
Self-Helpless
Described as "an unfiltered thera-brunch with your best friends" where we can have "light conversations about heavy sh*t," Self-Helpless candidly explores the highs, lows, and in-betweens of personal growth—with a strong emphasis on everyday activism. Featuring a variety of specialists, public figures, and subscribers, the show garners millions of downloads, frequents the top Apple & Spotify charts, and has been featured on Conan and The Tonight Show. If you're interested in conscious consumption, holistic health, creativity, purpose—basically trying to figure out wtf we're all doing here and how to make the most of it, you'll be into Self-Helpless. Past guests include: Tan France, Michael Buble,' Rachel Rodgers, Pete Holmes, Dr. Ramani, Ed Winters, Kati Morton, Preacher Lawson, Kris Carr, Jessamyn Stanley, Freddie Prinze Jr., Rachel Ricketts, Nikki Glaser, Sonya Renee Taylor, Amie McNee, and more.Hosted by Delanie Fischer, Co-Author of MockTales, Creative Activist, and resident homebody, Self-Helpless has 400+ episodes to browse including a hot combo of long-form and minis ("Self-Helpless Snacks")—integrating guests, solo deep-dives, and even life hacks from extra cool and qualified people like Delanie's dad. New episode every Monday!
Latest episodes

Apr 5, 2021 • 1h 9min
My Parents Kept Their Divorce A Secret For 3 Years with Nishima Gupta
We are joined by emerging Indian-American television writer and former writer of Huffington Post, Nishima Gupta - whose article about her parents’ divorce went viral. Nishima is sharing the moment she found out about her parents’ divorce (3 years after the fact while living under the same roof), why they kept this information from her, and how this has impacted her view on marriage and relationships. We also discuss trauma, Indian representation in the media, and how wildly different divorce can look across families and cultures. Are you an adult child of divorce, or going through one yourself? Tune in! You’re not alone.
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Mar 29, 2021 • 1h 4min
Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder with Dr. Ramani Durvasula
We are joined by narcissism expert and licensed clinical psychologist, Dr. Ramani Durvasula. Dr. Ramani offers information about the different types of narcissism, signs you might be in a relationship with a narcissist, the cycle of narcissistic abuse, how to safely leave an abusive relationship, the aftermath of leaving, and A LOT more. If you think you might be in a toxic relationship, or you're stuck in perpetual chaos, tune in for more understanding about what you might be experiencing, and practical steps for breaking damaging patterns.
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Mar 22, 2021 • 50min
What I Wish People Knew About Sex Work with Ex-Porn Star Jessie Rogers
*Some contents of this interview might be difficult for survivors of abuse.
The girls are joined by ex-porn star and internet personality, Jessie Rogers. Jessie shares what she wishes she knew before she got into the adult entertainment industry, misconceptions people have about sex work, what life has been like after leaving the industry, and what she encourages others to consider before becoming an adult film star. Tune in to witness the moment that Kelsey finally gets to meet her doppelgänger!
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Mar 15, 2021 • 1h 25min
Living With A Chronic Illness with Walt Drennan
We're joined by host of The Ask Me About My Type 1 Podcast and rider from the documentary, Bike Beyond, Walt Drennan. Walt shares his experience living with Type 1, the events that led to his diagnosis, what biking across the country taught him, issues around the accessibility of insulin, and the life-threatening experience he had recently. We also discuss ableism and what people without disabilities can do to best support people with disabilities.
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Mar 8, 2021 • 42min
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
The hosts discuss, "The Power of Now," by Eckhart Tolle. The book offers guidance on how to be more present in our day-to-day, why observing our thoughts, surroundings, and interactions with a fresh lens is important, and how getting out of our head and tuning in to our body can help us connect with our true nature. Plus, personal experiences about presence, anxiety, and spirituality in their daily lives.
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Mar 1, 2021 • 55min
Releasing Shame Around Desire with Jessica Parra-Fitch
We're joined by sex educator and intimacy coach, Jessica Parra-Fitch. We discuss shame, desire, pleasure, consent, turn-ons, purity culture, asexuality, orgasms, and self-intimacy as a form of activism. Tune into this episode, and your pleasure (wink)!
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Feb 22, 2021 • 56min
When Your Life Is Public
The girls discuss their experience with navigating visibility. They discuss the pros and cons of a public career, touch on the Britney Spears documentary and Oprah’s statements about living in the public eye, and share what they’ve learned as their lives have gone from private to more on display.
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Feb 18, 2021 • 48min
Introvert, Extrovert, or Ambivert?
The girls are discussing the differences between introversion and extroversion. They share some surprising facts, bust some myths, and determine where they think they fall on the spectrum. Find out whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert!
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Feb 15, 2021 • 57min
Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix
The girls discuss, "Getting The Love You Want," by Harville Hendrix. The book offers insight into what we look for in a partner and why, how to effectively navigate conflict, and why self-love and self-awareness are vital to a successful partnership. They also share personal experiences about what they’ve been attracted to, and turned off by, in past relationships.
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Feb 1, 2021 • 51min
Q & A Part 2: Taylor Tomlinson, Kelsey Cook, and Delanie Fischer
Join the girls for the 2nd part of their 200th episode celebration where they're answering your questions about favorite first date ideas, the worst place they've crapped their pants, things they dislike most about themselves, and current goals. Plus, the one who would definitely be the last to survive a zombie apocalypse!
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