Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

OK, let’s be honest. How many of you have faked or known someone who regularly fakes orgasms? If you’re in this boat, I get it. There are plenty of reasons women fake it, and I’m shedding some light on these motivators in today’s Language of Love Bite. Whether it’s a presumed act of mercy, you haven’t had an orgasm before, or you’re unsure how to replicate the orgasm you experience on your own, I want to help you reach a point where you can be honest with your partner. In this Bite, I’m explaining: The mercy fake The stages of an orgasm  How to tackle shame as the secret orgasm killer  Why some women don’t advocate for their pleasure Ideal ingredients for sexual pleasure How best to tackle it with your partner if you’ve been faking it!  Remember that orgasms and arousal depend on several different factors. If you’re not reaching an orgasm every time you have sex, that’s completely normal! But pleasure is your birthright. Let go of those expectations and enjoy the process! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It can seem like the world is going a little crazy these days. Everything is in an upheaval around the world, and in our personal lives.  Christina Lopes, the author of Walking With the Masters and spiritual healer, is chatting with me during this week’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss her wild ride through a spiritual awakening. Christina shares much of the wisdom she gained in her journey including how to ground yourself during times of chaos.   During our Conversation, Christina and I dive into: The divorce crisis and out of body experience that began her spiritual awakeningHow our tendency to keep busy negatively affects our sense of equilibrium  Christina’s Kundalini awakening (along with what the hell that means), and the rising of what she experiences as a Dynamic Feminine Force of Consciousness  The limitations of the Western medical system to explain so many of the physical experiences that come with spiritual awakening The powerful thing that happens when you actually ask your spirit guides for help The importance of protecting your energy and finding play Visit Christina Lopes’ website to learn more about her journey, spiritual awakening, and healing. You can also watch her videos and read her wonderful new book Walking With the Masters!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you are raising a man, identify as a man or love a man this episode will mean the world to you! I know it means the world to me as a mom of 3 boys and a wife of one man. In today’s Language of Love Conversation, actor, director, author, and father Justin Baldoni unpacks how this question motivated him to write his recent book, Boys Will Be Human. Justin shares the insights and clarity he wishes he had been given as a young man. We connect over our experiences as parents as we struggle through trying to  help our own children become the people they’re destined to be. In this conversation, we break down: How social pressure and our own unconscious conditioning can act as a barrier to helping our boys grow into healthy men  Tips for teaching boys to move through feelings rather than ignore or hide them  How to tackle bullies and bystanders who squelch our boys’ creativity and self expression  The unexpected effects Porn has on developing brains and how the idea of sexual consent plays out in boys’ sex education.  Check out Justin’s podcast, Man Enough, and be sure to read his book, Boys Will Be Human, with your kiddos!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m beyond excited to welcome Dr. Gabor Maté to this Language of Love Conversation. As an author, physician, and renowned addiction expert, Gabor has spent years working to break down societal norms and traditional ideals about the connection between trauma and illness. His book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, & Healing in a Toxic Culture, explores the relationship between and influences of mind and body. Together we get into the many ways our current physical and mental health is rooted in childhood. In today’s Conversation, we talk about: Ways in which our mind and body are interconnected  The unique ways stress impacts women’s physical health Why ‘no’is crucial to physical health How to understand the feeling of guilt and what it means  The gifts of sensitive children and why society doesn’t always recognize them How healing is the natural movement toward wholeness Two different kinds of pain Check out Dr. Gabor Maté’s website for more information on his career, books, and courses available. They are chock-full of valuable information regarding addiction, ADHD, trauma, mind/body, and more.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, I’m sitting down for a Language of Love Session with a listener that’s currently navigating a divorce and feeling like the world before her is pretty unclear. As she fights to trust her own instincts and desires, I offer her some helpful techniques to hold on to her clarity in the face of external pressure and doubt. Her story is a good reminder that we have to honor our truth in the face of great pain, change, and divine timing. We also discuss the power of therapy and working through childhood trauma in uncovering the possibilities that are available to us after loss. In this episode, we’re diving into: The reasons why a marriage ends  Deal breakers in a relationship and unmet expectations Families of origin and the shadows that follow us into adulthood Understanding divine timing and living in the present The importance of inner child work and assessing what our inner child wants  How to claim what you want for your life  Remember, you don’t need a reason to want what you want. You are the author of every chapter of your life, so find your peace, open your imagination, and forge your path!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Language of Love Bite is all about the lens through which we view our world and our reality! Everyone has a unique perspective on life, but how does yours influence your emotions, your energy, and your state of being? During this episode, I share some thoughts on how our view of the world and our reality can shape our feelings and perspectives on, well, everything! Beyond this, I offer some tips to reprocess, regulate, and ground yourself when you’re feeling stuck in a certain narrative. This week, I highlight: How the lens through which we view the world is unique to us  The impact of preconceived narratives on our relationships Why we have to avoid spiritual bypassing Clearing our lens to live in love  We all attract that which matches our frequency, so pay attention to the lens that colors your world. When you clear your lens, you might find that you’re more able to lead with love, and the door to greater joy and positivity in your life opens!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After our vibrant and memorable introduction at an Association for Transformational Leaders event, I knew I had to have Biet Simkin on the podcast for a Language of Love Conversation. She’s a meditation, breathwork, and spiritual teacher that believes in the power of meditative practices and wrote a book called Don’t Just Sit There! During our chat, Biet shares her unusual upbringing, her journey into music industry and celebrity she found there, her struggle with addiction, and then her return to Fourth Way work. Biet also unpacks how we can reframe things in the dating world and reframe our understanding of soulmates, falling in love, and what it means to genuinely invest in relationships. In this episode, Biet and I dive into: How death presenting itself in early in life changed Burt’s journey and led her to be the spiritual leader she is today  What the “Fourth Way”is, and how you can use it to bring a spiritual perspective into your daily life How failure can serve us in achieving our true potential  What's really happening when we fall in love  The surprising way that seeing potential your partner as a child can serve us  How to use the power of sex energy   The keys to nurturing a monogamous, long-term relationship  Visit Biet Simkin’s website for more information on her guided meditations and spiritual direction, check out her book, Don’t Just Sit There!, to learn about the power of meditation and breathwork, and follow her on Instagram to stay up-to-date on her practices and events.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do we love our partners through some of the scariest seasons of our lives?In this Language of Love Session, I chat with a listener juggling a newer relationship with a partner that was recently diagnosed with colon cancer. After watching my loved ones walk through cancer and moving through my own cancer journey, I know the ups and downs of this experience well. In this open-ended season of life, we discuss how this listener and their partner can navigate this illness together, how to build a foundation for their relationship through this diagnosis, and how cancer offers us an invitation to grow spiritually and emotionally. Today, this Language of Love listener and I unravel: How cancer forces us to grow through intense stress and fear  Embracing the challenge as a couple rather than forgoing all boundaries How to encourage healthy regulation in yourself and your partner Accepting your partner’s flaws and missteps  The importance of defining what you will and will not do  How to find clarity in the chaos  The bottom line? Ask for help, and remember that this is not all on you. Your partner is still your partner even though the dynamic is shifting, and support for a caregiver is just as important as support for the individual battling cancer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to another Language of Love Bite! This week I’m taking a few minutes to talk about frequencies, manifestations, and how the two are related. We’re all like human tuning forks, which means that sometimes our moods can be brought up or down just by being near others. This experience is very human, but I want to help you learn how to adjust, maintain a higher frequency, and attract abundance with a few of my tried-and-true tips. In this episode, I’m sharing: How your frequency and ability to manifest your desires are related The different levels of frequency and how they relate to your mood and the moods of others Why holding your own energetic frequency is necessary to reach your desires and manifestations Tips to raise and maintain your frequency How to create room for sadness, loss, anger, frustration, etc. and then move beyond Try out any of my guided meditations to ground your system and regulate your energy, and then check out my book Quantum Love for a deeper dive into this topic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever had that inkling that your past life may be affecting your present moment?  During this week’s Language of Love Session, past life psychic, spiritual teacher, and author Ainslie MacLeod and I are unpacking reincarnation and the basics of past lives. We break down the relationship between the body and soul, how learning about our past lives can set us free, and how our past lives impact our ability to love. Ainslie also reveals his journey to this profession, his recent book, The Old Soul’s Guidebook, how he refined his psychic ability, and how he came to know the spiritual guides that instruct him. In this conversation, Ainslie Macleod and I discuss:  The Basics: What is a past life? What does it mean? The healing power and purpose that can come with learning about your unique past life How Ainslie developed his psychic connection in the early days of his profession The concept of twin flames and how misconception can fortify toxic relationships  The experience of losing my son and how that devastation helped me foster stricter boundaries  The thread between death, grief, teaching, and healing Visit Ainslie MacLeod’s website to learn more about his psychic journey, services, and recent book, The Old Soul’s Guidebook: Who You Are, Why You’re Here, and How to Navigate Life on Earth.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices