Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with Janne Robinson, a feminist beat poet, speaker, and visionary. The two women talk about life, love, trauma, open-heartedness, and finding ‘the one.’How do you know when you have found your forever soulmate? And how do you know when you have found someone who is just here temporarily to help you deepen your journey and continue your soul-work? They also delve into the idea of “you spot it, you got it” and how you can claim those parts of yourselves that might scare you or even trigger. How can you claim your ‘wild’ and embrace your shadow-self? Robinson explains that most of us constantly live in a state of conformity, always trying to blend in and achieve concrete milestones in order to prove our worth.Robinson also talks about the feelings of jealousy and inferiority that can plague us when we don’t feel as ‘enlightened’ or as ‘free’ as other people around us who are living consciously and seemingly fearlessly. She explains that the best way to get over that envy is to actually spend time with those we admire and wish to emulate, because it will help to draw out that energy and what we wish to create in our own lives.They also talk about body wisdom and how you can tap into your body’s innate needs and desires. How can movement and physical activity help us unlock our self-worth and intuition? How can you ‘be in the body’ even when you are dealing with deep grief and trauma, and are frightened to face those feelings buried within you.“If we must have milestones—mine will be measured by how much joy I have collected at the end of each day and how often in this life I have truly, deeply, opened,” writes Robinson. “Seek, see, love, do.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about self-love and how self-love can help to heal the world. She tackles the difference between self-esteem and self-worth, explaining that self-esteem is conditional. Self-esteem is often based on other people’s perceptions of us and that external validation, such as whether you can perform well enough or achieve enough in the world’s eyes. Only then can you have pride in your accomplishments and feel confident in yourself.But, as the sex therapist explains, self-worth is completely different. It is totally unconditional love that you never have to compete for or earn. “Self-worth is ultimately, at its core, the understanding that you are worthy of abundant love, simply because you exist. You don’t have to do anything or be anything, you’re actually perfectly imperfect exactly as you are and perfectly lovable exactly as you are. You are the unique, one-of-a-kind expression of spirit,” says Dr. Berman.So how can you begin to establish self-love? What are some ways you can create a self-love practice that will help you to elevate your energy and receive the abundance you deserve? And, for parents, how can you create a household in which self-love radiates throughout the family and your children feel loved and celebrated by you simply for existing?Dr. Berman also talks to a caller who wants to know how she can support her adult child who is going through a difficult time. How can parents of adult children help to model self-love and encourage their children to make smart decisions without being a helicopter parent?A caller also asks Dr. Berman about how to overcome childhood abuse and self-destructive coping mechanisms that are interfering with his ability to establish healthy self-love in the present and create positive relationships. How can you build self-love when your childhood was traumatic?Listen to Dr. Berman’s advice on self-love and how to create it on her this newest episode “The Language of Love.”  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with internationally acclaimed author and lecturer Marianne Williamson.Dr. Berman’s grief journey following the death of her son Sammy has been greatly illuminated and shaped by Williamson’s past works, such as “A Return to Love” and “Tears to Triumph,” so sitting down for an interview with such a beloved soul-guide has been a longtime plan of hers.In today’s interview, Dr. Berman and Williamson talk about this incredibly difficult time that we are living in, and how crucial it is for us to stay present and engaged, rather than hiding our heads in the sand. How can you find your voice and help to promote peace and integrity when you just want to hide away from the ugliness of the world?Williamson says we must start acknowledging our own power and refusing to be silenced.In particular, Williamson believes that empaths and spiritually-minded people have a huge responsibility right now in helping to heal the world. She urges listeners to find a way to overcome the ‘overwhelm’ and tap into their amazing powers, because sitting by idly will only lead to further spiritual and physical destruction of our country and climate.“The effects of love are maximal,” says Williamson. “We [need to] stop disengaging from the political system.”  Dr. Berman and Williamson also talk about ‘The Course in Miracles,” which Dr. Berman is working through and which Williamson narrates for the audiobook. Listen to this inspiring episode and let Dr. Berman know your thoughts on Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about her newfound hobby, Ecstatic Dancing. This unique form of dance is often misunderstood, and many people may not even know about this amazing, transformative form of body movement. So, together with Robin Parrish (Co-Founder and Managing Director of Ecstatic Dance LA), Dr. Berman discusses what ecstatic dancing is really all about, as well as how she has been using ecstatic dancing to cope as she moves through her grief journey after her son’s death.Ecstatic dancing isn’t about learning choreography or having the best rhythm: It’s about leaning into the changing waves of our lives, and learning how to dance and move with these ups and downs. Ecstatic dancing is all about listening to the wisdom of your body, and moving through any fears or doubts as you embrace the music within you.Ecstatic dancing has been said to lead to feelings of ecstasy or pure joy, and whether you do it alone in your backyard or with a group of friends or fellow dancers, you may find that this dance feels meditative, rejuvenating, or that it promotes feelings of serenity. In fact, ecstatic dancing has its roots in religious rituals that reach back thousands of years into human history. Listen to today’s episode to hear about the benefits and history of ecstatic dance, and how you can start grooving like Dr. Berman.Click here to learn more about Robin Parrish and Ecstatic Dance LA.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on the “Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down for an intimate talk with Andrea Kayne. Andrea Kayne is a leadership coach and an author who recently wrote “Kicking Ass in a Corset: Jane Austen’s 6 Principles of Living and Leading from the Inside Out.”Kayne draws insights and life lessons from the works of the 18th-century novelist. Austen’s classics like “Emma” and “Pride and Prejudice” are as rich with meaning now as they were then. Yes, surprising as it may sound, these centuries-old books have a lot to teach us about self-knowledge, intuition, and learning to trust and embrace your power.In this episode, Dr. Berman and Kayne talk about what it means to know yourself, how to release old habits and self-defeating beliefs, and how to come really know and LOVE yourself, flaws and all.Whether you are an Austen lover or someone simply to find your purpose, this episode is a must-listen! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s extra-special episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman brings us up-to-date on the latest in her son Sammy Chapman’s case. As many of you know, her 16-year-old was fatally poisoned by fentanyl earlier this year. In the months following, Dr. Berman and her husband Sam Chapman (along with their sons Ethan and Jackson) have seen their world turn upside down as they try to grieve while also advocating for real, impactful legislative change that will ensure no other child falls victim to these online drug dealers and no other family has to suffer as theirs has.In today’s “Losing Sammy, part 3,” Dr. Berman reveals what her life has been like since the loss of her son, how she laid him to rest, how grief has impacted her marriage, and how her and her husband’s differing views on the after-life have sometimes left them struggling to understand each other’s motivations. Tune in for this very important episode to learn how even during your most painful and heart-wrenching time, you can still consciously create Quantum Love.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about the history of sex aids, from primitive sex toys to the invention of the first vibrator. From G-spot stimulators to dilators to penis rings, there are so many sex aids which you can use to improve your connection with yourself and your partner(s). As Dr. Berman explains, the sex aid industry has really changed in the last 2 decades: Now sex aids are female-friendly and easily found online or in cozy boutiques, rather than in scary dimly-lit rooms at truck stops.So how can you find out which sex aid is right for you? Which sex is best for single folks or for use during intercourse? Dr. Berman gives her top tips to help you shop smart when you enter the world of sex aids.Then, she talks about how you can introduce sex aids into their relationship. What should you do if your suggestion of using a sex aid offends your partner or makes them jealous? It’s not uncommon for men to feel insecure when women want to bring vibrators or sex toys into their relationship, so how can you suggest sex aids without making your man feel like he is being replaced?Dr. Berman also challenges common sex toy myths, like the idea that you can get addicted to your vibrator or that vibrators are dangerous to your genitals or sexual response.Tune into this episode of “The Language of Love” to get your FAQs about sex toys answered. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about Bennifer and whether or not it’s ever a good idea to get back together with an ex. Getting back together with an ex is extremely tempting, and for some, the urge can even feel downright addictive. If you’re going to get back together with an ex, you have to really make sure that you’re doing so in a conscious, intentional way. You need to be willing to examine what you did to contribute to the breakup in the first place, and what steps you both need to take to ensure that you don’t make the same mistakes this go-around.Next, Dr. Berman talks to couples who have been stuck at home together for a year and a half due to Covid. After so much togetherness during the pandemic, how can you and your partner start to bring more magic and passion back into your relationship? If you are feeling more like roommates and less like lovers, don’t despair: There are ways you can reignite the flame after this difficult year.Then, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who recently broke up with her longtime partner. He says he still loves her and misses her, but he claims he needs time to ‘find himself’ and have time alone. How can you move on from a ex-partner who still isn’t fully letting you go? When do you determine that the relationship is completely unsalvageable and quit taking your ex’s calls? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about ‘sexual healing,’ and what that term means to her. How can you use sexual intercourse to elevate your energetic consciousness and use sexual pleasure as a tool to help you heal your life?Then, Dr. Berman talks about another kind of sexual healing: Healing physical issues in the bedroom which prevent people from enjoying intimacy. From lack of desire to erection issues to painful sex to an inability to reach orgasm, there are many common sexual complaints that can complicate your experience in the bedroom. However, there are also many tools that can help you overcome these issues and create the sex life you desire.Dr. Berman also addresses how you can heal from past sexual trauma. In many cases, people with a history of sexual abuse may struggle to feel safe in the bedroom and avoid sex altogether, or they might use sex in a self-destructive way and have unsafe sex or make promiscuous choices even if they really aren’t wanting to do so.As Dr. Berman explains, being ‘sex positive’ doesn’t have to mean that you have to be ready to have threesomes or be ready to swing from the chandeliers: You can still be conservative about your fantasies or desires, but you are nonjudgmental and realize that sex is an important and healthy part of being human.And, if you are single, how can you initiate sexual healing when you don’t currently have a partner? Dr. Berman talks about how you can use self-stimulation as a tool for healing.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about the most common challenges that couples report. She reveals that the top complaint that partners have is uneven desire when one partner has a higher libido than the other, and how that can lead to trouble throughout their relationship. She says one issue is that even though many women struggle with some form of sexual dysfunction, whether that is lack of desire, difficulty reaching orgasm, or pain during intercourse, the medical community has only just begun to put attention into addressing female sexual pleasure. Hence, while men can turn to options like Viagra or Cialis, women are left with few, if any options, for improved sexual response, and most are too ashamed to even raise the issue with their doctor.So, what should women with low desire do? First, Dr. Berman says women need to go to their doctor for a hormone panel as well as to investigate whether any medications they are on may cause sexual side effects (popular prescriptions like anti-depressants and hormonal contraceptives can have downsides in the bedroom). After investigating possible physical causes and troubleshooting possible solutions, Dr. Berman says she would also want to delve into a woman’s past and look at issues like body image, past sexual trauma, sexual shame related to religious or cultural upbringing. Our bodies can carry cellular trauma which can be passed on genetically and Dr. Berman explains that unless we get in touch with our physical selves and where we might be carrying tension or dis-ease, we won’t be able to fully release, whether we are in or out of the bedroom. Hear her reveal how she uses somatic therapy to tap into her physical body and how you can start ‘being in body’ right now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices