Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

There’s an art to listening to your partner in a way that will change everything in the energy between you.   In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into why listening matters so much in relationships. Truly listening—without interrupting or planning your next witty comeback— can work wonders for intimacy and trust. In addition to advice and guidance on the art of listening, I share some of my own story as I used to be a terrible listener, always thinking of my return argument, instead of really tuning in. That is until I tried this one quirky hack. Tune in to find out what it is!Remember to visit my website and explore my free Quantum Sex course—an opportunity to elevate your intimacy to the next level! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kristan Sargeant, a business consultant and psychotherapist trained in the shadow work system, joins in for a deep dive into the hidden parts of ourselves. They explore how societal pressures shape these shadows and the significance of bringing them to light. Kristan shares practical steps for engaging with your shadow and breaking negative patterns. A mini shadow session showcases the transformative potential of this work. The conversation emphasizes the importance of shadow wisdom for personal growth and emotional healing, revealing the path to a more fulfilled life.

They say the secret to deeper, more authentic relationships might be hidden in your childhood. What if the love languages you speak today are echoes from a younger version of yourself? In this Language of Love session, I’m reconnecting with Carmen, a caller I advised on the show nearly two years! Time really does fly, doesn’t it?Carmen has been on quite a journey since we last spoke. Remember when she was grappling with hiding her personal values from her partner and dealing with people-pleasing and codependency? It’s a struggle many of us can relate to, seeking validation from others while keeping parts of ourselves hidden. For Carmen, that meant concealing her spiritual beliefs from her partner—a recipe for tension in any relationship!Fast forward to today, and Carmen’s life is buzzing with change. She’s moved to a new town with her partner, left her decade-long job, and embarked on a new career path. Quite a whirlwind, right? On top of that, her father, who struggles with alcoholism, is coming to visit.In this session, we dive into these major transitions and explore how Carmen can stay true to herself amid it all. Let's delve into what we uncover: Carmen's journey of self-discovery and embracing her spirituality The impact of upbringing on self-expression and fear of judgment The power of self-acceptance and being authentic in personal growth The emotional rollercoaster of opening up and being vulnerable What "soul retrieval" is and how it heals past traumas Transitions in life and the associated fears and pressures How working with our inner child can ease fears and boost self-love Why a supportive environment is key for being vulnerable I recommend Teal Swan’s book The Completion Process and her course on revisiting and healing those parts of ourselves we often resist—the inner child work, if you will. After all, the inner child is often the first step in spiritual awakening.Remember to visit my website for tailor-made courses like the "Good Grief" course, "Quantum Sex," and more. Let’s embrace being unapologetically authentic and make every moment count! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's be real—every couple has their moments. Fights are just part of the deal in relationships. Having healthy disagreements and working through them in a respectful way can actually make your bond stronger.In this Language of Love Bite, I bust the myth that happy couples never fight. I'm all about how fighting can be good—if you do it right. I share easy tips on staying calm when things heat up, understanding what’s really bugging you both, and communicating effectively. Let’s break down: Why fighting can actually be healthy for love How to build relationship resilience through disagreements The steps to a healthy resolution  The importance of calming your nerves before a fight Practical tips to regulate your nervous system How to find clarity when emotions are running high Three questions that can help you see things more clearly And once your fight is lovingly resolved, take your sex life to the next level and dive into Quantum Sex on my website for game-changing insights and techniques. Don't miss out on unlocking your full potential! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that your self-talk could be the sneaky culprit affecting your relationships more than you think? Maybe you've found yourself stuck in a relationship rut, scratching your head, wondering why things just aren't clicking with your partner. What if the secret to unlocking those mysteries might just lie within you and your partner's attachment style? In this Language of Love Conversation, I’m joined by the amazing Dr. Judy Ho, a triple board-certified neuropsychologist and author of “The New Rules of Attachment.” Her book is full of insights into how our attachment styles shape, well, pretty much everything we do.Attachment styles are essentially the blueprints that guide how we connect with others, pursue our dreams, and see ourselves. They influence everything from our love lives to our careers and even our self-perception. Dr. Judy breaks down the four main attachment styles and we chat about how they often have their roots in our childhood experiences.We discuss: Why it is important to know your attachment style How negative self-talk is everywhere these days and what it's doing to our mental well-being The connection between always expecting the worst and your attachment style The influence of childhood experiences on attachment styles Strategies for healing and re-parenting oneself to develop a secure attachment The magic of self-compassion and why validating your feelings is key The impact of cultural expectations on women and the need for self-permission to prioritize their own needs The practice of embracing mistakes with humor and self-compassion Remember to check out Dr. Judy's book, “The New Rules of Attachment!” Also, follow Dr. Judy on Instagram for insights and find free resources on her website. And as always, you can check out my books and courses that can help level-up your love life on my website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever felt like stress could be the invisible third wheel in your relationship? It's not just you. Stress has this uncanny ability to seep into our lives like an uninvited guest at a party—especially when it comes to relationships.In this Language of Love Session, we catch up with Marla and Ken. Since our last chat they have been on quite a journey together through some major stresses, and they are learning to accept each others bids for connection which resulted in discovering a new hobby! It has not only led to “sprouting” some beautiful blooms, but also deepened their connection.Marla opens up about her experiences with hormone therapy and the hurdles she's faced during intimate moments. But here's the kicker: with a bit of guidance on from me and a positive mindset, they're tackling these challenges head-on. It's clear these two are committed to not just surviving but thriving in their relationship journey.For those who might have missed our previous episodes, I highly recommend going back and checking them out to get the full context of Marla and Ken's journey. It's been an enlightening experience, not just for them but for all of us listening in. So many of you tell me you’ve been learning along with them. So, let's delve into how things have been progressing since our last conversation including:  How to recognize stress triggers in relationships The overall impact of stress on relationships Role kf hormone therapy in relationships and intimacy Exploration of self-stimulation and overcoming resistance Importance of approaching challenges with an open mind and curiosity Don't forget to explore my complimentary course on Quantum Sex! Discover how to elevate your sexual response to new heights. Visit my website for more details. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why does it seem like the nice guys finish last? Women say they want one, but they always seem to go for the bad boy in the end. In this Language of Love Bite, I uncover the truth about why women often find themselves captivated by the so-called "jerks," leaving nice guys in the dust and overlooked in favor of these "bad boys." It's not about advocating for guys to mistreat women, but rather understanding the complexities of attraction.I am exploring: The complex interplay of psychological and emotional factors in relationships Women's past trauma and its impact on relationship preferences The discrepancy between women's stated desires and their actual attraction Women's self-worth and self-esteem affecting their acceptance of love and kindness Guidance for nice guys to assert their opinions, desires, and boundaries in relationships If you're ready to elevate your love life, check out my website, the Seven Days To Better Sex Life and Quantum Sex for game-changing insights. Don't miss out on unlocking your full potential! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The saying goes, “A parent is only as happy as their least happy child.” While this may be a bit of a codependent edict, it’s true that when your child is struggling with anxiety, depression or in any other way it takes a deep toll on the family system. And as parents we try everything we can think of to help, but often those efforts don’t create any substantive change. In this episode of the Language of Love, I welcome back my good friend Kristina Kuzmic, a writer, creator, and mother, to discuss her new book, I Can Fix This and Other Lies I Told Myself While Parenting My Struggling Child. If you're a regular listener, you'll likely recall our in-depth chat in 2023 about her book 'Hold On, But Don't Hold Still,' where we explored personalized parenting and supporting our children through mental health challenges.Today, Kristina shares her journey of parenting Luca, her son who battled depression, ADHD, and anxiety. At a certain point he became suicidal and a danger to himself and others. Kristina’s journey and the amazingly authentic way she shares it is inspiring and instructive. We have a heart-to-heart chat about the importance of empathy and connection over trying to fix or control their struggles. She shares important and effective lessons she learned the hard way about how to best to support our kids through their toughest times. Kristina and I deep dive into: What it takes to parent children who are struggling Kristina's backstory that led her to write her book Why we should embrace empathy over control with struggling children The ways our Children's struggles require that we address our unhealed parts The importance of self-care for parents to better support struggling children Redefining “good motherhood” Check out Kristina's new book, I Can Fix This and Other Lies I Told Myself While Parenting My Struggling Child, as well as her previous bestseller, Hold On, But Don't Hold Still, for valuable insights. Follow her on LinkedIn, Website, Facebook, or Instagram for updates on her projects. And don’t forget, you can visit my website for helpful courses and resources designed for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever thought about what it's like to live under the same roof with someone who once promised to love and protect you, but now subjects you to a relentless storm of emotional jabs, verbal assaults, gaslighting and manipulation?Welcome back to another Language of Love Session. Today, I'm chatting with Mia, who's on a journey of healing and self-discovery after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist. We're diving into her  journey of self-discovery and navigating the challenges of sharing space with her ex while sorting out the drama of divorce.Setting boundaries is a big part of our conversation today—so crucial for reclaiming your confidence after a rough patch. I'm reminding Mia (and you, too!) about the power of letting those pent-up emotions out. It's like clearing out your closet—you've got to make space for the new by letting go of the old!Here is what we explore: The emotional toll of narcissistic relationships How to recover from codependency and reclaim your own truth (again and again) The steps to leaving an abusive relationship Expressing and releasing emotions in a safe and non-destructive manner Encouragement to allow oneself to feel and release sadness without suppression Creating a safe space for holding your own boundaries Importance of ongoing support and guidance during the transition out of the relationship Remember, if you're going through a tough time, swing by my website for resources and courses. Let's tackle this healing journey together and come out stronger! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ever uncertain about your sexual confidence? Whether it's feeling self-conscious with your partner or nerves about your first time, rest assured, you're not alone. No matter your level of experience, I'm here to help you feel more comfortable with your sexuality. In this  Language of Love Bite, I dive into a topic that many people shy away from discussing—sexual confidence. Strengthening your sexual confidence can greatly enhance both your mental well-being and your relationships. It might feel like opening Pandora's box, but fear not! I'll guide you through how to cultivate that crucial sexual confidence, unveiling the seven keys to mastering it. I'll reveal what it takes to bring your A-game to the bedroom, leaving your partner craving more. Get ready to feel empowered and equipped with everything you need to excel between the sheets!Looking to spice up your sex life? Start by prioritizing open communication, experimenting with the fantasy box technique, joining my Seven Days to Better Sex program, and exploring Quantum Sex. Visit my website to learn more about how you can reignite the passion and create a deeply fulfilling sex life with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices