The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

The Effects of Sex Addiction on Relationships and Recovery Through SLAA

OC67-Noelle Van Vlierbergen - Author of "Day By DayBook" - Family, Relationships and Sobriety through Yoga and Meditation

OC66-Jesse Harless - Author of Smash Your Comfort Zone

OC65- Pat G - Over 40 Years in Recovery - A Life of Love and Service

Josh B. - Peer Childhood Abuse, Suicidal Depression, Recovery from Alcoholism

Hi Friend! Welcome to another episode of the ODAAT Chat, my name is Arlina and I’ll be your host. If you are new here, this is a podcast where my guests and I talk about how to recovery from alcoholism and addiction. I’m looking to uncover the moments of clarity, the revelations, and the tools and practices for healing which lead to long term recovery. So I am really looking forward to sharing this interview, because it’s with Tracy Winchell, the host of “Reboots Podcast”, but before I do, I just wanted to share that... This episode is sponsored by my free 7 day “Connection Cure Challenge” -  How to Overcome Isolation and Attract Your Tribe in 7 days. - I know what its like to feel overwhelmed by life, and lonely and when I feed like that, all I want to do is isolate. But I found a solution that changed my life forever and I want to share it with you. It’s a free online course with a downloadable worksheet. If you’ve ever struggled with loneliness and isolation then you absolutely need to take this challenge and experience the relief that comes from feeling supported and connected. Sign up for free at soberlifeschool.com Today my guest is the lovely Tracy Winchell. Tracy shares how her repeated experiences with abandonment affected her growing up and her relationships in adulthood. She also shares how Celebrate Recovery has provided her with community and the support she needed for healing. Here’s the page for the NTNDS bonus, as well as her personal Step 10 questions. https://rebootspodcast.com/ODAAT/   If you would like to contact Tracy:  email: tracy@winchellstoryworks.com Twitter @tracyplaces @rebootspodcast   Facebook http://facebook.com/tracy.winchell http://facebook.com/rebootspodcast LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/tracylwinchell Website http://rebootspodcast.com

Hi Friend! Welcome to another episode of the ODAAT Chat, my name is Arlina and I’ll be your host. If you are new here, this is a podcast where my guests and I talk about how to recovery from alcoholism and addiction by a variety of different methods. I’m looking to uncover the moments of clarity, the revelations, and the tools and practices for healing which lead to long term recovery. OK, so it was really hard for me not to go all fan girl on Darren, but I think I managed to maintain my cool and I’ll tell you why I almost lost it, but before I do, I just wanted to share that... This episode is sponsored by my new course “Holding Safe Space-Letting Go of Secrets and Living Guilt Free”. They say we’re only as sick as our secrets. That it’s holding onto our guilt and shame that holds us back from feeling like we deserve better. We have to be willing to let go of that guilt and shame in order to allow ourselves to receive the love we need in order to heal. This is your opportunity to be free. Today could be the day you decide to let it go and I’m here to help. If you are ready, go to SoberLifeSchool.com and Look for “Holding Safe Space” and register for your confidential 1:1 session with me. I truly believe everyone deserves to be free, I will help guide you through the process. Sign up today, at soberlifeschool.com So back to today’s episode with with Super Celebrity Agent, CEO of Prince Marketing Group, and most recently author of “Aiming High: How a Prominent Sports and Celebrity Agent Hit Bottom at the Top“, With Kristen McGuiness, and foreword by Prince’s very first client, Earvin “Magic” Johnson. How cool is that?? And can I just tell you than although Darren has been on the press circuit like NBC 6, Good Day NY, Dr. Drew Pinsky and FOX , his PR Agency reached out to be on the ODAAT Chat Podcast! How cool is that?? His book hit the #1 on Amazon even before it was released! Was it because guys like Mark Cuban, Kevin Harrington, Hulk Hogan, and Dennis Rodman sent out recommendations on Social Media? Maybe. I think it’s because it’s a beautifully written book with great stories and an inspirational message. Darren shows true courage by being so open about his dark and destructive drug and alcohol use. I found Darren to be so humble and genuine and he had AH-Mazing, and deeply heartfelt stories.  I can’t wait for you to hear them, so with that, please enjoy this episode, with Darren Prince. With Love and Gratitude, Arlina

Holding Safe Space - Letting go of Guilt and Shame Hi Friend! Welcome to another episode of The ODAAT Chat Podcast, my name is Arlina and I’ll be your host. After taking a break for a couple of weeks, I decided to kick off the next series with a solo episode to talk about Holding Safe Space - and the process of letting go of secrets so that you can live free of guilt and shame. I’m going to walk you through how all this came up for me, what the process of letting go looks like for me, and how you can do it too. There will be a free downloadable worksheet available on my website at SoberLifeSchool.com. Went to a meeting where the topic was the 4th step ( and for those of you who don’t know, it’s a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves). Naturally, people also talked about step 5 which is sharing the inventory - acts of confession, but also finding self forgiveness through the loving perspective of a guild who understands what it’s like to wrestle with alcoholism and addiction. There’s just something about sharing with a peer who’s been through it that feels safe. Let me share the process with you that I’m borrowing right out of the book, Alcoholics Anonymous. You can take notes or download the worksheet from SoberLifeSchool.com, but here it is: There are four columns, and in the first column, make a list of all the people you are resentful at The second column, List the specific cause of the resentment. The third, is what was the effect? How did the event effect you? ie. Your self esteem, ego, financial, security, personal or financial. Also, what is the underlying fear? Finally the fourth column, what was my part in this? This is probably the hardest part, and often where we need help because when we’re hurt, we are focused on OUR pain. It’s hard to see that others who hurt us are often doing so IN RESPONSE to our behavior. This is where courage is required. The thing to keep in mind here is that we actually WANT to know where we went wrong, so that we don’t actually CAUSE other people to hurt us. This is often where people get tripped up and I don’t want you to worry about that right now. Don’t let that be the reason not to walk through this exercise, because what most people don’t see right away is that this is exactly where the freedom comes from. It’s in the last place you’d expect to find it. I know that was the case for me! I’ll even give you my own personal example. I have a million of them, but I’ll just give you one for now: I’ll call it “Just the tip”. But it’s not what you think. ;) Resentful at: Bob, my then fiancee  Cause: He gave a huge tip that I thought we couldn’t afford Effected: Self esteem, PR, financial and emotion security, (fear of I wasn’t going to get what I wanted). My part: Self righteous anger, lack of communication, Self centered pride (i know what’s best), made everyone uncomfortable over a small amount of money. Control issues Having someone walk me through the process helped me not only to see my part, but not to then go so low that I beat myself up over it, causing even more self harm. I was then able to go to the one I love and make amends - not just apologize, but to acknowledge that I see how my behavior effected him, and figure out a way to avoid situations like this in the future. Better yet, I learned to forgive myself, and realized I the best I could with the info I had. I was able to see how I was driven by fear and that through love and empathy, I learned to improve my self esteem and love myself.  So anyway, after this meeting I went to recently, I started to wonder why some people can’t let go of their shame. Or even, what people not in program do to let go of guilt and shame? Don’t want to share with someone with any connection to their circle of friends or family? Fear of being judged? Too much shame? Don’t have a safe person? This is where I can help. What I want you to know is that if you are holding onto a secret that you want freedom from, I am able to hold safe space for you. This is how it will work. You can go to SoberLifeSchool.com, look for the course called “Holding Safe Space” and register to book time with me via a Zoom online meeting. Once you place your order, you will receive a link to my calendar and you can choose a time that works for you. Just so you know, I only have a very limited amount of time to do this, and I need to save them for people who are truly ready to be free. Also, because the number of spots available is very limited, registration will only be open for the next 7 days. If the spots fill up quickly, then I will provide a waitlist and you will be notified as space becomes available. If you are ready to drop the rock and experience freedom from guilt and shame, then sign up now to lock in your spot. Once you do, you will receive a link to schedule your appointment. I know this is a scary proposition but I want to encourage you to share the secret and find empathy and forgiveness. Weather it’s me, or you have a friend you trust, a therapist, or a religious person you feel safe with, I want you to take a leap of faith and let it all go. What helped me to finally let it all go was thinking about what it would cost me if I didn’t let it go. It would cost me my self esteem, it would cost me my hopes and dreams because I knew I would never allow myself to really receive the love I desperately needed to heal as long as I held onto my guilt and condemnation. So today could be your day. Reach out to me or someone else and take that next step. Do it scared, because that means you have courage. It also means you are ready to heal and therefore help others to heal as well. I’m here if you need me, and thanks for spending time with me today. With gratitude, Arlina   Or on iTunes: Or on Google Play: This podcast is sponsored by Audible. First book is free!

Welcome to another episode of the Odaat Chat Podcast, my name is Arlina and I’ll be your host. If you haven’t yet, please subscribe on iTunes, or you can get new episodes delivered right to your inbox by signing up for the newsletter at odaatchat.com. If you are new here, this is a podcast where my guests and I talk about how to recovery from alcoholism and addiction. We typically spend the first half of the podcast on the backstory, but the magic is really in the solution, which is what we try to focus on. I’m looking to uncover the moments of clarity, the revelations, and the tools and practices for healing which lead to long term recovery. So I can’t wait to share the next guest with you, Author of the new book, “Bottleneck, A Drinking Memoir” by Paul Fuhr".   But before I do, I just wanted to share that... This episode is sponsored by my free 7 day “Connection Cure Challenge -  How to Overcome Isolation and Attract Your Tribe in 7 days". I know what its like to feel overwhelmed by life, and lonely because all I want to do is isolate. But I found a solution that changed my life forever and I want to share it with you. It’s a free online course with a downloadable worksheet. So if you’ve ever struggled with loneliness and isolation then you absolutely need to take this challenge and experience the relief that comes from feeling supported and connected. Sign up for free at Sober Life School Okay, back to the new episode with Paul, who is a tireless advocate of the recovery community. He has written for The Fix, Afterparty, Klen & Sober, InRecovery, The Literary Review, The Live Oak Review and has just published his second book, “Bottleneck, A Recovery Memoir”. You can also find out more about Paul on his website here: http://www.paulfuhr.com So first, I have to apologize to Paul for not noticing I neglected to hit “record” until we were at least 20 minutes into our FIRST conversation, which was awesome, so what you hear is really round two. Anyway, this is a wide ranging conversation with my new BFF Paul. I bet he gets that a lot too because he’s sooo funny and super nice. And he laughed at all my jokes so, I gotta love him for that. We eventually get to his story, but we also talk about the differences between our recovery groups, recovery in the corporate world, coping with a sick parent, his podcast “Drop the Needle" on iTunes (which I will be a guest on, yay!) and of course his beautifully written book which you will love. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Paul. With love and gratitude, Arlina

Alcoholism is a disease of isolation - Connection is the cure Today I'm sharing the one tool that has kept me sober more than any other over the last 24 years :)