Pardon the Mess with Courtney DeFeo - Christian Motherhood, Biblical Parenting, Raising Christian Kids

I hope you are finding a theme on this podcast. I am always trying to bring you conversations about real-life problems that us moms face on a daily basis. Also, I want to always point us back to Jesus as well as practical ideas to move forward. Today’s episode is one of those issues we face on a regular basis: Alyssa Bethke is passionate about this idea of “being all and doing all.” She really digs into why women struggle with this. My intentions aren’t always bad as a “doer” - they just aren’t sustainable. I would love to fix it all, handle it all and make sure everyone in my life is happy. I really, really struggled with this in my 20s and 30s. However, I am so excited that I have grown in this area and found ways to trust what he’s calling me to do - and only those things. I love how Alyssa asks herself this question, “Lord, what is mine to do?” Don’t miss this part at the end when she gives us how she practically handles the pressure of many demands on us. As moms, this pressure to help, fix and support our kids is very real. It is very hard to face that reality - that there is never enough time or energy to do and be all. And that is where our faith comes in. How can we really lean into God so that we know what is ours to take and then we have peace surrendering the rest?In this episode, we discuss:The struggle of doing it all as a momThe gift of boundaries and how to say noFinding rest in God’s grace and what he calls us to doEnjoy!CourtneyChapters00:00Introduction and Background01:18The Struggle of Trying to Do It All08:11Setting Boundaries and Saying No11:08Seeking God's Guidance in Each Season14:58The Desire for Control and Predictability16:16Finding Rest in God's Grace16:48The Struggle of Control and the Call to Surrender19:05Honesty and Unmet Expectations in Our Relationship with God20:33Parenting: Trusting God and Surrendering Control25:55Trusting in God's Goodness and Seeking His GuidanceConnect with Pardon The Mess:Christian ParentingPardon The Mess Courtney DeFeoGet your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of FaithResources from today’s show:Alyssa Bethke Instagram Jeffandalyssa.comWhen Doing It All, Is Undoing You - new bookGamechanger Amazon ListAmazon List - more ideasWhite Bird MovieCarpool ConversationsChristian Parenting storePardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.orgOur Sponsors:* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out KiwiCo and use my code MESS for a great deal: https://kiwico.comPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dive into the transformative role of the Holy Spirit in our lives and how it shapes our faith journeys. Discover tips for parents on explaining the Holy Spirit to kids and guiding them to recognize His presence. Hear personal anecdotes that demonstrate the importance of relying on the Holy Spirit for strength and courage in everyday challenges. The podcast emphasizes heartfelt prayers for deeper connections with God and encourages listeners to trust in divine guidance amidst the trials of parenting.

Do you have a brand you love in your house? My girls have been obsessed with all the beautiful jewelry pieces of enewton for many years. I am always intrigued when I see a mom running a massive business. My hunch was that Eizabeth Newton was a faithful, generous and fun CEO. I learned that she is even more than that!Elizabeth shares her story of raising triplets (and a 2-year-old) in the beginning years of enewton. She shares about her passion for generosity and how that has stayed with the company through the incredible growth and expansion. She also shares some practical ways that you can involve your kids in your business while prioritizing your family above all.She offers so many nuggets of parenting wisdom through our chat, but I really loved her parting words for us. She encourages us to “show up and give yourself grace.” I know I needed that reminder as a mom that is trying so hard to get it right. We are doing better than we think. Keep giving it your best and give yourself loads of grace! In this episode, we discuss:Juggling business and kidsStarting a business with tripletsInstilling faith practically in her home Conflict, comparison and celebration as siblings Raising independent kids Enjoy !Courtney Chapters:00:00 Introduction and shared connections03:18 Having fun and not taking oneself too seriously05:28 Parenting triplets and starting a business08:54 The growth of enewton and giving back12:49 Prioritizing presence and grace15:35 Creating lasting memories and prioritizing what matters18:08 Incorporating ministry into work and family life20:24 Celebrating others and teaching independence25:37 Showing up for your children and giving yourself graceConnect with Pardon The Mess:Christian ParentingPardon The Mess Courtney DeFeoGet your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of FaithResources from today’s show:enewtonenewton InstagramFlourishing FamiliesRead Again and Again Bible StorybooksChristian Parenting storePardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.orgOur Sponsors:* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out KiwiCo and use my code MESS for a great deal: https://kiwico.comPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

“For this is how God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. God sent his Son into the world not to judge the world, but to save the world through him” (John 3:16–17 NLT)Jesus’ death on the cross gives us access to God again. It’s not just about eternal life with him, though he promises his followers that. Choosing Jesus is also about experiencing a peace that passes all understanding and building a relationship with the father right here and right now. Jesus took what was broken in our world and made it whole again and he can do the same for us. So this week let’s pray that our kids will know Jesus as the savior of the world and choose to follow him every day of their lives. Let’s pray they would come to know him as the way, the truth, and the life.Jesus, thank you for coming to the world and sacrificing yourself for our sins. May __________ come to understand the gift of salvation, accept your grace, and choose to follow you. May they know that they cannot earn your grace, but it is a free gift that comes from the love you have for them. Amen.Our Sponsors:* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out KiwiCo and use my code MESS for a great deal: https://kiwico.comPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sophie Hudson aka “Boo Momma” is one of the funniest speakers and podcasters I have ever been around. Sophie has a way about sharing truth and encouragement in this most relatable way. Today, we cover key topics from Peepers (readers you need) to why Birmingham women are so classy and then we spend most of our chat time discussing women and leadership.In this episode, she shares the hard truth that our churches and communities have not always prepared women for leadership. As moms, we so often wonder if we even have gifts? And we often don’t even see ourselves as leaders. This conversation is a really important one for us as women. Sophie goes into ways we can embrace our roles as women and how to walk fully and confidently in our God-given gifts.This episode is very profound and at the same time practical. You will walk away with tangible things you can do today to see yourself more clearly - how God made you a leader.If you have sons, don’t miss the beginning part as she shares about what God is teaching her as a parent of a grown son. She has some beautiful encouragement for moms of sons and how their relationship has morphed and strengthened over time.I am praying you feel this conversation so fired up and excited to discover your gifts and go lead with passion! I pray that through his conversation we learn to be kind to ourselves and gracious as we learn who we are. Let’s pay attention to what makes us come alive and SEE clearly how God wired us to glorify Him right where we are.In this episode, we discuss:Raising sons and what’s she’s learning latelyWhy women don’t see ourselves as leadersHow we can begin to identity our unique giftsHow to see yourself as God sees you - finding your unique wiring Enjoy !Courtney What brings you alive? 00:00Introduction and Family Background01:37Active Parenting and Engaging in Conversations04:23The Growth of Self-Awareness in Children07:56The Importance of Light-Heartedness in Leadership09:11Empowering Women in Leadership12:13Recognizing and Embracing Leadership Gifts15:56Finding Peace in Pursuing Passions20:02Bringing Joy and Encouragement in Everyday Life21:17Finding Purpose and Identity Beyond Motherhood23:26Embracing Your Unique Gifts and Talents25:53Prioritizing Personal Interests and Passions35:31Living a Life that Brings Joy and Glory to GodConnect with Pardon The Mess:Christian ParentingPardon The Mess Courtney DeFeoGet your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of FaithResources from today’s show:SophieHudson.comBig Boo CastA Fine Sight To See - her newest bookPeepersDaily DrillsHomeGoods Camp White BirdCarpool Conversations PodcastPardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.orgOur Sponsors:* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out KiwiCo and use my code MESS for a great deal: https://kiwico.comPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Scripture tells us that God is like a potter and we are like the clay that he works with (Isaiah 64:8). He forms us with his hands, but he doesn’t forget about us once he is done! We are not a clay pot that sits on a shelf and is only touched when we remember to dust it every now and then. No, God continues to shape us.In fact, God loves us so much that he calls us his own! When we choose to follow Jesus, we are adopted into God’s family where there is both freedom and grace. Our father is so faithful to us that even when we don’t choose him or we run away from him, he waits for us and rejoices when we return. There is nothing we, or our kids, could ever do that would make our heavenly father love us less (or more!).So this week, let’s pray that our kids know God as the good father that he is. Our Sponsors:* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out KiwiCo and use my code MESS for a great deal: https://kiwico.comPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I didn’t know “swap” was a thing in podcasting. Who knew? It was an immediate YES when we got the opportunity to swap episodes with my dear friends Sissy Goff and David Thomas. You will get to hear one of their actual episodes from the Raising Boys and Girls podcast - to get a glimpse of how they support parents across the world. These two have helped raise my kids in some ways. I have read every book they have written and listened to every episode of their podcast. Sissy and David, with Raising Boys and Girls, offer clinical experience and grace-filled encouragement for every stage of our parenting. You will see a glimpse of their practical parenting support and tender encouragement in this episode. When you were growing up, did your parents pass a feelings chart around the dinner table? Or did you have healthy conversations around emotions? We’re guessing, for most of us, that’s a no—but we’d love to hear in the comments!In case you didn’t or are just wondering what a healthy emotional vocabulary looks like for your family, this episode is the one for you! In it, Sissy and David discuss what it looks like to fold an emotional vocabulary into the life of your family, plus stumbling blocks and building blocks that are often more specific to girls and boys (and maybe mom’s and dad’s, too). We hope it helps and that you’re HAPPY and ENCOURAGED once you have a chance to listen!Grab a copy of Are My Kids on Track? to follow along with us through the season over on our podcast, Raising Boys and Girls.And be sure to listen for Pardon The Mess as we appear on their podcast in the next couple weeks!Enjoy!Courtney Connect with Pardon The Mess:Christian ParentingPardon The Mess Courtney DeFeoGet your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of FaithCelebrating around the TablePolitics SimplifiedResources from today’s show:Sign up for Raising Boys & Girls monthly newsletter to keep up to date with where David and Sissy are speaking, where they are taco'ing, PLUS conversation starters for you and your family to share!Tune into more of this series on the Raising Boys & Girls podcastGo behind the scenes and watch Sissy & David’s podcast on YouTube!Download a copy of the Raising Boys and Girls Feelings Chart.Connect with David, Sissy, and Melissa at raisingboysandgirls.com.Our Sponsors:* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out KiwiCo and use my code MESS for a great deal: https://kiwico.comPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The mother-daughter relationship can be the most special bond out there. However, it can also be tough in many seasons. The mother-daughter duo of Sandra Stanley and Allie Stanley Cooney are on the podcast today to give us very practical tips on ways to build, maintain and strengthen our relationships with our daughters.As we think about the mother-daughter relationship, we can often jump to the things we need to add to our plate. We feel guilty that we aren’t doing enough. Sandra shares that we may need to actually eliminate things. We may need to limit what we do - to make room for this important relationship. As a mom of daughters, I absolutely loved this chat and it gave me so many great ideas I can still implement in my own home. However, if you have sons, you will still gain some great thoughts on connecting with all of your children.My favorite part of the episode is when Allie shares about her college experience and how she made her faith her own. Her insight was really helpful to me about our kids finding their identity and how they can change from “I have to love Jesus” to “I want to love Jesus.” So many powerful moments from two of my favorite people.In this episode:Creating a safe and loving environment for daughtersHow to pass on an authentic faithHow to show interest in your child’s lifeEnjoy!Courtney00:00Introduction and Mother-Daughter Similarities03:50Creating a Safe and Loving Environment for Daughters07:16Passing on Faith: Modeling and Encouraging a Personal Relationship with God16:14Modeling Authentic Faith18:36Personal Faith Journey22:11Staying Stable in Parenting24:12Being Available and Humble28:30Showing Interest in Your Child's Life30:23Adjusting Parenting ApproachesConnect with Pardon The Mess:Christian ParentingPardon The Mess Courtney DeFeoGet your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of FaithResources from today’s show:SandraStanley.comAllie Stanley InstagramMeet Me In The Middle - their new bookI Said This, You Heard That - temperament bookParenting book by Andy and Sandra StanleyAllie & Courtney - previous podcast episodeOur Sponsors:* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out KiwiCo and use my code MESS for a great deal: https://kiwico.comPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Have you ever had a season where you question everything about yourself? Have you found yourself in an insecure spot and wonder if you’re too late or too old? Do you wonder if you have anything to offer the world?I have been in this place more times than I can count. Being a mom and balancing career and purpose and raising kids can be very complicated and very discouraging. It’s so very hard to discern what to do when God feels quiet and sometimes the path feels uncertain or vulnerable.My guests today, Cari Trotter and Terri Flannagan, share their own stories about why it’s so hard to discern around career and calling. I believe their honest feelings and practical advice will encourage you in your own journey.Please don’t miss this entire episode. It’s a little long, so you may need to listen in two parts. My favorite part is at the end when we start tackling the practical stuff. What do we do with a complicated situation? How can we take a step? How can we discern what to do in the next season?I pray this episode meets you in such a special way. That you feel like we opened your heart and soul and spoke to a place that needs encouragement. I am insanely thankful for authentic and honest friends that love me and love Jesus. It’s a true gift.In this episode, we discuss:Handling a midlife crisis, work and reinventing ourselvesBalancing careers and raising kidsHow to discern what God has for us How to fight the very loud lies that want us silent and frozen00:00Introduction and Entertaining Start04:02Talking About Fashion and Passion Projects05:50Midlife Crisis, Work, and Reinventing Ourselves08:51Introductions and Current Life Situations11:54Why Balancing Work and Personal Life is Hard16:38Discerning What's Next and Dealing with Lies22:13Navigating Transitions and Evaluating Priorities25:20Dealing with Comparison and Seeking Authenticity27:13Being True to Yourself and Finding Support31:48Conclusion and Final Thoughts34:46Staying Rooted and Grounded37:13Embracing Silence and Growth44:34The Journey of Faith50:56Redefining Success57:45Embracing Struggles and FailureConnect with Pardon The Mess:Christian ParentingPardon The Mess Courtney DeFeoGet your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of FaithResources from today’s show:CariTrotter.comParty On Purpose - Cari’s business with girlsCari’s InstagramTerriFlannagan.comThe Unreal Reel - Terri’s InstagramOur Sponsors:* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out KiwiCo and use my code MESS for a great deal: https://kiwico.comPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

You can imagine, I have been quite excited to share this episode with you all. Priscilla Shirer is one of the gifted preachers that has inspired me and challenged me so much over the years. I was so thrilled to get a chance to interview her about her latest movie and book. The Forge, produced by The Kendrick Brothers, is set to release next week. I Surrender All, her latest book, just came out last week. Both of those new projects are all about surrender. How can we surrender our lives and go from being a believer to a disciple? I loved how she teaches us about that difference and how the idea of surrendering all can truly impact our faith (and our families).Although Priscilla is a world-renowned teacher, preacher, actor and writer - she’s also a mom, just like us, giving it her very best. I love hearing about the ways her amazing parents instilled the practices of faith. She shares about their consistency and what she remembered about growing up in a house that honored God.Don’t forget to grab your Prayer Journal! We will be starting to pray through that together on Pardon The Mess on September 9. Grab a friend or your small group and let’s commit to pray for our kids this entire school year.In this episode, we chat about:The difference between being a believer and a disciple How to walk through grief and hold onto your faithHow to instill faith in our kids when they aren’t into itHow to stay consistent with honoring God with your kidsConnect with Pardon The Mess:Christian ParentingPardon The Mess Courtney DeFeoGet your 2024-2025 prayer journal, A Life of FaithResources from today’s show:Priscilla Shirer - Priscilla’s ministry, Going BeyondThe Forge - Her latest movieI Surrender All - Her latest bookEvans Family on Death & LossOur Sponsors:* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out KiwiCo and use my code MESS for a great deal: https://kiwico.comPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy