

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast
Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com
Are you ready to Talk To Me?Join Debra Fileta, a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, and bestselling author for an authentic, on-air, counseling-style show where we talk to people about how they are really doing on Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly known as Love & Relationships).Whether having a conversation with a caller from our hotline, or an on-air counseling session with a notable pastor or leader — each of these episodes is a raw, real, authentic conversation showcasing the best of counseling and psychology rooted in God’s Word. Each episode is meant to show you that we are all on a journey of healing—mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally, together.None of us are immune to the challenges and struggles of life, but we don't have to walk this path alone!So if you're ready... Let's talk...Learn more at TrueLoveDates.com/TalkToMe
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Apr 4, 2023 • 54min
RESET from Addiction (with Irene Rollins)
Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.
Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.
Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.
Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.
Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.
Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.
It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.
Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.
My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.
In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.
We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!
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In today’s episode, I’m having an important conversation with Irene Rollins, pastor’s wife and ministry leader, about her secret battle with alcoholism behind closed doors. Irene battled with addiction for six years before everything came to a head. Her story is eye-opening, because it reminds you of the dangers of hiding and escaping from pain instead of dealing with it. This conversation is so honest and necessary for any of us who might have some things in our life that are moving towards addictions.
Whether it’s screen time, gaming, pornography, alcohol or a substance…addiction is subtle until it’s serious.
It’s time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out. Tune into today’s important episode!
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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
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Mar 28, 2023 • 38min
RESET My Relationship with Food (on-air session with Erin)
Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.
Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.
Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.
Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.
Maybe it’s your relationship with food.
Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.
Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.
It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.
Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.
My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.
In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.
We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!
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In today’s episode, I’m having an on-air session with Erin, who wants to change her relationship with food. Erin is a newlywed who has gained a lot of weight over the past few years, and finds herself defaulting to eating and particularly eating out and indulging in unhealthy foods. She wants to get to the bottom of why she struggles with this, so she can begin breaking this cycle and choosing to be physically healthy. You’re going to love this conversation, and I really believe it will challenge you to begin to get to the root of your default beliefs as well.
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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
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Mar 21, 2023 • 53min
RESET Your View of God (with Alex Seely)
Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.
Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.
Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.
Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.
Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.
Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.
It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.
Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.
My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.
In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.
We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!
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In today’s episode, I’m having an important conversation with Alex Seely, co-pastor of The Belonging Co. Have you ever wanted to reset your view of God? Today we’re talking to Alex about the negative view of God that she previously carried and how her past trauma and difficult experiences impacted the way she viewed God for many years — but also how she was able to RESET in this area of her life. So many times we transfer our experiences with others onto our expectations of God. We unpack some of her past, and the steps she took in order to heal, grow, and transform her view of God to what it is today…and what a journey!!! It’s such a powerful and healing conversation for anyone who has been hurt by the people of God — and will really challenge you to consider your own beliefs about God — and WHY.
It’s time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out.
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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
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Mar 14, 2023 • 34min
RESET!! Exclusive BOOK LAUNCH Bonus Episode with Debra
It’s BOOK LAUNCH DAY!! In this exclusive bonus episode, I’m sharing my heart behind my new book RESET, as well as some of my personal favorite parts of the book. I’m talking you through the concept and idea behind the book, some unexpected twists and turns along the way, and why real change can only happen from the “inside-out”. This is an episode you’re going to listen to, and also want to share with someone in your life in need of a RESET!!
It’s not every day you get TWO episodes of the podcast in one day — so enjoy this bonus episode where I share my heart and story with you…and then I say a special prayer for YOU at the end. I love you all, and I am so thankful for your love and support. But most of all, I am so expectant of what God is going to do through this new message – in your life!!! We’re ready for a RESET!!!
(Check out my Instagram page today @DebraFileta to follow along on the book launch day celebrations!)
RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
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Mar 14, 2023 • 39min
RESET from Unhealthy Relationships (on-air Session with Felix)
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Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.
Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.
Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.
Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.
Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.
Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.
It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.
Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.
My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.
In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.
We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!
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In today’s episode, I’m having an on-air session with Felix, who wants to reset from unhealthy relationships. Felix has had a history of unhealthy relationships both before coming to Jesus, as well as after – and he wants to get to the bottom of how to do it differently. We unpack Felix’s story, and trace it back to some old beliefs that he’s been holding onto from childhood – that are coming up in his relationships today. You’re going to love this conversation, and I really believe it will challenge you to begin to get to the root of your default beliefs as well.
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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
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Mar 7, 2023 • 21min
It’s Time for RESET! (Audiobook Sneak Peek!)
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Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.
Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.
Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.
Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.
Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.
Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.
It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.
Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.
My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.
In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.
We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!
As the first episode in our RESET series, I wanted to do something a little special today on the podcast. I had the joy of reading this book on audio myself, and so I wanted to share with you the first few pages of the book so you could hear it first right here before anyone else on the podcast! So sit back and take a listen to RESET: powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life.
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RESET comes out in just one short week on March 14th! Right now, if you pre-order RESET you’ll be entered to win a $1,500 package of 10 sessions with our counselors network, and get a FREE ticket to our live online seminar called RESETTING FROM unhealthy habits! Just go to DebraFileta.com/RESET to grab your copy and enter your information to get all these preorder bonuses!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
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Feb 28, 2023 • 55min
Don’t Take It Out On Me. Couples Therapy with Abigail and Daniel.
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Today’s on-air couples therapy session is with Abigail and Daniel, a couple who is trying to balance their every day needs, as well as the needs of their 18 month old first child — and not take out their stress and emotions on one another!! Which is unfortunately how the pattern has been going so far.
It’s the fourth and final episode of our February Couples Therapy Series and know you’re going to love this conversation, and likely relate to it in many ways!
But is their conflict just about their needs in the here and now? Or is it a little deeper.
You know what I’m going to say — it’s always deeper than what’s happening right here and right now!! I want to help this couple get to the roots, and help them recognize what it looks like to be deliberate about not taking out our feelings, hurts, and struggles on our spouse. And what to do instead with all those real and important needs and emotions.
Tune in to today’s episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up!
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
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Feb 21, 2023 • 48min
Childhood Wounds. Couples Therapy with Nikki and Russel. Part 2
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Today we’re digging into part two and childhood wounds, with our second couple in our COUPLES THERAPY PODCAST…Nikki and Russel. They are a young couple who are feeling disconnected emotionally, spiritually, and physically.
Today we’re digging into some of the things from their past that are making their way into their present.
Because our childhood wounds end up coming back up in our grown-up relationships if we don’t take the time to heal.
Today we’re going on a journey to their childhoods, and helping them see how they are acting out on some of those roles even today as adults in their marriage. It’s a powerful episode, watching them learn, and connect, and have empathy for one another in a way they didn’t before.
We all have childhood wounds that will come up in how we interact in our marriage. I hope you’ll listen and learn from this courageous couple.
Tune in to today’s episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up!
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Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY – iHEART RADIO
Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.
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Feb 14, 2023 • 1h
The Disconnected Marriage. Couples Therapy with Nikki and Russel. Part 1
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I want to introduce you to the second couple in our COUPLES THERAPY PODCAST…Nikki and Russel are a young couple who are feeling disconnected emotionally, spiritually, and physically.
Coming into marriage, they had some different expectations — and hadn’t talked in depth about what to expect. Their false expectations, specifically around sex and marriage, came from the church and purity culture.
When they got into marriage and things didn’t match what they expected – they didn’t know what to do. Their wedding night didn’t go as planned, and they have been truly struggling every since. And so, they’ve avoided intimacy every since — physically, emotionally, and even spiritually. In today’s episode they reveal a big secret they’ve never shared with anyone…and now they are here, trying again, wanting to heal and see if there’s a way to reconnect in their marriage on every level and deal with the big secret.
Tune in to today’s episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up!
FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE
Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY – iHEART RADIO
Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feb 7, 2023 • 1h 9min
My Needs, Your Needs. Couples Therapy with Ben and Mary
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Today we begin the MOST POPULAR series of the podcast — COUPLES THERAPY!!! Over the next four weeks, I’ve invited couples to join me on the podcast for ON-AIR couples therapy sessions, where we pull back the curtain on marriage, and talk through the hard things in order to get to the other side! You will love this series, and you will be inspired by these courageous couples and their stories.
The conversations are raw, real, and authentic…for a look into marriage you’ve never had before.
Today’s couple is Ben and Mary. Between the demands of his job, and the demands of family — this couple finds themselves feeling disconnected and looking for ways to connect again before it’s too late. We talk about barriers to their emotional connection — and it get’s DEEP. I can’t wait for you to hear this incredible and inspiring episode!!!
Tune in to today’s episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast — because we have some great things coming up in 2023 including on-air COUPLES THERAPY which starts next week!!
FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE
Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY – iHEART RADIO
Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.
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