The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
I'm Dr. Margaret, a psychologist for over 30 years, TEDx speaker, and the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression. I created The SelfWork Podcast in 2016 to explain mental health treatment and to give you the chance to consider therapy without thinking it's weird or that it somehow suggests you can't fix your own problems. My team is very honored that nine years later, SelfWork has earned nearly 5 million downloads! Each episode features the popular listener question as well as interviews with outstanding guests, authors, and experts, adding to the wide diversity of topics listeners so appreciate. Regularly rated as one of the top mental health/depression podcasts out there (ranked as a top .5% internationally) I keep it short, casual, and focused on "what you can do about it." I'd love to hear from you. Please join me.
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Feb 2, 2018 • 24min
061 SelfWork: Three Very Practical Exercises To Boost Your Self-Esteem
There’s lots of information out there about how to stop beating yourself up or how to increase your self-esteem. But how do-able is it? I’m always interested in practical ways people can approach problems, or “What You Can Do About It.” So I’m offering three practical exercises for you to try — things that I’ve […] The post 061 SelfWork: Three Very Practical Exercises To Boost Your Self-Esteem appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Jan 26, 2018 • 20min
060 SelfWork: Unmasking The Pain Of Perfectly Hidden Depression
As promised, today’s episode is about peeling off the mask of Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD). Thousands of you have listened to the episodes on PHD, and I’d love to hear from you personally. Email me confidentially so I can learn more from you! This episode covers basic steps of change, with specific examples and directions […] The post 060 SelfWork: Unmasking The Pain Of Perfectly Hidden Depression appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Jan 19, 2018 • 21min
059 SelfWork: How To Cope With The Fear Of Judgment
How much do you hide about yourself because you fear the judgment of others, and perhaps rejection based on that judgment? We probably all do from time to time. I’ll share some of my own story, and one of the surprising gifts of being a therapist. We’ll also define two beliefs that are required for […] The post 059 SelfWork: How To Cope With The Fear Of Judgment appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Jan 12, 2018 • 21min
058 SelfWork: What Is Codependency And What Can You Do About It?
“Codependent” is a word that’s thrown around a lot these days to describe relationships. But what exactly defines a codependent relationship, and how do you know if you’re part of one? Using examples from real couples, I’ll answer that question, as well as offering you some questions to ask yourself if you’re the “enabled” or […] The post 058 SelfWork: What Is Codependency And What Can You Do About It? appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Jan 5, 2018 • 20min
057 SelfWork: The Real Voices Of Perfectly Hidden Depression
Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD) is a topic I’ve been researching and writing about for over three years, and many people have written me about their own experience with the syndrome. In this episode, you’ll here directly from them about their struggles with perfectionism — putting up a constant front of success, while simultaneously never satisfying […] The post 057 SelfWork: The Real Voices Of Perfectly Hidden Depression appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Dec 29, 2017 • 19min
056 SelfWork: The Vital Importance Of Touch
How long has it been since you touched your partner? Not in a sexual way, but a simple touch… It’s amazing to me how many people in long-term relationships have fallen into the rut of not touching one another. It can be awkward to begin again, but is a simple, free way to improve your […] The post 056 SelfWork: The Vital Importance Of Touch appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Dec 17, 2017 • 10min
055 SelfWork: An Anniversary Of Grief And Gratitude.
In this special edition of SelfWork, Dr. Margaret launches a new website and podcast design in celebration of her fifth anniversary of taking a risk and beginning to blog. It’s somewhat bittersweet, as she also honors the deaths of her parents on the same day. Join her as she thanks readers and listeners for all […] The post 055 SelfWork: An Anniversary Of Grief And Gratitude. appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Dec 15, 2017 • 20min
054 SelfWork: How To Learn From A Mistake
“Always be humble and kind” was a huge country hit last year, and Dr. Margaret talks in this episode about making mistakes and learning from them. How do you actually do that? She offers five pragmatic ideas of accepting mistakes, and specific questions to ask so that you may be less likely to make them […] The post 054 SelfWork: How To Learn From A Mistake appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Dec 8, 2017 • 23min
053 SelfWork: 7 Ways To Feel Partnered In Parenting
Parenting is hard, overwhelming in fact at times. And there are some common fights that couples have. “Who’s working harder in this relationship?” can be a very destructive one. “You don’t know what it’s like to be home with the kids.” Or “You come home from work, and all you do is stay on your […] The post 053 SelfWork: 7 Ways To Feel Partnered In Parenting appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Nov 29, 2017 • 26min
052 SelfWork: Coping with Suicide
If your life has been tragically touched by suicide, coping with that loss is like no other grief. In this episode of SelfWork, I’ll talk about that specific grief, and the research that looks at the reasons people take their own lives. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is often found in those who’ve experienced their loved […] The post 052 SelfWork: Coping with Suicide appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
