Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children

Academic coach and author of The Disintegrating Student, Jeannine Jannot, Ph.D., shares insights on why previously high performing students might fall apart and offers strategies for building skills and resilience. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Rebecca Duffus, an experienced advisory teacher and author, joins Lyric Rivera, an autistic self-advocate and consultant, to discuss the essential topic of autistic identity development. They explore the importance of starting identity conversations early and the impact of education systems in the UK and US. The duo suggests practical strategies for engaging reluctant children and warns about the overuse of the 'superpower' narrative. Listeners learn how to effectively use their workbook while emphasizing the significance of ongoing, affirming dialogues around identity.

Seth Perler, an executive-functioning and education coach, helps families support differently-wired kids facing resistance. He defines resistance and its core features, such as procrastination and overwhelm. They discuss why resistance terrifies parents and common areas of resistance, like schoolwork. Seth critiques typical motivational tactics and shares cognitive tools to help kids reframe their thoughts. Techniques like incremental goals, mindfulness, and integrating passions into tasks are emphasized to foster ownership and reduce resistance.

Dr. Tamar E. Chansky, a clinical psychologist and founder of the Children’s and Adult Center for OCD and Anxiety, shares her deep insights on Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) in children. She discusses the evolution of OCD awareness and how families can navigate the complexities of intrusive thoughts. Dr. Chansky introduces her five-step approach for helping children manage OCD, emphasizing the importance of understanding the distinction between typical anxiety and OCD. With hope and compassion, she provides practical advice for parents to support their children.

In this enlightening discussion, executive functioning coach Seth Perler shares his insights into supporting neurodivergent students. He introduces the concept of 'Frankenstudy' for personalized learning strategies that lead to academic success. Seth emphasizes the significance of using monthly planners, establishing a sacred study space, and regularly checking grades. He also discusses creating clear routines, optimizing study environments with technology, and balancing academic demands with leisure, offering invaluable tools for parents navigating these challenges.

In this enlightening discussion, parenting coach Penny Williams shares her wealth of experience supporting neurodiverse families. She dives into the emotional complexities of launching neurodivergent young adults, emphasizing the need for a shift from traditional independence to interdependence. Penny and her co-host unpack the anxiety stemming from societal expectations, the importance of redefining success, and the healing journey parents face. They also explore practical post-high-school options and share strategies for fostering connection and growth during this pivotal transition.

Seth Perler, an executive functioning coach, shares his expertise on nurturing essential skills in children. He discusses the importance of prioritizing relationships over tasks, emphasizing that kids often struggle not out of defiance but due to skill gaps. Seth highlights the need for mindfulness and emotional regulation for effective learning. He advocates for a growth mindset, the significance of scaffolding tasks, and the power of co-regulation. Finally, he stresses the importance of self-care for parents to model personal growth for their children.

Today we’re exploring EMDR—Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing—a therapeutic approach that’s been shown to be highly effective in treating trauma, including for neurodivergent individuals. My guest is Dr. Naomi Fisher, a clinical psychologist who specializes in trauma, autism, and alternative education, and an expert in EMDR. Naomi will share her journey into EMDR and explains not just the mechanics of how it works, but also what actually happens in a session. We talk about the importance of understanding trauma in children, particularly those who are neurodivergent, and why flexibility and attunement are so essential for therapists in creating a truly supportive environment. About Dr. Naomi Fisher Dr. Naomi Fisher is a clinical psychologist who specialises in trauma, autism and alternative education. She is the author of several books including When the Naughty Step Makes Things Worse and the Teenager’s Guide to Burnout. She runs webinars for parents and more of her work can be found at www.naomifisher.co.uk Things you'll learn from this episode How EMDR combines emotionally activated memories with bilateral stimulation to help process trauma Why trauma can get “stuck” and how EMDR supports the brain’s natural healing process How EMDR can be effective for both adults and children when delivered in a safe, supportive environment Why neurodivergent individuals may have unique trauma responses that require flexibility in therapy How parents can play an important role in helping children make sense of traumatic experiences Why choosing accredited, well-trained therapists is critical for safe and effective EMDR treatment Resources mentioned Dr. Naomi Fisher’s website Naomi Fisher on Substack A Different Way to Learn by Naomi Fisher Changing Our Minds: How Children Can Take Control of Their Own Learning by Naomi Fisher What Can We Do When School’s Not Working: An Illustrated Handbook for Professionals by Naomi Fisher Dr. Robyn Koslowitz on Post-Traumatic Parenting (Full-Tilt Parenting podcast) EMDR UK Association EMDR Institute Francine Shapiro, PhD Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, we’re talking about such a pressing consideration for anyone raising a kid these days — what it means for today’s generation of kids to grow up with very public lives and coming of age in a digital world where so many aspects of their lives are online and available for public consumption, not to mention that much of their important work of identity formation is being shaped by the media and technology they interact with. My guest, Devorah Heitner, gets into all of this in her brand new and essential book for any parent, Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital World. For this conversation, I asked Devorah to talk us through what I see as some of the more pressing issues for parents like us, including how to balance a child’s right to privacy in their texts and online lives with valid concerns about online influences and engagement when that child is dealing with anxiety, depression or other mental health disorder, the impact of social media on kids who may already be struggling to fit in and find their people, and how many homework and grading apps used by schools may actually be undermining our kids development of executive function skills and creating additional stress for parents.   Things you'll learn How to navigate the transition from being highly involved in a children’s tech life to respecting their privacy Why violating our kids’ trust by reading their texts will drive them further apart from us What to track or monitor when your child is dealing with anxiety, depression, or other mental health disorders How engaging in social media may impact kids who are struggling to fit in and find their people Why social media can act as an intensifier for whatever kids are experiencing and how it causes a dip in self-esteem What sharenting is and how to navigate permissions, cleaning up past shares, and more Why apps like ClassDojo are particularly challenging for families with differently-wired students How grading apps often work against differently wired students Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today we’re talking about one of my favorite topics — what it really means to connect, collaborate, and let go of control as our kids grow into themselves as they enter the transformative teen years. My guest is Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart, a pediatric psychologist and parent coach who helps overwhelmed parents raise confident, emotionally healthy kids and teens, and the author of the brand new book, Love the Teen You Have: A Practical Guide to Transforming Conflict Into Connection. In our conversation, Ann-Louise shares insights from her book and offers a powerful reframing of what it means to parent through the teen years. We talk about shifting from control to curiosity—especially when raising neurodivergent kids—along with individuation, cognitive dissonance, and why living a fulfilling life as a parent is one of the best ways to model healthy behaviors for our teens. She also reminds us that it’s never too late to repair, reconnect, and love the teen we have right now. About Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart is a pediatric psychologist, parent coach, speaker, and author who helps overwhelmed parents raise confident, emotionally healthy kids and teens. As the founder of A New Day Pediatric Psychology, she empowers families to move from chaos to connection using practical tools rooted in clinical expertise and real-life parenting. She is the author of an upcoming book launching October 28, 2025 titled, Love the Teen You Have: A Practical Guide to Transforming Conflict Into Connection. She has been featured in The New York Times, Parents, HuffPost, and on The Today Show. Her dynamic, relatable style has made her a trusted voice for parents nationwide. Things you'll learn from this episode Why it’s never too late to repair and rebuild connection with your teen How curiosity helps parents better understand what’s really driving their teen’s behavior Why focusing on connection over control leads to stronger, more trusting relationships How individuation is a healthy and necessary part of adolescence for both teens and parents Why modeling a fulfilling, authentic life can positively influence your child’s growth How resetting expectations and embracing collaboration can transform communication and repair past ruptures Resources mentioned Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart’s author website Love the Teen You Have: A Practical Guide to Transforming Conflict Into Connection by Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart A New Day Pediatric Psychology (Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart’s practice) Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart on Instagram Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart on Facebook Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart’s YouTube channel Chris Voss & The Art of Negotiation (Masterclass) Lighthouse Parenting: Raising your Child with Loving Guidance for an Enduring Bond by Dr. Ken Ginsburg Maggie Dent on How to Parent, Love & Support Today’s Teens (Full-Tilt Parenting) Education Leader Chris Balme on Navigating the Tricky Middle School Years (Full-Tilt Parenting) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices