Nonviolent Communication - Marshall Rosenberg's NVC Training

Explore the transformative power of honesty in fostering connection through nonviolent communication. Discover how clear observations and expressing feelings without criticism can enhance understanding. Learn to articulate human needs and reframe criticisms into constructive dialogues. The podcast also highlights the vital distinction between requests and demands, emphasizing the importance of compassionate communication in building empathy and connection.

Working with anger, depression, self-judgement, and not giving away our power to cultural programming In this session, I would like to focus on how we apply non violent communication within ourselves. Then violent communication requires quite a transformation from how many of us have been programmed to communicate. Many of us have been programmed to communicate in terms of a language of categorizing people and their actions to judge what they are for doing what they’re doing. Excerpt: OJ Harvey at the University of Colorado, went around the world and took samples of literature from different cultures to see how often this verb “to be” was used in judging people’s actions good, bad, right, wrong, etc. And he correlated this with measures of violence - violence toward oneself, violence toward others, and he finds a high correlation the more cultures think in terms of what people are and their actions, the more violence in those cultures. We have four friends that can help alert us that we are thinking in a way that contributes to violence. These four feelings are very helpful because when we feel these feelings, we can use them as an alert, that we’re thinking in a way that’s contributing to violence on the planet. And here is an opportunity for us to transform that thinking. So what are these four friends that we have? anger, depression, guilt, and shame. Whenever we’re feeling those feelings, we are thinking in a way that we have been taught to think for about 10,000 years. A way of thinking designed to make us obedient to authority, but a way of thinking that is not conducive to safety and peace on our planet. So we can use those feelings as a wake up signal. Wake up, we’re thinking in a way that’s not conducive to peace, on the planet. Let’s transform the thinking into one that promotes peace on our planet. So let me show you what I mean. Training Session # 2 Marshall Rosenberg CNVC org (youtube) Full Transcript Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.

In this session, I’ll be giving you an introduction to how I came about the process I’ll be talking about and I’ll be sharing with you its purpose and give you an outline of it. The process I call nonviolent communication. Excerpt: The process that I call nonviolent communication consists of an intention to contribute to our own well being, and the well being of others, compassionately [14:57] And what I mean by giving compassionately is first of all of it, whatever we do is done willingly. It’s not done out of guilt, or shame, or fear of punishment, or trying to buy love by submitting to what we think others expect us to do. I saw that the intention I wanted to live by, I thought was necessary for compassionate giving, is that we give solely out of the joy that comes naturally from contributing to life. Our own life and the lives of others. And I organized what I was learning about this into the program that I now call nonviolent communication. And at the time, I was in private practice of psychology. So in my private practice, people were coming to me because of depression. Children were sent to me because they were having problems in school. And couples were coming to me because of marital problems. I found that this process that I was putting together was much more effective as a healing tool for people than the way I hadn’t been taught to do psychotherapy at the university. [16:27] At first I was shocked by this because it was so different than how I had been trained to analyze people and provide psychotherapy. It seemed too simple to just show them how some different ways of behaving different ways of thinking communicating using power, how quickly this could correct problems that were taking me months and not getting the same result. But then when I really saw the power that the program had. I also saw that the way I was offering it to people was not the way that I wanted to continue. By offering it in a private practice as a psychologist, the people who were coming to me, were defining that there was something wrong with them, something mentally ill about them for which they needed healing. And I was seeing more and more how that very concept of mental illness was a destructive concept because it implied something was wrong with people that needed fixing. And that very concept is I’ll talk about in subsequent sessions, I see gets in the way of people’s evolution and human development. Youtube Full Transcript Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.