Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

The world is changing on so many levels, including a pretty seismic shift in which many of us are defining relationships. Most of us grew up in a society where monogamy was the unquestioned expectation in love. But now, more and more individuals and couples are pushing against those expectations and exploring non monogamy or polyamory.  On this Language of Love Bite, we dive headfirst into this topic covering the things you should know if you’re like to explore polyamory:-What is polyamory and what forms can it take?-Tips on how to navigate a non monogamous relationship-Common pitfalls you may encounter- How to tell if this lifestyle is right for you. If you’re curious and feel like you and your partner might be ready, take some time to listen to this episode before making this important life and relationship decision. Resources and LinksDr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the hardest things any of us will ever do is say goodbye to someone we love. This is something wellness leader and best selling author, Kris Carr, knows all too well.  On this Language of Love Conversation, we discuss her newest book, I’m Not a Mourning Person, where she chronicles her long goodbye to her beloved father who passed away from pancreatic cancer after a several year battle. This is a powerful conversation so be sure to tune in.In this episode we discuss: The fact that grieving for a loved one often begins long before they’re gone and comes in a variety of forms. The power of training your eyes to see the presence of the energy of the one you lost and not simply living with their absence.  How losing it or having a meltdown can actually be a good thing.  Understanding that there truly is a difference between dying and leaving.  Why finding the courage to have conversations about dying is necessary. strategies for having the often hard, but always necessary, end of life conversations with loved ones that can help you move through their passing.  The power of (and when to) begin assuring your loved one that it’s ok to let go.  Resources and LinksDr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Kris Carr Kris Carr – Website Kris Carr - Instagram Kris Carr – Pinterest Kris Carr - Facebook About Kris CarrKris Carr is a New York Times bestselling author and wellness leader who’s been thriving with stage IV cancer for more than 20 years. Over these past two decades, she’s learned some big lessons about how to take care of herself, live life to the fullest and continue making an impact in the process. She is a true champion of people, and she is honored to have shaped and impacted the lives of millions throughout the world.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most people know or love someone who’s a cancer survivor. But it’s not just the cancer patient who survives and hopefully recovers from this kind of medical trauma. Caregivers, while they didn’t have to personally weather the life-threatening illness and its treatment, they did so by proxy, holding the patient up emotionally, physically and logistically while still managing and usually repressing their own fears and exhaustion. Most caregivers put their own needs, and even their lives, on hold when their loved ones are suffering or undergoing treatment. And then, when the worst is over and it’s time to move forward, it’s not just the patient who must recover. The caregiver needs and deserves time, grace and support to do so as well. This journey can be especially complex in the case of romantic relationships as it becomes necessary to shift out of caregiver and patient roles back to partners and lovers…In this Language of Love Session, I have a follow up chat with a listener, Veronica, whose boyfriend has now finally finished cancer treatment. Against all odds, he’s now in remission. But instead of the celebration she was expecting, Veronica finds her life remaining on pause as she waits for her love to come back to the relationship they were building at the time of his diagnosis. Instead of excitement about enjoying their lives after their harrowing year, he’s been depressed, angry and distant. And Veronica is feeling resentful and abandoned.  In this episode we discuss: The ways medical trauma compares to other kinds when it comes to healing. Steps one can take to assist and inspire a loved one to move forward when the worst is over after trauma.  Some of my own struggles I had as a cancer survivor when my treatment was finally over and my caregiving husband was ready for me to come back to life. How the caregiving journey can be an opportunity to learn to hold our own peace (or even happiness) in the face of those we love remaining stuck in frustration and sadness.  What’s realistic to expect from a partner after a traumatic illness, and when it may or may not be time to throw in the towel.  If you’ve been a caregiver or you love one, you will get so much from this healing conversation!Resources and LinksDr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever faked the “Big O?” If so, you aren’t alone! Studies have shown that the majority of women, and even a large proportion of men have faked it…regularly! But, even if it’s a “mercy fake” (because your partner is trying so hard and you know it’s just not happening but you don’t want to make them feel bad) is it really a good idea ? What happens when you find out that your partner has been faking? What kind of fracture does that create and how do you repair that? And what happens if you’ve been the one faking it, but you’re now tired of not receiving the pleasure you desire.  How to let your partner know the truth?  Finally,  what’s standing in the way of your “Big O” pleasure and how can you have more of them?  I’m answering these questions and many other juicy ones on this episode of Language of Love Bite! Resources and LinksDr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Take a moment to look at the circle of people closest to you. They are there because you energetically attracted them into your world. We’re all living, breathing magnets. Understanding your unique relationship magnetics puts you in the driver's seat when it comes to creating the love life you most desire. On this episode of Language of Love Conversation, I talk with the amazing Robert Ohotto, one of the foremost voices in psycho-spirituality, about understanding our unique relationship magnetics, where they come from and how to change them in service to creating a healthy and fulfilling love life. Robert shares how to harness the relationship abundance magnet that thrives inside each of us. In this episode, we’ll discuss: How to cultivate acceptance as a key to changing relationship magnetics patterns that don’t serve us. The keys to breaking the cycle of being codependent (and how codependency affects your relationship magnetics) How to use relationship magnetics to call the love in you most desire How to navigate and shift relationship magnetics to a more positive place in an existing relationship The importance of separating from (unconsciously) identifying as a victim so we don’t carry forward the magnet for trauma Preparing for the ways your life (including your circle) will change when you shift out of negative relationship magnetics Resources and LinksDr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Robert Ohotto Robert Ohotto – Website Robert Ohotto - Facebook Robert Ohotto – Instagram Robert Ohotto - Twitter Robert Ohotto YouTube.com About Robert Ohotto Robert Ohotto is recognized as a trailblazing presence within the field of psycho-spirituality, multi-sensory development, and human consciousness. Robert’s popular radio show, “Soul Connexions Radio”, is currently one of the most listened to and downloaded podcasts on iTunes. He has been featured by Fortune Magazine for his work as an Intuitive Strategies with Fortune 500 Companies and numerous times on Oprah Radio. He is highly sought after for his dynamic lectures, intuitive consultations, and unique astrological expertise. His leading-edge work challenges the conventions of mind-body-spirit paradigms by integrating intuitive perception, archetypes, and life cycles.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Parent-child relationships can be loaded at every age, especially when there is codependency involved. This can lead to complicated and draining dynamics that last well into adulthood.   In this Language of Love Session, I speak with a listener who also happens to be my college roomate, Maryanne!. Maryanne is stuck in the cycle of trying to navigate a co-dependent relationship with her aging mother who is entering dementia and impossible to emotionally satisfy. For years she has struggled with this situation, feeling compelled to drop everything and put her own needs aside to be there for her mother. Now that Marianne’s father (and her mother’s caretaker) has passed away, the burden of emotionally caring for her mom has fallen solely to a Marianne. And her mother’s endless need for soothing and company is taking over Marianne’s life. In this Language of Love Session, we’ll talk candidly about how Marianne’s past relationship with her parents is impacting her current relationship with her mother. I give her direction on how to finally set boundaries, stand up for her inner child who still longs for an advocate, and begin embracing the life (and peace) she deserves. If you’re a child and find yourself struggling to set healthy boundaries with your own aging parent(s), tune in as this show is just for you! You can still be a wonderful child and caretaker to aging parents without losing yourself in the process. Resources and LinksDr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Communication is an important part of any relationship and crucial to building and sustaining a lasting, long-term relationship where you and your partner are connected and passionate allies in love. In this Language of Love Bite, will help! We’ll discuss: The three reasons why people refuse to communicate: humiliation, societal constraints, and disassociation.  Methods for making your partner feel comfortable expressing their feelings.  How to create a judgment-free zone between you. Difference between most men and women in their communication needs. Getting clear on how you want to be supported in sharing feelings with your partner.  Identifying the cues of the body to understand what you (or your partner) are feeling. Embodiment tools for facilitating emotional expression.   If you want better emotional intimacy in your relationship, longing for your partner to share more, or struggling in your communication, this episode is for you!Resources and LinksDr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every one of us has experienced loss at some point, whether it is the loss of a loved one, a relationship you thought would last forever, a pet, or even a job. Loss is inevitable, and with loss comes grief. Grieving is one of the hardest and quite honestly, most misunderstood parts of life. But here’s the thing, when you find the strength to work through the process, a new more powerful version of yourself emerges. On this episode of The Language of Love, I sat down with Barri Leiner Grant. Barri is the Founder of The Memory Circle, an organization that helps those who have lost a loved one through the power of writing. We discuss the healing power of writing and the role it plays in helping us move to the next phase of life. If you’ve lost someone and find yourself mired in the muck of grief, unsure of how to move forward, pick up a pen and pad and listen as Barri shows us how to write your way through it! In this episode, we’ll discuss: Grief is not just limited to the loss of a loved one or family member.  Embracing the ways that loss can define and redfine you.  Make time for and be willing to tend to your grief garden. The power of words to help heal us.  Resources and LinksDr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Barri Leiner Grant The Memory Circle - Website The Memory Circle - Instagram The Memory Circle - Facebook About Barri Leiner Grant Barri Leiner Grant is a certified grief coach (ICF) and founder of The Memory Circle. Born from a desire to make the grief cycle a shared experience, The Memory Circle is a place to gather, remember, and celebrate those we lost and love. As a coach, Barri helps facilitate and explore ways to remember and reflect on loss in both one-on-one sessions and grief support groups. Her passion for helping others share their grief stories became a personal mission when her mother, Ellen Jane died of a brain aneurism in 1993 at just 50 years old. Barri also works with firms of all sizes to develop best practices and policies around bereavement leave and employee grief support.1. CONNECTINGAutomatic writing prompt: Get quiet and ask...What would you have me know? Allow the words to pass through you to the page. 2. DELIGHTS Create a journal of delights. Prompted by The Book of Delights by Ross Gay At the end of the day, write down 10 things that have delighted you. The Book of Delights, by Ross Gayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/the-book-of-delights-essays-ross-gay/12566058?ean=97816162079223. Adapted from Julia Cameron’s morning pages. MOURNING PAGESThree long hand pages upon waking. The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-artist-s-way-30th-anniversary-edition-julia-cameron/6665657?ean=97801431292574. The Quad Exercise as share by memoirist Dani ShapiroDivide the paper in four with a big plus sign...Upper left quadrant. Seven things you saw.Upper right quadrant:Seven things you did.Lower leftOne thing you heard.Lower rightAnd a doodle that represents the day. Dani Shapiro’s Slow Motionhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/slow-motion-a-memoir-of-a-life-rescued-by-tragedy-dani-shapiro/9024419?ean=9780061826696 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this podcast episode, Dr. Laura Berman helps a mother of four navigate her body image struggles after a diagnosis of MS and the physical scars of a Cesarian Section. They discuss the impact of body image issues on low desire, the power of self-love and healing, and the fear of a partner leaving due to appearance. The episode emphasizes self-acceptance, widening perspective, and embracing self-love for physical healing.

Trust is an essential part of loving someone. Once it’s gone, once that trust has been breached, it can be hard to regain. In some instances, losing trust in a partner can spill over into your future relationships. When this happens, finding love, the kind of love where you and your partner can flourish and grow becomes difficult to attain. On this Language of Love Bite, we’ll discuss the issue of trust, how it can conjure up old wounds and the importance of getting to the root of a betrayal. Falling in love is a wonderful thing, but trusting the one you love makes it all the more incredible. If you’ve been betrayed and find yourself looking to put the pieces together and want to start down the path of trusting and loving again, this episode is for you!In this episode, we’ll discuss: Why we tend not to want to lose whoever it is we fall in love with A past that is filled with abandonment and the role it plays in love and trust How to rebuild trust once it’s been broken The importance of understanding and healing the why behind the breach Why rebuilding trust is a team effort Resources and LinksDr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices