The Addicted Mind Podcast

Are you making changes but feeling stuck in your recovery journey? It could be because you're focusing on first-order changes. These are the surface-level adjustments we make – quitting a substance, changing routines – but they don't address the root of the problem.That's where second-order change comes in. This is about digging deeper into your anxieties, past traumas, and the underlying beliefs that drive addictive behaviors. It's a transformation, not just a tweak.Think of it like this: first-order change is running on a treadmill – you're moving, but not getting anywhere. Second-order change is taking the exit ramp and finding a new path.  Second-order change is the key to lasting recovery. So how do you get there? This episode breaks it down and helps you figure out where you might need extra support along the way.  Download: FIRST-ORDER CHANGE VS. SECOND-ORDER CHANGEKey Topics What first-order change is and why it's important early on Second-order change and how it leads to lasting recovery Examples of each type of change How to start that deeper, second-order work The value of therapy or coaching for this transformation Key Moments [00:01:00] – The treadmill trap: Why some changes feel pointless [00:03:00] – Beyond willpower: What if just stopping isn't enough? [00:05:00] – Real-world examples to help you identify your type of change [00:08:00] – When is enough, enough? How to recognize you need deeper work [00:10:00] – The scary (but worthwhile) path to second-order change [00:14:00] – "I can see it in them": Signs you've done the deeper work [00:17:00] – Your action plan: Next steps for leveling up your recovery Follow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery CenterNovusMindfulLife.comWe want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmindDisclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When healing takes center stage, hope is never far behind. Dr. Mark Lasko joins Duane as they step into the conversation space with a heart full of empathy and a wealth of knowledge on the intricate dance of addiction treatment and recovery. Mark’s journey, touched by the struggles of addiction within his own family, has fueled a passion that's evident as we navigate the subject of client-focused care. Mark's insights, derived from his hands-on experience in the criminal justice system, bring to light the deep-seated connection between addiction, family dynamics, and societal impact. He candidly shares how nurturing one person's path to wellness can send waves of healing throughout entire communities – reshaping not only individual lives but the societal fabric as a whole.In our conversation, we explore the Samaritan Recovery Community's mission, where personal connection and community engagement are the cornerstones of healing. Mark and Duane discuss the importance of creating environments that foster long-term recovery, emphasizing the role of alumni networks and monthly client gatherings. These touchpoints form the heart of a compassionate community-based approach, demonstrating that the path to sobriety is about so much more than abstaining – but about finding one's place in the world and forming meaningful relationships.In this episode, you will hear: Client-focused care in addiction treatment Compassionate community-based recovery approach Building compassionate communities in recovery Providing evidence-based care in therapy Barriers to success for homeless individuals  Follow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:Samaritan Recovery Community: https://samctr.org/NovusMindfulLife.comEpisode CreditsIf you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Join hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind as they explore the profound impact of internal dialogue on recovery and mental wellness in this insightful episode of the Addicted Mind Plus. Discover how the words we tell ourselves can either hinder or help our journey toward healing. Learn practical tips on reshaping self-talk to foster resilience, overcome addiction, and enhance overall well-being. Whether you're looking to break free from negative thought patterns or simply seeking a mental boost, this episode offers valuable insights into the power of language in shaping our lives. Tune in to empower your path to wellness, one word at a time.Key Topics: The significant role of internal dialogue in recovery Differences between thoughts and internal monologues How changing language can alter emotional responses Common myths about self-talk and how to overcome them Practical tips for reshaping narrative to support mental health Key Moments: [00:01:00] Introduction to the power of language in recovery [00:02:01] Discussion on internal monologues vs. abstract thoughts [00:04:00] The influence of internal dialogue on emotional regulation [00:06:00] Examples of how self-talk can reshape personal narratives [00:09:00] Addressing myths and misunderstandings about self-talk [00:12:00] Strategies for changing internal narratives effectively [00:16:00] Closing thoughts and resources for further learning Follow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery CenterNovusMindfulLife.comWe want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmindDisclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this exciting episode of Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into the fascinating world of the Johari Window, a powerful tool for enhancing self-awareness and understanding in relationships. They explore how this simple yet profound model can illuminate the various aspects of ourselves—what we know, what we don't know, and what others see in us. From discussing how to navigate personal blind spots to the significance of revealing hidden strengths, this episode is packed with insights on improving communication, recovery, and personal growth. Whether you're on a quest for self-discovery or aiming to deepen your connections with others, this episode offers valuable strategies to expand your open area, embracing both the visible and hidden parts of your identity.Download: The Johari Window WorksheetKey Topics: The basics and importance of the Johari Window in self-awareness. Strategies for exploring and expanding the open area of the Johari Window. The role of recovery communities in identifying and addressing blind spots. The impact of self-awareness on personal growth and recovery. How to safely navigate the hidden and unknown areas of ourselves. Key Moments: - [00:00:00] Introduction to the episode and significance of the Johari Window. - [00:01:34] Explanation of how self-awareness affects decision-making and relationships. - [00:02:46] The Johari Window as a tool for recovery and growth. - [00:03:46] Detailed breakdown of each quadrant in the Johari Window. - [00:07:29] Discussing the hidden area and its impact on personal and relational dynamics. - [00:11:03] Exploration of the unknown quadrant and its mysteries. - [00:14:06] Conclusion and resources for applying the Johari Window to one's life. Follow and Review:If you haven’t yet, we’d love for you to follow us. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review,” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second, and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy, please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery CenterNovusMindfulLife.comWe want to hear from you. Please leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmindDisclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Join us as Emmy award-winning writer and director Topaz Adizes unveils the art of creating deep, human connections through conversation. In this discussion, Duane sits down with Topaz who shares his journey with the documentary series {The And} – revealing how authentic dialogues between various pairs, from family members to romantic partners, can transform our understanding of communication. By spotlighting the powerful effect of listening and the role of the listener, we're invited to explore how true connection can serve as an antidote to addiction, providing methods to cultivate meaningful relationships even in the face of past trauma. Listen in as we further discuss the changing landscape of human connections in our tech-driven era, contemplating whether the emotional experiences of love and connection have shifted with the rise of digital communication. From documenting intimate conversations with couples to the implications of technology on relationships without physical proximity, this episode offers insights into using technology to strengthen bonds. Plus, we examine the importance of process over solutions in couples therapy, highlighting the significance of couples engaging directly with each other to foster a neurobiological need for connection. Tune in for an enlightening conversation with Topaz that could change how you approach communication and connection in your life.In this episode, you will hear: Deep human connection through conversation The evolution of human connection Couples therapy through connection practice Follow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:https://www.topazadizes.com/ NovusMindfulLife.comEpisode CreditsIf you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com. Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to an eye-opening episode that could change how you face life's big moments. Today, we're exploring the idea that when you hit a tough spot, you actually only have four choices. Sounds simple, right? But it's a game-changer. Imagine feeling stuck, like you're at a crossroads with no clear direction. It happens to all of us. We overthink, get overwhelmed, and just feel more and more stuck. But what if you could see your options clearly and make a choice that really fits? We dive into solving the problem, changing how you see the problem, accepting what's happening, or, yes, even choosing to stay stuck for a bit. These options can lighten the load of decision-making, giving you a clear path forward. It's not just about the tough times; it's about knowing you have the power to choose your next step. So, ready to see what those four choices are and how they can help you? Let's get into it!Download the worksheet: THE FOUR CHOICES CHEAT SHEET: NAVIGATING LIFE'S CHALLENGESKey Topics:- The concept of having only four choices in problematic situations- Strategies for effective decision-making and problem-solving- The importance of changing perception and acceptance- The role of self-compassion in choosing to stay miserable- Practical tools and frameworks for applying these concepts in real lifeList of Key Moments:- [00:01:25] Introduction to the four choices concept- [00:03:24] Discussion on decision paralysis and overcoming challenges- [00:04:18] Deep dive into solving the problem- [00:07:09] Changing our perception of the problem- [00:09:06] The difficult choice of acceptance- [00:11:09] Exploring the choice to stay miserable- [00:13:57] Summarization and resources for listenersDownload the worksheet: THE FOUR CHOICES CHEAT SHEET: NAVIGATING LIFE'S CHALLENGESAdditional TAM+ episodes that support this episode.Episode 6 : Unstuck Your Thoughts: 7 Cognitive Distortions Sabotaging Your RecoveryEpisode 9: Embrace the Now: How Radically Accepting Reality Can Transform Your LifeSupporting Resources:If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery CenterNovusMindfulLife.comWe want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmindDisclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Struggling with love and sex addiction can feel like an isolating battle, but this recent conversation with Lacy Bentley and Heather Cronemiller casts a ray of hope on this often-shadowed topic. Lacy, a relationship and recovery coach, and Heather, a seasoned therapist, join Duane to shed light on their personal journeys and their book, "Going Deeper for Women: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Love and Sex Addiction." Their stories are a testament to the power of understanding the inner child in forging a path to recovery. By intertwining their professional insights with the raw reality of their experiences, they offer listeners an intimate look at overcoming addictive behaviors in relationships. Attachment wounds can create a labyrinth of confusion in our adult lives, often surfacing unexpectedly in the therapeutic setting as erotic transference. Lacy and Heather guide us through understanding attachment styles – secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized – and their influence on our relationships. This discussion navigates the delicate terrain of arousal, the misinterpretation of kindness, and the critical role of a therapist's boundaries. It's an exploration of the human craving for connection juxtaposed with the fear of intimacy, offering a compass for those seeking to understand the complicated dance of closeness and retreat.In this episode, you will hear: Exploring inner child impacts on addiction Love and sex addiction gender differences Understanding attachment in therapy Understanding the Inner Child Model Systemic disempowerment in gender and culture  Follow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:Going Deeper for Women: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Love and Sex Addiction: https://www.amazon.com/Going-Deeper-Women-Impacts-Addiction/dp/B0CQB42TR1 NovusMindfulLife.comEpisode CreditsIf you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode of "The Addicted Mind Plus," hosts Duane and Eric Osterlund dive into the power of a curious mindset in recovery and emotional stability. They explore how curiosity can shift our nervous system from fight-or-flight to rest-and-digest, leading to less stress and more emotional resilience. The discussion covers the simple yet profound ways asking questions about ourselves and the world can open up new possibilities and foster a fulfilling life. By embracing curiosity, we can improve memory, creativity, and even our ability to age well, while developing the grit necessary for recovery. Whether you're struggling with recovery or seeking a more satisfying life, this episode offers actionable insights and encouragement to start asking more questions and embracing the unknown.Get The Online Course: The Curiosity Blueprint for Addiction Recovery: How to Harness Your Curiosity and Achieve Emotional Stability in 5 Easy Stepshttps://addictedmind.mysamcart.com/checkout/the-curiosity-blueprint?coupon=tam11Key Topics:- The role of curiosity in shifting the nervous system toward wellness- How curiosity can lead to less stress and more emotional resilience- The relationship between a curious mindset, grit, and successful recovery- Overcoming myths and challenges in cultivating curiosity- Practical steps to foster curiosity for improved mental health and recoveryKey Moments:- [00:00] Introduction to the episode's focus on curiosity in recovery- [02:04] Explanation of curiosity and its impact on the nervous system- [04:24] The benefits of curiosity for emotional and mental wellness- [07:37] The association between curiosity, grit, and recovery success- [09:43] Overcoming challenges and embracing emotional vulnerability through curiosity- [11:55] Debunking myths about curiosity and its importance- [14:30] Closing thoughts and resources for further explorationGet The Online Course: The Curiosity Blueprint for Addiction Recovery: How to Harness Your Curiosity and Achieve Emotional Stability in 5 Easy StepsFollow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery CenterNovusMindfulLife.comWe want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmindDisclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Our guest on this episode of the Addicted Mind podcast is Maureen Cavanagh, author and founder of Magnolia New Beginnings. Maureen’s family had a long history of addiction, but since she was not personally prone to addiction, she thought that she knew the formula to help keep her kids away from addiction as well. However, her world was suddenly shaken when one of her daughters came to her to admit that she had been experimenting with heroin.Even living in an upper middle-class neighborhood, opioids were not difficult for her daughter to find, and once she tried heroin for the first time, the road to sobriety and recovery proved to be steep. Just when Maureen thought her daughter had a handle on her addiction, it would rear its ugly head again and she would see just how much of a hold it had on her precious child, who was now an adult. Maureen did what she believed any good parent would do: she dropped everything and rushed to her daughter’s aid, providing her with whatever she needed and paying for her to get into a treatment center again.She found out that her daughter had a “friend” who was providing her with the drugs, protecting her from her family when they came looking for her, and reviving her if and when she overdosed. Even with this barrier between them, Maureen knows of 13 times when her daughter was admitted to the hospital after an overdose and at least 40 separate stints at treatment centers before something finally clicked. Maureen realized that she was on her own journey during this time which was intended to be separate from her daughter’s journey. The more Maureen tried to hold on and help her daughter get out of whatever situation she was in at the time, the farther away her daughter seemed to drift. However, when Maureen was able to let go and provide her daughter with some space, not jumping to her rescue but rather empowering her daughter to rescue herself, that was the moment when her daughter started getting better. Somewhere after treatment center #40, the rehab took, and for the past 2 years her daughter has been sober with the help of her family, her therapist, her recovery coach, and her community. Maureen went against her instinct to keep family business private when she was approached by a publishing agent about sharing her story, and the hundreds of people who have messaged her since the book came out are proof that the world needed to hear the honest truth about what it is like to be the parent of an addict. In addition to her book, Maureen provides resources and support groups through her non-profit, Magnolia New Beginnings, which is impacting tens of thousands of people.Connect with Maureen:https://maureencavanagh.net/http://www.magnolianewbeginnings.org/https://www.facebook.com/groups/MagnoliaAddictionSupport/https://www.facebook.com/MagnoliaNewBeginnings https://www.amazon.com/If-You-Love-Daughters-Addiction/dp/1250297346 Connect with The Addicted Mind:http://theaddictedmind.com/https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheAddictedMindPodcast/ Supporting Resources:NovusMindfulLife.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today's episode dives into the essential topics of goal setting and habit formation, especially focusing on how they can help break the cycle of addiction, anxiety, and depression. Duane Osterlind and Eric Osterlind guide us through understanding the critical role of setting realistic goals and forming positive habits to steer our lives in the direction we desire. They highlight the importance of reflection in goal setting, using SMART goals as a tool for clarity and action. Moreover, they discuss the difference between goals and habits and how they interplay to create lasting change. By sharing personal experiences and practical advice, the hosts emphasize the power of small steps and the learning opportunities in setbacks. This episode is a treasure trove of insights for anyone looking to transform their life and achieve their dreams.Free Download: Stop Feeling Stuck: The Power of Goals and Habit Formation WorksheetKey Topics: The importance of goal setting and habit formation in overcoming addiction and improving mental health. Reflection and the role of SMART goals in making goals clear and achievable. The difference between goals (where you want to go) and habits (the automatic behaviors that get you there). Strategies for setting effective goals and forming positive habits. Embracing setbacks as opportunities for growth and the power of sharing goals with supportive communities. Timestamps [00:00:00] Introduction to goal setting and habit formation. [00:02:00] The connection between lack of direction and the cycle of addiction. [00:04:07] Discussion on the power of habits and their automatic nature. [00:07:00] Explaining SMART goals and their benefits. [00:09:34] Distinguishing between goals and habits. [00:14:09] The significance of setbacks and learning from failures. [00:17:43] Summary and closing thoughts. Free Download: Stop Feeling Stuck: The Power of Goals and Habit Formation WorksheetFollow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery CenterNovusMindfulLife.comWe want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmindDisclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.