Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children TPP 124b: Seth Perler on How Parents Can Help Their Kids Work Through Resistance
Nov 21, 2025
Seth Perler, an executive-functioning and education coach, helps families support differently-wired kids facing resistance. He defines resistance and its core features, such as procrastination and overwhelm. They discuss why resistance terrifies parents and common areas of resistance, like schoolwork. Seth critiques typical motivational tactics and shares cognitive tools to help kids reframe their thoughts. Techniques like incremental goals, mindfulness, and integrating passions into tasks are emphasized to foster ownership and reduce resistance.
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Resistance Is About Non‑Preferred Action
- Resistance is usually refusal to engage in non-preferred actions like schoolwork or chores.
- It often appears as denial, procrastination, or overwhelmingness rather than simple willfulness.
Execution Exists On A Spectrum
- Execution ability sits on a spectrum; some people naturally execute and others struggle despite wanting to.
- High execution can hide other resistances like avoiding difficult conversations or self-care.
Debrief Every Success To Build Insight
- After a task is done, ask your child what worked and what didn't to build metacognition.
- Teach reflection so they can articulate strategies that helped them overcome resistance.
