
Self-Helpless
Described as "an unfiltered thera-brunch with your best friends" where we can have "light conversations about heavy sh*t," Self-Helpless candidly explores the highs, lows, and in-betweens of personal growth—with a strong emphasis on everyday activism. Featuring a variety of specialists, public figures, and subscribers, the show garners millions of downloads, frequents the top Apple & Spotify charts, and has been featured on Conan and The Tonight Show. If you're interested in conscious consumption, holistic health, creativity, purpose—basically trying to figure out wtf we're all doing here and how to make the most of it, you'll be into Self-Helpless. Past guests include: Tan France, Michael Buble,' Rachel Rodgers, Pete Holmes, Dr. Ramani, Ed Winters, Kati Morton, Preacher Lawson, Kris Carr, Jessamyn Stanley, Freddie Prinze Jr., Rachel Ricketts, Nikki Glaser, Sonya Renee Taylor, Amie McNee, and more.Hosted by Delanie Fischer, Co-Author of MockTales, Creative Activist, and resident homebody, Self-Helpless has 400+ episodes to browse including a hot combo of long-form and minis ("Self-Helpless Snacks")—integrating guests, solo deep-dives, and even life hacks from extra cool and qualified people like Delanie's dad. New episode every Monday!
Latest episodes

Dec 18, 2023 • 52min
30 Life Hacks We Love with Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook
Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are sharing their favorite hacks that make the daily demands of life more manageable -- including hot tips for untangling hair knots and cutting animals' nails, how to save a bunch of money on home decor, what you need in order to travel with more ease, mindset wizardry that stops anxiety spirals, and most importantly, tons of guidance for how we can all support Kelsey with cutting bananas.
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Dec 11, 2023 • 1h 6min
Finding Hobbies as an Adult Feels Weird with Beth Stelling
Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are joined by comedian, Beth Stelling, to chat about finding fulfilling hobbies as an adult. They discuss going back to stuff they enjoyed as a kid, trying brand new things that they suck at, and all of the feelings that can come with introducing, or reintroducing, a hobby into your life -- including joy, excitement, frustration, grief, and impostor syndrome. If you’re finding it hard to carve out time for fun amidst your responsibilities, we hope this episode gives you some ideas for how to start.
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Dec 4, 2023 • 59min
The Biggest Lessons We Learned In 2023
Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are sharing their biggest lessons from the past year. Everything from how they spend time with loved ones, changes in spending habits, healing from codependency, the importance of hobbies, and what can birth from the loss of identity. Plus, their highlights and lowlights from 2023. This year has been extra adult-y for them, how about you??
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Nov 27, 2023 • 1h 11min
Rethinking the 5 Stages of Grief with Krista St-Germain
Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by Krista St-Germain, Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. Krista opens up about the loss of her husband, the range of grief she’s experienced since, and the simple shifts that can help us process and heal. She also shares why we need to rethink the 5 stages of grief, what she dislikes about some mainstream concepts about the grieving process, and how to let go of guilt around experiencing joy after loss.
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Nov 20, 2023 • 56min
How Enmeshment Trauma Impacts Every Relationship You Have with Dr. Kate Balestrieri
Join Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook as they chat with Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a licensed psychologist and sex therapist. Dr. Kate breaks down enmeshment trauma and its impact on our relationships with partners, friends, and family. She explains how blurred boundaries can create identity issues and emotional challenges, particularly influenced by societal patriarchy. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, recognizing red flags in relationships, and the journey toward personal autonomy and healing.

Nov 13, 2023 • 1h 12min
10 Simple Safety Tips You Need To Know with Joy Farrow and Laura Frombach
Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by Former Deputy Sheriff, Joy Farrow, and Technologist and Domestic Violence Survivor, Laura Frombach, to discuss street-smart safety and defensive living. They share practical tips for a variety of scenarios -- online dating, rideshares, traveling on your own, being home alone, and more. Plus, a variety of affordable safety tools and technology options, and their personal and professional experiences with combatting violence. We hope the guidance in this episode equips you with what you need to feel prepared, and as safe as possible. Please share this episode with your loved ones! *Some content may be difficult for survivors of abuse.
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Nov 6, 2023 • 1h 1min
How To Navigate A Situationship
Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are talking situationships -- signs you’re in one, pros and cons, tips for defining the relationship (if you want to), and offering up their variety of personal experience with these kinds of relationships from all ends of the situationship spectrum, including how friends with benefits turned into a marriage for one of them. Whether your situationship is working great for you, it’s been hard for a while, or you’re not really even sure how you feel about it, this episode is for you.
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Oct 30, 2023 • 1h
Are You Having A Quarter-Life Crisis?
Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are discussing the concept of a quarter-life crisis, and how they’re definitely amidst one (they thought they were passed this sh*t!?). They're sharing how this experience differs to what they went through in their 20s, what feels eerily similar, and the things that actually help them stabilize during times of uncertainty. They also audit some major life categories and reveal which feel great, and which feel off. If you thought you paid your dues in your 20s, but are stumblin’ around your 30s wondering WTF, you’re not alone!
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Oct 23, 2023 • 1h 3min
1 New Habit Can Change Your Entire Life with Leo Babauta
Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by the creator of Zen Habits, Leo Babauta. Leo shares about the complete 180 he accomplished by transforming his habits nearly two decades ago (starting with how he quit smoking cigarettes for good), offers his juiciest tips for lasting change, and covers the range of feelings we can experience as we simplify our lives and become more present. Whether you love learning about new productivity hacks, you’re starting or refining a minimalistic lifestyle, or you’re currently struggling to build a new habit, you’ll love this episode!
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Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com
Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 16, 2023 • 60min
Our Honest Daily Routine vs. Ideal Daily Routine
This week the girls share their very honest daily routines vs. their ideal routines. They cover a typical work day, what they do in their free time, self-care regimens, as well as the habits they’re currently working on (and massively failing at). We hope this episode gives you simple ideas for implementing more joy into your day, helps you reject the false narrative of a perfect Insta-worthy routine, and fully accepts who you are in order to establish a practice that feels sustainable and authentic to you.
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