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Today we’re exploring an emotion. That ‘cringe’ emotion.  That hiding-behind-a-pillow emotion. That fear-of-being-judged-by-others emotion.  Shame.  Join me today, and learn to soothe shame with compassion and connection.    Here are the highlights: (2:12) Shame and guilt (5:20) Fitting in (10:43) Peace with the past (14:20) Burning bright You can find my FREE masterclass - How to Burn Bright Without Burning Out HERE. You can book a clarity call with me, to work on shame through compassion HERE.

In this episode, I will share something I haven't shared on this podcast before. My hope is that you will feel seen. I want to boldly unmask what has been happening in my life and how I am evolving because I know you might be experiencing something similar. Join me as I open up about self-worth, self-compassion, and neurodiversity.   Highlights:  (02:04) An evolution of growth  (04:17) It’s nobody's fault! (06:40) Sense of liberation  (07:54) 5 hours of free coaching  (12:08) Things you need to get started  (13:15) Realise that you are not alone!   If you want to be part of the ADHD/perfectionism focus group and receive a free 1:1 session, reach out to me on info@thethomasconnection.co.uk  If you want to join my waiting list to be the first to hear about my offerings for perfectionistic, anxious ADHDers, enter your details here: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/ADHD Burn Bright masterclass:  https://thethomasconnection.lpages.co/burnbright    

As mothers especially, we lack compassion for ourselves, and we don't implement self-care even though we know it's good for us and, better yet, that we deserve it! We should not ignore our needs because we are meeting everyone else's. All this does is drain us. We can choose to change! This episode looks at the necessary self-care and then looks at the tips for inviting more nourishing self-care into our day-to-day routines.   Highlights:  (02:08) You have no time for you when (08:51) Which version of yourself will your children see?  (09:53) What are your warning signs?  (10:38) Yes but… (11:04) Get a pocket of pause (11:37) Doing self care can be small! (13:54) Create your own rhythm You can download my free worksheet, Calm the Overwhelm, here: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/calm   Join us at the event I am hosting together with Sam Dhu, a recent guest on the podcast. Read more here: Nourishing You » Powered by ThriveCart  Order my book, The Lasting Connection – develop love and compassion for yourself and your partner here: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/thelastingconnection  

Sometimes life can be tough. We all experience hard knocks, and it always feels everything comes at you at once.  It can be overwhelming – I get it, and I am hear for you!  In this episode we are going to talk about how you can tackle those hard knocks with compassion and strength, so that you come out of the other side better than ever.  The brutal truth is that hard knocks are not easy to just grin and bear. They challenge us and they can get the worst out of us. Just remember: you can’t control what happens to you, but you can control how you respond to it.  Let’s get through this together!    Highlights from this episode:  (03:43) Reframing hard knocks as learning experiences  (05:32) Hard knocks at work  (09:5) Finding your feet when technology fails you  (11:26) Speaking to yourself with grace    https://thethomasconnection.thrivecart.com/nourishing-you/    https://thethomasconnection.lpages.co/burnbright/  

Do you give yourself the permission to look after yourself? In this week’s episode, I’m having a deep chat with my old colleague and friend, Sam Dhu. Sam Dhu is a Psychotherapist, Coach & Facilitator of Permission. Mum to seven-year-old, Amelie and baby Frankie, and passionate advocate for being radically kind and compassionate to yourself. We're tackling self-worth, permission, societal pressures and letting go of perfection. It's not just about the pay check, it's about meaningful work that truly makes you happy. Plus, we have a special announcement about our upcoming event in central London on August 12th! Can't wait for you to hear this episode! Let's dive in. https://thethomasconnection.thrivecart.com/nourishing-you/ You can find Sam on Instagram @samanthadhu and on her website, https://courses.samanthadhu.com.au/courses/the-permission-granted-experience-2023 Highlights: (7.30) The link between perfectionism and self-worth.  (10.17) The cycle between stagnation and procrastination. (15:57) The connection between success and worth.  (19:37) You don’t need to be exceptional to make an impact.  (25.48) The inner critic and inner bully.  (29.05) The importance of self-compassion and self-worth. 

How do you prepare for a period of stress?  And more importantly, how do you recharge your batteries after a stressful event?  It is so important to know how to decompress, so in this episode I talk through some of the things you can do to bookend those stressful periods, whether it’s a one-off event or a high pressure job.    Highlights:  (01:51) Practice what you teach  (04:07) Making space for rest and recovery  (05:42) Burn bright without burning out  (07:23) The three questions to ask yourself  (09:16) Stress peaks vs periods of stress  Come along to my beautiful in person event with my friend Sam Dhu, Nourishing You, in London on the 12th of August: https://thethomasconnection.thrivecart.com/nourishing-you/   Watch the replay of the FREE masterclass for ambitious female entrepreneurs, founders, and CEOs wanting to create more impact in the world, with less impact on themselves: Burn Bright without Burning Out thethomasconnection.lpages.co/burnbright

How do you feel when you look at yourself in the mirror? Today I want us to address the pressure that comes with looking perfect. For example, society has made us believe being thinner will make us happier but it doesn't! Let’s take a deeper dive to understand why.  Highlights: (00:59) More content with yourself  (02:25) The Model Manifesto (06:32) Time consuming  (09:08) Sense of preoccupation (10:17) The good girl narrative

What happens when perfectionists come to the realisation that they want to change?   In this episode, I want to explore perfectionism and why it takes time to change. I also explore how patience is key to sustainable and long-lasting change.   Here are the highlights: (01:00) Patience is key. (2:56) What gets in the way of living a meaningful life? (4:57) Finding a new path to the jungle. (7:02) Give yourself time. (12:39) Shedding the skin.   Michaela's book, The Lasting Connection, can be found here: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/thelastingconnection   Michaela's online course for couples: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/thecompassionatecouple   Watch the replay of the FREE masterclass for ambitious female entrepreneurs, founders, and CEOs wanting to create more impact in the world, with less impact on themselves! How to Burn Bright, Without Burning Out (thethomasconnection.lpages.co)

Today I'm joined by relationship coach and author, Matthew Fray.  Matthew wasn’t always a writer. It all started with a blog post. Matthew wrote one post online about how his wife left him because he left dishes by the sink.   But it wasn’t really about the dishes. Join us today to hear how Matthew leans on the lessons of his own divorce to help others avoid making the same mistakes that he did.    Here are the highlights: (3:11) Matt’s blog (5:13) Dishes by the sink (11:20) A hard pill to swallow (19:56) Relativism and pain (25:00) Ended relationships (32:56) Awareness and compassion   You can find Matthew’s website and book HERE.   Michaela's book, The Lasting Connection, can be found here: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/thelastingconnection   Michaela's online course for couples: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/thecompassionatecouple    Watch the replay of the FREE masterclass for ambitious female entrepreneurs, founders, and CEOs wanting to create more impact in the world, with less impact on themselves! How to Burn Bright, Without Burning Out (thethomasconnection.lpages.co)

I want you to think about the kind of life you're trying to create. What would life be like if you were more compassionate with yourself? Why would you want to let go of ‘perfect’ when society demands that of you?  It’s all about letting go of the pursuit of perfection.  Join me today to hear how all this can help you create a more spacious life.   Here are the highlights: (1:29) Just keep going (2:50) Stepping out of perfectionism (6:05) A compassionate mind (9:45) Who do you want to be (11:40) Compassionate minds