Self-Helpless

This week the girls are discussing the highly requested topic from their listeners, "Untamed," by Glennon Doyle. Delanie shares some insights from the book with Kelsey as they reflect on their own social conditioning. Untamed encourages people to question their “training” and go inward to make decisions. It explores misogyny, racism, religious indoctrination, homophobia - all the ways that patriarchy keeps people “tamed.” Kelsey and Delanie also share some personal stories around their own gender conditioning, and things they're doing to strengthen the connection with their "inner knowing."  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The girls are talking performance anxiety - at work, with stage fright, and around sex. They learn about the physical responses we can experience with performance anxiety, offer tips for managing it, and share some personal stories. There are mentions of sweaty hands, nervous poops, and even playing patty cake with a wiener (take your best guess at who did that one). For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, the girls discuss the importance of sleep. They share information about the negative impacts of sleep deprivation on our health, the link between sleep avoidance and workaholism, different ways to regulate sleep, and offer some tips from their own bedtime routines. Plus, the thing that puts Delanie to sleep no matter the time of day, and why Kelsey is currently training herself to sleep on her back! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are joined by emerging Indian-American television writer and former writer of Huffington Post, Nishima Gupta - whose article about her parents’ divorce went viral. Nishima is sharing the moment she found out about her parents’ divorce (3 years after the fact while living under the same roof), why they kept this information from her, and how this has impacted her view on marriage and relationships. We also discuss trauma, Indian representation in the media, and how wildly different divorce can look across families and cultures. Are you an adult child of divorce, or going through one yourself? Tune in! You’re not alone. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are joined by narcissism expert and licensed clinical psychologist, Dr. Ramani Durvasula. Dr. Ramani offers information about the different types of narcissism, signs you might be in a relationship with a narcissist, the cycle of narcissistic abuse, how to safely leave an abusive relationship, the aftermath of leaving, and A LOT more. If you think you might be in a toxic relationship, or you're stuck in perpetual chaos, tune in for more understanding about what you might be experiencing, and practical steps for breaking damaging patterns.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

*Some contents of this interview might be difficult for survivors of abuse. The girls are joined by ex-porn star and internet personality, Jessie Rogers. Jessie shares what she wishes she knew before she got into the adult entertainment industry, misconceptions people have about sex work, what life has been like after leaving the industry, and what she encourages others to consider before becoming an adult film star. Tune in to witness the moment that Kelsey finally gets to meet her doppelgänger! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're joined by host of The Ask Me About My Type 1 Podcast and rider from the documentary, Bike Beyond, Walt Drennan. Walt shares his experience living with Type 1, the events that led to his diagnosis, what biking across the country taught him, issues around the accessibility of insulin, and the life-threatening experience he had recently. We also discuss ableism and what people without disabilities can do to best support people with disabilities.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The hosts discuss, "The Power of Now," by Eckhart Tolle. The book offers guidance on how to be more present in our day-to-day, why observing our thoughts, surroundings, and interactions with a fresh lens is important, and how getting out of our head and tuning in to our body can help us connect with our true nature. Plus, personal experiences about presence, anxiety, and spirituality in their daily lives.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're joined by sex educator and intimacy coach, Jessica Parra-Fitch. We discuss shame, desire, pleasure, consent, turn-ons, purity culture, asexuality, orgasms, and self-intimacy as a form of activism. Tune into this episode, and your pleasure (wink)! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The girls discuss their experience with navigating visibility. They discuss the pros and cons of a public career, touch on the Britney Spears documentary and Oprah’s statements about living in the public eye, and share what they’ve learned as their lives have gone from private to more on display. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices