Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am joined by Lisa Bilyeu. Lisa is the cofounder of Quest Nutrition, a billion-dollar corporation which produces health-conscious meals and snacks. She is also the President of “Impact Theory” and the host of “Women of Impact,” a web series you can find on YouTube or listen to online. On her show, Lisa interviews women who have overcome massive difficulties and tragedies in order to make their dreams come true.I adore Lisa’s new book “Radical Confidence,” and I have recommended it to so many of my girlfriends. If you haven’t read it yet, be sure and grab a copy, because it is truly transformative and inspirational. Whether you are struggling to feel confident in your career, in your romantic life, or just in general, her book will inspire you to live authentically and chase after your wildest dreams.On this episode, I talk with Lisa about what inspired her to write this book and what she wants readers to take from it. You will learn:• How to overcome disappointment and keep showing up, even when you aren’t seeing the results you desire• How to stop ‘acting from your trigger’ and instead lead your emotions, rather than being led by them• How to create a game plan that is practical and solution-based, so that you don’t get stuck in a cloud of anger or bitternessI found this episode so inspiring and full of really actionable advice that you can begin applying to your life right now. If you’re in the need of a boost of motivation, this episode is for you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time for another one of our ‘sessions’ on “The Language of Love”! On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing a session with a caller named Martha. Martha shares with me a story that I think will sound very familiar to many of you: Whenever she sets a goal, she has lots of energy and motivation at first, but then she quickly finds herself getting ‘stuck’ and not having anymore forward momentum.I talk to Martha about how she can un-stuck and achieve her goals, particularly from an energetic standpoint. How can you align your energy so that you are attracting the success and abundance you desire? And why is it that we find ourselves winding up in dead-end situations where we can’t accomplish our dreams no matter how much we try?In speaking with Martha, I also find that she tends to choose men who don’t support her dreams and actively desire her success. I believe this is one of her primary wounds: Not that she has a fear of failure, but a fear of success!Does this sound familiar? Tune in and listen to my advice for Martha and join us as I do a grounding exercise that helps her to unlock the secret pain that is keeping her stuck in these dead-end relationships and unable to get her business up and flourishing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing another “Language of Love Bite.” That means I answer your questions and tackle the most common issues I hear during my work as a sex, love, and relationship expert.So what’s today’s Language of Love Bite all about? Sex after baby! How can you reclaim your sexual pleasure after you give birth? There are many issues which can arise after giving birth, even if you have a normal and healthy pregnancy and birth. Creating life takes a massive toll on a woman’s body, from her hormones to her sleep to her stress levels. So it is no wonder that many people struggle to find their pleasure again in the bedroom if they have a newborn at home.This is especially true if you are breastfeeding. While breastfeeding is natural and wonderful, it also can do a number on a woman’s hormones: In order to make breastmilk, women’s bodies essentially have to shut off their estrogen, which can mimic what happens to the female body during menopause. Even if you don’t breastfeed, it can still take a few months for your hormones to return to normal after you welcome a new baby into the world, as new moms have much lower estrogen in the following months after giving birth.Here is the good news: There are many things you can do to safeguard your sexual pleasure and enhance your intimacy, even if you have a little one at home and even if you’re still breastfeeding. Listen to this Language of Love Bite to get all of my best advice for how new moms and dads can reclaim their sexual pleasure and learn how to enjoy sex again, even when they have a newborn and limited time and energy. Give this episode a listen and then let me know your thoughts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with Sarah D. Little. Sarah is a dear friend of mine. She is a beautiful, passionate writer who knows firsthand how painful trauma and loss can be. Sarah has an amazing story that I know will inspire and empower all of you.Sarah has dealt with everything from heartbreak to depression to financial loss to suicide attempts. Sarah shares with me how her love for literature, writing, and the work of authors like Cormac McCarthy helped her to endure even as her life seemingly unraveled. You can watch Sarah’s YouTube channel called Love Letters from Sarah to learn more about her origin story.Her history is painful, but relatable. From being cheated on by her partner to losing her beautiful home and garden, Sarah has endured so much turmoil and heartbreak, but has come through with her soul and her purpose intact. After losing her relationship and all of those external things which made her feel strong and protected, Sarah had to turn within and find her own power and talent in order to survive.Sarah is living proof that there is nothing that we cannot live through, nothing that we are not strong enough to endure. And, most importantly, that our pain can often deepen our creative expression and our purpose here. Her story is truly poetically beautiful and inspiring, and I am so honored to have such a strong and powerful friend. She has taught me so much about how to live with appreciation and strength, even when it seems like everything has been taken away from you.If you have ever struggled with depression, loss, or thoughts of suicide, I urge you to listen to this episode and listen to how Sarah dealt with her pain and not only survived, but thrived.You can find Sarah's Youtube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2xtHp-0DTZ2fGFPLa4PswA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing a session with a caller who says she’s afraid of abandonment and builds walls to protect herself. In her friendships and romantic relationships, she has trouble letting people in, and she believes this fear stems from past trauma. However, she is ready for a change: As a lifelong people pleaser who tends to overextend herself, my caller says that she often gives, and gives, and gives, until she gets emotionally exhausted and resentful and chooses to end the relationship.Does this sound familiar to you? It certainly does to me. As a recovering people pleaser, what I have come to realize is that sometimes we actually are givers because it’s a way for us to maintain control over the relationship. It makes us feel like we have agency and we can protect ourselves, because we think we are choosing to be the bigger person and sacrifice the most in the relationship. But in the end, all our needs go un-met, because we have chosen to never express them.By not admitting our needs or asking for love, we are protecting ourselves in a little bubble of isolation. We make a conscious choice to be a giver, but in such a way that it also prevents us from being a receiver. Love is supposed to be a two-way street, whether we are talking about platonic or romantic love. When we choose instead to make it a one-way street and not allow ourselves to make space for people to give to us in return, it is often a symptom of past trauma or energetic blockage.So how can my caller learn to bring down her walls and start allowing herself to receive as much love as she gives? Listen to this episode for my advice to her and then share your thoughts with me on social media! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” we are doing another episode of “Language of Love Bites.” These extra-special short episodes are meant to be direct, simple, and to the point, so you can easily apply my advice to your love life and start seeing results right away.For this installment of my “Language of Love Bites,” I am talking about how you can get your partner to show up for you in the way you desire. I often get questions with these theme for my callers and clients, and even strangers on the street. They want to know how they can get their partner to behave differently or show up for them differently than they currently are—maybe they want their partner to be more romantic, to be more passionate, to be more helpful around the house, or to be more patient and joyful.On this “Bite,” I reveal how you can start to see this shift, not by changing your partner, but by changing yourself. The secret to getting more of what we want from our partner is to bring more of that energy into the relationship ourselves. This might sound complicated or as though I am asking you to do all the work, but I am not: In fact, I am asking you to do LESS work. Because instead of trying to fix, manage, or control your partner’s energy or state of mind, you fully step into your power and instead just focus on your own energy.Let me explain how to go about this so you can start enjoying this meaningful shift in your relationship right away. Listen to this episode to understand what I mean and how you can master the art of creating the energy you want in your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so honored on this episode of “The Language of Love” that I get to sit down with Katherine Woodward Thomas. Katherine is not just a New York Times bestselling author, master teacher, and a marriage and family therapist: She is also a dear, dear friend and someone I often turn to for advice and support.If you have ever heard the term ‘conscious uncoupling’ (made popular a few years ago when Gwyneth Paltrow when she divorced her partner Chris Martin), you know Katherine. “Conscious Uncoupling” is one of her most beloved books and truly a game-changer when it comes to how to approach breakups and divorce.Her latest book “Calling In the One” is a must-read for anyone who is looking for love, or anyone feeling as though they don’t have the passion and romance in their life that they so deeply desire.On this episode, Katherine and I get a chance to talk about some of my favorite things. Here are some crucial life lessons you will learn in this episode:• Resigned to Loneliness: Learning how to hold the possibility for love even when you are dating in what feels like a ‘meat market’ and are feeling bitter and hopeless after fruitless online dating• Overcoming the Four Main Obstacles to Love, including your ‘False Love Identity’• Healing Your Past Wounds: Finding your ‘source fracture’ story which has lodged into your identity and made you feel unlovable and ‘not good enough• Feeling it, Not Thinking it: How somatic experiencing can help you ‘feel’ the love you deserve• Getting Free from the Past: How to recognize and release old stories and wounds• Becoming Future-Focused: Learning how to lean into your evolution and your possibility for powerful growthI am so excited for you to tune into this episode. Give it a listen and let me know your thoughts!One more thing! Are you interested in becoming a love coach and helping others call love into their lives? Or maybe you want to learn for yourself! My dear friend and wonderful teacher and therapist, Katherine Woodward Thomas is inviting us all to a free 90-minute webinar to learn more about calling in the ONE! https://webinars.kwt.online/lb-coaching-sacred-calling Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with one of favorite people: Christina Lopes. Christina is a former clinician who is now a spiritual teacher and healer. Christina bridges together science and spirituality to help people heal their lives and unlock their true potential.On this episode, I talk with Christina about how the universe is evolving right now and how our global consciousness is changing. Due to the pandemic and other social and cultural crises happening across the world, many of us are going through what is being called “Ascension,” and if you don’t know what is happening, it can be very overwhelming and confusing.That is why I am so excited to sit down with Christina and talk about some of these very important things, like:• Ascension: What is going on in the universe right now and what are the symptoms of “ascension”? How do you know if you are going through ascension and how can you get the most of this experience?• Synchronicity: Is it is a coincidence or is your soul trying to receive a message from the universe? From feathers to special numbers to patterns, many of us receive messages in the form of synchronicity (even if we don’t realize it!) Christina helps explain what synchronicity is all about and how we can lean into these experiences, even if we don’t fully believe or understand what is happening.• Entering (and Exiting) the Void: Why do some of us experience a ‘void’ in which we feel like our lives are stagnant and not moving forward, no matter how hard we are trying to create a shift? This stage can sometimes be known as a “Void,” and it can even happen after a spiritual awakening. What is the point of the “Void” stage and how can we learn from it?• Following Your Joy: Why you should follow your joy, and how you can lean into your intuition and soul’s wisdom when you are faced with challenging decisions. If you lead with joy and what makes your soul happy, you’re going to find abundance that goes far beyond material things (but it can often be quite fruitful on that level as well!).Listen now to learn more about these topics and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am joined by Matt Kahn. Matt is an empath, speaker, healer, and bestselling author of books like “Whatever Arises, Love That” and “The Universe Always Has a Plan.” I love Matt’s work and I am a HUGE fan of his books. That is why I am so honored and grateful he is sharing his brilliance on “The Language of Love.”Today, we will learn about:• Your “Third Eye”: Is there really such a thing as a third eye and what the heck is it?• Trusting Your Visions: Matt shares his history of connection with the unseen world and how he has received messages from Source. How can you learn to trust messages from your angels or higher beings?• Channeling Your Intuition: We all have spiritual gifts and we all have the ability to tap into the unseen and receive messages from the beyond. Yet, many of us don’t know how to trust that process or get of our own way. How can you start accessing this power and letting yourself be comfortable with the mystery of the unknown?• Holding Space: How can you learn to be more compassionate and patient with the people in your life who are acting out or behaving poorly? How can you hold space for another person’s pain while still honoring your own right to be treated well? Matt teaches us how we can stand up for ourselves without getting caught in an argumentative back-and-forth with our loved ones that often goes nowhere.• The Unconscious Masculine: Why our inner protector can actually block our path of transformation, and how we can switch into the part of our minds that does not speak from pain or fear. Matt illustrates how we can move beyond a predator-prey mindset and stop taking sides and getting stuck in our own narratives.• How to Access Your Empath Abilities: Matt is a true empath can deeply feel and sense other people’s pain. If you are an empath as well, it’s important to learn how to use your abilities and also how to ground and protect yourself from low vibrational energy that could be destructive. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this special episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing what I love the most: Talking directly with listeners just like you about their sex, love, and relationship issues and offering real-time advice to help them learn how to love and be loved better. (And, yes, you too could be selected for these special “Language of Love” sessions…just reach out to me on social media or send me an email to languageoflovepod@gmail.com).For this episode, I sit down with a woman who is struggling with a fear of abandonment in her romantic relationships. Although she has been divorced for many years, she has struggled to find lasting love in the following years. She recently ended a long-term relationship in which she was left broken-hearted when her partner left her for someone else. This is an ongoing pattern for my caller, and she says that she is constantly in ‘service mode’ with her partners and that she is always trying to get love by giving, giving, giving…but she never is able to receive.As I explain to this lovely caller, our greatest fears can often become our strongest magnets. Due to the childhood trauma of being abandoned by her biological father, I could instantly see that she was recreating this same trauma again and again by picking partners who would make her feel not good enough and then inevitably leave her, often for another woman.So how can my caller break this cycle and learn to open her heart to the love she so desperately desires and deserves? Listen to this “Language of Love” session to find out! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices