Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

We can add so much to our existence in this modern world by tapping into the ancient traditions that have so much to teach us.  When it comes to grief and loss, rituals can provide opportunities for profound healing, connection and community. Cynthia Ruiz, a professor, bestselling author, executive coach, and leadership expert joins us in this Language of Love Conversation to explore the transformative power of sacred ceremonies and rituals in today's busy world. Her latest book, “Sacred Ceremony and Rituals for Today's World,” is a cornerstone for our discussion. Drawing from her Cherokee heritage, Cynthia illuminates the purpose and practice of sacred ceremonies, a cornerstone of human experience across cultures and time. These rituals, she explains, are not just relics of the past but vital tools for personal growth and healing in our contemporary lives.Here is what we unravel: Importance of self-protection rituals and protecting one's energy Significance of rituals and ceremonies in Native American culture The importance of incorporating sacred ceremony into everyday life Elements involved in creating a sacred ceremony Use of the four elements - fire, water, earth, and air - for release and cleansing Letting go of toxic relationships and making room for positive energy Cynthia's wisdom is readily accessible in her book “Sacred Ceremony and Rituals for Today's World,” You can also connect with her on LinkedIn, Facebook, or Website. Visit my website to explore courses designed to enhance your relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time for another Language of Love Session where I get to sit down with one of my listeners and help them with their love life. I love these episodes because each time you ask your questions (and I give the answer), I know we are helping 100s of thousands of other people with the same query! In this episode I’m helping Mary who, like way too many of us, has been living in a sexless marriage with her husband for some time. Much of her low desire is due to the daily grind and work-related stress, but was compounded by premature menopause in her thirties. If you are struggling in a sexless relationship or with low desire, listen in for important tips and tools for addressing the symptoms from a mind, body and relationship perspective. In this episode I help Mary unravel: Challenges in sexual relationships due to menopause and work-related stress Effects of stress on men's sexual desire and decline of testosterone with age Importance of understanding hormonal changes and their impact on sexual health Practical suggestions for improving sexual communication and exploring alternative approaches to intimacy Options for improving sexual response and desire, particularly for women Insurance coverage for treatments such as testosterone replacement and locally delivered estrogen Reassurance about the normalcy of reduced sexual activity in long-term relationships The importance of maintaining a strong emotional connection in a relationship Join us on this journey to better understanding and improving our intimate lives. Visit my website to explore courses designed to enhance your relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the most impossible loss turns out to set you free in ways you couldn’t imagine? What if instead of going through loss you could grow through it? What if you become a more self-actualized, tapped-in and tuned-in empowered version of yourself, because of what you’ve been through (not in spite of it)? What if love really lives forever and you can learn to continue a relationship with your loved ones on the other side? What if you didn’t have to go through terrible loss alone or struggle to find the right kind of support or community who understands? These are questions I couldn’t imagine having, much less answering over three years ago when my son Sammy was killed. Grief became my unwelcome companion, but strangely, it also became my greatest teacher. Healing from loss is messy, unpredictable, and deeply personal. Now, I'm on a mission fueled by passion—to help others like me find their own paths through grief and toward spiritual renewal. Join me as I share my story, the hard-won lessons, and how we can all navigate the stormy seas of grief with grace and resilience.This is what we explore: The transformative power of allowing oneself to fully experience and process pain The interconnectedness of grief and spirituality The importance of embodiment, nature exposure, spirit connection, tribe, creative expression, and cognitive thinking in the grief healing journey The therapeutic value of creative expression and cognitive thinking in understanding the stages of grief My personal journey of grief and the resources and programs I offer for individuals seeking support and guidance For those in need of more support and guidance, check out the Good Grief course on my website along with other resources and programs aimed at assisting individuals through their grief journey. Remember, grief is not merely a destination but a transformative journey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it take to achieve true harmony in our relationships? Regardless of your gender or sexual identity or role in your relationships, understanding the balance of masculine and feminine energies is crucial for intimacy, connection and personal power in love.In this Language of Love conversation, I have a heart-to-heart with therapist and author, Dene Logan. Dene’s new book, “Sovereign Love,” delves into finding the perfect mix of masculine and feminine energies in our relationships. We discuss the challenges of navigating societal expectations, especially for moms juggling responsibilities and managing dynamics within their relationships.We explore the question of how we can lean on each other in love without losing ourselves and how we can work as a team with our partners to heal what isn’t working in love. It's all about getting to know yourself, embracing what makes us different, being real with each other, and keeping that spark alive while staying true to yourself.We unpack: Reclaiming healthy masculine and feminine energies in love and partnership Balancing masculine and feminine energies in work and home life Societal norms and their impact on relationships Challenges faced by couples, particularly in the context of motherhood Embracing interdependence in relationships The vulnerability and authenticity that lies within communication Check out Dene's book, "Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within," for more insights, and tune into her podcast, “Cheaper Than Therapy” too! As always, visit my website to explore my available courses to improve your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of the Language of Love Session, I continue my conversation with Marla and Ken, a couple I've been helping to understand the hurdles they've faced and the strides they've made in enhancing their emotional and physical intimacy.We delve into the details of their physical intimacy and sexual relationship. Ken opens up about his struggle with sexual energy and desire, which he feels is lacking, describing it as "flat." Although his testosterone levels have been normal in past tests, we get into how misleading the wide range of “normal” is, and how important it is to have results read by someone who’s really trained in anti-aging medicine and hormone therapy. I also cover the important role testosterone plays, not only for sexual desire but also for overall well-being, and we discuss various hormone replacement options.Marla shares her perspective as well, and together we reflect on how Ken's recent retirement might be influencing his energy and motivation. I advise them to consult with a specialist in sexual medicine to address these concerns, with the hope of enhancing their relationship.Here is what we explore: Importance of initiating physical intimacy in the relationship Emphasis on sensual and erotic touch to strengthen the connection Retirement and its impact on confidence and sense of purpose Testosterone therapy and its potential impact on sexual energy and general well-bein Remember, the journey to rekindling intimacy is both personal and universal. Check out my website for books and courses like Quantum Sex to improve your sex life, along with many others. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Language of Love Bite, I'm diving into a topic that seems to be on a lot of men's minds: penis size. I know it's a sensitive subject, but it's important to talk about the concerns and misconceptions that surround it.Let's get one thing straight: the myths about what's considered "average" size are pervasive. I came across a study that really puts things into perspective—50% of men weren't happy with their size, yet a staggering 80% of women were actually content with their partner's size. This discrepancy shows that the pressure men feel is often internal and not based on the reality of their partners' satisfaction.I want to caution you against making comparisons to what you see in pornography. Porn is not real life, and it's certainly not a benchmark for your own body. And when it comes to treatments that promise to increase size, please be wary. There are countless products and procedures out there, from penis extenders to surgery, but they come with limited benefits and significant risks.I want to reassure you that in most cases, your size is more than adequate. What's truly important in a sexual relationship is technique and the emotional connection you share with your partner. Remember, if you're seeking to elevate your sex life, visit my website and explore my course on quantum sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As parents, we play a critical role of being a safe container for our children's emotions. It's so important for us to understand that our kids need us to be their emotional anchors. And let's be honest, that's not always easy. It means we have to do the hard work of unlearning some of our own past conditioning so we can better co-regulate with our little ones.In this episode of The Language of Love, I'm joined by the wonderful parenting coach Cassidy Callan. Together, we're diving into the intricate world of parenting, with a special focus on emotional intelligence. Cassidy is here to offer some invaluable advice on how to handle those inevitable emotional outbursts. She's a pro at guiding parents on the importance of grounding, empathy, and validation. It's not just about managing the outbursts—it's about understanding them and using those moments as opportunities for connection and growth.We're also going to emphasize the significance of being present and empathetic. I can't stress enough how modeling emotional regulation is key. Creating a nurturing environment is essential for children to develop their emotional intelligence. Our kids learn from watching us, so it's up to us to show them what it looks like to handle emotions in a healthy way.We explore: Creating a safe and empathetic environment for emotional expression and regulation The impact of parents' emotional state on children Collaborative and cooperative parenting Supporting children's emotional development and nurturing their unique abilities and gifts The challenges of regulating emotions in public settings Validating and empathizing with children's emotions Be sure to check out my website for my courses, books, and products that can help you love and be loved better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Language of Love Session, I have the privilege of reconnecting with Victoria, a courageous soul navigating the turbulent waters of her relationship after her partner's cancer diagnosis. Her story is one of love, resilience, and the quest for balance amidst life's unexpected challenges. Victoria's experience is a reminder of how illness can transform not only the life of the person diagnosed but also that of their partner. She bravely shares her frustrations about feeling lost in the role of a caretaker, a sentiment that many can relate to. The balance between supporting a loved one and maintaining one's sense of self is delicate and often difficult to achieve.Here's a sneak peek of what we discuss: Victoria's struggles in her relationship after her partner's cancer diagnosis and treatment The intricate balance of healing and growth within a relationship affected by illness The complexities of confronting uncertainty and the allure of looking for answers externally The importance of open communication and seeking professional help Remember that relationships are a dance of give and take, especially in times of crisis. It's through our challenges that we often find our greatest strengths and learn the most about ourselves and our partners. Don't forget to check out my website for courses designed to improve your sex life and relationships! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find yourself in a place where you feel less attractive or irresistible to your partner? You're not alone. It's a common challenge that many people face in their relationships. The good news is that there are strategies and actions you can take to become truly irresistible to your partner.In this Language of Love Bite, I share some golden nuggets to make you absolutely irresistible to your partner. Together, we dive into these transformative insights that can sprinkle some magic into your relationship. From cherishing your independence to keeping that flame of desire alive with little gestures of love, each tip is like a spark igniting deeper connections and joy.As we journey through the importance of loving yourself, looking after your appearance, and daring to explore new adventures together, a path unfolds. It's not just about spicing things up for a moment; it's about nurturing a love that's lasting and electrifying. With these simple yet powerful principles of independence, desire, appearance, exploration, and self-love, you will be on your way to crafting a relationship that's irresistibly beautiful.Remember, if you're seeking to elevate your sex life, visit my website and explore my course on quantum sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know your kitchen is like a special sanctuary where you can nourish your body and soul, and even find a way to cope with loss and grief through cooking?In this Language of Love Conversation, I'm joined by the amazing Jules Davis, also known as the Kitchen Healer, and the author of “The Kitchen Healer: The Journey to Becoming You.”Jules and I talk about how cooking and food aren't just about filling our bellies but also key ingredients in self-care, personal growth, and nurturing our emotional health. Jules has some incredible insights on the power of cooking with intention and how being mindful in the kitchen can transform the whole experience. As for me, I'm sharing a bit about how I have had to redefine my own relationship with food over the years. It's been a path of discovery, not just about what I'm eating, but also understanding my deeper hungers – those emotional needs that we often try to satisfy with a snack or a meal.Together, we’re challenging some of those traditional views on nourishment. We are all about embracing a more nurturing, expressive, and yes, delicious approach to cooking and eating. So, let's get ready to stir the pot and spice things up in this episode!Curious about what's on the menu? Here's a sneak peek:  Jules’ expertise as the Kitchen Healer and her work on women's healing The concept of nourishment and its connection to emotional well-being  Recognizing cooking as a meditative and nurturing practice The emotional and spiritual dimensions of cooking Slowing down and creating intention around nourishing oneself Nourishment beyond just food, encompassing connection, love, and passion Don't forget to explore Jules Davis' book, The Kitchen Healer, to discover how turning on the fire in the kitchen and in your life can bring you freedom. Connect with her on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram or Website. Also, If you are going through grief, please remember to visit my website to explore my good grief course because no one should go through grief alone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices