationship with my husband. But more so, the research backs it up….so let’s have this conversation about faith and romance! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out today’s episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships – 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon Upcoming Events: 40’s Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40’s Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more! Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Learn about the concept of biblical dating and how it differs from modern dating. Explore topics such as arranged marriages and aligning one's heart with God's will. Discover how to approach dating in a spiritually and emotionally healthy way using biblical concepts. Learn about the Deborah Philated Counselors Network that combines God's teachings with modern counseling and psychology.

What do you do when you find yourself single in your 30s – your mid 30s, in fact – with no prospect of love in sight? “I never imagined I’d be single in my 30s”.  Today’s caller is looking for some encouragement and trying to assess whether or not she should continue to hold on to hope when she finds herself single at an age she never imagined.  I’m not gonna lie, there are so many times when our life turns out different than we expected. Whether it’s with singleness, marriage, fertility issues, illness, jobs, or so many other ways that life can dissapoint.  And in this world, there aren’t always answers as to why that is, but there are certainly truths we can hold on to, promises we can cling to, and lies we can make sure we’re demolishing as we move toward the desires God has placed in our heart.  Single in my 30s If you find yourself single in your 30s, I hope and pray this episode offers you some practical encouragement and needed affirmation to keep moving forward.  Tune into today’s episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST by subscribing and clicking the links below. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Check out the Breaking Free From the Lies of Singleness Course, and receive 25% off at checkout using code: PODCAST.  For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST Upcoming Events: 40’s Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40’s Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more! Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Heart break doesn’t have to be the norm…if you know what to avoid, that is. In this episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST, we turn the tables on Tuesday’s popular episode, 10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date by introducing you to the 10 Women You Shouldn’t Date. Avoiding Heart Break These 10 ladies will string you on…drag you down…and break your heart. But it doesn’t have to be that way, because you can learn what to look for. Each of them possesses certain traits that we’re going to throw in the red flag category, and teach you exactly what to be on the lookout for. Learn how to recognize these types of women and quickly move on. Tune into today’s episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST by subscribing and clicking the links below. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST Upcoming Events: 40’s Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40’s Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more! Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Hey Debra! I have a pattern of dating the bad boys. How do I recognize the type of guy I should date, from the type of guy I shouldn’t date? When it comes to dating relationships, there is definitely such a thing as red flags in a relationship. The problem is, depending on our level of health and awareness – we can often either ignore the red flags or make excuses for them all together. The reasons so many people find themselves drawn to toxic relationships is complex, and one that I would encourage you to read about more in this article called “Why You Always Date Jerks“. But make no mistake about it – these bad boys can be recognized from a distance – and the healthier you are, the more quickly and easily you’ll be able to recognize a bad boy when he comes along. Dating The Bad Boys: What To Look For But in this episode – we’re not talking about the WHY….we’re talking about the WHAT. What are the traits that help us recognize when a guy is not good for us? In this episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST, I’m talking you through a list of 10 guys that you need to avoid like the plague if you start noticing these qualities in your relationship. Because what you see in dating, you’ll see multiplied times 100 in marriage….the good, the bad, and the ugly. Tune in and subscribe by clicking below! And be sure to tune in next week when we talk about the 10 Girls You Shouldn’t Date! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST Upcoming Events: 30’s Singles Mixers: TrueLoveDates.com is thrilled to announce that we’re offering another Single’s Mixer! On August 13, 2023 from 8pm-10pm EST for ages 30-40. This event will have the feel of “speed dating” but in a group setting and in the comfort of your own home thanks to online technology and Zoom!! During the night, you’ll get to hear from and interact with each person in the group using audio and video technology. Spot’s are limited to 20 singles (10 men / 10 women) so submit your application today! You can learn more about applying to this mixer HERE.  40’s Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40’s Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more! Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does God want me to be single forever? How do I know whether or not I have the “gift” of singleness? How do I hold on to hope when the future seems so unknown and so unclear? So many people are struggling with these questions as they look ahead at an unknown future and wonder whether or not God has marriage in their horizon. Am I Going To Be Single Forever? There are so many things in life where we just don’t know what God has planned. But there are some truths and promises that can keep you grounded and hopeful while you wait. This episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast is an important one and one that is really close to my heart with all the waiting I have done in my life – and the waiting I continue to do in so many other areas of my life. I hope and pray that this episode will leave you encouraged as we collectively learn to trust God with the unknowns in life. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER  Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Ready to make some changes in your love life? Check out this 21 Day Course – 21 Days To Jump Start Your Love Life! Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out the episode about Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren’t Convenient Or check out this mini episode and find out what I think about the concept of “Finding The One“. Upcoming Events: 30’s Singles Mixers: TrueLoveDates.com is thrilled to announce that we’re offering another Single’s Mixer! On August 13, 2023 from 8pm-10pm EST for ages 30-40. This event will have the feel of “speed dating” but in a group setting and in the comfort of your own home thanks to online technology and Zoom!! During the night, you’ll get to hear from and interact with each person in the group using audio and video technology. Spot’s are limited to 20 singles (10 men / 10 women) so submit your application today! You can learn more about applying to this mixer HERE.  40’s Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40’s Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more! Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices