The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
I'm Dr. Margaret, a psychologist for over 30 years, TEDx speaker, and the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression. I created The SelfWork Podcast in 2016 to explain mental health treatment and to give you the chance to consider therapy without thinking it's weird or that it somehow suggests you can't fix your own problems. My team is very honored that nine years later, SelfWork has earned nearly 5 million downloads! Each episode features the popular listener question as well as interviews with outstanding guests, authors, and experts, adding to the wide diversity of topics listeners so appreciate. Regularly rated as one of the top mental health/depression podcasts out there (ranked as a top .5% internationally) I keep it short, casual, and focused on "what you can do about it." I'd love to hear from you. Please join me.
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Aug 2, 2019 • 22min
140 SelfWork: Why Is Change So Difficult? The Power of Triggers
Even when you want change in your life, it’s hard to give up what’s familiar and risk the unfamiliar. You at least know you can tolerate what’s happening now and change can be daunting. But you can also be struggling with powerful triggers. I’ll define what a trigger is – how it can be known […] The post 140 SelfWork: Why Is Change So Difficult? The Power of Triggers appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Jul 26, 2019 • 27min
139 SelfWork: Borderline? Dependent? Narcissistic? What Exactly Is A Personality Disorder?
When you hear the term “personality disorder,” what does that mean? That someone ‘s personality is off-putting or self-destructive? Is it different from mental illness, and if so, how is it different? And if you identify with one of them or are trying to love someone with these problems, is there hope? In this episode […] The post 139 SelfWork: Borderline? Dependent? Narcissistic? What Exactly Is A Personality Disorder? appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Jul 19, 2019 • 25min
138 SelfWork: The Many Ways to Feel Invisible and How to Find Your Voice
What does it mean to “feel invisible?” Like you don’t matter. You aren’t a vital part of things. You’re being overlooked or seen only for what you can do instead of for who you are. That perception can be part of depression, and that “invisibility” may be imagined or misperceived. But sometimes it’s reality, not […] The post 138 SelfWork: The Many Ways to Feel Invisible and How to Find Your Voice appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Jul 12, 2019 • 25min
137 SelfWork: Let’s Talk Medications – From a Psychologist’s Point of View
Medications. You are bombarded with advertisements for them everywhere. And meds for mental health are no exception. In today’s show, I’m offering my clinical perspective as a psychologist (as well as expert advice from Dr. Michael Yapko) after watching thousands of people over the years try out different medications and working hand in hand with […] The post 137 SelfWork: Let’s Talk Medications – From a Psychologist’s Point of View appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Jul 5, 2019 • 25min
136 SelfWork: When the Going Gets Tough.. Self-Composure vs. Stoicism
Do you live by the rule, “When the going gets tough, the tough get going?’ In this podcast, I offer another way of approaching life when it gets tough — an approach that honors both the need to forge ahead when things get hard, but one that won’t lead to emotional and even physical burnout. I […] The post 136 SelfWork: When the Going Gets Tough.. Self-Composure vs. Stoicism appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Jun 28, 2019 • 27min
135 SelfWork: Your Questions My Answers (and a big announcement…)
Your emails are coming in fast and furious so I decided today that I would answer some of those questions with everyone and we can continue to learn from one another. The subjects range from trauma to ending a relationship to having trouble letting go of regrets and shame to perfectly hidden depression. — so […] The post 135 SelfWork: Your Questions My Answers (and a big announcement…) appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Jun 21, 2019 • 24min
134 SelfWork: Making A Distrustful Mess with Money and Marriage
Money and the distrust that can be created because of it in a partnership or marriage is what’s on the agenda for today. It’s amazing how many people commit to one another and never touch the subject. We’ll talk about the business of relationships and common problems people run into when they initially establish their […] The post 134 SelfWork: Making A Distrustful Mess with Money and Marriage appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Jun 14, 2019 • 24min
133 SelfWork: “I Have Body Image Issues.” The Damage of Eating Disorders and Seven Things You Can Do
Today we’re talking about psychological disorders that have to do with you, food, and exercise that have the power to damage your child’s body image and self-esteem as well — no matter how you try to keep it out of their life. Both moms and dads can have struggles that not only damage their own […] The post 133 SelfWork: “I Have Body Image Issues.” The Damage of Eating Disorders and Seven Things You Can Do appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Jun 7, 2019 • 25min
132 SelfWork: Where Do I Begin If I Want A Better Relationship? Change What You Do, What You Say and What You Think. That’s All.
Is therapy really helpful when a relationship is in trouble? And what are the kinds of things you need to realize about therapy that might increase the chances of it being effective? Let’s talk about what’ s important in choosing a couples therapist, but also I’ll offer a roadmap to guide your healing. There are […] The post 132 SelfWork: Where Do I Begin If I Want A Better Relationship? Change What You Do, What You Say and What You Think. That’s All. appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
May 31, 2019 • 26min
131 SelfWork: When Your Dad Isn’t A Dad. The Effects of Father Hunger
Father hunger… when your dad isn’t or wasn’t available or connected with you either due to divorce, death or disinterest — causes many problems for a child and the family as a whole. But the numbers are staggering of how many homes are without dads. There are so many engaged dads out there, but when […] The post 131 SelfWork: When Your Dad Isn’t A Dad. The Effects of Father Hunger appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
