

LOVERS by shan
LOVERS by shan
Lovers by Shan is an education-first space where listeners come to better understand their own intimate lives through the life lessons and expertise of others. Shan Boodram’s mission is to empower everyone to be their own intimacy expert in the bedroom and beyond by treating guests of the podcast as educators in their own right.
Past guest include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away.
When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach.
Past guest include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away.
When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach.
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Oct 29, 2025 • 41min
S2 Ep143: What My Autism Diagnosis Taught Me About Love and Feeling Safe ft. Chrisette Michele
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This week, Shan sits down with Grammy-winning artist Chrisette Michele opens up about being diagnosed with autism as an adult and the way that revelation helped her understand her rhythm, her relationships and what safety really means for her. She shares how music became one of the few places that always made sense, how her mom stood by her through the unknown, and how she finally began to remove the mask and meet herself.
Later, we bring in expert Maria Davis-Pierre, LMHC, founder of Autism in Black, Inc., to guide a deeper conversation around autism, neurodivergence, intimacy, and how we show up for those we love.
Whether you’re neurodivergent, in a relationship with someone who is, or simply want to deepen your understanding, this episode invites you to explore how love, safety, and authenticity coexist.
Follow Chrisette Michele:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chrisettemichele/ 
Website:chrisettemichele.com
Follow Maria Davis-Pierre & Autism in Black:
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/autisminblack/ 
Website: https://www.autisminblack.org/
Sign up for the 5th Annual Autism In Black Conference
Virtual or In-Person Attendance: https://funnel.autisminblack.org/2025-autism-in-black-registration-page?aff=Christina-Schmidt
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Oct 22, 2025 • 49min
S2 Ep142: Is It Too Late to Become Who I Thought I’d Be? ft Chy Fontenette
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In her mid-30s, Chy Fontenette from Behind the Likes podcast finds herself facing what feels like a full-life reset: a breakup she didn’t choose, friendships shifting as she starts setting boundaries, and a growing awareness of the pain she’s carried for years. Through tears, honesty, and reflection, Chy admits she doesn’t know what’s next,  and Shan reminds her that she’s doing the most important thing of all: staying with herself through it.
This episode is for anyone in that place where everything hurts and nothing feels certain. Shan offers tangible guidance on how to move through the fog, from becoming an archaeologist of your own life (digging up the moments you felt love and success before) to remembering Steve Jobs’ wisdom that you can’t connect the dots looking forward, only backward.
The message is simple: you can’t rush this part. But if you keep caring for yourself, one day you’ll look up and realize, your life doesn’t feel so heavy anymore.
Follow Chy Fontenette!  
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chy.f/
Listen to her podcast “Behind the Likes”: https://www.behindthelikespodcast.com/
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Oct 15, 2025 • 53min
S2 Ep141: Should Relationships be THIS Hard? ft. Beleaf & Yvette Henry
 Are relationships supposed to be THIS Hard?
This week on LOVERS, Shan sits down with Glen and Yvette Henry, the couple behind the viral family brand Beleaf in Fatherhood.
Glen, known as Beleaf, has a new book coming out titled Father Yourself First, which challenges men to approach fatherhood as a path of healing, self-awareness, and personal accountability.
In this conversation, Glen and Yvette open up about how hard marriage can be, especially after kids, success, and faith transitions. From getting married young to raising four children and growing a public platform together, they’ve faced nearly every challenge that tests a couple’s foundation.
If you’ve ever wondered, “Is marriage supposed to be this hard?”, this episode is for you. It’s a raw and honest reminder that struggle doesn’t mean failure, it means growth.
✨ Preorder Glen’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555
 📺 Watch their YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@BeleafInFatherhood
 🎧 Listen to their podcast “How Married Are You” https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.com/ 
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Oct 8, 2025 • 46min
S2 Ep140: Could a Single Moment Be Controlling Your Love Story? Ft Andre Holland
 
Trigger Warning: This conversation includes a deeply personal story shared by André Holland, including a moment when someone he had affections for used a racial slur toward him. Listener discretion is advised.
What happens when a core memory rewrites the story of how we see ourselves in love? In this week’s LOVERS episode, Shan sits down with actor André Holland to explore the pivotal memory that shaped his belief that he was never “good enough” as himself—and that he had to become someone “better” to be loved.
They unpack how these deeply rooted emotional imprints steer our relationships—sometimes helping us, but often holding us back. André’s story reveals how early wounds can guide not just who we choose, but how we let love in.
Whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this episode is a powerful guide to:
uncovering the underlying stories behind your intimacy
rewriting beliefs that no longer serve you
opening the door to deeper, more authentic connection
🎬 About Love, Brooklyn
Want more from André Holland? Be sure to check out his new film, Love, Brooklyn now playing in theaters. It will be available for streaming too!  
Stay up-to-date and follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovebrooklynmovie/
For more on André be sure to follow him on Instagram: http://instagram.com/andreholland
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Oct 1, 2025 • 1h 3min
S2 Ep139: How Inner Child Work Can Save Your (love) Life featuring Lilly Singh
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This week, I interview Lilly Singh, actor and history-making content creator, with a new movie RIGHT up our alley: Doin’ It (yes it’s a movie about sex, specifically what happens when a South Asian virgin is assigned to teach sex ed). In this episode Lilly opens up about growing up in a world where emotional chaos felt familiar, why she kept gravitating toward toxic partners who gave her the bare minimum, and how she’s now doing the inner work (therapy, inner child healing, setting boundaries) to protect “little Lilly.”
In this conversation, we explore how past wounds shaped her romantic choices, and how she’s rewriting that story one day at a time.
🎬 About Doin’ It
You can catch “Doin’ It” in select theaters or pre-order the film on Apple, Amazon, and Fandango to watch it at home as of October 7.
For more information visit doinitmovie.com 
🔗 Follow Lilly Singh
 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lilly
 Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/Lilly
Grab her bestselling book Be a Triangle → https://www.lillysinghbook.com
Want more Lover?
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Sep 24, 2025 • 52min
S2 Ep138: How Jemele Hill is Fighting Back Against America’s #1 Sex Life Killers
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What happens when you realize the best sex of your marriage only shows up on vacation?
Award-winning journalist, author, and podcaster Jemele Hill joins Shan for a conversation about how she uncovered the connection between stress, rest, and desire in her own marriage. She shares why her husband seems to get luckier when they’re away, how that awareness has deepened their relationship, and what it taught her about the balance between ambition, partnership, and intimacy.
This episode is for my overachievers who struggle to “do it all,” for the happily partnered (or hoping-to-be), and for anyone who’s ever wondered how to bring that vacation spark back home.
Together, Jemele and Shan break down:
- Why “having it all” is a myth (and the price women pay for chasing it)
- How silence around stress robs intimacy, and what to do instead
- What “fair trade” in the home has to do with mutually desirable sex
- Practical ways to bring vacation sex energy into everyday life
🔗 Follow Jemele Hill
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jemelehill/
Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/jemelehill
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Sep 17, 2025 • 48min
S2 Ep137: The Truth About Getting The Man I THOUGHT I Always Wanted ft. Rosa Acosta
 Thank you to Function Health for sponsoring this episode! Visit https://functionhealth.com/loversbyshan or use code LOVERS100 at sign-up to own your health. The first 1000 get a $100 credit toward their membership.
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What does it mean to choose love on your own terms? How do our values, self-worth, and cultural expectations shape the way we show up in relationships?
In this conversation, entrepreneur, fitness model, and actress Rosa Acosta shares her perspective on redefining what relationships can look like when you step away from society’s scripts. She reflects on leaving behind relationships that don’t serve both partners, questioning inherited scripts about men and women, and what it takes to create intimacy outside of convention.
This is a dialogue about love as partnership, the courage to release what no longer fits, and the art of rewriting our own story.
🔗 Follow Rosa Acosta
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosaacosta/
Cossa Mia: https://www.instagram.com/cossamia/
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Sep 10, 2025 • 56min
S2 Ep136: Am I Still Who You Want? Are You Becoming Who I Need? A Relationship Check-In + Free Guide ft Jared Brady
 In this conversation, musician Jared Brady, Shan Boodram's husband, candidly explores the intricacies of love and vulnerability. They tackle the tough questions about their relationship, discussing intimacy and the need for regular check-ins to stay aligned. With a focus on balancing work and family life, they emphasize how couples can navigate change together. Additionally, they introduce a free Relationship Check-In Guide, making their insights accessible for all couples looking to enhance their communication and connection. 

Sep 3, 2025 • 35min
S2 Ep135: My Mom Talked to Me About Sex, And It Made Me Rebel ft. Blair Imani
 What does it mean to be ready for motherhood? How do love, faith, and our relationship with our maternal figures shape our parenting?
In this honest and grounded conversation, educator, author, and activist Blair Imani shares her perspective on family planning, pregnancy loss, and the role of sexual education in real life. She opens up about having conversations with her partner around abortion as part of sexual health, and how her conversion to Islam continues to guide her through questions of timing, family, and faith.
We also dive into Blair’s relationship with her mom, and how that connection influences her hopes for becoming a parent herself. It’s a conversation about the choices we face when planning for a baby, the loss and love that come with it, and the bigger role faith, values, and family play in planning our future. 
🔗 Follow Blair
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/blairimani
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@blairimani
YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@blairimani
Website: https://www.blairimani.com/ 
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Aug 27, 2025 • 49min
S2 Ep134: What holds a relationship together when life falls apart ft Dr. Laura Berman
 What holds a relationship together when life falls apart? Most of us picture the happiest moments when we think about our partner, but what happens when tragedy hits? In this intimate conversation, Dr. Laura Berman shares how she and her husband weathered some of life’s hardest storms together. 
From dating him while she was caring for her young son with cancer, to the unimaginable loss of their son Sammy during the pandemic, Laura takes us inside the moments that tested their love, and the choices that kept them connected.
Days after the death of their first child together, Sam pulled Laura close and said, “Most couples don’t get through tragedies like this, but we will.” 
It’s a reminder that the strength of a relationship isn’t just built in joy, it’s forged in the fire of what you survive together.
Want more Lover?
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Checkout free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter
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