The Addicted Mind Podcast

Duane Osterlind, LMFT
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May 23, 2024 • 17min

TAM+ Episode 20: From Denial to Acceptance: The Emotional Journey of Addiction Recovery

In this episode of The Addicted Mind, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind explore the profound connection between grief and addiction recovery. Using Elizabeth Kübler-Ross' five stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—they discuss how these stages apply to the emotional process of giving up an addiction. Many people don't realize that overcoming addiction involves grieving the loss of the substance that has been a significant part of their lives. By understanding and embracing these stages, individuals can move more effectively through their recovery journey. Tune in to learn how recognizing and processing grief can lead to a deeper sense of acceptance and a more fulfilling life in recovery.Download here “NAVIGATING GRIEF AND LOSS IN RECOVERY”Join us and register for our Q&A Deep Dive session here.Key Topics The five stages of grief and their application to addiction recovery The hidden grief of giving up addiction Emotional challenges and identity loss in recovery The non-linear nature of the grief process Tools and support for navigating grief in recovery Key Moments1. [00:01:00] Introduction to the topic of grief in recovery2. [00:02:00] Discussion on the grief of giving up an addiction3. [00:04:00] Explanation of the five stages of grief4. [00:06:30] Deep dive into the anger stage and its impact5. [00:09:00] Exploring the depression stage and identity loss6. [00:11:30] Moving towards acceptance and its significance in recovery7. [00:14:10] Announcement of the worksheet and deeper dive sessionFollow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery CenterNovusMindfulLife.comWe want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmindDisclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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May 20, 2024 • 49min

284: Beyond the Game: Dominique Easley's Journey from NFL Stardom to Personal Enlightenment

When the cheering crowds and the stadium lights fade, what remains for a former NFL superstar? Dominique Easley’s meteoric rise to football fame was rivaled only by the depth of his personal struggles. From Staten Island to the heights of Super Bowl victory, Dominique's narrative is a stark reminder of the thin line between professional success and personal turmoil. On this episode, Duane speaks with Dominique who shares his powerful journey through addiction, mental health battles, and a profound spiritual awakening. This episode offers an unflinching look at the burdens of public perception, as Dominique candidly discusses the significance of embracing vulnerability and the transformative impact of spirituality on his life. His conversion to Islam during his NFL career marked the beginning of an intensive internal quest that challenged him to confront intergenerational trauma and seek healing. Dominique's willingness to share his story opens up a much-needed dialogue on mental health awareness, especially within the black community – emphasizing empathy and honest communication as pathways to understanding and resilience. Dominique also delves into the complexities of navigating racism in America, reflecting on his transition from the diversity of New York to the overt bigotry he encountered in the South. His experiences, shared with raw authenticity, not only chart a path of personal growth but also offer valuable insights for listeners grappling with similar issues, underscoring the importance of treating others with thoughtful consideration and respect.In this episode, you will hear: Struggles with mental health and addiction Transformation through football passion Struggle with success and isolation Breaking the cycle of generational trauma Impacts of systemic racism on individuals Follow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:https://www.instagram.com/easie91 NovusMindfulLife.comEpisode CreditsIf you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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May 16, 2024 • 19min

TAM+ EP 19: From Chaos to Clarity: Creating Your Circle Plan for Lasting Sobriety

In this episode of “The Addictive Mind Plus,” hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into the transformative power of the Three Circle Plan, a vital tool for those battling both substance and behavioral addictions. They discuss the importance of defining sobriety, identifying risky behaviors, and incorporating positive activities into daily life. By creating a clear and personalized plan, listeners can navigate their recovery journey with greater clarity and confidence. The episode also highlights the launch of a new course designed to help individuals create their own Three Circle Plan, providing step-by-step guidance and support.Get the Course -> Circles of Sobriety: Mastering Your Recovery With the Complete Circle PlanKey Topics Understanding the Three Circle Plan for Addiction Recovery Defining sobriety with the inner circle (red zone) Recognizing warning signs in the middle circle (yellow zone) Incorporating positive behaviors in the outer circle (green zone) Adding a relational component with the fourth circle (blue zone) Timestamp [00:01:00] Introduction to the Three Circle Plan [00:03:00] Defining sobriety with the inner circle [00:07:26] Recognizing warning signs with the middle circle [00:10:04] Incorporating positive behaviors with the outer circle [00:13:58] Importance of writing down your plan [00:15:08] Introducing the fourth circle for relational impact [00:16:46] Details about the new course on creating a circle plan Follow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery CenterNovusMindfulLife.comWe want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmindDisclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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May 13, 2024 • 37min

283: Embracing Personal Truths Amidst the Struggles of LGBTQ Sex Addiction with Brandon Simpson

How does one confront the silent battles of sex addiction within the LGBTQ community? Brandon Simpson, an associate marriage and family therapist from Novus Mindful Life Institute, joins this conversation to unravel this complex issue, sharing not just professional insights but personal experiences as a gay man. Together, Duane and Brandon shed light on the intersection of intimacy and identity, especially the uphill struggle against a heteronormative bias in therapy that too often overlooks the nuances in gay relationships. Get a glimpse of the shadows where shame and sexuality intertwine, offering a beacon of understanding for those navigating these often-misunderstood waters. The weight of homophobia on the shoulders of gay men can be crushing, driving many towards sex as a coping mechanism and, potentially, into the throes of addiction. This candid discussion with Brandon uncovers the layers of this reality, diving into the internalized homophobia and the consequent shame that propels an individual into the depths of secrecy. They also tackle the daunting world of dating apps like Grindr, dissecting their role in the complex search for meaningful connections amidst a culture saturated with sexual expectations – a conversation that's as revealing as it is necessary for anyone yearning to grasp the full picture.This episode is not just an examination of the challenges faced by the gay community, but it also celebrates the courage it takes to set boundaries and the transformation that comes with self-discovery. By sharing stories of resilience and change, this episode underscores the importance of supportive networks and the quest for alignment with personal values. It's a conversation that doesn't just affirm the experiences of individuals within the LGBTQ spectrum but also champions the journey towards a more authentic and fulfilling life. Join today’s discussion to affirm the beauty of personal truth – in a world still learning to embrace the full spectrum of human connection.In this episode, you will hear: Challenging heteronormative standards in sex ed Internalized homophobia in the LGBTQ community Navigating stereotypes in gay therapy Navigating pressure in LGBTQ community Navigating friend group boundaries Follow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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May 9, 2024 • 17min

TAM+ EP 18 From Values to Action: Unlocking Meaning in Every Moment

In this engaging episode of "The Addictive Mind Plus," hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind explore the transformative concept of meaning-making. Following up on their previous discussion about values, this episode dives deeper into how understanding and aligning with our deepest values can energize our life's journey. The hosts discuss practical strategies from dialectical behavior therapy and insights from Thomas Marra to illustrate how individuals can reshape their lives around what truly matters. Whether you're battling addictions, anxiety, or just seeking deeper fulfillment, this episode offers valuable insights into overcoming life's psychological hurdles through intentional living.Download: THE CREATING MEANING MAKING WORKSHEETKey Topics Integration of Values and Meaning: How values serve as a compass and meaning provides the momentum. Role of Meaning in Mental Health: Exploring its impact on recovery, anxiety, and depression. Strategies for Meaning Making: Practical approaches to integrate meaningful actions into daily life. Challenges to Meaning Making: Common obstacles like fear and disapproval, and how to navigate them. Empowerment through Meaning: Using meaning making to lead a more intentional and satisfying life. Timestamps [00:01:00] Introduction to Meaning Making [00:02:00] How Meaning and Values Interact [00:05:00] Meaning in Relation to Mental Health (Addiction and Depression) [00:08:00] Practical Strategies for Applying Meaning [00:10:00] Discussing Supreme Concerns and Everyday Integration [00:13:00] Overcoming Obstacles in Meaning Making [00:15:00] Conclusion and Resources Follow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery CenterNovusMindfulLife.comWe want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmindDisclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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May 6, 2024 • 44min

282: Jesse Carrajat's Path to Wellness: From Marine to Fitness Mentor

Struggles with alcohol and depression are narratives many may find familiar, but not everyone's story is a journey through the eye of the storm to a place of hope and healing. USMC veteran Jesse Carrajat, our esteemed guest, brings to light his transformation from a high-flying corporate executive to a beacon of wellness through his ventures, Altum Fitness and the Live Deep podcast. His candid conversation unveils the hidden battles against addiction and mental health challenges that he, like many, has faced, and the pivotal moments of clarity that steered him towards sobriety and a profound dedication to helping others. Amidst the sweat and tears of rebuilding a life marred by trauma, Jesse's tale is one of reclamation, of a spirit once dulled by the weight of responsibility and the grip of substance dependency. He shares the intricacies of navigating life's roles – be it as a husband, father, or business leader – while locked in a duel with personal demons. His commitment to turning the tide, leaving behind a lucrative career to foster a community-focused approach to recovery, resonates as a testament to the power of faith and the unwavering resolve to pursue well-being.As we unpack the science behind Jesse's fitness protocols and his philosophy on life, we reveal the transformative power of combining physical health with emotional support. Hear how Jesse's passion for fitness and his commitment to building a strong, supportive community are key to his recovery strategy, offering a beacon of hope for those navigating the complexities of addiction and mental health challenges.In this episode, you will hear: Jesse's journey from serving in the Marine Corps to becoming a fitness mentor Struggle with addiction and how he found sobriety The role of fitness in his life transformation and recovery process A unique approach to wellness, combining military experience with fitness knowledge Applying lessons and discipline learned from the Marine Corps to personal life Redefining life and wellness through the lens of sobriety and fitness Follow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:www.altumfitness.comNovusMindfulLife.comEpisode CreditsIf you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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May 2, 2024 • 15min

TAM+ EP 17 Harmonizing Life: The Art of Caring About What Truly Matters

Join hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind in this enlightening episode of "The Addicted Mind Plus," where they explore the vital role of values in achieving a harmonious and fulfilling life. Understanding and defining your values is likened to setting a rudder on your life's boat, guiding you through the storms of stress, guilt, and dissatisfaction that come from living out of alignment with your true self. The conversation dives deep into how values serve as a North Star, aiding those in recovery or anyone seeking stability to make intentional, value-driven choices rather than reactive ones. This episode is essential for anyone feeling stuck or purposeless, offering practical advice on defining and realigning with what's truly important.Download the worksheet: Building a Life & Recovery Guided by Your Values WorksheetKey Topics- The importance of knowing and aligning with your personal values- How values act as a guiding light in life, preventing feelings of meaninglessness- The dynamic nature of values and the need to reassess them over time- Common pitfalls when values are unclear or unexamined- Practical steps for identifying and living according to your valuesKey Moments- [00:01:00] Introduction to the importance of values in life- [00:02:00] Discussion on how misaligned values can lead to life dissatisfaction- [00:04:00] The benefits of living a value-driven life in recovery- [00:06:00] How emotional reactions can derail us from our value system- [00:09:00] Strategies for defining and aligning with personal values- [00:11:00] The impact of values on decision-making in various life areas- [00:14:00] Conclusion and resources for further exploration of valuesFollow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery CenterNovusMindfulLife.comWe want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmindDisclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Apr 29, 2024 • 39min

281: Finding Balance and Resilience: The Martial Art of Recovery with Eric Fisher

When life presented an unexpected challenge that shook the foundations of Eric’s world, it was the principles of martial arts that enabled him to regain stability. Duane is delighted to introduce Eric Fisher, a certified counselor and martial artist based in Calgary, AB Canada. In the episode, they delve into how the discipline of martial arts can serve as a formidable ally in combating addiction and as a valuable resource for promoting mental wellness. Eric recounted his transformative journey, illustrating how the balance, discipline, and self-respect he cultivated through martial arts formed the cornerstone of his approach to counseling.Strap on your mental gi as we unpack the metaphorical power of martial arts in grappling with recovery. Eric walks us through the concept of 'thundering uncertainty,' viewing addiction as a formidable opponent and utilizing 'five swords' – affirmations to defend against the battle of addiction. Eric also discusses his application of martial arts in his therapeutic work, where the dojo becomes a training ground not just for physical agility but for emotional resilience. The parallels between sparring and facing the challenges of recovery reveal a narrative of growth that extends well beyond the mats. For those looking to harness self-mastery and mental wellness, this episode is a testament to the profound impact that the warrior's path can have on the road to healing.In this episode, you will hear: Martial arts in addiction treatment Preparing for uncertainty in martial arts Overcoming introversion in martial arts Writing a book on recovery techniques Follow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:https://www.recoveryartscounselling.com/NovusMindfulLife.comEpisode CreditsIf you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Apr 25, 2024 • 19min

TAM+ EP 16: Survival Skills for Sobriety: Creating a Relapse Prevention Plan

In this vital episode of "The Addicted Mind Plus," Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into the critical topic of relapse prevention and planning. They stress the importance of being proactive rather than reactive when it comes to maintaining sobriety. The duo discusses how a well-thought-out relapse plan can significantly reduce the overwhelming feelings of anxiety and defeat that often accompany recovery. They also emphasize that making a plan during moments of clarity and health is essential. By incorporating practical strategies, such as identifying triggers and outlining coping mechanisms, listeners are equipped with tools to navigate challenging situations effectively. This episode is not only a guide but also an encouragement for anyone struggling with addiction to take control and prepare for the future.Download The Relapse Prevention Planning WorksheetKey Topics The critical importance of a relapse prevention plan Identifying and preparing for triggers The role of emotional and situational awareness in relapse Strategies for immediate response to cravings Building a support network as part of the relapse plan Key Moments [00:01:06] Discussion begins on the significance of relapse prevention. [00:02:22] Explaining the high risk of relapse and the best time to prepare. [00:03:15] The proactive benefits of planning are discussed. [00:06:32] The value of a support network in relapse prevention. [00:10:00] Detailed guidance on creating a personal relapse plan. [00:16:48] Conclusion and resources for listeners to create their own plan. Download link for show notes: https://addicted-mind.ck.page/5c8f6968caFollow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery CenterNovusMindfulLife.comWe want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmindDisclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Apr 22, 2024 • 40min

280: Conquering Dependency and Cultivating Vulnerability: Cesar Wurm’s Journey Beyond the Bottle

Discover the transformative journey of overcoming addiction with Cesar Wurm, author of "The Powers of Addiction: Finding Freedom in Acceptance and Recovery." This latest episode delves into Cesar's raw and personal struggle with alcoholism, a battle intensified by the loss of his mother and the pressure of emotional stoicism in his family. The story unfolds as he recounts a relapse marked by deception at a go-karting event, highlighting the depths of his secret life. Yet, it's through embracing acceptance that Cesar charts a course toward healing, underlining the profound impact that sharing such deeply personal experiences can have on both the speaker and the listener. Cesar's narrative isn't just about the clutches of addiction; it's also a testament to the power of support and the hard-won victories along the road to recovery. He talks openly about the skepticism he initially held towards groups like Alcoholics Anonymous and the daunting nature of lifelong sobriety. However, it was a heartfelt conversation with his wife that ignited a crucial turning point, one that would lead him to accept his reality and begin the journey of honest healing. Tune in as he sheds more light on self-pity's dangers, honesty's healing potential, and the transformative effect of acceptance.In this episode, you will hear: The depths of self-deception Recognizing and breaking generational trauma Mutual acceptance and courage in recovery Journey to empathy and recovery Overcoming fear to share stories Follow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:https://cesarwurm.comNovusMindfulLife.comEpisode CreditsIf you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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