LOVERS by shan

What if the key to better sex isn’t new, but rooted in ancestral knowledge? In this episode, Shan sits down with storyteller, mythologist, and ancient erotica expert Seema Anand to explore the rich, and yes, deeply sexy, history of sexual liberation, and why it's never really been a modern idea. Together, they unpack what it means to reconnect with your desire through ancestry, ritual, and unapologetic self-expression. We talk sex positions (yes, the Kama Sutra makes an appearance), the role of storytelling in the bedroom, and how wearing your desire, literally, can be one of the boldest, most freeing things you do. This conversation even inspired a whole jewelry line. The Kama Collection is a tribute to sensuality, intention, and the art of not hiding your hunger. 👑 Follow Seema Anand on Instagram: @seemaanandstorytelling 🔥 Shop the Kama Collection: surmeyi.com/kama The waist chain designed for being on top The anklet designed for when your legs are in the air The necklace designed for yab yum The earrings designed for riding The choker designed for lotus position The spine chain designed for doggystyle  👥 Join the community: loversbyshan.com/community

Why do fuckboys… fuckboy? In this episode, we dig into the root of it. Just ahead of the release of his new single Permanent Vacation (dropping June 18), genre-bending artist Duckwrth joins Shan for a raw and revealing conversation on why some men detach, ghost, and repeat the cycle. Together, they unpack how fear of commitment, cultural conditioning, and childhood wounds can all contribute to the “Certified Loverboy” identity. Duckwrth opens up about his own evolution—from polyamory and emotional avoidance to developing a deeper sense of self-awareness and desire for real connection. If you’ve ever dated a fuckboy, been affected by one, or are reflecting on your own relationship patterns, this one’s for you. 🎧 Watch the video for Permanent Vacation 💫 Follow Duckwrth on Instagram: @duckwrth 👥 Join the community at: loversbyshan.com/community

Have you ever wondered where your libido went? In this episode we do a deep dive on sexual slumps, low libido and lack of sexual desire that is frustrating (lack of desire that is not frustrating is not a problem!). We get to have this conversation first from the lens of Emmy-winning journalist Tamsen Fadal whose journey with low libido started in perimenopause and peaked on her honeymoon! From hot flashes and brain fog in the newsroom to bedroom low sex drive, Tamsen has become treasured for pulling back the curtain on midlife like never before. In this honest and empowering episode, menopause advocate Tamsen joins Shan for a conversation about menopause, sex drive and embracing life’s shifts. Tamsen shares how a one-word note from her doctor "menopause...?" set off a journey she wasn’t prepared for, and how that diagnosis impacted her body, her identity, and her intimacy. From tough talks with her husband to the quiet shame so many women carry through midlife transitions, Tamsen reminds us that getting older isn’t the end of our sensual selves, it can actually be the beginning. In part two of this episode we are giving you a MasterClass on low libido led by three doctors: OBGYN Dr. Mickey, lifestyle medical physician Dr Lean AND Pelvic Floor expert Dr. Janelle Frederick aka the Vagina Rehab Doctor. This is a highlight of our hour and fifteen convo if you’d like to listen to the rest go to Loversbyshan.com/community  Follow Tamsen on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tamsenfadal Get her book How to Menopause Listen to her podcast The Tamsen Show Checkout her website https://www.tamsenfadal.com/ 

From fatphobia to racism to ageism and ableism, Kennedy challenges the norms around love, desirability, and who gets to be the “main character.” This one’s for anyone who's ever felt left out of the story — and is ready to take the pen back. Bestselling romance author Kennedy Ryan (Before I Let Go, Reel) sits down with Shan to talk about what happens when women stop shrinking themselves to be chosen. From rewriting the stories we’ve inherited about sex, love, and partnership — to questioning why women with standards get labeled as “too much” Kennedy opens up about what radical self-worth actually looks like, and why romance should always center women’s pleasure. This episode is a love letter to anyone who’s ever been made to feel like they’re asking for too much. Kennedy shares her love story of being married to Sam for over 20 years while raising their autistic son.  This episode is sponsored by Lovers by Shan. Join the community today: https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Follow Kennedy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kennedyryan1 Get her latest book https://kennedyryanwrites.com/ Get a weekly love letter from me: https://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletter

What kind of stories do we pass down through the way we love? Actor and mom Xosha Roquemore sits down with Shan to talk about sex, self-worth, and how becoming a mother shifted everything. It starts with one question she asked that stopped us both: “Have the kind of sex you’d be proud to tell your daughter about.” We talk about the early messages she got about sex, how sexual coercion showed up in her past, and why that experience still needs more language. She shares a fun one-night stand story and how even casual sex can feel good when it comes from choice, not pressure. Xosha also talks about single motherhood, not as a hardship, but as a privilege. Being a mom has made her sharper, clearer, and way more intentional about who gets access to her. This episode is sponsored by Lovers by Shan. Join the community today! https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Follow Xosha on socials https://www.instagram.com/xoshro/ Get a Weekly Lovers Letter from Me https://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletter

Jessie Woo, a comedian and media personality, shares her poignant journey of healing and reclaiming sexual joy after surviving sexual assault. She explores the complexities of intimacy and self-love, offering hope for anyone navigating recovery. Joining her is trauma expert Jimanekia Eborn, who discusses the community implications of sexual assault and emphasizes the need for supportive environments. Together, they highlight the importance of open dialogue, personal narratives, and the role of love in healing from trauma.

Nothing good lasts. Right? In this deeply moving episode, Canadian singer-songwriter Alessia Cara joins Shan Boodram to explore the connection between intimacy, loss, and the fear of death (thanatophobia). Inspired by her song "Subside" from Love and Hyperbole, Alessia opens up about her personal journey with grief and how it shapes the way she loves and creates. Together, they dive into universal questions: How do we hold on to love while letting go of control? How does the fear of loss impact our relationships, intimacy, and even our everyday choices? Esther Perel talks about how desire and loss can sit right next to each other. This made me think about how those ideas show up in everyday relationships: the death of connection, the slow fading of intimacy, or the fear that something we’ve built might not last. When you zoom out, so much of how we attach, how we love, and even how we have sex is shaped by that deeper fear, what happens if I lose this? Or if I lose you? Or if I lose me in this? Thank You Alessia Cara http://alessiacara.com https://www.instagram.com/alessiasmusic https://www.youtube.com/@alessiacara Thanks Dame for sponsoring this episode: Dame makes products designed to enhance intimacy and connection—whether you’re with a partner or flying solo.  http://dame.com/shan Dame Coupon: SHAN15 Join My Mailing List https://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletter Lovers Community If you’re interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist: https://www.loversbyshan.com/community

In this week’s episode, I sit down with Raven-Symoné and her wife Miranda Pearman-Maday for a refreshingly honest conversation about love and what it really takes to sustain a modern relationship. They share why they chose a sleep divorce, and how sleeping separately has deepened their emotional bond, sharpened their communication, and brought them even closer. This episode is a masterclass in emotional maturity and intentional partnership, an invitation to rethink what a healthy marriage can look like in a monogamix relationship.  Thank You Raven & Miranda instagram.com/ravensymone instagram.com/mirandamaday Catch them on Tea Time with Raven & Miranda, a candid, cozy space where they spill everything from relationship realness to spiritual insights. Streaming now on YouTube.

Cree Summer, the legendary actor known for her roles in A Different World and Rugrats, reflects on her journey through love and rediscovery in her 50s. She shares how a lack of emotional shelter in her marriage affected her sex drive and the transformative impact of menopause on intimacy. Cree emphasizes the importance of finding a partner who provides safety and positivity. She also discusses the empowerment of women making the first move in love, her hopes for the future, and lessons on emotional security and self-worth.

In a rare solo moment, Shan dives into the raw realities of love and relationships. She reflects on embracing imperfections that make connections authentic. The emotional journey of curating personal spaces, like a bookshelf, reveals insights into identity and aspirations. Shan discusses the impact of the pandemic on intimacy, urging growth and deeper connections. Plus, she shares crucial tools for navigating relationships, resolving conflicts, and fostering love through transparency and communication.