The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
I'm Dr. Margaret, a psychologist for over 30 years, TEDx speaker, and the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression. I created The SelfWork Podcast in 2016 to explain mental health treatment and to give you the chance to consider therapy without thinking it's weird or that it somehow suggests you can't fix your own problems. My team is very honored that nine years later, SelfWork has earned nearly 5 million downloads! Each episode features the popular listener question as well as interviews with outstanding guests, authors, and experts, adding to the wide diversity of topics listeners so appreciate. Regularly rated as one of the top mental health/depression podcasts out there (ranked as a top .5% internationally) I keep it short, casual, and focused on "what you can do about it." I'd love to hear from you. Please join me.
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Sep 15, 2017 • 23min
040 SelfWork: Depression, Suicide And Your Cell Phone
The rate of suicide is increasing dramatically in the United States as well as internationally, both in teenagers and in midlife. As this is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month in the US, Dr. Margaret discusses this cultural shift, quoting the fascinating work of prominent researcher Jean Twenge who reports a relationship between the emergence of the […] The post 040 SelfWork: Depression, Suicide And Your Cell Phone appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Sep 8, 2017 • 20min
039 SelfWork: The Unique Basic Needs Of Women And Men
There’s tremendous controversy about whether or not gender differences occur as a result of cultural influence or are they innate. What’s important for this podcast isn’t how they’re created, but what influence do they have on a couple’s communication? Dr. Margaret tells about her own observations in working with couples, and shares the ideas from […] The post 039 SelfWork: The Unique Basic Needs Of Women And Men appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Sep 1, 2017 • 23min
038 SelfWork: Kindness Matters
“When I sat down to record this morning, I could only think of the many tragedies, caused by humans and by nature, that have been occurring for the last few weeks and months. I felt paralyzed. What did what I might have to say matter? Then I remembered a stranger’s kindness, and I smiled.” Dr. Margaret tells […] The post 038 SelfWork: Kindness Matters appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Aug 26, 2017 • 22min
037 SelfWork: How To Parent Well Together
Parenting. It’s hectic, Complicated. Fatiguing. Wonderful. Meaningful. Frightening. One would think that it would be easier with two people doing it, and it is in many ways. But you can get in battles about everything from who’s the better parent to who cares the most to who is the better disciplinarian. Dr. Margaret offers four […] The post 037 SelfWork: How To Parent Well Together appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Aug 19, 2017 • 19min
036 SelfWork: The Shame No One Talks About After Sexual Abuse
In today’s podcast, Dr. Margaret talks about a certain type of shame that’s rarely revealed after sexual abuse. What is that shame? It’s the result of your body responding with arousal during the actual abuse itself. What’s vital to understand is that arousal doesn’t reflect consent — not in any way. Dr. Margaret describes conditions […] The post 036 SelfWork: The Shame No One Talks About After Sexual Abuse appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Aug 14, 2017 • 20min
035 SelfWork: Four Steps To Heal From Parental Abuse
No one has a “say” in the kind of parents we had. Some are lucky, and have parents who loved them deeply and cared for them in a healthy way. Many are not so lucky, and have to deal with very painful memories, the emotions that stem from them, and how their present life may […] The post 035 SelfWork: Four Steps To Heal From Parental Abuse appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Aug 12, 2017 • 20min
034 SelfWork : Divorce. How To “Get Along For The Kids’ Sake”
There is a huge difference between divorce with children, and divorce without children. Dr. Margaret offers nine practical and do-able choices to make when living out your divorced life, with shared children. “Getting along for the children’s sake” can lead to your children to survive the divorce and thrive in their lives, whereas a continuation […] The post 034 SelfWork : Divorce. How To “Get Along For The Kids’ Sake” appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Aug 5, 2017 • 18min
033 SelfWork: How Self-Esteem And Self-Acceptance Work Together, Even With Depression
What is the relationship between self-esteem and self-acceptance? And how do you manage to hang on to either when you’re experiencing depression? Dr. Margaret gives you her perspective, with the offering that no one fact about you defines you as a person. She also describes the difference between resignation and acceptance, and how the latter […] The post 033 SelfWork: How Self-Esteem And Self-Acceptance Work Together, Even With Depression appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Jul 29, 2017 • 21min
032 SelfWork: The Nine Paths To Perfectly Hidden Depression
Hiding or detaching temporarily from emotional pain is a healthy skill. If you have something hurtful happen, but you need to “get your act together” in order to work, or watch children, then knowing you can do that rather than being besieged by your pain, reflects emotional competence. However, people with Perfectly Hidden Depression have […] The post 032 SelfWork: The Nine Paths To Perfectly Hidden Depression appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Jul 22, 2017 • 22min
031 SelfWork: Hiding Depression And Perfectly Hidden Depression – Is There A Difference?
The Beck Depression Inventory has been used to identify depression for many years. But it will miss those with Perfectly Hidden Depression, due to the fact that they’d rarely allow themselves to reveal their pain, not even to a computer. Even people with more moderate classic depression may discount or deny their symptoms — no […] The post 031 SelfWork: Hiding Depression And Perfectly Hidden Depression – Is There A Difference? appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
