LOVERS by shan The Real Reason We Started an Open Relationship
Jan 21, 2026
Jared Brady, musician and creator who co-stars with Shan and runs Music Monday, shares the day they labeled their relationship open. They recount chemistry that broke scripts, moving in then apart, a pivotal visit that changed everything, and how their version of openness, rules, and communication evolved over a decade.
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Commitment Beyond Exclusivity
- Shan realized romantic exclusivity wasn't what she valued most; deep knowing, rapport, and shared life mattered more.
- She recognized earlier relationships lacked language to express openness and that clarity could have prevented fights.
Moving In Sparked Boundary Conversations
- Shan invited Jared to move in temporarily while he looked for housing and they discovered living together felt natural.
- During that time Shan still saw other people which surfaced tensions and led them to define their boundaries.
A Temporary Separation Revealed Emotions
- Shan went on a planned visit with an out-of-town partner while Jared moved out briefly and felt unsure about their future.
- After the out-of-town partner left, Jared moved back in and they processed emotions together on the couch.