The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
I'm Dr. Margaret, a psychologist for over 30 years, TEDx speaker, and the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression. I created The SelfWork Podcast in 2016 to explain mental health treatment and to give you the chance to consider therapy without thinking it's weird or that it somehow suggests you can't fix your own problems. My team is very honored that nine years later, SelfWork has earned nearly 5 million downloads! Each episode features the popular listener question as well as interviews with outstanding guests, authors, and experts, adding to the wide diversity of topics listeners so appreciate. Regularly rated as one of the top mental health/depression podcasts out there (ranked as a top .5% internationally) I keep it short, casual, and focused on "what you can do about it." I'd love to hear from you. Please join me.
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May 24, 2019 • 22min
130 SelfWork: The Power of Failure and What You Can Learn From Flying a Kite
No one particularly likes to fail. And what does it have to do with flying a kite? In this episode, we’ll talk about the power that failure can have in your life and what can help you learn from it. Because failure is inevitable. And far too many people shame themselves for failure and then […] The post 130 SelfWork: The Power of Failure and What You Can Learn From Flying a Kite appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
May 17, 2019 • 22min
129 SelfWork: Challenging and Changing Negative Self-Talk
We’re talking self-talk here today. What is it? And what can you do about it? A lot of people tell me they kinda “know” what it is, but haven’t a clue how to change it. It feels as if it’s too elusive. How could you possibly rein in what your mind is telling you about […] The post 129 SelfWork: Challenging and Changing Negative Self-Talk appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
May 10, 2019 • 20min
128 SelfWork: What Happens When You Quit Perfectly Hiding Depression? You Find Grief.
Dr. Jennifer Ashton of ABC News was interviewed this week as she revealed the suicidal death of her ex-husband. She stated quite clearly that he displayed none of the signs of depression that she had studied in medical school. None of them. I need to read her new book on surviving the suicide of […] The post 128 SelfWork: What Happens When You Quit Perfectly Hiding Depression? You Find Grief. appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
May 3, 2019 • 25min
127 SelfWork: The Two Masked Marks of Manipulation aka Stonewalling and Gaslighting
There are many ways of creating problems in relationships, but there are two manipulations that are sometimes harder to see than out and out contempt or defensiveness. They are stonewalling, basically “the silent treatment” and gaslighting, when someone tries to undermine your own perceptions to the point where you distrust your own mind. The first […] The post 127 SelfWork: The Two Masked Marks of Manipulation aka Stonewalling and Gaslighting appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Apr 26, 2019 • 22min
126 SelfWork: What Makes Your Work Life… Work?
Do you find satisfaction and fulfillment at work? You spend many hours there so if you don’t, that can be a huge problem. In this episode, I’ve found some experts on the workplace to discuss this vital issue. What do studies show are the most important factors in being happy at work? The results are […] The post 126 SelfWork: What Makes Your Work Life… Work? appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Apr 19, 2019 • 25min
125 SelfWork: Fighting the Fear and Loneliness of Social Anxiety
Social anxiety and shyness often get confused, but they’re far from the same. So what is social anxiety? What happens when you suffer from it? And what can you do about it? I’ll offer six steps to consider, as once again, we focus on “what you can do about it.” The listener email today is […] The post 125 SelfWork: Fighting the Fear and Loneliness of Social Anxiety appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Apr 12, 2019 • 26min
124 SelfWork: Learning from the Voices of Childhood Neglect
Childhood neglect can be much more confusing to work through. It’s abuse all right. But its message was just as harsh as physical beatings or harsh punishment. What is that message? That you weren’t worth feeding, or being educated. Whatever physical or emotional pain you had didn’t matter. What you experienced simply didn’t matter. And […] The post 124 SelfWork: Learning from the Voices of Childhood Neglect appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Apr 5, 2019 • 25min
123 SelfWork: Are You Afraid of Losing Your Edge? Challenging Perfectionism in the Workplace
I’ve had the pleasure of working with several people who’ve come to me due to my writing about perfectionism and perfectly hidden depression. So we’re going to be talking about the fear of losing your edge – the edge that you believe keeps you on your toes, keeps you doing better, doing more, doing doing doing… […] The post 123 SelfWork: Are You Afraid of Losing Your Edge? Challenging Perfectionism in the Workplace appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Mar 29, 2019 • 22min
122 SelfWork: What’s Love Got to Do With It: Love Addiction and Narcissism
What’s love addiction? Some people use the term to describe someone who’s constantly seeking relationships. But today we’re talking about how you can be addicted to the drama of a relationship – addicted to breaking up and getting back together – addicted to the very edginess and even arguing that can be involved. We’ll look […] The post 122 SelfWork: What’s Love Got to Do With It: Love Addiction and Narcissism appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Mar 22, 2019 • 22min
121 SelfWork: Recovering from Trauma and How to Recreate a Sense of Safety
Trauma. Sometimes even hearing that word can make all of us cringe. Trauma is the emotional response to an event or experience occurring that was tragic and life-altering, such as a tornado, war, or a rape. You are said to be “traumatized.” We all have unique responses to it. And ways to combat the fear, […] The post 121 SelfWork: Recovering from Trauma and How to Recreate a Sense of Safety appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
