

Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman
The Language of Love
Language of Love is a weekly podcast where Dr. Berman shares her compassionate, humorous, and no-nonsense advice: answering listener questions and interviewing thought leaders and experts on relevant topics. Dr. Berman is ready to help you create the fulfilling and passionate love life you deserve, regardless of your relationship status, gender, or sexual orientation. Are you ready to get started?
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Jan 30, 2023 • 10min
Female Ejaculation: Real or a Myth?
This week’s Language of Love Bite is all about female ejaculation. Some people believe it’s a myth, so I’m breaking down that misconception in today’s episode! A common belief is that your body releases urine when you orgasm, but that is not the case. There is a specific compound found in male and female ejaculation, and today, I want to talk about what’s actually happening in our bodies when we experience this. In this Bite, I break down:
The difference between male and female ejaculation
The process of retrograde ejaculation
A few tips to ejaculate when you orgasm
You can always reach me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave me a voicemail if you have any questions! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 25, 2023 • 57min
Parenting in the Darkest Seasons with Kristina Kuzmic
How do we manage negativity and misery while still finding things to be grateful for? How do we pass these skills on to our children?Kristina Kuzmic, writer, creator, and mother, is joining me today during today’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss personalized parenting for our children, how we can support them through their mental health struggles, and how to combat insecurity and uncertainty with grace. She is a big believer, as am I, in the power of authenticity and vulnerability in developing close relationships and unity. She also unpacks her journey through her current profession, her early projects, the impact of her Wednesday Night Dinners, how she fosters gratitude through her “Yeah, but…” game, and her son’s dark season of depression. In today’s episode, we discuss:
Why there is no “one size fits all” model for parenting
The subtle ways we label our children
Reframing traits that are categorized as “negative”
The power of authenticity
The impact of focusing on the things you CAN do
The “Yeah, but…” Game
Why shame is the shittiest motivator
Encouraging our children to prioritize their mental health
Parenting children who are struggling
Visit Kristina Kuzmic’s website, check out her book, Hold On, But Don’t Hold Still, and watch her YouTube video with her son to learn more about how they moved through that challenging and scary season. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 18, 2023 • 38min
Assessing Your Inner Child’s Wants & Needs
What does it mean to shift a relationship that’s just not working? How do we reestablish independence and access our gifts while carrying childhood trauma? This listener and I are breaking down these questions and assessing the state of her marriage in today’s Language of Love Session. It’s not uncommon for some people in long-term relationships to feel like their independence is tied to the presence of a partner – we almost revert to a child-like sense of ourselves. But we must teach our inner child to speak up for their wants and needs, so tune in to discover the valuable tips I offer this listener! In today’s Session, we explore:
The state of her marriage
The trauma we carry into our relationships
Reestablishing independence as adults
How to integrate the wants and needs of our inner child into our lives
Why a somatic therapist can help
Releasing generational trauma
How our souls choose our family of origin
Tips to cultivate connection and access our gifts
We have to work through our fear and resistance to move toward love and intimacy. Check out my website for more information on how you can begin this journey! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 16, 2023 • 17min
Why Do Women Fake Their Orgasms?
OK, let’s be honest. How many of you have faked or known someone who regularly fakes orgasms? If you’re in this boat, I get it. There are plenty of reasons women fake it, and I’m shedding some light on these motivators in today’s Language of Love Bite. Whether it’s a presumed act of mercy, you haven’t had an orgasm before, or you’re unsure how to replicate the orgasm you experience on your own, I want to help you reach a point where you can be honest with your partner. In this Bite, I’m explaining:
The mercy fake
The stages of an orgasm
How to tackle shame as the secret orgasm killer
Why some women don’t advocate for their pleasure
Ideal ingredients for sexual pleasure
How best to tackle it with your partner if you’ve been faking it!
Remember that orgasms and arousal depend on several different factors. If you’re not reaching an orgasm every time you have sex, that’s completely normal! But pleasure is your birthright. Let go of those expectations and enjoy the process! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 11, 2023 • 1h 7min
How to Ground Yourself When The World Around You Seems Crazy with Christina Lopes
It can seem like the world is going a little crazy these days. Everything is in an upheaval around the world, and in our personal lives. Christina Lopes, the author of Walking With the Masters and spiritual healer, is chatting with me during this week’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss her wild ride through a spiritual awakening. Christina shares much of the wisdom she gained in her journey including how to ground yourself during times of chaos. During our Conversation, Christina and I dive into:
The divorce crisis and out of body experience that began her spiritual awakeningHow our tendency to keep busy negatively affects our sense of equilibrium
Christina’s Kundalini awakening (along with what the hell that means), and the rising of what she experiences as a Dynamic Feminine Force of Consciousness
The limitations of the Western medical system to explain so many of the physical experiences that come with spiritual awakening
The powerful thing that happens when you actually ask your spirit guides for help
The importance of protecting your energy and finding play
Visit Christina Lopes’ website to learn more about her journey, spiritual awakening, and healing. You can also watch her videos and read her wonderful new book Walking With the Masters! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 4, 2023 • 1h 3min
Raising Boys as Sensitive and Intuitive Humans with Justin Baldoni
If you are raising a man, identify as a man or love a man this episode will mean the world to you! I know it means the world to me as a mom of 3 boys and a wife of one man. In today’s Language of Love Conversation, actor, director, author, and father Justin Baldoni unpacks how this question motivated him to write his recent book, Boys Will Be Human. Justin shares the insights and clarity he wishes he had been given as a young man. We connect over our experiences as parents as we struggle through trying to help our own children become the people they’re destined to be. In this conversation, we break down:
How social pressure and our own unconscious conditioning can act as a barrier to helping our boys grow into healthy men
Tips for teaching boys to move through feelings rather than ignore or hide them
How to tackle bullies and bystanders who squelch our boys’ creativity and self expression
The unexpected effects Porn has on developing brains and how the idea of sexual consent plays out in boys’ sex education.
Check out Justin’s podcast, Man Enough, and be sure to read his book, Boys Will Be Human, with your kiddos! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 28, 2022 • 1h 1min
Discovering Wholeness Through Healing with Dr. Gabor Maté
I’m beyond excited to welcome Dr. Gabor Maté to this Language of Love Conversation. As an author, physician, and renowned addiction expert, Gabor has spent years working to break down societal norms and traditional ideals about the connection between trauma and illness. His book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, & Healing in a Toxic Culture, explores the relationship between and influences of mind and body. Together we get into the many ways our current physical and mental health is rooted in childhood. In today’s Conversation, we talk about:
Ways in which our mind and body are interconnected
The unique ways stress impacts women’s physical health
Why ‘no’is crucial to physical health
How to understand the feeling of guilt and what it means
The gifts of sensitive children and why society doesn’t always recognize them
How healing is the natural movement toward wholeness
Two different kinds of pain
Check out Dr. Gabor Maté’s website for more information on his career, books, and courses available. They are chock-full of valuable information regarding addiction, ADHD, trauma, mind/body, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 21, 2022 • 30min
There's Hope in the Unknown
This week, I’m sitting down for a Language of Love Session with a listener that’s currently navigating a divorce and feeling like the world before her is pretty unclear. As she fights to trust her own instincts and desires, I offer her some helpful techniques to hold on to her clarity in the face of external pressure and doubt. Her story is a good reminder that we have to honor our truth in the face of great pain, change, and divine timing. We also discuss the power of therapy and working through childhood trauma in uncovering the possibilities that are available to us after loss. In this episode, we’re diving into:
The reasons why a marriage ends
Deal breakers in a relationship and unmet expectations
Families of origin and the shadows that follow us into adulthood
Understanding divine timing and living in the present
The importance of inner child work and assessing what our inner child wants
How to claim what you want for your life
Remember, you don’t need a reason to want what you want. You are the author of every chapter of your life, so find your peace, open your imagination, and forge your path! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 19, 2022 • 16min
Why The Lens You View Life Through is Everything
This Language of Love Bite is all about the lens through which we view our world and our reality! Everyone has a unique perspective on life, but how does yours influence your emotions, your energy, and your state of being? During this episode, I share some thoughts on how our view of the world and our reality can shape our feelings and perspectives on, well, everything! Beyond this, I offer some tips to reprocess, regulate, and ground yourself when you’re feeling stuck in a certain narrative. This week, I highlight:
How the lens through which we view the world is unique to us
The impact of preconceived narratives on our relationships
Why we have to avoid spiritual bypassing
Clearing our lens to live in love
We all attract that which matches our frequency, so pay attention to the lens that colors your world. When you clear your lens, you might find that you’re more able to lead with love, and the door to greater joy and positivity in your life opens! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 14, 2022 • 1h 1min
Reframing Love, Sex, and Potential Partners with Biet Simkin
After our vibrant and memorable introduction at an Association for Transformational Leaders event, I knew I had to have Biet Simkin on the podcast for a Language of Love Conversation. She’s a meditation, breathwork, and spiritual teacher that believes in the power of meditative practices and wrote a book called Don’t Just Sit There! During our chat, Biet shares her unusual upbringing, her journey into music industry and celebrity she found there, her struggle with addiction, and then her return to Fourth Way work. Biet also unpacks how we can reframe things in the dating world and reframe our understanding of soulmates, falling in love, and what it means to genuinely invest in relationships. In this episode, Biet and I dive into:
How death presenting itself in early in life changed Burt’s journey and led her to be the spiritual leader she is today
What the “Fourth Way”is, and how you can use it to bring a spiritual perspective into your daily life
How failure can serve us in achieving our true potential
What's really happening when we fall in love
The surprising way that seeing potential your partner as a child can serve us
How to use the power of sex energy
The keys to nurturing a monogamous, long-term relationship
Visit Biet Simkin’s website for more information on her guided meditations and spiritual direction, check out her book, Don’t Just Sit There!, to learn about the power of meditation and breathwork, and follow her on Instagram to stay up-to-date on her practices and events. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices