Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

This episode of "The Language of Love" is all about mismatched libidos and what to do when you and your partner don't have the same level of desire. Mismatched libidos are one of the most common issues that couples face and it often leads to the end of relationships, so this very special episode can be invaluable in helping to preserve your marriage and your sexual pleasure. First, a woman asks for help restoring her lost libido, as her sex drive tanked after she began anti-depressants. Anti-depressants are notorious for sexual side effects, yet they are invaluable in treating depression and anxiety. Luckily, it is possible to continue taking your medications without sacrificing passion and pleasure. Dr. Berman offers advice for how to sex-proof your relationship even when you are taking SSRIs and other psychiatric medications, as well as how to talk to your partner about your decreased libido and help them to still feel loved and desired even when you are not in the mood.Then, a caller reaches out because her husband is rarely interested in sex, and when they do have intimacy, he seems distracted and stressed out. She is eager to have more sex, but not if he is doing so out of duress and his heart isn’t really in it. But could it be that his history of ED is making him scared to have sex? Dr. Berman discusses how erectile dysfunction can make men afraid to engage in intimacy, even if they actually desire sex because they fear appearing less masculine or displeasing their partner. Over time, this becomes problematic because the less sex you have, the more accustomed you will be to not having it, decreasing your libido and harming your sexual response. So how can this couple get their sex life back on track and help to decrease his fear of performance issues?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today's episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Berman helps listeners find out what may be holding them back from living their most authentic life, inside and outside the bedroom. From gender identity to sexual fantasies to finding love, Dr. Berman helps listeners create their most passionate and fulfilling lives with vulnerability, honesty, and daring.Dr. Berman first talks to a woman who fantasizes about watching her partner have sex with other women (known as a cuckquean fantasy, or cuckold fantasy when the genders are reversed). Why does she have this fantasy and should she act on it in real life, such as by having a threesome? Is it ever a good idea to invite another person into your bedroom, and why does she want to see her husband pleasuring another woman? Next, Dr. Berman hears from a transgender caller who wants to transition but is afraid to take that first step. Should she take that leap and start living full-time as a woman, even if it leads to the heartbreaking end of her marriage, or is there therapy that can help reverse gender dysphoria? Should she risk everything to live as a woman, or continue staying in the closet and keeping her true desires a secret?Last, Dr. Berman hears from a caller who is looking for her soulmate but is beginning to feel frustrated by her experiences dating online. How you can stay patient while waiting for love? How do you strike that balance between letting go of control and unrealistic expectations while also being proactive when it comes to finding love?  Dr. Berman gives her best advice for how to navigate dating, especially online dating and dating during a pandemic. It is possible to actively search for love without feeling incomplete or desperate? How can you find wholeness even when you are single and everyone around you seems happily coupled up?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it possible to be monogamous for life? In this episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Berman talks about whether or not monogamy is truly sustainable. Next, Dr. Berman helps a caller who says her husband wants her to talk dirty, but she doesn't know how to get started. How can a 'good girl' tap into her naughty side without feeling inauthentic or as though she is playing a porn star role? Dr. Berman then helps a woman who says she and her longtime partner struggle to "get past the silliness" in their relationship in order to get to the sexiness. How can lovers continue to find passion and excitement when they are also best friends who love to clown around with each other?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, Dr. Berman talks about the energetic shift which changed her parenting style for good and how this "Quantum Love" practice also helped her son Ethan tap into his powerful empathy without losing his own boundaries. After writing a groundbreaking book about the concept of Quantum Love 4 years ago, Dr. Berman reveals how her profound grief over the recent loss of her son Sammy has renewed and deepened her practice of Quantum Love...And she explains how listeners can learn to access these life-changing benefits, starting right now. Book link on amazon:https://www.amazon.com/Quantum-Love-Atomic-Energy-Relationship/dp/1401948855/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=quantum+love+dr+laura+berman&qid=1616460537&sr=8-2 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this important episode, Dr. Berman gives tips to listeners on how they can raise sexually healthy kids. With so many teenagers having unlimited access to porn thanks to the Internet, Dr. Berman explains what parents should teach their kids about porn and why today’s porn can be so dangerous, especially for teenagers who are still forming their sexual desires.First, a woman writes in asking Dr. Berman for help after her 9-year-old accidentally walked in on her husband giving her oral sex. What can these parents do to help ensure their child isn’t ‘scarred’ by this embarrassing incident? Next, Dr. Berman helps a parent who wants to know if it is okay to let her teenage daughter have her boyfriend stay the night. Is it okay to accept your teenager being sexually active or does that set a poor parenting standard?Dr. Laura Berman's website: https://drlauraberman.com/The Language of Love Podcast: https://drlauraberman.com/pages/the-language-of-love*Please note: this episode was recorded before the heartbreaking death of Sammy Chapman, Dr. Berman’s son. For resources to help you talk to your kids about the dangers of prescription pills and synthetic drugs, click here.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In Losing Sammy Part 2, Dr. Berman draws back the curtains on her recent ‘grief retreat’ to the redwood forest. Rather than run from the terrifying emotions, Dr. Berman talks about how she intentionally stepped into that darkness and let faith guide her as she went heart-first into that fathomless pain. From somatic therapy to grief yoga to breathwork, she sunk into her most primal and terrifying feelings about the loss of her son. She talks about how the process not only helped her to start wrapping her arms around some of her grief but also re-introduced her to her childlike connection to the spirit world and the unseen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered if you could benefit from sex therapy? On today’s episode of the “Language of Love,” Dr. Berman explains who really needs sex therapy and when sex therapy is the most productive.First, Dr. Berman helps a 43-year-old woman who says sex hurts lately and she isn’t becoming lubricated like she used to. Dr. Berman also gets an email from a lesbian who has recently begun dating a transwoman. However, her new partner still has male genitalia--which makes this lifelong lesbian uncomfortable because she has never interacted with a penis and has no desire to do so. Finally, Dr. Berman takes a voice message from a man who says his libido has disappeared lately and he is feeling rundown and out of sorts--could it be low T?Dr. Laura Berman's website: https://drlauraberman.com/The Language of Love Podcast: https://drlauraberman.com/pages/the-language-of-love*Please note: this episode was recorded before the heartbreaking death of Sammy Chapman, Dr. Berman’s son. For resources to help you talk to your kids about the dangers of prescription pills and synthetic drugs, click here.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode of the “Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman is tackling questions from listeners who are worried “Am I normal?” First, we hear from a listener who worries that her rape fantasies make her a ‘bad’ feminist. Dr. Berman explains why rape fantasies are so common and why they happen, and what women are really fantasizing about when they fantasize about rape. Next, Dr. Berman helps a divorced man who is newly into wearing women’s panties. He has also been gotten into ‘forced feminization’ fantasies in which he is compelled to dress as a woman. Now he is wondering if this means he is transgender or just into cross-dressing.Hear Dr. Berman tackle these and other embarrassing sex questions on this episode of “Am I Normal?”Dr. Laura Berman's website: https://drlauraberman.com/The Language of Love Podcast: https://drlauraberman.com/pages/the-language-of-love*Please note: this episode was recorded before the heartbreaking death of Sammy Chapman, Dr. Berman’s son. For resources to help you talk to your kids about the dangers of prescription pills and synthetic drugs, click here.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s very raw but very necessary episode, Dr. Berman discusses the recent passing of her 16-year-old son Sammy. She explains what happened that tragic night, why she decided to share it with the media, and how she has been coping during this whirlwind. She also reveals how the outpouring of support from her family and friends and even strangers have caused her to confront one of her core childhood wounds: Her inability to accept help or emotional caretaking from others due to a subconscious fear of being a burden. But she says she has discovered: “Letting others help me helps them. When I allow myself to be comforted and supported, I offer my loved ones the opportunity to be comforting and supportive. And that truly is a gift...for both of us.” Please join Dr. Berman’s Facebook group Parents for Safer Children or help spread her fundraiser for the Organization for Social Media Safety. This national nonprofit is the first consumer protection organization solely focused on making social media a safer place for everyone, especially for the most vulnerable like our kids.Full Link to the Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/parentsunitedagainstdrugadditctiondeath/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, Dr. Berman helps a husband who says his sex life has totally tanked due to the pandemic—between kids and online school and constant togetherness, he says intimacy has fallen by the wayside and his wife feels more like his roommate than his sexual partner. But, first: Dr. Berman gets a voicemail from a woman who is scared that her adult daughter is being pressured into sex by her online boyfriend before she is ready. Dr. Berman explains how to gauge when it is the ‘right’ time to have sex, and how people can navigate physical intimacy when we live in a world of masks and social distancing. And what to do about the Valentine’s Day blues? Dr. Berman helps a woman who says she is dreading Valentine’s Day because her partner always disappoints her on this day of romance.Listen in for all of Dr. Berman’s advice and write languageoflovepod@gmail.com with your own questions, or leave a voice message for the sex therapist here. Shy? Don’t worry! You can be anonymous. *Please note: this episode was recorded before the heartbreaking death of Sammy Chapman, Dr. Berman’s son. For resources to help you talk to your kids about the dangers of prescription pills and synthetic drugs, click here.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices