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People pleasing goes hand in hand with perfectionism and compassion. And most of the time, people pleasers struggle with saying no.  They spread themselves too thin by agreeing to things they don't want, or have the capacity to do. It can lead to feelings of resentment, exhaustion, irritation, and even burnout when we repeatedly ignore our own limits, in order to please others.  So, join me today as we discuss people pleasing, saying no and setting boundaries.    Here are the highlights: (1:43) People pleasing and setting boundaries (5:33) Burnout prevention for women in business (7:33) Setting boundaries in relationships (10:32) Prioritizing self-care   Here is the link to my workshop - People Pleasing in Relationships. 

Not every perfectionistic person has impostor syndrome.  Not everyone who is bothered by impostor syndrome has perfectionism.  But there is an overlap between the two.  The fear of being found out as a fraud can make us feel that we’re not good enough. So, today we're talking about impostor syndrome with my guest Jill Stoddard.  So, if you’re bothered by these feelings whenever you do something new, this episode is for you.  Join us.    Here are the highlights: (3:08) Imposter syndrome impacting successful women (13:29) Those feelings of self-doubt (22:57) Vulnerability and imposter syndrome (28:30) Burnout for women in leadership (36:58) Growth and midlife clarity (44:12) Imposter syndrome impacting success (46:56) Your inner self-criticism    Find out more: Order Jill's book Impostor No More here:  Imposter No More: Overcome Self-doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career: Amazon.co.uk: Stoddard, Jill A.: 9781472148773: Books Jill's website: https://jillstoddard.com/

Are you a perfectionist? Perhaps you put a lot of pressure on yourself? Maybe you’re feeling overwhelmed with lots on your plate? There are many ways the pressure of perfection can affect us.  So today, I’m discussing letting go of that pressure.  Join me, as we give ourselves permission to make progress over perfection.    Here are the highlights:  (1:10) Perfectionism and inner work (4:49) Overcoming perfectionism and burnout (8:29) Perfectionism and progress (11:18) Improving relationships, health and wealth   Find out more: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright info@thethomasconnection.co.uk to ask Michaela about Burn Bright.

This episode has a little twist. Because today we’re talking about nutrition.  I'm bringing back my fabulous guest, Thalia Pellegrini, a registered nutritional therapist.  You might think nutrition is just about food.  But there's so much more to it than that.  So, join us as we discuss nutrition, and learn how to nourish ourselves while being more self-compassionate through what we put on our plates.   Here are the highlights:  (2:52) Nutritional therapy for women’s health (10:09) Food and our mental health (18:41) Burnout prevention for female entrepreneurs (26:01) Healthy eating habits (34:19) Nutrition and psychology for better health   Find out more:  Thalia's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thaliapellegrini_nutrition/ Thalia's website: https://www.thaliapellegrini.com/ Join the transformational group coaching programme Burn Bright before the 27th of September to see a full recording of this episode: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright

Welcome to today’s bonus episode.  Things can get stressful at this time of year, with our kids going back and starting school. We have a lot going on.  So, today I’m opening up about my experiences over the last few days.  Join me, to hear how I used mindfulness tools to stop, breathe and notice.    Here are the highlights:  (2:06) Being spontaneous (5:44) Tricky transitions (9:35) Compassionate responses (13:42) Gaslighting yourself 

People pleasing, setting boundaries, trusting yourself.   These are just a few topics I’m touching on today.   I’m joined by Natalie Costa, an award-winning coach, speaker, author and founder of Power Thoughts.   So, if you’re someone who has a mean inner critical voice, or you’re a bit of an overworker, then this episode is for you.    Join us.    Here are the highlights: (2:18) This episode is for YOU (7:27) Bringing toxic work culture into your own business (16:06) How the nervous system is impacted by the programme (20:07) The power of self-compassion and mindfulness (29:26) Feeling scared about your worth (36:58) How to find Natalie and her work   Find out more:    www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright   info@thethomasconnection.co.uk to ask Michaela about Burn Bright.    Natalie’s website: www.powerthoughts.co.uk   Natalie’s Instagram: www.instagram.com/powerthoughtsnc   Natalie’s previous episode on Pause Purpose Play: https://thethomasconnection.co.uk/power-thoughts-with-natalie-costa/

It’s easy to obsess over removing every imperfection.   We all know how hard it is to let things go when we don't feel that they’re ready.    So today, I’m answering your questions about letting go of ‘perfect’.   Join me, and let’s make more progress.    Here are the highlights: (3:14) Just doing it (6:45) How to burn bright (9:39) Letting go (13:24) Life coaching   I provide both coaching and therapy, and can identify which intervention is best suited to you and your current life circumstances, in a way that life coaches cannot. I am so passionate about this that I am running a free masterclass about it on the 13th of September at 12.00 called No Regrets-Build the life you want to live. https://thethomasconnection.lpages.co/noregrets The other exciting news is that the doors are now OPEN to Burn Bright for this round’s applications. I won’t open the doors again until January 2024, so if this is for you–make sure to book a call with me in September. Register your interest on www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright and I will answer any questions you have. Application form for Burn Bright : https://info859178.typeform.com/to/xteAuHmx Email me questions:info@thethomasconnection.co.uk  

The focus of this episode is connection and compassion. If you are a high achiever or constantly busy, you need to be aware of the connections you are making every day and how they are affecting your life. I want to help you understand how to connect with yourself, with others, and with your work so that you live life with a sense of pride and meaning. So join me as I give you some journal prompts to help you connect with what truly aligns with your values. Here are the highlights from this episode: (01:56) Connection over perfection (03:09) Live life in a way that matters to you (06:18) Regrets about not living authentically   (07:19) Authenticity also feeds connection (10:27) What is the thing that matters most to you?   You can find my FREE masterclass - How to Burn Bright Without Burning Out HERE. You can book a clarity call with me, to work on shame through compassion HERE.   The next intake of Burn Bright starts on the 4th of October, read more here: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright

In today’s episode, I’m going to be talking about how you miss all of the shots you don’t take.   If you don’t ask for something you’re never going to get it.  I share stories about when I went out of my comfort zone to ask for what I deserved and how it has had a positive impact on my life.     Here are the highlights:   (06:32) Ask!  (08:23) Burn bright without burning out  (09:55) Why do women struggle with this?  (13:22) How to ask for what you need  (16:07) Have everything good, and then some    You can find my FREE masterclass - How to Burn Bright Without Burning Out HERE. You can book a clarity call with me, to work on shame through compassion HERE.   The next intake of Burn Bright starts on the 4th of October, read more here: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright

Today's episode is all about the pressure of perfectionism! I'm joined by Thomas Curran, a psychology professor at the London School of Economics and the author of The Perfection Trap. Thomas has spent a lot of time uncovering how societal pressures are a big driving force of perfectionism. Today, Thomas explains how personality traits are linked to perfectionism and how this can impact mental health. We’ll delve into some of the pressures that lead to it and debunk misconceptions surrounding perfectionism and look at how it affects our lives and overall performance. Highlights:  (12:38) It’s about trying to repair what you think is an imperfect self  (14:59) Success is like a bottomless pit  (19:27) Perfectionistic fantasies  (26:01) Looking at the world from a different lens  (28:26) It’s not healthy to be obsessive  (36:20) Trying to overcompensate  (41:25) You have to exist in a period of unknown (55:00) It’s about leaving something in the world  You can connect with Thomas here Twitter: @thom_curran; LinkedIn: thom-curran You can find my FREE masterclass - How to Burn Bright Without Burning Out HERE. You can book a clarity call with me, to work on shame through compassion HERE.