The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
I'm Dr. Margaret, a psychologist for over 30 years, TEDx speaker, and the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression. I created The SelfWork Podcast in 2016 to explain mental health treatment and to give you the chance to consider therapy without thinking it's weird or that it somehow suggests you can't fix your own problems. My team is very honored that nine years later, SelfWork has earned nearly 5 million downloads! Each episode features the popular listener question as well as interviews with outstanding guests, authors, and experts, adding to the wide diversity of topics listeners so appreciate. Regularly rated as one of the top mental health/depression podcasts out there (ranked as a top .5% internationally) I keep it short, casual, and focused on "what you can do about it." I'd love to hear from you. Please join me.
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Nov 17, 2017 • 19min
050 SelfWork: Is Perfectly Hidden Depression Real?
Could you be functioning well -in fact “perfectly” in many ways — and underneath it all, be hiding pain, loneliness or even suicidal thoughts? Dr. Margaret’s term for this is Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD), a syndrome of behaviors that can lead to a way-too-manicured persona out there for the public to see, while below the […] The post 050 SelfWork: Is Perfectly Hidden Depression Real? appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Nov 13, 2017 • 18min
049 SelfWork: Honoring Your Rituals And You During The Holidays
You can hear the pressures beginning to mount in people’s voices, as we all approach the holiday season. Dr. Margaret offers her own personal story of her parents’ deaths the week before Christmas of 2007, and how giving herself options was key in balancing the meaning of rituals with her grief. Rituals can be incredibly […] The post 049 SelfWork: Honoring Your Rituals And You During The Holidays appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Nov 3, 2017 • 19min
048 SelfWork: The Apology. The Good, The Bad And The Ugly
Apologizing, saying “I’m sorry,” is quite difficult for many people. Yet a sincere heartfelt apology can make a world of difference in a relationship. Dr. Margaret adds to a list of good and not so good apologies that appeared in The Wall Street Journal (written by Elizabeth Bernstein), including the contingency apology, the passing the […] The post 048 SelfWork: The Apology. The Good, The Bad And The Ugly appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Oct 27, 2017 • 26min
047 SelfWork: If You Love (Or Have Loved) A Narcissist
Narcissism has been a hot topic for the past few years, with many people writing about their fate — being attracted to and trying to love someone with narcissistic traits. Dr. Margaret talks clearly about what narcissism is and what it’s not, as well as offering five recognitions about your own role in the furor […] The post 047 SelfWork: If You Love (Or Have Loved) A Narcissist appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Oct 20, 2017 • 20min
046 SelfWork: How A Woman Feels Around A Harvey Weinstein
If you haven’t heard about Harvey Weinstein, you may have been living under a rock the last couple of weeks. He’s been accused of sexual harassment and assault by multiple women. Dr. Margaret relays an incident in her own history with sexual harassment, and how it made her feel. She also focuses on human’s normal […] The post 046 SelfWork: How A Woman Feels Around A Harvey Weinstein appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Oct 13, 2017 • 26min
045 SelfWork: Self-Compassion. What It Is And Why It’s Vital
Dr. Margaret received a fascinating question from a listener recently. “How do I learn to feel my feelings, when I’ve been suppressing them for years?” The key is self-compassion, and it’s vital in healing from depression, anxiety or what I term perfectly hidden depression. Dr. Margaret focuses on self-compassion, giving examples from her own patients […] The post 045 SelfWork: Self-Compassion. What It Is And Why It’s Vital appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Oct 9, 2017 • 11min
044 SelfWork: Is Your PTSD, Depression Or Anxiety Being Triggered By The Last Vegas Tragedy?
If you have already experiencing depression, anxiety or even Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), you may be being triggered by the horrific massacre in Las Vegas. In this special edition of SelfWork, Dr. Margaret offers some important ideas on how to process your thoughts and emotions if your symptoms have re-emerged or are worsening. Please […] The post 044 SelfWork: Is Your PTSD, Depression Or Anxiety Being Triggered By The Last Vegas Tragedy? appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Oct 6, 2017 • 25min
043 SelfWork: When Friendships End
Friends. They’re often your “family of choice.” They can be wonderfully satisfying, intellectually challenging, and just plain fun. But what happens when one friend backs out of the friendship? How do you understand it, grieve the loss and move on? Dr. Margaret speaks again of her own experience with being “ghosted” by a friend, and […] The post 043 SelfWork: When Friendships End appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Sep 28, 2017 • 22min
042 SelfWork: How To Fall Back In Love (Or Make Sure You Stay)
“I’m not in love with you anymore.” These are words that can bring pain, confusion — a total feeling of rejection and emotional abandonment. How do couples try to prevent this from happening? What do you need to do to stay connected and committed? What’s the one question you heed to ask yourself? Dr. Margaret […] The post 042 SelfWork: How To Fall Back In Love (Or Make Sure You Stay) appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Sep 21, 2017 • 25min
041 SelfWork: Making “Long Distance Love” Work
Loving “long distance” is something that many people have to learn how to do. Whether you live far away from parents, your partner, your children or great friends, maintaining that relationship can require understanding, flexibility and other significant personal skills. Dr. Margaret tells her personal story of living away from loved ones, both as a […] The post 041 SelfWork: Making “Long Distance Love” Work appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
