
Self-Helpless
Described as "an unfiltered thera-brunch with your best friends" where we can have "light conversations about heavy sh*t," Self-Helpless candidly explores the highs, lows, and in-betweens of personal growth—with a strong emphasis on everyday activism. Featuring a variety of specialists, public figures, and subscribers, the show garners millions of downloads, frequents the top Apple & Spotify charts, and has been featured on Conan and The Tonight Show. If you're interested in conscious consumption, holistic health, creativity, purpose—basically trying to figure out wtf we're all doing here and how to make the most of it, you'll be into Self-Helpless. Past guests include: Tan France, Michael Buble,' Rachel Rodgers, Pete Holmes, Dr. Ramani, Ed Winters, Kati Morton, Preacher Lawson, Kris Carr, Jessamyn Stanley, Freddie Prinze Jr., Rachel Ricketts, Nikki Glaser, Sonya Renee Taylor, Amie McNee, and more.Hosted by Delanie Fischer, Co-Author of MockTales, Creative Activist, and resident homebody, Self-Helpless has 400+ episodes to browse including a hot combo of long-form and minis ("Self-Helpless Snacks")—integrating guests, solo deep-dives, and even life hacks from extra cool and qualified people like Delanie's dad. New episode every Monday!
Latest episodes

Jun 14, 2021 • 1h 5min
Getting Married at 21 with Kris Hillberg
We are joined by Kris Hillberg. Kris opens up about getting married at the age of 21, what led to that decision, and how it impacted her life. Kris is very candid as she shares her personal experience with the organized religion that she grew up in, her feelings about those experiences, and the steps she took to leave that religion. This episode is not intended to offend anyone who has religious beliefs - we believe religion can offer community, guidance, and comfort, and can be a very powerful and meaningful part of someone’s life. This episode is not a generalization about religion as a whole, it is one person‘s experience. We hope this episode provides some support, insight, and laughter around shedding beliefs that no longer serve you, finding authenticity, and starting over.
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Jun 7, 2021 • 46min
3 Lessons Learned From Independent Study (Homeschooling)
The girls discuss homeschooling this week. Kelsey interviews Delanie about her personal experience in an independent study high school program, the health issues that resulted in her leaving a conventional school setting, what the adjustment was really like, and how it impacted her social life, education, career trajectory, and self-esteem. Whether you're considering homeschooling for your kid, or opt-ing in for independent study for yourself, here are some things you can plan for, tips for enhancing the experience, and the pros, cons, and everything in between. Kelsey and Delanie also share some big personal and professional milestones!
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May 31, 2021 • 1h 13min
Building Self-Worth with Nicole Baker
We are joined by Coach for Perfectionists, Nicole Baker. Nicole shares how being exposed to personal development tools from a young age shaped her, opens up about being bullied as a kid, struggles with body image, experiencing abuse in a romantic relationship, and the steps she took towards building confidence, cultivating self-worth, and finding her voice. *Some content in this episode may be difficult for survivors of abuse, and those in recovery for disordered eating.
Here is the link to the morning routine worksheet that Nicole mentioned in the episode.
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May 24, 2021 • 44min
Let's Define What Enough Means To YOU
The girls discuss the concept of defining "enough." What is enough money? Enough accomplishment? Down time? And how do you know when you have it? They share findings from studies about the impact of money on happiness, well-being, and overall life satisfaction, what enough means to each of them personally, and tips for gaining clarity on what enough might mean to you. Plus, some interesting quotes from public figures about fame, money, and happiness.
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May 17, 2021 • 51min
We Should All Be Millionaires with Author, Rachel Rodgers
The girls are joined by Founder and CEO of Hello Seven and intellectual property attorney, Rachel Rodgers. Rachel shares about her background and the steps she took to become a millionaire, the importance of women building wealth, managing guilt around money, what holds us back from earning more (or trying to earn more), and what we can do today to take control of our financial future. We are thrilled that Rachel celebrated the launch of her new book with us! Be sure to grab your copy of We Should All Be Millionaires: A Woman’s Guide to Earning More, Building Wealth, and Gaining Economic Power. Find out more about Rachel at https://helloseven.co/
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May 10, 2021 • 44min
Allergies: Different Types, Debunking Myths, And Allergic Reactions
The girls are learning about allergies this week. They discuss the different types of allergies, facts vs. myths, and some practical tips for preventing and treating them. Kelsey also shares her personal experience with navigating severe allergic reactions throughout her life, and the anxiety that comes along with it. Plus, the one thing we can all do to support people who struggle with allergies.
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May 3, 2021 • 1h 31min
Living With Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) with Lee Hammock
The girls are joined by self-aware narcissist and internet personality, Lee Hammock. He's been diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), and has been in therapy for three years managing it. Lee's sharing about his childhood and the root of his narcissistic tendencies, his experience navigating relationships with his wife and children, and why narcissists gaslight, devalue, discard, and hoover the people in their lives. He also answers questions like: Do narcissists experience love? Can people with NPD change? Are narcissists able to spot other narcissists? If you believe you have narcissistic tendencies or NPD, you’re currently navigating a high conflict relationship, or you’re a survivor of narcissistic abuse, this episode will provide you with important insight, validation, and practical tools for getting support. Also, tune in to find out which Disney princes are most definitely narcissists.
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Apr 26, 2021 • 47min
Untamed by Glennon Doyle
This week the girls are discussing the highly requested topic from their listeners, "Untamed," by Glennon Doyle. Delanie shares some insights from the book with Kelsey as they reflect on their own social conditioning. Untamed encourages people to question their “training” and go inward to make decisions. It explores misogyny, racism, religious indoctrination, homophobia - all the ways that patriarchy keeps people “tamed.” Kelsey and Delanie also share some personal stories around their own gender conditioning, and things they're doing to strengthen the connection with their "inner knowing."
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Apr 19, 2021 • 60min
Struggling With Performance Anxiety? Us Too.
The girls are talking performance anxiety - at work, with stage fright, and around sex. They learn about the physical responses we can experience with performance anxiety, offer tips for managing it, and share some personal stories. There are mentions of sweaty hands, nervous poops, and even playing patty cake with a wiener (take your best guess at who did that one).
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Apr 12, 2021 • 41min
How Sleep Deprivation Truly F*cks Your Health
This week, the girls discuss the importance of sleep. They share information about the negative impacts of sleep deprivation on our health, the link between sleep avoidance and workaholism, different ways to regulate sleep, and offer some tips from their own bedtime routines. Plus, the thing that puts Delanie to sleep no matter the time of day, and why Kelsey is currently training herself to sleep on her back!
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