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Last week in our 12-step meeting, Neil picked up his 5 year chip for 5 years of abstinence (or sobriety) from his addiction to pornography. Our experience with addiction recovery is something we've shared openly for the past several years, and on this milestone birthday (that's what we call each year of sobriety in recovery) we felt like it would be a good time to revisit this topic and share some of the ways Neil got stopped, stayed stopped, and how he has found a new way of living instead of being weighed down by addiction. If you or someone you love is struggling with addiction, we hope today's episode will provide some answers and resources and hope.This week’s episode is sponsored by Ana Luisa Jewelry. Treat yourself and your loved ones to beautiful sustainable jewelry. Go to shop.analuisa.com/mintarrow and use code MINTARROW for 10% off. Time Stamps:[00:00:42] - Neil celebrates 5 years of abstinence (or sobriety) from his addiction to pornography, and explains why the 24hr milestone is most important.[00:03:04] - Neil talks about the mindset behind maintaining a new lifestyle and spiritual fitness to not lose to the illusion of an endpoint.[00:05:46] - Corinne explains that seeing others gain new chips gave her hope.[00:07:04] - Neil gives his addiction background, starting with his exposure during adolescence.[00:09:01] - Neil talks about how ARP became a turning point in his story.[00:10:46] - Corinne and Neil candidly talk about the times where they were less hopeful of any change happening.[00:13:21] - The pain of the problem vs. The pain of the solution.[00:15:54] - What is a sponsor in a recovery program?[00:18:33] - Addiction is like pain management to become numb from the world.[00:20:36] - Listen to Neil explain how “contrary actions” help stop from being desensitized. [00:22:39] - Neil explains why he calls another program member to reground himself.[00:25:20] - Here are the most basic methods of addressing a crisis or addiction.[00:27:51] - There are different meetings you can attend. Find one for you.[00:29:51] - What surprised Corinne about going to meetings?[00:32:18] - Corinne talks about how amazed she is during the 12-step meetings when people share their raw experiences.[00:34:53] - Hearing people speak from different points of their journey is humbling, and gives insight to each other.[00:36:53] - Neil talks about the mutual respect of understanding a shared experience, like an addiction.[00:38:38] - Corinne and Neil share their sides and thoughts of the last relapse Neil experienced.[00:40:43] - Neil talks through his thoughts on committing to abstinence, and how he helps himself maintain consistency.[00:43:29] - Corinne talks about managing her experience of being the spouse of someone dealing with addiction.[00:46:01] - How did Corinne let go of the pressure she was placing on herself during Neil’s journey?[00:48:53] - By being accountable individually, Corinne and Neil were able to empower each other.[00:50:43] - Neil says that things quiet down overtime, like neural pathways being stopped or redirected.[00:52:06] - Listen to Neil’s share from a 12-step meeting.[00:57:32] - What is the one message Neil gives to those dealing with addiction? What is the one message Corinne gives those with spouses managing drug addiction?[00:59:02] - Hold On. Pain Ends. Supporting Resources: Find an Addiction Recovery Program (ARP) meeting in your area The ARP manualSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Justin Timberlake. Michael Phelps. Ty Pennington. Adam Levine. Richard Branson. Simone Biles. Channing Tatum. Jim Carrey. Do you know what all of these well known celebrities and Olympic athletes have in common? They all have ADHD.But have you ever sat down and talked to someone who has ADHD about what life is like for them? Have you ever had the chance to understand what being in their head is like day to day? And maybe more importantly, if you do know someone who has ADHD or you suspect might have it, do you know what to do to support them?Today I’m interviewing my friend Cameron Treu, the owner and pit master of Utah’s best barbecue Bam Bam’s, co-host of the Nitty Gritty Podcast, father, husband, and sports fanatic. I’ve never known anyone personally who would openly talk about their condition of ADHD and what it’s like for them, so I’m very grateful for Cam and his willingness to share his story, perspective, and advice to those struggling with ADHD.Today’s episode is brought to you by Better Help counseling services. Join over one million people who have taken charge of their mental health. Go to betterhelp.com/mintarrow and get 10% off your first month of counseling. Time Stamps:[01:07] - Cameron Treu tells his story of starting a new life in BBQ, later becoming a Pit Master. [03:30] - Once Cameron made up his mind to pursue BBQ, he set his focus on making the most of his interest. Here’s how that led to Bam Bam’s BBQ. [05:32] - Cameron recalls the interaction that allowed him to be the mentee of a top chef.[07:27] - Cameron’s story with John Louis proves a few lessons in making genuine connections in the industry.[09:52] - Listen to Cameron express his thoughts on ADHD, childhood, and building self-awareness around how he operates as a person.[12:33] - Cameron describes the first time taking Adderall and talks about the effects for individuals with ADHD.[15:29] - Society’s relationship with modern technology increases ADHD symptoms shown in neuro-typical individuals.[17:15] - Dealing with ADHD can expose individuals to these secondary physiological and psychological impacts.[19:55] - Cameron explains the unseen perspective of combating external pressure and opinions towards ADHD.[21:15] - How can someone be supportive of an individual dealing with ADHD? Cameron shares his insight.[23:41] - Corinne and Cameron talk about being mindful of words related to nuanced experiences, especially when being used casually.[25:45] - Having a different focus or attention is not the fault of an individual with ADHD.[28:42] - Cameron talks about learning to love his brain. What is it like to balance the internal experience of ADHD?[30:44] - Is there a positive impact that can come from involving spirituality in the journey of dealing with ADHD?[33:29] - Cameron shares this analogy of what happens when people separate from spirituality. How can someone get back on track?[36:24] - Cameron encourages addressing ADHD early, like in childhood, to reduce possible health threats.[38:18] - What are some approaches Cameron uses to live his active life? He talks about the trials and errors of figuring things out.[40:41] - Cameron discusses mind hacks related to hand-eye coordination and dopamine for ADHD.[42:41] - If you deal with ADHD, here are the things that Cameron feels that are really important in the journey.[45:18] - Dealing with ADHD is possible, and it can also still have its ups and down.[47:45] - “Love one another.”[50:18] - Corinne and Cameron talk about being BYU fans, Utah fans, and connecting with people. Supporting Resources: The Nitty Gritty Podcast@bambamsbbq @nittygrittyshowSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shannon Lyon is a food blogger, recipe creator, & mom of 4 living in Portland, Oregon, and a friend of mine since our London study abroad days in 2005. Her problem is there’s almost no food she doesn't like. She creates recipes that are easy but full of flavor. She teaches cooking and baking techniques at conferences and on her Instagram page @plumstreetcollective. Shannon grew up in Seattle then attended BYU, double-majoring in Advertising & English. After college she worked in advertising as a brand planner while also earning a Master’s Degree in Humanities. She loves sharing all her recipes and testing recipes until she gets them just right. Today Shannon and I talk about food and family, her tips for making the most of dinner time, her perspective as a mother of a child who has a severe food allergy, how to be thoughtful and inclusive to kids who live with this challenge, and some of her best life advice. I think by the end of this interview you'll know why Shannon is one of my favorite people, and she'll quickly become one of yours, too.Today’s episode is brought to you by Better Help counseling services. Join over one million people who have taken charge of their mental health. Go to betterhelp.com/mintarrow and get 10% off your first month of counseling. Time Stamps:[01:08] - Let’s go through a few fun, random facts to get to know Shannon Lyon better.[04:08] - What sparked Shannon’s love of food? Shannon reminisces about her childhood and how her passion evolved over time.[07:08] - Don’t feel too pressured about cooking. Shannon talks about why quality time is more important than the quality of the cooking.[08:43] - What can parents/guardians do to get kids to engage during the meal?[11:00] - Find family time that works for your family’s schedule. Listen to Shannon share what she does to match her family’s schedule and taste preferences.[13:32] - Involving kids in the meal process gives them more sense of responsibility and pride.[15:46] - Shannon and Corinne talk about the changes of allergies among children over the years and the responses to taking care of food allergies.[17:45] - Here’s what you can do to help create a better environment for kids with food allergies.[20:24] - Shannon encourages parents/guardians who know of kids with food allergies to learn how to use an EpiPen in case a situation ever arises.[22:55] - Shannon continues to describe the key points of using an EpiPen.[25:47] - While explaining what to do about discovering allergies, Shannon recalls the time she realized her son’s allergy.[28:40] - How does the rest of Shannon’s family deal with her son’s allergy?[30:51] - Shannon talks about handling child food allergies in public spaces, such as airplanes, restaurants, and Disney World.[33:41] - What is the one rule Shannon has for whenever she goes on a girl’s trip?[35:52] - This is Shannon’s way of shifting gossip conversations and making decisions to protect her own space.[38:01] - Shannon and Corinne discuss giving and receiving different love languages.[40:55] - How important is it to know your kid’s love language?[43:09] - Family dinner is about spending quality time together. Supporting Resources:Plum Tree Collective InstagramSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Car Mom was started by Kelly Stumpe in June of 2020. Kelly has been around the automotive industry her whole life. Her family owns a group of dealerships in the St. Louis area. She began her career in the industry in 2016 as a client advisor at BMW of West St. Louis. Kelly fell in love with sales and knew she found her calling. Kelly had her first child in 2019 and realized the only job harder than 65 hour work week in automotive sales is being a stay-at-home mom.Fast-forward to 2020, the Coronavirus pandemic hit and Kelly was pregnant with baby #2. Kelly thought, “It’s hard enough to take my one child to the grocery store right now; I can’t imagine moms having to go to a car dealership during this.” She thought, “What if I used my resources and knowledge to review cars for moms so they don’t have to waste time going to every dealership?” and that’s when The Car Mom was born.Today I get to sit down with Kelly to ask her all about her mission with the car mom. We talk about how to make a good purchase, the vitality of choosing a good salesperson, what to look for in your first family car, what her favorite cars are right now, and her advice to moms who want to be entrepreneurs too.Today’s episode is brought to you by Better Help counseling services. Join over one million people who have taken charge of their mental health. Go to betterhelp.com/mintarrow and get 10% off your first month of counseling. Time Stamps:[01:14] - Kelly Stumpe, The Car Mom, opens up about how she got into the automotive space, including her family’s longtime connection to the field.[03:44] - How did Kelly choose the platform to share and promote The Car Mom content?[05:42] - Kelly says she became focused on empowering moms with information to choose the best car options.[08:24] - What is Kelly’s reason for not narrowing a top ten list for cars? She explains that each mom and family have varying needs.[10:44] - Here are the biggest common mistakes that new moms make when buying their first car for the family.[13:35] - Kelly says people should explore their car options. Don’t be afraid to do a size check and be more prepared to buy a car.[16:14] - Don’t test drive a car until you’re ready to buy a car. Instead, here is what people should start.[18:30] - Kelly gives insight about negotiating at car dealerships and finding a good deal.[20:49] - What does Kelly want to say to people who feel nervous about the sales process at dealerships?[22:22] - Why is it important to know a vehicle’s pay off?[25:12] - Should people always buy a new car?[28:09] - Which cars does Kelly say are well-performing cars that get overlooked?[30:39] - Corrine explains her own personal story about dealing with cars.[33:00] - Kelly recalls examples of what she is able to help with by being a voice in the automotive field.[34:50] - Most of the problems in buying a car could be gone if people were proactive about the experience.[37:17] - Kelly’s shares her perspective on using her gifts for her community.[39:29] - Listen to where you can connect with Kelly. Supporting Resources:The Car Mom website YouTube Channel Instagram @thecarmomFacebookSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

At the beginning of this year, the very first Sunday in January, I had an extra loaf of warm, freshly baked French bread, and my dear friend Amy’s face popped into my mind when I thought of who I could deliver it to. I ran it over to her house and gave her a quick hug as I handed it off, while she welcomed a couple of young missionaries into her home for dinner. The very next day, I received a text that absolutely gutted me - Amy had been in the ER later Sunday night with her 9 year old son Crew, and Monday she was in the hospital with him waiting to find out if he had cancer.Crew was diagnosed with Ewing’s Sarcoma, an extremely rare bone cancer in his femur. I’ve witnessed Amy and her family turn to faith, lean into the grace of the Savior and the healing in His atonement, and selflessly share their miracles with our community as they’ve seen Crew through this horrible trial.Recently, Amy posted on Instagram that it was her goal to bring awareness to as many people as possible what the signs are of childhood bone cancer. Amy agreed to come on my podcast to talk about what she’s learned through all of this and teach us about what symptoms to pay attention to that could be bone cancer in a child. She also teaches us what this life-altering experience has been like for her family, what she wishes she would have known, what to do to best support a family going through chemo, what NOT to say, and some of the miracles that have strengthened their faith in Jesus Christ.Time Stamps:[01:32] - Amy Willets lovingly describes her family’s daily life before her son’s bone cancer diagnosis.[03:18] - When was the first sign Amy noticed of her son developing cancer?[05:14] - Amy recalls the timeline of her son’s painful leg officially becoming more than what she imagined.[08:00] - When first arriving at the ER, hospital staff were confused about the reason. Amy explains why.[10:59] - Amy talks about the moment of first having “cancer” be attached to her son’s leg pain.[16:44] - Amy talks about advocating for self and loved ones when in hospitals.[18:28] - Here are examples of Amy advocating for her son in the hospital.[21:10] - This is the medical schedule of Amy’s son going through treatment for cancer.[23:27] - Adversity can teach you valuable lessons. Listen to Amy give her take on her lessons from this journey.[27:30] - The surgery was an absolute success. Amy explains the miracle that contributed to this success.[31:57] - Amy says the cancer not spreading and her son’s body remaining in one piece are miracles.[37:12] - Amy shares how this journey impacted her son. She describes the changes of her son.[39:56] - How can you comfort a child that is going through a tough chapter?[42:34] - Amy describes how the medical journey with her son switched some aspects and emotions in her family.[46:30] - When life altering events happen to loved ones, what can people do to encourage them?[47:43] - Amy gives her thoughts on her feelings when people bring up her son’s medical journey in conversations.[50:07] - Here is the one question that Amy feels people should not ask families that are going through a medical journey.[52:42] - What are Amy’s biggest takeaways from her family’s medical journey?[54:58] - Listening to your kids is important. Corrine and Amy talk about the trickiness of having intuition about your kids and listening to your kids.[57:21] - Amy is grateful her family was able to find a specialist for her son. She talks about the difference it can make.[59:32] - Some miracles are put in place before they are needed as all things are coming together for your good.[01:01:34] - Amy shares a story about how coincidence and a friend of a friend helped get her son the care he needed.[01:03:53] - Here is the major message Amy would like everyone to take from this episode.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Lately for some reason I feel like the concept of a “cafeteria plan” of the gospel of Jesus Christ keeps coming up in my life. So is that even a thing? What does that even mean? Is it something we subscribe to? Neil and I dive deep into this and use some scriptural references and quotations by people far wiser than we are to talk about where we stand with all of this. We also give some examples from our own lives of obedience and blessings and how the principle of being wholly converted has changed our lives.Today’s episode is sponsored by Christian Mingle. Go to christianmingle.com/mintarrow to find a like minded partner that you can make a real connection with. Time Stamps:[00:37] - Today’s episode originally had a different topic planned, but something else came up: the Cafeteria plan. Corrine explains the meanings associated with the Cafeteria plan analogy.[03:37] - Neil gives an overview of the Abraham and Isaac story, which gives an example of obedience. [06:36] - Obedience brings blessings. Don’t cheat yourself out of blessings.[08:19] - Corrine reads a scripture related to receiving blessings in surplus from being obedient.[10:31] - Corrine expresses compassion for those struggling with being in the church. She vulnerably touches on her own experience of feeling constrained and distant.[13:17] - Temptation can be present, but lean towards obedience.[15:34] - Neil agrees that there is growth available in being obedient. He acknowledges that obedience is an exercise of faith.[18:26] - What are the results of “picking and choosing commandments” versus “keeping all commandments”?[21:03] - Commandments are given with the idea of protection and happiness.[23:25] - Obedience is not strictly about doing everything perfectly. Corrine talks about what it means to give full effort in the moment.[25:06] - Neil brings in the topic of atonement in relation to obedience. He emphasizes why grace supports the commitment of obedience.[27:53] - Neil and Corrine share their thoughts on the determination to improve obedience. Both agree that wanting to improve is better than letting perfection stop progress.[30:41] - Try and show up. Be present to at least show the interest and willingness to give an effort.[32:48] - Neil talks about his insight from finding himself at either side of the obedience spectrum in different situations in his life.[34:47] - Corrine describes times in her life she felt that keeping the commandments helped her prosper.[36:34] - Corrine gives an example about doing the work and remaining faithful to the work. Neil explains that making the decision to try opens the way for support and help to show up.[39:27] - Neil talks candidly about accountability in the walk of obedience.[40:57] - Corrine speaks to the life changes that come from the commitment of internal growth.[43:40] - There’s a lot of chatter and noise in the world. Let’s focus on the eternal principles we’re given. Supporting Resources: “Born of God” Talk by Ezra Taft Benson “Addiction Recovery Program: A Guide to Addiction Recovery and Healing” ARP Manual from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints  “Face the Future with Faith” Talk by Russell M. NelsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Morgan Jones is the host of the All In podcast and the manager of audience engagement for Deseret Book. She previously wrote for the Deseret News where she published more than 480 stories. Her new book, All In: Exploring What It Means to Be All In the Gospel of Jesus Christ, shares what she has learned from interviewing over 130 people about their faith in Jesus Christ. Morgan is happiest when wearing sweatpants and will never get enough dark chocolate. She currently lives in Salt Lake City, but will forever be a North Carolina Tarheel.Today’s episode is sponsored by Christian Mingle. Go to christianmingle.com/mintarrow to find a like minded partner that you can make a real connection with. Time Stamps:[00:54] - Morgan Jones recalls the ultimate reason she originally started her podcasting journey.[03:47] - The idea of the All In podcast shifted before its official launch. Morgan gives credit to the people who contributed to the overall concept along the way.[06:10] - Morgan works in the journalism space now, but in college, she ended up choosing a Public Relations major over a Journalism major.[09:06] - Morgan shares a theme she noticed after doing many interviews with influential people who trust Heavenly Father.[11:59] - What are Morgan’s thoughts about connecting with others on a personal level, especially as a person devoted to faith?[14:33] - Part of the purpose driving Morgan is the hope to help other faith-based people feel less alone.[16:41] - Morgan talks about how she faces adversity in the midst of doing good work. [19:25] - Morgan tells a story about a couple who prayed for a child.[22:03] - Morgan explores the idea of whether people choose the difficulties before being born or if God decides the challenges to give to people.[24:35] - Morgan says that we are specifically equipped to take on the challenges we face in life, even the ones that feel past our capacity.[26:40] - What do challenges teach us? How are we able to help others through our challenges?[28:16] - Why does Morgan feel including people of other faiths is important?[31:01] - Morgan shares a moment of joy she experienced in an interview from a small act of kindness.[33:19] - Corrine shares her own funny story of interviewing during her podcast. Then, she moves the conversation back towards broader conversations of faith.[35:08] - Where did Morgan gain the inspiration for the main question in the All In podcast?[38:09] - Listen to Morgan talk about reflecting on her interview experiences to help write the book.[40:28] - There are different levels of being “all in”. Morgan dispels the misconception of “all in”, and describes the true meaning behind the name of the podcast.[42:50] - Corrine and Morgan share thoughts on when people take ownership of their problems. [45:00] - Who are the top names on Morgan’s Interview Wishlist? Of everything Morgan learned from interviews, what is her new understanding of “convenance”?[47:29] - Morgan discusses the understanding of faith, promises, and appreciating covenants.[49:43] - Instead of division or isolation, Morgan promotes understanding, community, and honesty.[51:14] - Morgan reflects that regardless of how we witness God, we can feel the presence of God. Supporting Resources:“All In: An LDS Living Podcast” Hosted by Morgan Jones  Morgan’s Book “All in. Exploring What It Means to Be All In the Gospel of Jesus Christ”See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On Monday, August 23, Jeffrey R Holland, an apostle of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, spoke to the faculty at Brigham Young University in a speech entitled “The Second Half of the Second Century” where Elder Holland expressed love for the University and emphasized the importance of aligning the teachings at BYU and those of the church. He addressed the topic of marriage as a union of a man and a woman, sexual orientation, and avoiding divisiveness instead of being a “house divided.” His talk stirred up a lot of controversy on social media among many members of our church. I too felt many emotions as I first read the talk, and then listened to it twice, all while observing many heated discussions online.And while I think much of the controversy online was stirred up by those who took certain lines out of Elder Holland’s talk out of context and cut-and-pasted certain phrases that without the supporting and surrounding context were very different than the intended message, I also wanted to understand better why so many were expressing feelings of hurt, anger and sadness over this speech.I called my mom wanting her input, and she said she had just finished talking to her friend Melinda, whose experience as a life coach, desire to be “all in” the church, and a mother of two sons who are gay, was the kind of perspective we were both seeking.Immediately after talking to my mom, I reached out to Melinda to see if she could squeeze in an interview for my podcast to talk about this sensitive topic and she graciously agreed. Melinda Welch is a certified life coach, an active member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and a mother of five children. She also has two gay sons, a lesbian sister, many bi, gay and lesbian cousins and transgender friends. Melinda describes herself as “all-in with [her] family and the church.” She is married to her high school sweetheart Wayne (who currently serves as a singles ward bishop), and she says their “black-and-white thinking has been replaced with a sea of rainbows since two of their five kids have come out as gay.”I’m extremely grateful for the chance I had to talk to Melinda about this topic and for her advice and perspective. Melinda said to me before we started talking, “I don’t know if I’m going to say what you want me to say.” And I told her that was exactly why I wanted her to come on the podcast, to offer exactly her thoughts and feelings whether they were similar or totally different than mine. So, although we had some differences in how we feel about or understand some of the complexities of this situation, I deeply respect, admire and appreciate Melinda and the advice she offered to me in this chat. I hope you feel uplifted and enlightened after listening to this episode and that it’s as helpful for you as it was for me. Time Stamps:[02:42] - Melinda recalls the first experience of dealing with her son coming out.[17:41] - How can we show love to the LGBTQ+ community while still being strong in our faith?[21:44] - Melinda describes what curiosity looks like and sounds like when approached in a genuine way.[30:27] - Melinda shares her view on the relation between faith and private institutions, namely BYU.[35:08] - How do we defend our faith?[37:16] - Questions and hard conversations are to develop ourselves, not opportunities to argue with one another.[41:15] - Between the experiences of her children coming out, what advice does Melinda give to others in this situation?[43:04] - Melinda feels that the power of love will be the greatest grace in dealing with life. Supporting Resources: “The Second Half of the Second Century of Brigham Young University” Talk by Jeffrey R. Holland  Melinda Welch Instagram @melindawelchcoachingSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you have kids, and especially if you have kids who are nearing double digit age (like us!) then you’ve probably asked yourself, “When DO we want to give our kids a phone? When is the best time?” Well even though Neil and I would like to stick with “never,” we know it’s an inevitable crossroad, so today I’m sitting down with Bill Brady, CEO and founder Troomi Wireless, to talk alllll about the nitty gritty of giving kids phones and most importantly, how to do it safely. We check off all my questions, including when it’s necessary and how to make sure you’re doing it safely. I also grill Bill pretty hard on just how safe his phone is, whether it’s hackable, what the workarounds are that kids might discover, and I don’t hold back on some differing opinions about devices, social media, and impact on kids. I think you’re really going to enjoy this episode and if you do find yourself convinced you’ll want a Troomi phone for your kids (now or down the road), Bill was nice enough to give us the discount code mintarrow for $50 off any of their phones. Time Stamps:[01:40] - We’re talking about safely giving your kids a phone by speaking with the CEO of Troomi Wireless, Bill Brady.[03:21] - Brady shares a friend’s story of how giving a young person a phone took a difficult turn. [05:31] - There’s a lot of emotion, influence, and access that comes with cell phones that parents may not be fully aware of.[07:30] - When is it appropriate to give a kid a phone?[09:23] - Brady suggests that parents use a gradual approach to exposing pre-teens to personal devices.[10:57] - For a starting point, Brady advises parents to put emphasis on responsibility within limited features.[13:18] - What is the difference between a Troomi cell phone and a Gizmo watch?[15:31] - Prepare your kids to have a healthy management style of technology before they enter the real world.[17:38] - Troomi contains these helpful, real-time features to monitor kids.[19:35] - Brady describes what makes Troomi different from similar options in the same field.[22:38] - How does Brady feel about games on phones?[25:10] - Brady explains how Troomi ended up accepting games on their cell phone. He then talks about the flexibility Troomi gives to varying parenting styles.[27:54] - Phones can be a benefit for the safety of kids and can help keep communication open in times of need.[29:55] - Brady speaks about how kids are figuring out how to hack average cell phones. How does Troomi solve this concern?[32:33] - Troomi also combats the loopholes of the open web and domains.[34:53] - Why does Troomi allow games and not social media?[36:51] - For dealing with social media, the major point comes down to: “Where do you get your validation?”[39:37] - As you make decisions about your kids and technology, stay intentional. Supporting Resources:Troomi website Facebook Instagram @troomiwireless Go to troomi.com and enter in promo code mintarrow to get $50 off a troomi phone.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I love to read, and one of the books I started reading this year (after hearing many business people rave about it) was Radical Candor. This book has some GREAT lessons and takeaways, and in trying to implement the number one takeaway in the book, I felt like I really failed. Today I’m sharing what I think I did right, but mostly where I went wrong, who helped me to see the situation more clearly and most importantly, how to do better next time. Time Stamps:[00:31] - Being honest can help keep others safe and can avoid worse situations in the future.[03:18] - I talk about a time I challenged life with radical candor. Despite going through with it, I did feel a bit awkward.[06:00] - My father has a great ability of giving honest feedback. When I told him about the situation, he gave this tip about feedback.[07:40] - What is Neil’s view of the situation? He speaks on awkward moments in relationships and why not communicating doesn’t make things better.[10:07] - Honest communication in hard situations is all about the delivery of that communication.[12:51] - Sometimes it’s best to involve people in the process of the solution or criticism. I share what happened when I used this approach in parenting.[15:34] - Neil describes the importance of counsel and fostering clear communication.[17:43] - Retelling religious text, I give background to the story of the counsel and the decision before the creation of the Earth. [20:37] - We’re allowed to choose. It’s up to us to decide what we’d like to follow.[22:34] - Neil and I share the way we talked to our kids about healthy and constructive methods to handle feelings.[25:19] - Neil mentions the change in how our children manage conflict and feelings now.[26:46] - Neil and I discuss how amazing a great communicator navigates a tough position by referencing a biblical story.[28:20] - Communication is absent of shaming and berating. [31:10] - What are the attributes of properly using authority?[33:07] - Frustration is natural, but sometimes it doesn’t do good to project that onto others.[35:07] - Here’s the verdict on “radical candor vs. counsel together”.[36:37] - Neil gives the practical side of communication to remember when things don’t go as expected. Corrine suggests the one plan that always works.[39:31] - Take these tips for the next time you need to give feedback to someone. Supporting Resources: “Family Councils” Talk by M. Russell Ballard “Christlike Communications” Talk by L. Lionel KendrickSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.