The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations

Dating can be stressful and intimidating at times, but it is also an excellent opportunity to connect with others, especially when you've found a good match. Whether you're a beginner to dating or looking for a refresher course in overcoming your dating fears, this episode is for you! Today on The Better Sex Podcast, we have Matchmaker and Dating Coach Dan Silverman, who helps those singles prepare for fun dates by teaching them proven techniques for success. He offers immersive training to teach clients how to overcome dating fears and learned habits. Tune in now and Learn how to be comfortable in the dating world! Highlights: (01:35) How Dan became a Matchmaker and Dating Coach (05:12) Why Is Dating So Hard? (09:56) How to know if two people are a good match? (15:31) Why Women don't like to date 'Nice Guys'? (23:02) Dating and Consent (35:39) Dating Tips for Introverts (42:09) The Mastery Curve (47:21) What does vulnerability look like in dating? (50:330) How to deal with women's emotions? Links: Website: Dan Silverman Matchmaker Miami LinkedIn: Dan Silverman - Miami, Florida, United States Facebook: Dan Silverman - The Miami Matchmaker Instagram: Dan Silverman (@matchmakerdan) Twitter: Dan Silverman (@MatchmakerDan) Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter

In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we will be having conversations with Eirikah Delaunay, a writer, Witch, and sexual rebel who identifies as a white, polyamorous, bisexual, cisgender woman, Dominant-leaning Switch, and sadomasochist. She is also the mother of two amazing adult children, an executive-level academic professional, and previously a monogamous wife of 20 years. Both/and is her magic word. The founder of Desire Alchemy, she is a somatic sex+relationship coach and initiated priestess who helps people use embodiment, storytelling, and ritual to transform the energy of their own unique desire into fuel for lives of connection and passion. Her mission is to re-ignite and strengthen stale relationships (including the relationship with self) by cultivating true authenticity, practical skills, devotion, and delight. In her pursuit of deeper connection through language and embodiment, she earned an MFA in Creative Writing, and trained as a sex+relationship coach at the Somatica InstituteTM. She has had the joy of more than a decade of connection, education, and service in the Seattle sex-positive community, where she has served as a "Tasting Top" and guest educator and facilitator on topics ranging from hands-on skills, D/s dynamics, sacred sexuality, and strategies for maintaining intimacy and connection in long-distance relationships. She currently serves on the Board of the Center for Sex-Positive Culture in Seattle. Her erotic writing appeared in the Seattle Erotic Arts Festival Literary Anthology in 2018-2020 and 2022. Her chapter "Light Your Fire: Ecstatic Embodiment to Fuel Your Dreams" was featured in the Amazon #1 bestseller, Sacred Medicine: Mystical Practices for Ecstatic Living, and her chapter "Turn Yourself On: Embodiment Practices to Jump Start Your Day" was featured in the Amazon #1 bestseller, The Ultimate Guide to Self-Healing Volume 5. She provides individual, partnered, and group coaching for people curious and excited about using effective communication, magic, sexuality, kink, and/or power exchange relationships as vehicles for personal growth and bliss. Experience better sex and learn the importance of communicating your desires by tuning in to this episode! Highlights: (05:28) Erikah's Story (09:41) What does it mean to be polyamorous, bisexual, cisgender, and dominant leaning switch? (15:13) The Power of Asking Questions (18:52) The importance of putting into words what we really want (20:15) How did sex and spirit come together for Erika? (23:00) One of the most powerful ways to raise energy and fuel any intention (25:06) How do asking and desire come together? (30:58) How do we recover and be in the place of desire and connection? (32:24) The Power of NO in Expression and Reception (40:00) The importance of knowing what your partner wants Links: Website:desi(re al)chemy Instagram: Eirikah Delaunay (@eirikah) • Instagram photos and videos Linkedtree: https://linktr.ee/eirikah Facebook: Eirikah Delaunay | Facebook https://facebook.com/desire.alchemy ****Catch her at the Seattle Erotic Arts Festival this weekend**** Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter

Are you having sex with your partner and not feeling like you have a clear understanding of their sexual needs? Are you unsure of how to ask questions, make requests, or navigate through conversations about sexuality? If so, it may be time to look toward honest and authentic sex. Today on The Better Sex Podcast, we have Shana James, who has coached more than a thousand men and women to have passionate connections and fulfilling relationships. Whether you're single and looking to date, want a long-term relationship, or your relationship isn't satisfying, Shana quickly pinpoints the cause in her new book: Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Intimacy and Keep Your Relationship Alive She will talk about how she believes that it is important, to be honest with oneself and others in order to create closer connections, the importance of being able to have conversations about sex in a way that is comfortable for both parties, and shares her experience working with clients who want more foreplay or longer experiences. Tune in now and learn more about how to be honest with your partner during this vulnerable time and still remain in sync with your long-term goals! Highlights: (03:05 ) Being committed to authenticity (05:48) The Impact of Presence (07:02) Breaking Down the Meaning of Honest and Sex (16:38) What is Sex mean to Shana? (19:21) The Making of Honest Sex (24:31) How to Ask for What You Want Sexually (31:25) Steps Toward Being Honest and Open in Sexuality (34:12 ) The Importance of Self-Pleasure in a Relationship (37:11) How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex (41:48) Understanding the word 'Intimacy' (50:46) Things That Both Males & Females Should Be Aware of if They Are Interested in Relationships (54:31) Co-creating More of What You Want Links: Website: shanajamescoaching.com LinkedIn: Shana James Facebook: Shana James Book: Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Passionate Relationships Alive. Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter

Today on The Better Sex Podcast, we have Zahava Griss, Founder of Embody More Love, a spiritual kinky dance community for personal and cultural liberation. For over 22 years, Z has been guiding dance, embodiment, and eros as the source of healing, creativity, building community, and shifting our culture. Z's love coaching focuses on secure attachment, kink, gender, expression, polyamory, and the erotic arts. In this episode, Z will unravel how they grew up with a lot of energy and was socialized as a white girl, which gave them the opportunity to understand how white supremacy culture is conditioned in the body. Z talks about how they recovered from ballet, "being a bun head." Z also highlights the importance of growing in relationships especially when an erotic charge is involved. Experience better sex by tuning in to this episode! Highlights: (03:27) What is the Grief Ritual Lineage? (04:10) Getting to know Z's story (11:46) What is the social locator in Z's leadership program? (12:35) Z's leadership program and how capacity is being incorporated into it (16:01) ​​What makes the difference between someone just surviving the trauma versus someone growing from that? (18:07) Understanding conscious breathing through yoga (25:54) What happens to your presence if you feel at capacity and where does it go? (33:00) What are some of the stories that interrupt our sex life? (41:35) The idea of growing in relation (45:25) The healing power of conscious kink (47:04) Dominance as a form of leadership Links: Book a schedule here: Embody More Love Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter

In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we are joined by Leah Piper. Leah Piper, Founder of More Love Works and Co-Founder of the Sex Reimagined Podcast. Leah is a Certified Tantra Master Coach & Educator with a background in Positive Psychology. For 20 years she has been the primary female facilitator at the Source School of Tantra with Charles Muir. By combining the ancient art of conscious loving with the modern science of well-being, her students have discovered that sex unlocks the keys to having a passionate, loving, and spiritually fulfilling life. ​Leah has facilitated thousands of couples and individuals worldwide to elevate sex to an art form through live seminars, online courses, private VIP retreats, certification courses, and mentoring professionals in the sacred sex & relationship for nearly 2 decades. Make your sex life better by tuning in to this episode! Highlights: (01:56) Getting to know Leah Piper (07:03) Understanding premature ejaculation + how you can harness your sexual energy (08:58) Can you really separate orgasm from ejaculation? (09:21) Ejaculatory Control: How to do it (12:20) How to deal with your partner's expectation (13:44) The importance of partnership to increase the sensations of desire (14:00) Erotic Blueprint Model (15:05) Why partnership really matters Links: Website: Leah Piper Twitter: Leah Alchin Piper (@leahalchinpiper) / Twitter Books mentioned: Tantra: The Art of Conscious Loving by Charles Muir Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter

We're glad you're here! Expectations about pleasure, and the messages you get about what it means to be a sexual being, are often deep. But I want you to know that it is possible to embrace pleasure —and that it is possible to find joy in your body and in the world around you. In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we are joined by M'kali-Hashiki. M'Kali is a Somatic Sacred Storyteller & Erotic Ritualist. She holds certifications in Sexological Bodywork; Sound, Voice, & Music Healing; and Tantric Sacred Intimacy. As a Somatic Sacred Storyteller, she helps you uncover the stories your body is holding onto, jettisoning the ones poisoning you, and helping you to reframe & retell the ones left. As an Erotic Ritualist, she designs journeys for you to commune with The Divine using your physical pleasure as the conduit of communication. Her Divine Purpose is helping folx heal their erotic wounds so they can have the joyous & juicy life that is their Divine Birthright and move further along in their path to individual & collective liberation. In her nomadic travels across North & Central America, she teaches at colleges & universities, conferences, and the occasional adult toy store or educational center. She offers sexuality training & employee wellness/team-building skills to organizations & companies. She is also a skilled Sensitivity Reader hired to read manuscripts to make sure they avoid explicit & implicit systemic bias. Her lived experiences as a fat, black, queer, femme, and trauma survivor inform every aspect of her work. Highlights: (03:57) How did M'Kali get here? (12:52) How M'Kali discovered the Body Electric (17:59) Breathwork as a modality of healing (24:18) The Michigan Women's Festival (29:31) What needs to be in place to have a safe, consensual experience? (35:58) Erotic breathwork and breath play (40:53) How to use breath as a vehicle to connect with the spiritual and physical (46:00) What makes your breath work different? Links: Website: M'kali-Hashiki She/Her/Hers www.FiercePassions.com "Where Presence, Pleasure, & Prayer Meet" Twitter: M'kali-Hashiki (@MkHashiki) / Twitter Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter

Our whole lives are sex. Yes, you read that right. And I don't mean it literally. Sometimes sex is boring; other times, it is exciting–which is pretty much like it. Here's a truth about sex– it's not just about you getting an orgasm; forget about penetration; it's just part of it. The truth is, sex feels good and even feels best when it touches parts of us that haven't felt good in a while; it could be our fears, our traumas, our insecurities, or whatever that isn't feeling good inside of us, or it could be just pure connection. What feels good happens everywhere, not just in the bedroom. In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, Ana Del Castillo is a Rightness Expert & Certified Coach with over 20 years of experience working with men and women who have great lives but still always feel like there's something wrong. By addressing the underlying source of their suffering, Ana creates transformative experiences for her clients so they can own their inherent rightness and feel vital and alive in their skin and lives again. An energetic, warm and empathetic leader, Ana has spoken to audiences all over the country and has coached women rock stars, entrepreneurs, and homemakers on the power and freedom of authentic rightness, whose name appeared on NPR, the NY Post, People Magazine, and The Moth. Ana coaches, speaks, and leads courses on Rightness, married to the love of her life, Ken Blackman. Tune in to this episode as Ana unravels the truth about sex and how we can feel good even if it is not purely physical. Highlights: (05:06) How Ana became a rightness expert, women's rightness expert, and certified coach (10:01) How does 'Rightness' live for Ana and her clients (12:47) How to not let others tell you your worth (14:25) Five Levels of Commitment (17:21) Understanding and looking into the sensations in your body. (31:09) Approaching our sex life in a much more holistic way. (33:58) Realizing that sex is more than just a physical act. (36:13) Why every moment is foreplay. (38:19) What to do once the honeymoon and the chemistry fades. (39:58) Ana's experience of working with her husband with other couples (45:45) Ana's upcoming event in New York (49:03) Ana's message for YOU! Links: Website: My Rightness Instagram: Ana Del Castillo (@ana_del_castillo) • Instagram photos and videos LinkedIn: Ana Del Castillo - CEO and Owner - My Rightness | LinkedIn TikTok: Ana_Del_Castillo (@ana_del_castillo_) TikTok | Watch Ana_Del_Castillo's Newest TikTok Videos Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/rightness?fan_landing=true&view_as=public Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter

You know that feeling when you're out in the world, and you feel safe? You know what I mean, right? It's that feeling that lets you breathe a little easier, and allows you to be yourself and do whatever you want—the ones that make you feel like there's no way out. And it's also that same feeling when you're in bed with your partner and do the intense moments the way you desire. We all want this kind of safety and power in our lives. But how often do we get it? How often do we ever feel truly safe? In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we are joined by Andre Lazarus. Andre is a Certified Intimacy, Sex, and Relationship Guide, Trained Surrogate Partner, as well as Sacred Intimate with 8+ years of experience helping individuals and couples discover their intimate and erotic power. As a multisexual being experienced in Consensual Non-Monogamous dynamics, Andre's unique approach to sexuality, sensuality and the bond people share make him a thought leader and knowledgeable practitioner. Andre is a Certified Sex and Relationship Coach through the Somatica Institute based out of San Francisco, CA, and specializes in erotic desire, sexless relationships, sexual trauma healing, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, BDSM, consensual non-monogamy, and more. Tune in to this episode as Andre unravels how to move forward from trauma so that you can get to your desires and that safe place as well! We'll be talking about what it takes to create a safe space for yourself during these intimate moments—and how to get them without having to sacrifice who YOU are. Highlights: (03:55) Andre's Story (10:24) How Andre developed a level of attunement in his own being (14:21) The idea of older women going after what they want (16:09) What do female clients come to Andre for? (23:20) Allowing ourselves to follow our desires (24:49) Realizing the power that we hold on intense and intimate moments (31:49) Andre's traumatic experiences + Becoming trauma-informed (37:09) How does taking people into the place where the trauma occurred and recreating it help them towards healing? (41:20) What is Andre working on these days? Links: Connect with Andre: Website: Coming Closer with Andre Lazarus Instagram: Coming Closer with Andre (@comingcloserwithandre) • Instagram photos and videos Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter

The key to better sex is to understand ourselves– what makes us feel good and what doesn't. Women are often not given the chance to rule in bed or they aren't even asked if they are enjoying the moment. Communicating and understanding what we want as a woman allows us to live with more connection and pleasurable experience that suffices our desires and erotic fantasies– this is where real empowerment lies. Know that you can speak up for yourself and that maybe you can learn how to be more assertive about your desires and boundaries because we deserve a good sex life after all! In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we are joined by Lana Sequoia. Lana has eight and a half years of experience as a sex worker, ranging from tantric massage to companionship. She is a massage therapist and energy worker. She has studied Tantra, she studied somatic therapy for sex, and relationship coaching. And right now she is doing another coaching program in the trauma of trauma-informed work so that she can bring even more healing and love to the planet. So her main, her main clientele is men with the occasional couple. If you want to learn about unfiltered conversations on sex and the sex industry, then this episode is for you! I really believe that a sexy world creates a happier world and a safer world. If you want to do your part in creating a sexy, safe world. Please hit subscribe, and leave a review on Apple podcasts or wherever you are listening. Highlights: (02:20) How Lana got into the world of Sex Work (05:48) Understanding Sensual Massage + How Each Session Go (18:12) Learning Boundaries: Sharing your desires and asking for the desires of others (24:24) How knowing one's desires work and how fantasy plays into it (30:37) Stereotypes and prejudices given to sex workers that are damaging and inaccurate (38:50) Lana's experience during the pandemic given that there is no access to in-person clients (46:10) On Becoming a Conscious Creator (49:07) Valuing friendship and connection in the sex industry Links: Website:LANA SEQUOIA OnlyFans: Lana Sequoia ♡ OnlyFans Email:lanasequoia@protonmail.com Instagram:Lana Sequoia ♡ (@lana.sequoia) • Instagram photos and videos Twitter:https://twitter.com/lanasequoia Slixa: https://www.slixa.com/california/san-jose/lana-sequoia Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter

We don't think about it a lot, but our emotional and spiritual health plays a HUGE role in our sex life. This week, I've invited relationships expert and author Sequoia Stafford onto the show to unpack some of the less-obvious causes of challenges people run into in the bedroom - from erectile dysfunction to jealousy. Join Sequoia and I as we discuss: Sequoia's healing journey and experiences with shamanism how to be courageously vulnerable with someone (and why you should) the spiritual approach to stepping outside your comfort zone how feelings of scarcity can sabotage your relationships Sequioa's take on non-monogamy managing different relationships with different dynamics getting introspective in relationships ... and so much more! About Sequoia: Sequoia is an author, podcaster, educator, sex coach & master healer who weaves over 20 years of study, practice, teaching and exploration of Ontology, Psychology, Shamanism, Mysticism, Advanced Tantra Therapies, Bio-hacking, Full-Spectrum Energy Medicine, NLP, Drama Therapy, Hypnosis, Nutrition, and her own discoveries of the Science of Now, to guide seekers to be the healthiest human beings possible. Just like our fingerprints, each one of us has a unique design for what brings and keeps us healthy, healed, and in the eXtasy of life. She is on a mission to take the pain and suffering out of love and S.E.X.! This year she launched her podcast SEX4LIFE and is the Bestselling Author of two books, It's Hard! Sexual Satisfaction Secrets to Beat Erectile Dysfunction and I'm Not Jealous! The Ethical Non-Monogamist's Guide to Free Love Relationships Without Pain & Suffering. In her California temple, she teaches Applied Tantra to singles and couples in her signature programs Delicious Love and the Goddess Arts & Intimacy Academy. Sequoia's wish for her students is to find reverence for humanity in those moments of intimacy and the challenges that open doors to sacred partnership and love. Sequoia's gift to listeners of the Better Sex Podcast is a copy of both her books. To claim yours, go to www.FreeLoveModel.com See new SEX4LIFE podcast episodes at www.SEX-4-Life.com Connect with Deborah: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session https://www.deborahkat.com/appointments-3 Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat Twitter: https://twitter.com/TantraKat