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Ever get hit with a wave of anxiety, sadness, or anger and think, “Cool, but what do I do with this?” This episode is your answer. We’re joined by somatic coach and nervous system expert Béa Victoria Albina, NP, MPH to talk about exactly what to do when big feelings show up (without spiraling, shutting down, or pretending you're fine). We’re talking mini, step-by-step action plans for managing anger, sadness, and anxiety in the moment and how to stay fully present when you’re actually feeling good (because joy can feel scary too). You’ll walk away with grounded, science-backed tools to help you regulate your nervous system and feel fully capable of feeling your damn feels. What to do in the moment when you feel anxious, sad, or angry. Instead of spiraling or shutting down, try these quick, specific tools Béa shares to move through emotions with intention and grace. How to regulate your nervous system when you're overwhelmed. Learn small, science-backed shifts to lean in and ground yourself when emotions hit hard. The connection between the nervous system and your emotions. Béa explains why your body reacts the way it does and how understanding your nervous system can change your relationship with feelings. Why big joy can feel just as overwhelming as big sadness. And what to do so you don’t shut down when things are actually good. How to stop gaslighting yourself when you're having a hard day. We unpack the internalized beliefs that tell us to “suck it up” and offer alternatives that actually support healing. The surprisingly powerful tool of naming what you feel. (Yes, it actually works and here’s how to do it.) How to stop managing emotions with productivity. We explore why many of us cope by “doing more” and how to shift into actually feeling more without falling apart. Scripts for saying what you need without the guilt. Whether you’re with a partner, a therapist, or just trying to validate yourself, here’s how to express what you need clearly and compassionately. PREORDER BÉA'S BOOK HERE! Visit her website HERE! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Who decided being single has to be a pit stop on the way to something better? In this episode, we’re showing you how to make your single era the main event. Think solo date nights, orgasms (duh), reframing everything you thought you knew about singlehood, and building a life so good it turns heads. Being single isn’t a gap, it’s the glow-up. What We Cover in This Episode: Why singlehood isn’t a “pause” in your life, it’s the glow-up. We reframe being single as an expansive, intentional chapter, not something you’re just surviving until your next relationship. How to build a life that turns you on. From friends to creativity to pleasure, we dive into what it means to design a life that lights you up from the inside out.  The real reason timelines make you feel behind (and how to break free). We unpack the fear-based messaging around age, marriage, and milestones and how to stop letting them run your love life. How to date yourself with the same energy you’d give a partner. We walk through what it actually looks like to show up for yourself emotionally, romantically, and sexually. Tips for creating the perfect solo date night (that ends with pleasure, not loneliness). We share our go-to structure for solo dates—including a downloadable guide you can find HERE—to help you feel connected, sexy, and satisfied. Why redefining intimacy is key to thriving in your single era. We explore how to create intimacy through friendships, rituals, and self-connection no partner required. How to stop confusing being alone with being unworthy. We break down the loneliness lie and how to reclaim your worth, confidence, and joy while solo. Resources: Get The Perfect Solo Date Downloadable HERE! Subscribe to our Patreon for other downloadables, extended episodes, video episodes + more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, we’re joined by Nicole Thompson, a sex and relationship psychotherapist and host of the Modern Anarchy Podcast. Nicole brings a trauma-informed, radically compassionate lens to the way we talk about sex, relationships, and desire. Together, we explore how shame holds us back from pleasure and how we can start speaking up, owning what we want, and creating the kinds of connections that feel liberating and real.  What we cover in this episode: How to talk about sex, whether you're in a long-term relationship or a casual hookup. Practical tools for naming your needs without shame, fear, or performance.  Why community is key to sexual confidence. How surrounding yourself with sex-positive people helps normalize your desires. The silent damage of purity culture. How early messages about sex create shame and how to unlearn them. How to overcome shame after a hookup. Reframing “sluttiness” as something powerful, not something to regret. Why self-pleasure is step one to communication. What Nicole recommends for anyone struggling to talk about what they want. To feel big pleasure, you have to feel big feelings. Why crying and cumming might be more connected than you think. How to find the words for what you want. Tips for discovering and articulating your desires, even if you’ve never done it before. Resources + Links Follow Nicole on Instagram: @modernanarchypodcast Listen to the Modern Anarchy Podcast HERE! Get The Psychedelic Jealousy Guide HERE! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This conversation dives into the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, shedding light on how emotional connection impacts arousal. The hosts offer practical strategies for when things don't click right away. They also highlight the importance of open communication with partners about sexual needs, making intimacy less awkward. Listeners learn about the role of foreplay, the significance of lubrication, and even get a taste of audio erotica for spicing things up. It's a candid blend of expert advice and relatable anecdotes.

We sat down with Susanna Brisk, Sexual Intuitive®️ and certified sex educator who's been helping individuals and couples for nearly a decade reignite their sexual spark. We're diving deep into what really happens to sex and intimacy after having kids, exploring how parenthood can reshape desire and sharing practical tools to reclaim your slutty self. We cover: How to reignite sexual connection after having kids – tips for rebuilding desire and intimacy at any stage of parenting Common myths about sex after kids – and why losing your libido doesn’t mean your sex life is over Practical ways to communicate about sex with your partner post-baby – even when you're tired or touched out Understanding mismatched sex drives in long-term relationships – and how to meet in the middle Creating emotional and physical space for intimacy with kids at home – yes, it’s possible (and v necessary) How to explore your erotic blueprint as a parent – and why rediscovering pleasure can be empowering Real strategies for prioritizing intimacy without guilt – even with a toddler banging on the door Why sexual identity shifts after parenthood—and how to embrace that change Tools for reconnecting with your body and desire – especially after childbirth or parenting burnout  Why talking about sex openly can strengthen your relationship post-kids Connect with Susanna: Susanna's Website Susanna's Instagram ✨ FREE DOWNLOADABLE HERE ✨ JOIN OUR PATREON HERE⁠ to access the extended interview and exclusive content. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This discussion dives into the often-taboo topics of intimacy during and after pregnancy. Listeners learn about the mysterious mucus plug and the realities of postpartum body changes, including stretch marks. The conversation normalizes postpartum vaginas and acknowledges the challenges of maintaining intimacy. There's also a valuable pep talk for those facing postpartum struggles, along with advice for partners supporting new parents. Finally, the hosts tackle the societal pressures around motherhood and body image, fostering a healthy dialogue.

In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips, personal experience, and a bunch of research. The Question: "I think my penis might be too big for comfortable penetrative sex with my girlfriend. We’ve had open conversations about it and she’s super reassuring, but I still end up feeling guilty, like my body is somehow making things harder (pun unintended, but also… not wrong). What is actually considered a “normal” penis size? Do women even care about size as much as we’re led to believe? And most importantly—how do we make penetrative sex work for both of us, or what are some other ways we can stay intimate without feeling like we’re missing out?" We're covering: What the research says about "normal" penis size and what partners are looking for Alternatives to PIV sex that you can try Tips for making PIV sex more comfortable (toy, tools, and positions) Are some penises too big for condoms? How to find YOUR condom size BONUS: tips for if you feel like your penis is too "small" for penetrative sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You know when you're in a long term relationship and the sex just gets a little... meh? Maybe it's feeling routine, lacking spice, or just isn't hitting how it used to. That's why we're chatting up Dr. Diane Mueller, a board-certified sexologist with a game plan to get your sex life back on track. We cover: The science behind why passion ebbs and flows over the course of a long term relationship What a truly PASSIONATE relationship can look like Tips for flirting with your partner Action steps for rekindling the passion in your relationship The importance of NOVELTY and how to build it into your sex life Why you need to be having bougie sex How create a passionate relationship with YOURSELF as a single person Connect with Dr. Diane: On her website Take the libido quiz HERE!  Take the turn ons quiz HERE! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're joined once again by the LOVELY Susan Morgan Taylor, MA a somatic sex therapist and relationship coach, but this time we're diving headfirst into LIBIDO. We cover: What a normal libido looks like & how we define low vs. high libido Common myths and misconceptions about having a low libido How to navigate sex drive differences within a relationship The importance of the 3 N's: Noticing, Naming & Negotiating  Sex acts for when you're low on energy How to bring this conversation to your partner Connect with Susan: On her website On Instagram JOIN OUR PATREON HERE to access exclusive content, the video for this episode and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're revisiting the juiciest lesson on foreplay and initiation with none other than Haylin Belay. Haylin is a sexual health educator, bodyworker, and pleasure witch who is ready to CHANGE YOUR DAMN LIFE.We cover: Expanding your definition of foreplay How to turn yourself ON Understanding the phases of sexual arousal and USING that to your advantage How to feel ENTITLED to your needs How to make communication feel ✨sexy✨ Low-stakes ways to initiate sex How to engage in foreplay ALL DAY Connect with Haylin: On Instagram On her website Subscribe to our Patreon HERE for exclusive content! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices