Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by world-renowned sexologist and educator, Goody Howard. Goody explains the differences between fetishes and kinks, what partners can do if their fetishes or kinks don’t align, how to boost your excitement around sex if you’ve been in a rut, where you can start with self-exploration, and answers alllll of our burning questions like, “do vibrators desensitize you over time?” “is there a way to really  enjoy giving oral?” “what’s the most unique fetish or kink you’ve heard of?” This episode is jam-packed with life-changing gems of wisdom that you can apply to your life -- no matter who, or what, you’re into. Grab your notebooks, it’s a hot one! *Please practice safety when attempting a new act with yourself, or a partner.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com   Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are discussing self-trust. They share a variety of personal and professional experiences where they felt burdened by self-doubt, origin stories behind their perfectionistic tendencies, how to rebuild trust after betrayal, and tools that have helped them become more confident around decision-making. Plus, some HUGE aha moments in this episode.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com   Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by doctor specializing in reproductive psychiatry, Sarah Oreck, MD. Dr. Oreck discusses all things Matrescence -- including pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum, life after kids, grieving old identities, pressures that can come with breastfeeding, fertility, regretful parents, and building confidence in your decision-making around whether or not to have children. Tune in for validation around common parenting struggles, find a community who understands you, and receive some awesome resources for support. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com  Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are discussing the popular trend of de-influencing. They cover impulse buys, aligning your values with how you spend, reducing decision fatigue around selecting products, stuff they regret buying, the ugly truth about influencer metrics, how they used to shop vs. what they do now, and the tips and resources that help them practice mindful consumption. Plus, the items that are always the hardest for them to resist! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com  Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Kelsey shares her favorite moving tips that she's acquired over the past decade -- the most cost-effective way to move your belongings, selling furniture, changing your address, and safely transporting your animals are some of the topics covered. Whether you’re moving down the street, or across the country, learn from Kelsey's trial and error to make your moving experience smoother overall!  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com  Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are talking dating tips -- on and off of the apps! They share what they've learned from their experience using dating apps, how they’ve grown in their current relationships, and the ways their priorities differ from their 20s.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by ceremonialist, medicine woman, and psychotherapist, Claudia Barfoot. Claudia explains the importance of dreams and their benefits, how we can use our dreams as a tool for healing and creativity, powerful tips for dream journaling, as well as the variety of experiences we can have including nightmares, lucid, premonition, visitation, conception, and astral travel dreams. Tune in for some live dream interpretation too!  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by licensed marriage and family therapist and doctor of psychology, Dr. Sahar Martinez. Dr. Sahar explains how generational trauma can impact our lives and relationships in a multitude of ways, what practical actions we can all take to heal and become more mindful around our behavior, and provides astonishing details about the biological impact of generational trauma. Tune in for some seriously delicious analogies, anecdotes, and hot tips! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are discussing their favorite journal prompts! They share the questions that help them gain perspective holistically, what they use for daily check-ins, and the prompts that have influenced their most important life and business decisions. Tune in to put these to use in that journal of yours, or simply ask yourself the questions if journaling isn’t really your thing! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie and Kelsey are joined by Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and former President of the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, Dr. Luana Marquez. Dr. Luana explains why Generalized Anxiety Disorder occurs, what options for treatment are available, offers tons of practical tips for breaking anxious thought spirals, and how GAD differs from other anxiety disorders, ADHD, and much more. Plus, some VERY eventful life updates from Delanie and Kelsey! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.