Fatherhood Field Notes

In this Craft of Fatherhood episode, host Ned Schaut challenges fathers to reflect deeply on a pivotal question: What are you modeling for your kids? Drawing from candid stories and personal struggles, Ned explores how the way we speak about others, show up in marriage, approach work, and set the tone at home creates a lasting picture for our children. He invites listeners to evaluate whether their actions align with the values they hope to pass on and ends with a powerful affirmation about identity and intentional fatherhood. This episode is a call to lead by example—because what we model matters more than what we say.Chapters:00:00:00 - Introduction: Welcome to the Craft of Fatherhood Podcast 00:00:20 - Central Question: What are you modeling for your kids? 00:00:47 - Personal Reflection: Modeling marriage for growing daughters 00:01:21 - Anecdote: How a parental divorce influenced a daughter's view on marriage 00:02:22 - Self-Reflection Point 1: The words you model in your home 00:02:50 - Self-Reflection Point 2: The example you set in your marriage 00:03:12 - Self-Reflection Point 3: How you model work and approachability 00:03:51 - Self-Reflection Point 4: The values you model in your home environment 00:04:11 - A challenge: How would your kids describe what you value? 00:04:50 - Affirmation Prompt: Who do you say that you are? 00:05:10 - A Father's Affirmation: I am here to listen, provide, protect, and care Links and Resources:Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this heartfelt conversation, host Ned Schaut sits down with Gary Stache— a husband, father of five, grandfather of seven, and Vice Chairman with CBRE Capital Markets, Investment Properties — to explore what it really means to love unconditionally as a dad. Gary shares raw stories of raising a blended family, guiding kids through rebellion, and embracing both tough love and tender moments. With wisdom from 40 years in business and 30 years of parenting, Gary reveals why he never plans to retire, how faith shaped his role as a father, and why being present matters more than perfection. Most importantly, he reflects on raising his children with values and ensuring those values are passed down as the true legacy. His insights on marriage, mentorship, and modeling love will encourage every dad to embrace the messy adventure of fatherhood.Chapters:00:00:00 - Welcome to the Fatherhood Field Notes Podcast00:01:34 - Meet Gary00:02:10 - Family background and children00:02:46 - Career at CBRE and choosing not to retire00:04:47 - The father’s role: loving unconditionally00:04:58 - Story: a cherished memory with his young daughter in a special dress00:05:53 - Becoming a stepfather and raising a blended family00:07:10 - Story: disciplining a stepson by removing his bedroom door00:09:35 - Tip for fathers: praying before disciplining children00:11:16 - Leading with love: beginning every hard talk with “I love you”00:11:53 - Overcoming the past: growing up without hearing “I love you”00:12:22 - Story: a teenage son showing affection00:14:17 - A blended family’s honor: stepdaughter naming her child after him00:15:06 - Building unity: inviting his wife’s ex-husband to family gatherings00:19:32 - Balancing discipline with fun and engagement00:20:05 - A united decision: asking the kids for permission to propose00:20:40 - Lessons from his father: valuing the outdoors and family first00:22:17 - A moment of healing: asking his father to say “I love you”00:23:40 - Advice for single men: letting God define your future wife00:27:21 - Loving adult children: allowing them to learn their own lessons00:29:21 - Rebelling against distraction: turning off the phone and avoiding social media00:32:43 - Continuing family valuesGuest Link:Gary Stache on LinkedInGary Stache – CBRE ProfileLinks and Resources:Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this episode of Fatherhood Field Notes: The Craft of Fatherhood, host Ned Schaut gets real about the tension between being a “fun dad” and a responsible parent. Reflecting on moments with his teens and college-aged kids, Ned shares how easy it is to say yes to dirt bikes, hangouts, and late-night drives—but how crucial it is to also enforce accountability, chores, and responsibility. Through candid stories about family dinners, devotions, and even shutting down screen time, he explores how fatherhood shifts with each season—from raising young kids to guiding adult children—and why dads must lead their homes with love, calm firmness, and consistency. At the heart of the conversation is learning when to hold the line and when to step back—when to enforce discipline and when to show mercy. Ned opens up about moments where he intentionally stayed quiet, choosing relationship over reaction, and how that practice can change the way kids respond. With practical tips, raw honesty, and affirmations like “I am the CEO of this house” and “I will not surrender my responsibility to lead this home,” this short but powerful episode challenges fathers to ask: Do I need to say yes more, no more—or show mercy more often? Chapters: 00:00:00 – Welcome to Fatherhood Field Notes00:01:32 – “Good Dad, Shitty Parent”00:03:52 – Balancing fun dad vs. structured parent00:06:27 – Tip 1: Present a united front; don’t say “because mom wants it”00:07:14 – Tip 2: Know when to stay silent00:08:00 – Tip 3: Enforce consequences (screen time off for missed devotions)00:08:51 – Tip 4: Balance saying yes and no00:09:54 – Parenting beyond 18—shift into advisor role00:12:15 – Affirmation 1: “I am the CEO of this house”00:13:49 – Affirmation 2: “I will not surrender my responsibility to lead”Links and Resources:Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this heartfelt episode of Fatherhood Field Notes, host Ned Schaut sits down with Daniel Lehmann — pastor, father of four, and leader at Living Stones Church — to unpack what it really means to raise kids with stability, authenticity, and truth. From defining the role of the father as one who “trains kids in the way of the Lord” to navigating teenage years with firmness and love, Daniel shares candid stories from 25 years of marriage and parenting. Together, Ned and Daniel discuss when to extend mercy, when to stand firm, and why your home should never be a place of performance. Daniel also opens up about a traumatic brain injury and how embracing weakness has reshaped his view of fatherhood, faith, and family. This episode will leave you encouraged, challenged, and equipped with real tools for leading your home with love, integrity, and courage.Chapters:00:00:00 - Welcome to the Fatherhood Field Notes Podcast00:01:34 - Meet Daniel Lehmann00:02:40 - Daniel's Family Snapshot00:03:33 - Parenting Grown Children00:05:46 - Defining the Father's Role00:06:50 - How to Pass on Faith00:10:01 - Authenticity Over Performance00:11:45 - Three Pillars of Training Kids in the Lord00:18:20 - The Cell Phone Struggle00:20:30 - Learning from His Own Father00:22:25 - Connecting with Each Child Uniquely00:24:48 - Pivoting from Career to Family00:28:10 - Grace, Mercy, and Fatherhood00:29:45 - A Story of Misplaced Mercy00:34:00 - The Principle of Mercy vs. Enabling00:38:35 - A Life-Changing Health Scare00:40:55 - Embracing the Power of Weakness00:43:50 - Motivation Through Adversity00:46:40 - The Secret to 25 Years of Marriage00:48:40 - A Blessing for FathersGuest Link:Daniel Lehmann on InstagramLinks and Resources:Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this powerful and heartfelt conversation, entrepreneur and father Mike McCarthy returns to Fatherhood Field Notes to explore the deeper mission of raising strong, capable young adults. Drawing from his lived experience as a second-generation entrepreneur and co-founder of GoBundance, Mike shares why passing down more than just financial wealth matters. He dives into the importance of instilling core values, cultivating strong moral character, and transferring all forms of capital—intellectual, relational, spiritual, and cultural—across generations. You’ll hear why he believes in giving kids “flint and kindling, not the fire,” and how intentional family rhythms, estate planning, and meaningful connection prepare children to earn their legacy rather than inherit it by default. With raw insight into parenting teens, nurturing family culture, and building trust through connection over correction, this episode is a must-listen for any father committed to long-term impact and generational success.Guest Link:WebsiteLinkedInGoBundanceLinks and Resources:Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

Former NFL player turned real estate developer and advocate, Corey Parchman, sits down with Ned to share his deeply personal journey through loss, perseverance, and purpose. From building the first all-boys preschool in America to writing The IVF Playbook for Men, Corey opens up about the challenges of navigating infertility, the lessons of “no free lunch” learned from childhood, and the importance of filling the gaps as the CEO of your family. With raw honesty and unwavering faith, Corey offers fathers practical wisdom on raising boys to be men of character, leading with presence, and creating a legacy that reaches far beyond the field.Guest Links:LinkedInInstagramIVF Playbook for MenBook – The IVF Playbook for Men: Available on AmazonLinks and Resources:Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

As summer winds down, Ned invites fathers to take ownership of this pivotal moment — the start of a new school year. In this short, impactful solo episode of Craft of Fatherhood, Ned breaks down how this seasonal transition offers a unique opportunity for leadership in the home. Whether it’s adjusting bedtime, introducing morning devotions, or revising the family chore chart, this is your moment to lead with intention, structure, and love.You’ll hear how Ned and Sarah are sitting down one-on-one with each of their kids, helping them shape the year ahead — a practical example any dad can implement. Tune in for a motivating reminder that being proactive now sets the tone for deeper connection, stronger habits, and a smoother ride for the whole family.Links and Resources:----------Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this heartfelt episode of Fatherhood Field Notes, Ned sits down with Jaz Yglesias—a passionate music teacher, jiu-jitsu coach, and lifelong contributor to his family and community. Jaz opens up about raising a blended family, grieving the loss of his daughter, and how martial arts isn’t just self-defense—it’s soul development. From his belief in honoring seven generations to his insistence on work ethic, contribution, and love over comfort, Jaz brings the fire and wisdom today’s dads need. This conversation is a call to action for fathers: be passionate, stay youthful, lead by example, and prepare your kids not just for today—but for a legacy worth inheriting.Guest Links:InstagramShoot Hawai’i DojoLinks and Resources:Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

Ned gets raw and real about something every father needs to hear—the fleeting number of summers we get with our kids. With one child in college and others growing up fast, Ned shares the emotional shift that happens as your family dynamic changes.He reminds us that while the to-do list will never be done, the moments we have left with our children are limited—and precious. This episode is a wake-up call to slow down, be present, and fully embrace the fatherhood role now. Whether your kids are toddlers or teenagers, this message will hit home.Links and Resources:----------Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this deeply candid conversation, FloWater CEO and visionary entrepreneur Raz Razgaitis sits down with Ned Schaut to explore how fatherhood—not business—became his greatest teacher. From scaling tech companies to navigating divorce, Raz shares how his definition of success radically shifted when he chose presence over performance and connection over control. With heartfelt honesty, he unpacks the painful lessons and powerful breakthroughs that emerged through co-parenting, bedtime routines, and letting go of ego. Listeners will walk away with a renewed vision of fatherhood as leadership, and insight into how prioritizing love, integrity, and emotional presence can transform not just your home—but your legacy.Guest Links:Website (FloWater)LinkedInRead: Clean Water is Awesome. No, Really! Links and Resources:Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate