
Self-Helpless
Described as "an unfiltered thera-brunch with your best friends" where we can have "light conversations about heavy sh*t," Self-Helpless candidly explores the highs, lows, and in-betweens of personal growth—with a strong emphasis on everyday activism. Featuring a variety of specialists, public figures, and subscribers, the show garners millions of downloads, frequents the top Apple & Spotify charts, and has been featured on Conan and The Tonight Show. If you're interested in conscious consumption, holistic health, creativity, purpose—basically trying to figure out wtf we're all doing here and how to make the most of it, you'll be into Self-Helpless. Past guests include: Tan France, Michael Buble,' Rachel Rodgers, Pete Holmes, Dr. Ramani, Ed Winters, Kati Morton, Preacher Lawson, Kris Carr, Jessamyn Stanley, Freddie Prinze Jr., Rachel Ricketts, Nikki Glaser, Sonya Renee Taylor, Amie McNee, and more.Hosted by Delanie Fischer, Co-Author of MockTales, Creative Activist, and resident homebody, Self-Helpless has 400+ episodes to browse including a hot combo of long-form and minis ("Self-Helpless Snacks")—integrating guests, solo deep-dives, and even life hacks from extra cool and qualified people like Delanie's dad. New episode every Monday!
Latest episodes

Aug 15, 2022 • 45min
From Hookup Buddies To Husband And Wife (Delanie and Cam Tell All)
Delanie is joined by her husband and dog daddy, Cam. They discuss everything from their biggest fight to their best vacation, first impressions of each other, how they split finances, and even spill the beans on what bugs them most about each other. Tune in for the real sh*t they work on in their marriage, how they’ve grown individually and as a couple, and all the sarcasm they could fit into one podcast episode. Plus, Cam drops who his biggest celebrity crushes are and it’s quite a shock to Delanie.
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Aug 8, 2022 • 47min
Is Hangxiety Worth The Buzz?
Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are discussing hangxiety -- the anxiety experienced after alcohol consumption. They're learning the science behind alcohol's impact on anxiety, sharing their favorite tips for preventing (and nursing) a hangover, and swap some personal hangxiety experiences (and very embarrassing drinking stories). Plus, one of them is considering swearing off alcohol forever.
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Jul 25, 2022 • 47min
The 4 Intimacy Styles with Dr. Viviana Coles
Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by Dr. Viviana Coles, doctor of marriage and family therapy, certified sex therapist, and featured marriage expert on Lifetime’s hit show, “Married at First Sight.” Dr. Viviana breaks down the 4 intimacy styles that are necessary for a healthy sex life that lasts, offers simple tips for increasing intimacy with your partner, and answers our burning questions about trauma, attachment styles, and fetishes. MAFS fans, you definitely need to tune in for some fun insider scoop about the show!
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Jul 18, 2022 • 42min
The Pros and Cons of Deleting Social Media (Permanently)
Delanie Fischer is answering your questions about what life has been like after permanently leaving social media. She describes how it’s impacted her relationships, mental and physical health, professional growth, and how she manages any FOMO that can arise from opting into a social media free lifestyle. Plus, the side effects of leaving that she never saw coming, if she ever plans on going back, and what she wished she would have done differently when she shut. it. down.
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Jul 11, 2022 • 1h 4min
Do We Want Kids? with Taylor Tomlinson, Kelsey Cook, and Delanie Fischer
Delanie Fischer, Kelsey Cook, and Taylor Tomlinson discuss their collective decision, and indecision, around having children. They share how they felt about this topic 5 years ago (when they started the podcast) vs. how they feel now, what experiences and exercises have helped them become more decisive about kids, the variety of FOMO they have, and sooo much more. This is not an episode about the pros and cons of having kids or the selfishness vs. selflessness of either decision. It’s a very honest conversation among women and friends who want the best for each other, and for others to feel empowered in their own decision-making. *If you want children, but are struggling to become a parent in one way or another, this episode might not be for you. Our heart goes out to you.
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Jul 4, 2022 • 47min
10 Wedding and Event Planning Hacks with Michelle Martinez
We are joined by certified career wedding planner and host of The Big Wedding Planning Podcast, Michelle Martinez. Michelle offers her favorite tips for narrowing down your guest list, simple ways to cut down on costs, what to consider if you're planning an event at your home vs. a third-party venue, how to manage event planning anxiety -- and all the details in between for making your big day rock. Tune in if you’re planning a wedding, other special event, or if you want some practical life advice for prioritizing your wants and needs, and setting boundaries for more joy every day.
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Jun 27, 2022 • 48min
Sex and Love Addiction with Sex Addiction Therapist, Alex Katehakis
Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Clinical Director of Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles, Alex Katehakis. Alex explains the differences between sex and love addiction and hypersexuality, shares what role trauma plays in compulsive sexual behavior, and offers practical tips and steps for individuals and couples affected by sex and love addiction. Tune in for some BIG truth bombs about toxic behaviors related to sexual and emotional intimacy that we can all learn from.
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Jun 20, 2022 • 46min
Becoming Yourself with Josh Wolf
We are joined by comedian, Josh Wolf, to discuss the importance of loving where you live, getting clear on what's really motivating your decisions, and learning how to be comfortable in your own skin. Plus, the quote that changed Josh's life forever.
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Jun 13, 2022 • 36min
Rumination: How To Break A Negative Thought Loop
Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are discussing rumination -- what it is, who is most susceptible to it, the effects it has on human health, and tips for managing it. They also share what triggers their own rumination, as well as their go-to tips and exercises for pulling themselves out of negative thought loops. Tune in to find out why some delicious plant-based sausage sent one of them into an exhausting spiral recently!
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May 30, 2022 • 1h 11min
Cultural Appropriation vs. Cultural Appreciation with Trevia Woods
This week, we are joined by educator and community facilitator, Trevia Woods. Trevia supports people by building powerful healing practices and traditions without culturally or spiritually appropriating. During this episode, Trevia shares the difference between cultural appropriation and cultural appreciation -- as well as the complexity of cultural exchange, common examples of cultural appropriation (and how we can make a difference), the devastating impact it has on marginalized communities, and practical tips for preventing cultural appropriation and respectfully participating in cultural appreciation.
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